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How to Reach Your Goal or Resolution in 5 Easy Steps

How to Reach Your Goal or Resolution in 5 Easy Steps

You don’t need to wait until the New Year to decide to change something! Reach your goal, resolution or new habit with these five simple and fundamental steps.

1. Change the Time Frame

Give up any idea of a New Year’s resolution and instead say “hello” to new month’s resolutions. Bite-size chunks are less daunting and more do-able (that is, if you stay focused). In addition, it often takes 30 days to build a habit!

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I tape a calendar of the current and next couple months on my mirror and keep a pen ready. Every day, I mark off (or not, if I didn’t succeed that day) my achievement on a certain habit or goal I’m trying to obtain. Consistency is key, and that’s what should be built up first. It’s a pretty narrow and intense chunk of time, but it’s all you really need if you do it right.

2.Treat It as a Chain

Numerous studies have already proved that, as a result of some weird psychological habit, we like to see a chain grow– it’s more visually pleasing and rewarding.

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What I mean is, if you resolve to drink more water each day and you’ve already crossed off four consecutive days when you were successful, you’ll be more inclined to continue that streak– don’t break the chain. There’s also an app for that, and probably a bunch of other sites and apps trying to attract the health nuts out there. This technique– building your habit as a chain– works alone just fine, but it works magic in conjunction with all these other steps in this post.

3. One at a Time, BUT…

We all know they say that when coming up with a New Year’s resolution, just stick to one. In order to gain a good habit or scrap a bad one, it needs your full, undivided attention. See, the thinking is that if you try to juggle several resolutions, the quality and success of each one will plummet.

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But here’s the twist. It’s not just a matter of full focus on getting into a good habit or reaching a goal; it’s about continuing your good habits from before. So if in January you’re goal was to drink eight glasses a day and you achieved it, then hurrah! But then in February what happens if you totally drop that newly attained habit and instead try to go to the gym more as your new goal? The trade-off just isn’t productive.

The take-away here is that your concentration mostly goes to the current goal you set to achieve, but your effort does overlap with maintaining previous good habits.

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4. Keep it Measurable

This one’s pretty straightforward. We earthlings love to dream about the nebulous. Yeah, you want to be happy, but how will you get there? It’s great to think big, but it’s also important to think practically. For example, if you want to be more thankful, consider writing down 5 things you’re grateful for each day. Even better, give it a consistent daily time frame– every morning, for instance. Measurable and consistent steps will trail-blaze your path before you even begin your journey.

5. Remember, You’re Human

One of the obstacles I’ve personally had to overcome is what to do when I miss a day and slash that consistent habit trend. At the beginning, that one day I couldn’t cross off on the calendar would bother me because it reminded me that I “broke the chain” so to speak. The key, as I’ve discovered, is to remember that you’re human. There’s a learning curve, and you will triumph in the end as long as you persist in your actions.

Not meeting your goal for one day does not mean you failed. But giving up because you didn’t meet your goal for one day does mean you failed. For many, this shouldn’t be a problem, but for some, perfectionism it’s an quite a hurdle to leap over. For all, it’s a fundamental reminder of who we are in our pursuit to become a better version of ourselves.

Featured photo credit: Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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