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How to Reach Your Goal or Resolution in 5 Easy Steps

How to Reach Your Goal or Resolution in 5 Easy Steps

You don’t need to wait until the New Year to decide to change something! Reach your goal, resolution or new habit with these five simple and fundamental steps.

1. Change the Time Frame

Give up any idea of a New Year’s resolution and instead say “hello” to new month’s resolutions. Bite-size chunks are less daunting and more do-able (that is, if you stay focused). In addition, it often takes 30 days to build a habit!

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I tape a calendar of the current and next couple months on my mirror and keep a pen ready. Every day, I mark off (or not, if I didn’t succeed that day) my achievement on a certain habit or goal I’m trying to obtain. Consistency is key, and that’s what should be built up first. It’s a pretty narrow and intense chunk of time, but it’s all you really need if you do it right.

2.Treat It as a Chain

Numerous studies have already proved that, as a result of some weird psychological habit, we like to see a chain grow– it’s more visually pleasing and rewarding.

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What I mean is, if you resolve to drink more water each day and you’ve already crossed off four consecutive days when you were successful, you’ll be more inclined to continue that streak– don’t break the chain. There’s also an app for that, and probably a bunch of other sites and apps trying to attract the health nuts out there. This technique– building your habit as a chain– works alone just fine, but it works magic in conjunction with all these other steps in this post.

3. One at a Time, BUT…

We all know they say that when coming up with a New Year’s resolution, just stick to one. In order to gain a good habit or scrap a bad one, it needs your full, undivided attention. See, the thinking is that if you try to juggle several resolutions, the quality and success of each one will plummet.

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But here’s the twist. It’s not just a matter of full focus on getting into a good habit or reaching a goal; it’s about continuing your good habits from before. So if in January you’re goal was to drink eight glasses a day and you achieved it, then hurrah! But then in February what happens if you totally drop that newly attained habit and instead try to go to the gym more as your new goal? The trade-off just isn’t productive.

The take-away here is that your concentration mostly goes to the current goal you set to achieve, but your effort does overlap with maintaining previous good habits.

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4. Keep it Measurable

This one’s pretty straightforward. We earthlings love to dream about the nebulous. Yeah, you want to be happy, but how will you get there? It’s great to think big, but it’s also important to think practically. For example, if you want to be more thankful, consider writing down 5 things you’re grateful for each day. Even better, give it a consistent daily time frame– every morning, for instance. Measurable and consistent steps will trail-blaze your path before you even begin your journey.

5. Remember, You’re Human

One of the obstacles I’ve personally had to overcome is what to do when I miss a day and slash that consistent habit trend. At the beginning, that one day I couldn’t cross off on the calendar would bother me because it reminded me that I “broke the chain” so to speak. The key, as I’ve discovered, is to remember that you’re human. There’s a learning curve, and you will triumph in the end as long as you persist in your actions.

Not meeting your goal for one day does not mean you failed. But giving up because you didn’t meet your goal for one day does mean you failed. For many, this shouldn’t be a problem, but for some, perfectionism it’s an quite a hurdle to leap over. For all, it’s a fundamental reminder of who we are in our pursuit to become a better version of ourselves.

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12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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