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10 Ways To Spend More Quality Time With Your Partner

10 Ways To Spend More Quality Time With Your Partner

Everyone knows spending time with your partner is important. After all, too much time apart is just as bad as too little. But can you really say it’s quality time? Watching TV is fun, but Two and a Half Men can wait. Here are 10 ways to spend more quality time with your partner that can help rekindle the spark in your relationship or make it burn brighter and hotter than ever before.

1. Recreate your first date together.

Whether you went out for a stargazing expedition or burgers at Wendy’s, recreating your first date as precisely as possible is a good way to show you remember why you fell in love with your partner. If it was a big, flashy date, make it big and flashy again. If it wasn’t, keep it simple. The point is to do a little emotional time travel to before the jobs, bills, kids, and family became the focus of your lives. Or, if your first date wasn’t all that great to start with, you can always ask your partner what they wish your first date had been instead and do that.

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2. Have a fancy night in.

Can you cook like a gourmet chef? Do you know how to properly sear meringue? Or do you just have the number of a really good restaurant that permits ordering out? Make a night of it by putting on your best threads and your nicest shoes, popping a bottle of wine and playing your partner’s favorite music.

3. Try a new sport.

Sometimes just getting out of the routine and trying something new is a good way to spend more quality time with your partner. There are as many ways to do this as there are sports out there. You can hit the roller rink, the squash court, the lake, or the peaks for a little skiing. What really matters isn’t what you do, but that you’re doing it with the one you love.

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4. Play to your talents.

Some people are really good at writing stories and poems. Others can make a guitar do whatever they need it to do. Still others are gifted with a pencil, charcoal or brushes. Whatever your strength is, do something unique for your partner like taking a sexy photo or drawing him or her wearing just those boots you love. This can be considered a form of extended foreplay, and the result is something you’ll remember forever.

5. Take a vacation or weekend getaway

The same four walls can really close in on a couple after a while, no matter how much they love each other or how much they like each others’ company. Why not arrange for a weekend or vacation away from it all? This can be a fun and enjoyable way to get “back to basics” and remember why you want to be, not just husband and wife, but man and woman (or gender-appropriate pairing, as you like). A change of scenery can do wonders for your relationship and help you see each other in a softer, more romantic light.

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6. Read your lover a bedtime story.

To set the mood for a romantic evening, why not choose a sexy story? Maybe your lover has a romance section on his or her Kindle or has been trying to get you to read something a little naughtier. This is a great way to spend quality time with your partner because it not only gives you the intimacy of being close together, but it just might lead to something really spicy to top off your evening.

7. Play a video game together.

Okay, not everyone’s going to consider this “quality time,” but what if you were to pick up an old-school game you both enjoyed as kids, like Super Mario Bros.? Make popcorn, turn out the lights, move the bedding into the living room as a pallet, and gorge yourselves on junk food while you go after the bad guys? This is a fun way to get in touch with your inner child and feel closer to your partner too.

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8. Have an old movie night.

Remember when Hollywood actors had to have real talent and chemistry? An old movie night with classics like Casablanca, The Thin Man, Arsenic and Old Lace, Vincent Price’s movies, or even The Wizard of Oz is a fun way to relax, unwind and rediscover some old favorites while enjoying your partner’s company.

9. Give your partner a bath.

Everyone likes to be pampered and fussed over every once in a while, and a bath is an intimate way to get closer. Make your partner’s favorite drink or cocktail (yes, a Coke’s fine if your partner doesn’t drink alcohol), light some candles, burn a little incense, and run them a warm bubble bath. Once they’re in the tub, help them wash those hard-to-reach areas. This is a great, sexy way to cap off a night… or start one.

10. Have a pillow fight.

A pillow fight sounds silly and childish, which is the entire point. Put on your pajamas, throw a mattress on the floor, and have at it! In addition to being a great stress reliever, this has a pretty good chance of leading to a tickle fight. Just remember not to be too rough. The idea is to amuse your partner and make him or her laugh, not Hulk-smash him or her into the floor!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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