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9 Things You Can Do To Completely Unleash Your Potentials

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9 Things You Can Do To Completely Unleash Your Potentials

You may realize it or not, but you were born with great gifts and talents. How do you use them for yourself and the good of others is the story of your life. Will you reach your potentials in this story? Let’s see what you can do to unleash it!

1. Observe your Feelings

Let’s face it – you are the only person in the world that knows what you feel. Others may guess, speculate or ask, but they never know for sure. Sometimes you are excited, worried, feel pain and sometimes you are bored to death and want to dissemble this fact. Take responsibility for your feelings and observe when you feel unusually high or low and think why.

Take a sheet of paper and list last week moments that energized you and depressed you. Every week you can make such list and take one step away from “depressors” towards “energizers”. This will unleash your potentials step by step.

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2. Make Personality Test(s)

Observing your feelings is a great way to realize your uniqueness and potentials, however there are also many personality tests available that may help you discover your natural gifts and talents. Try Strengthsfinder, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, or others. The key is to find your strengths, something you can build on effectively.

3. Listen when People Praise your Talents

As theologian Frederick Buechner said: ”Your calling is where your passions meet the world’s needs.” When you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses, it is a good moment to ask how you can apply them to the world around you.

It may be as simple as asking your friends and colleagues to list your five strengths and one weakness. The next key question you have to ask yourself is, how you can grow in these areas even further.

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4. Be Courageous

When facing death, people usually regret the things they did not do, rather than what they did. Life is full of challenges and fears, but you may ask yourself few questions: Will I regret not doing this when I am old? Will I remember this in 10 years from now? How much it matters for me? Will I be able to look in the mirror if I don’t do this?

It takes courage to unleash your potentials and without bold moves you may be just spinning in circles.

5. Set Challenging, but Achievable Goals

Settings goals is a great way to trigger action and motivate. It sets the direction, next steps, unclutter your mind. Challenging goals stimulate the flow experience that so many people want. As some people say “a life without challenge and risk is not worth living.” The key to unleash potentials is to set stimulating, challenging goals that are achievable and not overwhelming.

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You may write down the goal and read it aloud. If it didn’t move or empower you, you didn’t want to take an action or didn’t know what to do, you need a different goal!

6. Everyday make a Small Step

As Lao-Tzu said “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You may travel from East to West Coast with a car by seeing just a few miles ahead at any specific moment. This is also true to unleash your potentials. Don’t think for too long – discover your strengths and weaknesses, find the world hunger you may feed, set challenging goals for them, but at the end, use every day to make just a small step towards it.

7. Work on your Habits

Every day we make hundreds and thousands decisions, but most of them subconsciously. All these small and big decisions sum up to your life. This is why working on habits is so important. You may turn negative patterns into positive, and learn how to be thankful, how to deal with stress, have healthy and inspiring relationships.

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They won’t change overnight, but once formed they will positively impact hundreds of your decisions later on.

8. Let go of Bitterness

One of the biggest contributors to not unleashing your potentials is resentment. As Malachy McCourt stated “Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Do not let others steer your life into negative thinking. Past already happened, future is unsure, so focus on here and now. Don’t let the past define your future.

9. Be Thankful

Our sensitivity increases in direct proportion to the positive responses we give to our impressions. If you are thankful, your sensitivity to positive aspects of your life will grow. You will see more opportunities, you will relax, your relationships will flourish.

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You are living the only life you have, I hope you will unleash your potentials completely! I believe if you realize what you have, recognize how you can use it, let go the negative past and build positive habits over the steps you are making every day, you can achieve great things.

If your life has given you some other lesson, please do not hesitate to share it with me!

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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