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Last Updated on October 30, 2018

42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself

42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself

Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better?

If you do, then we have something in common.

I’m very passionate about personal growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university. As I thought about the meaning of life, I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment. It is through improving ourselves that we get the most out of life.

After a year and a half of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement.

The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much out there I don’t know, so much that I have to learn.

For sure, there is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth.

Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better.

As a passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to self-improve. I’ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey. Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately. Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act on. Here they are:

1. Read a book every day.

Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you read, the more wisdom you expose yourself to.

What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80/20 Way.

When you’re reading a book every day, you will feed your brain with more and more knowledge. Do you know what’s the best way to store up all this knowledge and information? You need this Digital Brain.


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    2. Learn a new language.

    As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English, Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese dialect). Out of interest, I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian.

    I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening experience.

    3. Pick up a new hobby.

    Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn?

    Examples are fencing, golf, rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating.

    Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, Italian cooking, dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc.

    Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.

    Here’re 20 hobbies to get you some new ideas

    20 Productive Hobbies That Will Make You Smarter and Happier

    4. Take up a new course.

    Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills.

    It doesn’t have to be a long-term course – seminars or workshops serve their purpose too.

    I’ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before.

    5. Create an inspirational room.

    Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are living in an inspirational environment, you are going to be inspired every day.

    In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull. A few years ago, I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega Room Revamp” project and overhauled my room.

    The end result? A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.


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      6. Overcome your fears.

      All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing.

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      Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. I always think of fears as the compass for growth.

      If I have a fear about something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it helps me to grow.

      Learn How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding).

      7. Level up your skills.

      If you have played video games before, especially RPGs, you’ll know the concept of leveling up – gaining experience so you can be better and stronger.

      As a blogger, I’m constantly leveling up my writing skills. As a speaker, I’m constantly leveling up my public engagement abilities. What skills can you level up?

      8. Wake up early.

      Waking up early (say, 5-6am) has been acknowledged by many (Anthony Robbins, Robin Sharma, among other self-help gurus) to improve your productivity and your quality of life.

      I feel it’s because when you wake up early, your mindset is already set to continue the momentum and proactively live out the day.

      Not sure how to wake up early and feel energetic? These ideas will help:

      How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up

      9. Have a weekly exercise routine.

      A better you starts with being in better physical shape. I personally make it a point to jog at least 3 times a week, at least 30 minutes each time.

      You may want to mix it up with jogging, gym lessons and swimming for variation.

      Check out these 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).


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        10. Start your life handbook.

        A life handbook is an idea I started 3 years ago.

        Basically, it’s a book which contains the essentials on how you can live your life to the fullest, such as your purpose, your values and goals. Sort of like your manual for your life.

        I started my life handbook since 2007 and it’s been a crucial enabler in my progress.

        11. Write a letter to your future self.

        What do you see yourself as 5 years from now? Will you be the same? Different? What kind of person will you be?

        Write a letter to your future self – 1 year from now will be a good start – and seal it.

        Make a date in your calendar to open it 1 year from now. Then start working to become the person you want to open that letter.

        12. Get out of your comfort zone.

        Real growth comes with hard work and sweat. Being too comfortable doesn’t help us grow, it makes us stagnate.

        What is your comfort zone? Do you stay in most of the time? Do you keep to your own space when out with other people?

        Shake your routine up. Do something different.

        By exposing yourself to a new context, you’re literally growing as you learn to act in new circumstances.

        13. Put someone up to a challenge.

        Competition is one of the best ways to grow. Set a challenge (weight loss, exercise, financial challenge, etc) and compete with an interested friend to see who achieves the target first.

        Through the process, both of you will gain more than if you were to set off on the target alone.

        14. Identify your blind spots.

        Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are things about ourselves we are unaware of. Discovering our blind spots help us discover our areas of improvement.

        One exercise I use to discover my blind spots is to identify all the things/events/people that trigger me in a day — trigger meaning making me feel annoyed/weird/affected. These represent my blind spots.

        It’s always fun to do the exercise because I discover new things about myself, even if I may already think I know my own blind spots (but then they wouldn’t be blind spots would they?).

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        After that, I work on steps to address them.

        15. Ask for feedback.

        As much as we try to improve, we will always have blind spots. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective.

        Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.

        Learn more about how to ask for feedback and become a fast learner here!

        16. Stay focused with to-do lists.

        I start my day with a list of tasks I want to complete and this helps make me stay focused. In comparison, the days when I don’t do this end up being extremely unproductive.

        For example, part of my to-do list for today is to write a guest post at LifeHack.Org, and this is why I’m writing this now!

        Since my work requires me to use my computer all the time, I use Free Sticky Notes to manage my to-do lists. It’s really simple to use and it’s a freeware, so I recommend you check it out.

        17. Set Big Hairy Audacious Goals (BHAGs).

        I’m a big fan of setting BHAGs. BHAGs stretch you beyond your normal capacity since they are big and audacious – you wouldn’t think of attempting them normally.

        What are BHAGs you can embark on, which you’ll feel absolutely on top of the world once you complete them? Set them and start working on them.

        Learn How to Use SMART Goal to Become Highly Successful in Life.

        18. Acknowledge your flaws.

        Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand them, acknowledge them, and address them.

        What do you think are your flaws? What are the flaws you can work on now? How do you want to address them?

        19. Get into action.

        The best way to learn and improve is to take action.

        What is something you have been meaning to do? How can you take action on it immediately?

        Waiting doesn’t get anything done. Taking action gives you immediate results to learn from.

        20. Learn from people who inspire you.

        Think about people you admire. People who inspire you. These people reflect certain qualities you want to have for yourself too.

        What are the qualities in them you want to have for yourself? How can you acquire these qualities?

        21. Quit a bad habit.

        Are there any bad habits you can lose? Oversleeping? Not exercising? Being late? Slouching? Nail biting? Smoking?

        Here’s some great advice from Lifehack’s CEO on hacking your habit loop to break bad habits and build good ones:

        How to Break a Habit and Hack the Habit Loop

        22. Cultivate a new habit.

        Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books (#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development article a day (#40) and meditating.

        Is there any other new habit you can cultivate to improve yourself?

        If you’re wondering how to make good habits stick, check out these tips:

        18 Tricks to Make New Habits Stick

        23. Avoid negative people.

        As Jim Rohn says,

        “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.

        Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of your time around them if you feel they drag you down.

        Not sure who are the toxic people in life? This article can help you:

        10 Toxic Persons You Should Just Get Rid Of

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        24. Learn to deal with difficult people.

        There are times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts.

        Learn how to deal with them. These people management skills will go a long way in working with people in the future:

        How To Deal With Negative People

        25. Learn from your friends.

        Everyone has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them.

        With all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn from.

        Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this skill for yourself?

        Speak to them if you need to. For sure, they will be more than happy to help!


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          26. Start a journal.

          Journaling is a great way to gain better self-awareness. It’s a self-reflection process.

          As you write, clarify your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective, you gain more insights about yourself.

          Your journal can be private or an online blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.

          27. Start a blog about personal development.

          To help others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold.

          I run The Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves, which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the people I’m reaching out to.

          28. Get a mentor or coach.

          There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals.

          Many of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve significantly more results than if they had worked alone.

          If you’re looking for a mentor, don’t miss these tips:

          What to Look for in a Good Mentor

          29. Reduce the time you spend on chat programs.

          I realized having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time can be much better spent on other activities.

          The days when I don’t get on chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time for it.

          30. Learn chess (or any strategy game).

          I found chess is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills.

          You can also learn strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese Chess, WarCraft, and so on.

          31. Stop watching TV.

          I’ve not been watching TV for pretty much 4 years and it’s been a very liberating experience. (Here’re 10 Reasons To Turn Off Your TV)

          I realized most of the programs and advertisements on mainstream TV are usually of a lower consciousness and not very empowering.

          In return, the time I’ve freed up from not watching TV is now constructively used for other purposes, such as connecting with close friends, doing work I enjoy, exercising, etc.

          32. Start a 30-day challenge.

          Set a goal and give yourself 30 days to achieve this. Your goal can be to stick with a new habit or something you’ve always wanted to do but have not.

          30 days is just enough time to strategize, plan, get into action, review and nail the goal.

          33. Meditate.

          Meditation helps to calm you and be more conscious. I also realized that during the nights when I meditate (before I sleep), I need lesser sleep. The clutter clearing process is very liberating.

          Have a try with this 5-minute Guide to Meditation: Anywhere, Anytime.

          34. Join Toastmasters (Learn public speaking).

          Interestingly, public speaking is the #1 fear in the world, with #2 being death.

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          After I started public speaking as a personal development speaker/trainer, I’ve learned a lot about how to communicate better, present myself and engage people.

          Toastmasters is an international organization that trains people in public speaking. Check out the Toastmaster clubs nearest you here.

          35. Befriend top people in their fields.

          These people have achieved their results because they have the right attitudes, skill sets and know-how. How better to learn than from the people who have been there and done that?

          Gain new insights from them on how you can improve and achieve the same results for yourself.

          36. Let go of the past.

          Is there any grievance or unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to let it go.

          Holding on to them prevents you from moving on and becoming a better person. Break away from the past, forgive yourself, and move on.

          Just recently, I finally moved on from a past heartbreak of 5 years ago. The effect was liberating and very empowering, and I have never been happier.

          37. Start a business venture.

          Is there anything you have an interest in? Why not turn it into a venture and make money while learning at the same time?

          Starting a new venture requires you to be learn business management skills, develop business acumen and have a competitive edge.

          The process of starting and developing my personal development business has equipped me with many skills, such as self-discipline, leadership, organization and management.

          38. Show kindness to people around you.

          You can never be too kind to someone. In fact, most of us don’t show enough kindness to people around us.

          Being kind helps us to cultivate other qualities such as compassion, patience, and love.

          As you get back to your day after reading this article later on, start exuding more kindness to the people around you, and see how they react.

          Not only that, notice how you feel as you behave kindly to others. Chances are, you will feel even better than yourself.

          39. Reach out to the people who hate you.

          If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters.

          It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back.

          Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people requires magnanimity and an open heart.

          Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love.

          Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuses to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back.

          40. Take a break.

          Have you been working too hard? Self-improvement is also about recognizing our need to take a break to walk the longer mile ahead. You can’t be driving a car if it has no petrol.

          Scheduling down time for yourself is important. Take some time off for yourself every week. Relax, rejuvenate and charge yourself up for what’s up ahead.

          41. Read at least 1 personal development article a day.

          Some of my readers make it a point to read at least one personal development article every day, which I think is a great habit.

          There are many terrific personal development blogs out there, some of which you can check here.

          42. Commit to your personal growth.

          I can be writing list articles with 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways or even 1,000 ways to improve yourself, but if you have no intention to commit to your personal growth, it doesn’t matter what I write.

          Nothing is going to get through. We are responsible for our personal growth — not anyone else. Not your mom, your dad, your friend, me or Lifehack.

          Make the decision to commit to your personal growth and embrace yourself to a life-long journey of growth and change. Kick off your growth by picking a few of the steps above and working on them.

          The results may not be immediate, but I promise you that as long as you keep to it, you’ll start seeing positive changes in yourself and your life.

          So here you are, 42 solid ways for self improvement. Pick one or a few to start doing today. If you want to see yourself improving, you must take some actions.

          The sooner you take these actions, the faster you see the results. If you have an issue of procrastination, you’d better read this first:

          What Is Procrastination (And the Complete Guide to Stop Procrastinating)

          More Recommended Personal Development Experts on Lifehack

          • Dr. Kerry Petsinger — Entrepreneur, Mindset & Performance Coach, & Doctor of Physical Therapy
          • Tracy Kennedy — A results-driven coach dedicated to helping people achieve greater levels of happiness and success
          • Eugene K. Choi — A life coach who helps people discover how to best utilize their passions and talents

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          Last Updated on February 20, 2019

          13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

          13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

          Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

          Why is this so critically important to you?

          The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

          Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

          1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

          Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

          When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

          • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
          • The man facing the judge.
          • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
          • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
          • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
          • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

          These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

          Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

          Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

          2. Accept Your Fear

          Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

          We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

          And here’s what can be done.

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          3. Get Some Perspective

          I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

          And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

          That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

          We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

          So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

          • Are you really at risk?
          • Will this kill you?
          • Which leads us on to..
          • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

          4. Hold a Hand

          As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

          Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

          We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

          Ask yourself:

          • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
          • Could that really happen?
          • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
          • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

          By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

          5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

          This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

          Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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          The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

          It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

          For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

          Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

          6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

          I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

          Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

          Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

          Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

          Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

          Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

          7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

          Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

          I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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          It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

          One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

          Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

          It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

          8. Assume the Worse

          If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

          Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

          • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
          • Think about how they feel about champagne?
          • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

          And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

          When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

          Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

          9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

          If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

          Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

          Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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          10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

          One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

          11. Go with Fear

          When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

          I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

          Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

          One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

          However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

          We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

          12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

          And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

          The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

          What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

          13. Own Your Fear

          Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

          We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

          You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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