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10 Ways To Spend More Quality Time With Your Partner

10 Ways To Spend More Quality Time With Your Partner

Everyone knows spending time with your partner is important. After all, too much time apart is just as bad as too little. But can you really say it’s quality time? Watching TV is fun, but Two and a Half Men can wait. Here are 10 ways to spend more quality time with your partner that can help rekindle the spark in your relationship or make it burn brighter and hotter than ever before.

1. Recreate your first date together.

Whether you went out for a stargazing expedition or burgers at Wendy’s, recreating your first date as precisely as possible is a good way to show you remember why you fell in love with your partner. If it was a big, flashy date, make it big and flashy again. If it wasn’t, keep it simple. The point is to do a little emotional time travel to before the jobs, bills, kids, and family became the focus of your lives. Or, if your first date wasn’t all that great to start with, you can always ask your partner what they wish your first date had been instead and do that.

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2. Have a fancy night in.

Can you cook like a gourmet chef? Do you know how to properly sear meringue? Or do you just have the number of a really good restaurant that permits ordering out? Make a night of it by putting on your best threads and your nicest shoes, popping a bottle of wine and playing your partner’s favorite music.

3. Try a new sport.

Sometimes just getting out of the routine and trying something new is a good way to spend more quality time with your partner. There are as many ways to do this as there are sports out there. You can hit the roller rink, the squash court, the lake, or the peaks for a little skiing. What really matters isn’t what you do, but that you’re doing it with the one you love.

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4. Play to your talents.

Some people are really good at writing stories and poems. Others can make a guitar do whatever they need it to do. Still others are gifted with a pencil, charcoal or brushes. Whatever your strength is, do something unique for your partner like taking a sexy photo or drawing him or her wearing just those boots you love. This can be considered a form of extended foreplay, and the result is something you’ll remember forever.

5. Take a vacation or weekend getaway

The same four walls can really close in on a couple after a while, no matter how much they love each other or how much they like each others’ company. Why not arrange for a weekend or vacation away from it all? This can be a fun and enjoyable way to get “back to basics” and remember why you want to be, not just husband and wife, but man and woman (or gender-appropriate pairing, as you like). A change of scenery can do wonders for your relationship and help you see each other in a softer, more romantic light.

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6. Read your lover a bedtime story.

To set the mood for a romantic evening, why not choose a sexy story? Maybe your lover has a romance section on his or her Kindle or has been trying to get you to read something a little naughtier. This is a great way to spend quality time with your partner because it not only gives you the intimacy of being close together, but it just might lead to something really spicy to top off your evening.

7. Play a video game together.

Okay, not everyone’s going to consider this “quality time,” but what if you were to pick up an old-school game you both enjoyed as kids, like Super Mario Bros.? Make popcorn, turn out the lights, move the bedding into the living room as a pallet, and gorge yourselves on junk food while you go after the bad guys? This is a fun way to get in touch with your inner child and feel closer to your partner too.

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8. Have an old movie night.

Remember when Hollywood actors had to have real talent and chemistry? An old movie night with classics like Casablanca, The Thin Man, Arsenic and Old Lace, Vincent Price’s movies, or even The Wizard of Oz is a fun way to relax, unwind and rediscover some old favorites while enjoying your partner’s company.

9. Give your partner a bath.

Everyone likes to be pampered and fussed over every once in a while, and a bath is an intimate way to get closer. Make your partner’s favorite drink or cocktail (yes, a Coke’s fine if your partner doesn’t drink alcohol), light some candles, burn a little incense, and run them a warm bubble bath. Once they’re in the tub, help them wash those hard-to-reach areas. This is a great, sexy way to cap off a night… or start one.

10. Have a pillow fight.

A pillow fight sounds silly and childish, which is the entire point. Put on your pajamas, throw a mattress on the floor, and have at it! In addition to being a great stress reliever, this has a pretty good chance of leading to a tickle fight. Just remember not to be too rough. The idea is to amuse your partner and make him or her laugh, not Hulk-smash him or her into the floor!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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