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Last Updated on January 21, 2021

Top 10 Reasons Why People Don’t Reach Their Goals

Top 10 Reasons Why People Don’t Reach Their Goals

With everything that happens around us, it is sometimes difficult to reach our goals. This is compounded if you have any of the reasons on the list below.

Luckily, in addition to the top 10 reasons why people don’t reach their goals, I’ve included a quick fix for each of them. So let’s get to it.

1. Creating Vague Goals

When you don’t know where you are going, it is really hard to get there. Many people set themselves up for failure when they set goals that are unclear. “I want to lose weight” sounds like a great goal but the people who set this kind of goal will never reach it. It is not because the people are not motivated or disciplined but because the goal is too general. Do you want to lose 5 lbs or 50 lbs?

Quick Fix:  Set SMART goals by being Specific, making sure they are Measurable, Achievable and Realistic, and last but not least — give yourself a Time deadline. If you want to go one step further, you may want to read The Missing Letter in Your Smart Goals.

2. Lacking a Higher Purpose

Goals can be set on any topic imaginable but if you don’t have a higher purpose, it makes it is easy to give up once the initial motivation and excitement wears off. Understanding how your goal is relevant to you allows you to persevere even when the going gets tough.

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Quick Fix: When setting your SMART goal, ask yourself how the goal is relevant to your life and what you want to achieve.

3. Procrastinating

Even when you have SMART goals that are relevant to your purpose, if you don’t get started, you’ll never achieve your goal. One of the most dangerous phrases is “I’ll do it later.”

Quick Fix: Make sure the goal has been broken down into manageable pieces and then start right away. Here are 11 Practical Ways to Stop Procrastination.

4. Not Taking Responsibility

Things will go wrong. That’s a fact of life. When something comes up and you don’t achieve your goal, who do you blame? Your boss who kept you at work late so you couldn’t work on your book or maybe the horrible weather that stopped you from going to the gym. If it’s not your fault, there is nothing you can do, right?

Quick Fix: Own up to not reaching your goals. When you take responsibility, you’ll become resourceful knowing that you have control over the attainment of your goals.

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5. Listening to People Who Discourage You

When you go for your goals, especially the big ones that really count and fit in with your purpose in life, it is inevitable that people will discourage you. There are many reasons for this: concern, jealousy, ignorance, etc. How many goals have already been given up on because other people decided they were not worth pursuing?

Quick Fix: This one is easy. As long as you know the purpose for your goal, ignore the naysayers. You can take what they are saying into consideration but make sure you make the final choice.

6. Starting Too Many Projects

I’m a starter. That sounds like a good thing but not when you start too many things, you don’t end up finishing many of them. This usually stems from the fear of missing out (FOMO) or being someone who has many ideas.

Quick Fix: Understand that you have a limited amount of time and that you can’t do everything. To deal with FOMO, realize that by not finishing, you are missing out on all the opportunities that open up when you finish the projects you are working on.

7. Being Negative

If you think you’re not going to make it, then you’re probably not going to make it. If you don’t believe you’re going to reach your goal, then when you fail, it is expected which makes it easy to stop trying. When you are optimistic and a setback occurs, you focus your energy on finding solutions because you truly believe there is one. If you believe that you suffer from bad luck, check out this article.

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Quick Fix: Consider the idea that optimism and pessimism are both expectations of the future. Each are equally likely to be true but which belief will help you lead a happier more fulfilled life? Instead of wasting your energy on complaining, spend that energy on learning.

8. Being Selfish

There are people out there that think it is silly to help others. They believe in taking and not giving. They are misers with their time, money and knowledge and are only interested in opportunities where they stand to benefit. Most big goals require the help of others and it is very difficult to help people who only care about taking.

Quick Fix: Serve others first. Always look for ways to add value to other people.

9. Surrounding Yourself with People Who Don’t Reach Their Goals

You are who you associate with. This may be hard to swallow for some people and there are always exceptions to the rule but for the most part, we act in accordance with the people around us. This comes from the strong ad natural desire to belong and to be accepted (think of all the dumb things you did in high school just to fit in).

Quick Fix: Associate with people who always reach their goals.

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10. Watching Too Much TV

Not all TV is bad but if you are watching TV then most likely you are not doing anything to move one step closer to your goal. The problem with TV these days is that it is captivating. There are programs for all interests and hobbies and the shows keep getting better and better. Those who watch alot of TV usually don’t reach their goals and perhaps people watch TV because they don’t have any goals.

Quick Fix: Shut off the TV. Cancel the cable. Pick up a book that will help you move one step closer to your goal. Here are 6 Steps to Remove TV from your Life.

Do you have anything to add? What do you think are the reasons why people don’t reach their goals and what are your thought about the 10 reasons we have listed here. Feel free to give your own effective quick fixes for the different reasons in the comments section below.

Featured photo credit: Larisa Birta via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on May 13, 2021

How to Move Forward After Achieving Goal Success

How to Move Forward After Achieving Goal Success

After achieving goal success, you will feel like you are on cloud nine. You have overcome a challenge in your life and, as a result, built a habit that will bring you to new heights.

It’s a wonderful feeling, but eventually, that dopamine-high from the success fades away. And like so many other people that have obtained success, they are left with a big question:

What should I do now that my goal has been achieved?

People are ambitious, but after successfully reaching a goal, people can lose themselves or slow down their momentum of growth. This part of the process is a problem that many individuals face at some point if they haven’t faced it already.

To help you on your way, here are some suggestions for what to do as soon as you achieve goal sucess and how to better proceed forward.

Moving Forward After Goal Success

When you first set yourself a large goal that you’re working towards, it’s easy for you to focus solely on that goal. There isn’t any kind of space at all to think about what you should be doing after you achieve goal success.

Fortunately, there is some basic information and lessons that can help you once you reach goal success and move forward in life. These are principles that millionaire Paul Scolardi has put into practice to great effect.[1]

Here is a breakdown of these principles:

Stay Humble

You might not be striving to become a millionaire like Scolardi. However, it’s still an important lesson to keep in mind. While you’ve made great progress with goal success, it’s important that you don’t underestimate what you left behind or look down on those who are in the same situation as you were.

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Growth is a fragile thing, and it can easily be replaced with bad habits that push you back into a worse situation.

Furthermore, acting cocky or arrogant about your achievements can push people away, whether that’s friends, family, or key supporters. That’s not good because growth often stems from sources beyond ourselves. Many millionaires have mentors to help guide them; athletes have coaches.

We don’t often hear about them in particular stories, but many people are involved in your growth in one way or another. Stay humble and recognize who those people are and acknowledge them.

Train Yourself to Set Bigger Goals

I’ll be expanding on this idea further below, but the idea is that once you achieve a goal you didn’t think you could achieve, you want to continue by setting an even larger goal.

You want to progressively set goals that you think are impossible to achieve after every successful leap in achievement.

For example, if you’ve achieved a high ranking position at your job as part of your goal success, an even bigger goal would be to build your own business in that particular industry.

You can learn more about setting big goals here:

Work Harder and Smarter

When working on your goals, maintaining confidence, positive thinking, and work are all needed for achievement. Naturally, if you’re taking on a larger endeavor, you’ll need to put more motivation, confidence, and work into that, too.It also pays to work smarter and reflect on your achievements. What helped you achieve this goal in the first place? What method or approach did you take to make all of this happen for you?

Many people lose their way because they let their goal success get to them, and they lose what got them into that lofty position in the first place. That stems from a lack of reflection, so make sure you look back to what helped you get to where you are right now.

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People also tend to get bogged down in procrastination, which makes achieving future goals more difficult. If this is a problem you often face, check out Lifehack’s Fast-Track Class: No More Procrastination.

Ignore Critics

Haters and critics are all the same. Whenever you achieve something, there will always be people who will try to drag you down. It turns out that many people are jealous individuals and go as far as wishing that you would fail.

Part of the problem is that many people who haven’t worked toward goals expect goal success to be simple. Not only that, but we are often oblivious to the amount of work that’s needed to bring people to pinnacles of success.

Take Scolardi as an example. Unless he shares his particular story of how he became a millionaire, we don’t really know what he went through to get there. All we know is the tip of the iceberg—that he wasn’t a millionaire and now he is.

Even if your goal success is going to impact a small area, you’re still going to get haters or people who don’t believe in you. Successful people know it’s best to leave them be, as your success has nothing to do with how they are feeling.

What to Do After Goal Success

With these four principles in mind, you would want to apply these in your life moving forward. Better yet, apply these right now while you are still working towards your goals.

But what comes next after you have achieved success? After all, these principles are great, but not all of them will bring you that momentum you need in the aftermath of your success.

Here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Set That Bigger Goal or Expand It

As I mentioned before, you want to be setting larger goals. The ambition of people is endless, and deep down you are always looking to achieve more. It sounds greedy, but striving for more doesn’t always have to be in the form of money or high achievements.

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You could reach out to more people and help them with their problems. Or maybe, you want to form a deeper connection with your family and friends. Perhaps you want to train for even better physical health and test it by participating in a triathlon.

Whatever the case may be, you want to set a larger goal than before. In many industries and aspects of your life, there is always room for some kind of expansion. Therefore, when you put your mind to it, you’ll find that there are also other ambitions that you have and other areas where you can pursue goal success.

Another way to look at this is to expand your original goal beyond where it was before. In some cases, there are natural progressions similar to how you want to set milestones that lead you to accomplish your goals.

For example, if you’re looking to lose weight, and you’ve hit your target, the next target would be to train your body in a specific way, such as training for a local marathon. You’re still striving for physical activity, but you’ll be training in a different way that your body isn’t used to.

2. Help Others Out

Another approach is along the same lines as staying humble. Instead of looking down at people, devote some of your energy to helping people out. Chances are you got involved in a community or group that helped you achieve your results in some way.

Since that group or community helped you, why not give back to them?

This isn’t necessarily progress, but it gives you the respite you need to figure out what you want to do next. All the while, this allows you to pass down and reinforce what you have learned.

Remember that your ideals are important, and they can shift if you stray from the path that brought you goal success in the first place. Helping out your community is a good idea to help you stay true to your morals and ideals and focused on your goals.

3. Look at Other Baskets

As the saying goes “don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” It’s a fitting phrase in our lives, as we all have many aspects (or baskets) to work on.Along the same lines as the first suggestion, perhaps some of you spent so much time building up one basket that you ignored another. In that case, why not look at other baskets and give them the attention that they need? Review your goals to see which areas of your life need more attention in the short term and long term.

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4. Practice Self-Reflection and Find Yourself

Take some time for yourself. Pause, self reflect, and aim to find yourself once more after this big step of success.

It makes sense that after goal success, you’ll want to move onto the next big thing, but it’s important you go back to yourself.

As mentioned above, there are many aspects of ourselves, and if we focus on one part of ourselves, we weaken the identity of something else. I learned this the hard way as I spent so much time at work that I neglected other areas of my life, like my health and family.

These aspects are part of my identity, and neglecting those for a time caused my life to crumble. All I had was my work. All of that changed when I took it upon myself to look at who I was and who I wanted to become and made active changes in my life to find myself again.

Final Thoughts

People want to think that success is easy to obtain and solves all of our problems, but that’s not often the case. With each success you achieve, there will be something else that will demand even more from you.

Of course, you are free to stay in your current position, but maintaining is important as well. By keeping all of this in mind, having these principles, and applying these practices, you can better prepare yourself for what’s to come.

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