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9 Things You Can Do To Completely Unleash Your Potentials

9 Things You Can Do To Completely Unleash Your Potentials

You may realize it or not, but you were born with great gifts and talents. How do you use them for yourself and the good of others is the story of your life. Will you reach your potentials in this story? Let’s see what you can do to unleash it!

1. Observe your Feelings

Let’s face it – you are the only person in the world that knows what you feel. Others may guess, speculate or ask, but they never know for sure. Sometimes you are excited, worried, feel pain and sometimes you are bored to death and want to dissemble this fact. Take responsibility for your feelings and observe when you feel unusually high or low and think why.

Take a sheet of paper and list last week moments that energized you and depressed you. Every week you can make such list and take one step away from “depressors” towards “energizers”. This will unleash your potentials step by step.

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2. Make Personality Test(s)

Observing your feelings is a great way to realize your uniqueness and potentials, however there are also many personality tests available that may help you discover your natural gifts and talents. Try Strengthsfinder, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, or others. The key is to find your strengths, something you can build on effectively.

3. Listen when People Praise your Talents

As theologian Frederick Buechner said: ”Your calling is where your passions meet the world’s needs.” When you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses, it is a good moment to ask how you can apply them to the world around you.

It may be as simple as asking your friends and colleagues to list your five strengths and one weakness. The next key question you have to ask yourself is, how you can grow in these areas even further.

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4. Be Courageous

When facing death, people usually regret the things they did not do, rather than what they did. Life is full of challenges and fears, but you may ask yourself few questions: Will I regret not doing this when I am old? Will I remember this in 10 years from now? How much it matters for me? Will I be able to look in the mirror if I don’t do this?

It takes courage to unleash your potentials and without bold moves you may be just spinning in circles.

5. Set Challenging, but Achievable Goals

Settings goals is a great way to trigger action and motivate. It sets the direction, next steps, unclutter your mind. Challenging goals stimulate the flow experience that so many people want. As some people say “a life without challenge and risk is not worth living.” The key to unleash potentials is to set stimulating, challenging goals that are achievable and not overwhelming.

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You may write down the goal and read it aloud. If it didn’t move or empower you, you didn’t want to take an action or didn’t know what to do, you need a different goal!

6. Everyday make a Small Step

As Lao-Tzu said “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You may travel from East to West Coast with a car by seeing just a few miles ahead at any specific moment. This is also true to unleash your potentials. Don’t think for too long – discover your strengths and weaknesses, find the world hunger you may feed, set challenging goals for them, but at the end, use every day to make just a small step towards it.

7. Work on your Habits

Every day we make hundreds and thousands decisions, but most of them subconsciously. All these small and big decisions sum up to your life. This is why working on habits is so important. You may turn negative patterns into positive, and learn how to be thankful, how to deal with stress, have healthy and inspiring relationships.

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They won’t change overnight, but once formed they will positively impact hundreds of your decisions later on.

8. Let go of Bitterness

One of the biggest contributors to not unleashing your potentials is resentment. As Malachy McCourt stated “Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Do not let others steer your life into negative thinking. Past already happened, future is unsure, so focus on here and now. Don’t let the past define your future.

9. Be Thankful

Our sensitivity increases in direct proportion to the positive responses we give to our impressions. If you are thankful, your sensitivity to positive aspects of your life will grow. You will see more opportunities, you will relax, your relationships will flourish.

You are living the only life you have, I hope you will unleash your potentials completely! I believe if you realize what you have, recognize how you can use it, let go the negative past and build positive habits over the steps you are making every day, you can achieve great things.

If your life has given you some other lesson, please do not hesitate to share it with me!

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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