The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

Love is universal. We feel it and see it. Love, in a sense, is what makes the world go round. However, the ways of emotional communication can vary significantly from person to person. It is said that five unique “love languages” exist and make up the means of unspeakable connections between two people. They are the underlying reasons behind the “chemistry” or “sparks” that hold relationships together like binding glue. Love is not a trend. Rather, it is a basic human necessity for survival.

Here’s a quick overview of the five languages of love and how you can use this knowledge in your own relationship.

Words of Affirmation



    Everybody loves a nice compliment. But for people whose actions speak this language, it means the world for them to be called beautiful or handsome. Whether that means getting dressed up to be noticed for stellar looks, or simply being noticed for a dazzling smile, words of affirmation are the reason why these people light up when being exposed to flattery. A simple “You look beautiful today” can make the difference between a good day and a great one.

    Acts of Service


      Washing the dishes, doing the laundry, mowing the lawn — the list goes on and on for daily household chores that please the people who speak affection through cleaning and doing. They have a common mantra of “actions speak louder than words,” and swoon when their significant other helps out around the house. Down-to-earth and practical, they work with their partner to get the job done — one dish, one shirt, one square meter at a time.


      Receiving Gifts


        This language comes in the form of cards, flowers, jewelry, chocolates, gift cards — any and all material goods. Individuals who communicate through receiving these items adore being showered with boxes and boxes of beautifully wrapped gifts. Ideas over value, they always believe it’s the thought that counts. Receiving a thoughtful gift will make them feel that their partner truly loves and understands them. Holidays and birthdays are the ideal time to surprise these folks with carefully picked sentimental presents to compliment the celebratory mood!

        Physical Touch



          Arguably the most popular form of expressing love, touch is ubiquitous for warmth, closeness, and intimacy. Hugs, kisses, and cuddling exist because it makes these people feel safe and appreciated. After a tough, long day of work, those who feel the most love through touch only want to come home to one thing: their lover’s arms. Like a safe haven, it allows for a moment of bliss and escape from reality, to find comfort in closeness. It is crucial to ensure quiet moments of physical support for these individuals to thrive.

          Quality Time

          Happy couple having some quality time together.

            Time is precious, and people with this love language know it all too well. Whether it be spending the day at the fair, strolling through the park, or exploring the city, the very act of spending one’s minutes with their loved one fills up their heart with overflowing joy. A stroll through the park, an adventure exploring the city, a visit to the new restaurant — it’s all about the journey, growing, developing, and building one another up.


            For most people, we use a combination of two to three, or even all of these emotional languages, to express our affection for our significant someone. There is no “better” or “worse” love language, because that’s what makes us all unique. When you’ve decoded your lover’s language, it’s easier to convey those thoughts that hit the feelings in the right place. Every person wants to be loved, but not all people need to be loved in the same way.

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            Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

            Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

            Do you know that feeling? The one where you have to wake up to go to your boring 9-5 job to work with the same boring colleagues who don’t appreciate what you do.

            I do, and that’s why I’ve decided to quit my job and follow my passion. This, however, requires a solid plan and some guts.

            The one who perseveres doesn’t always win. Sometimes life has more to offer when you quit your current job. Yes, I know. It’s overwhelming and scary.

            People who quit are often seen as ‘losers’. They say: “You should finish what you’ve started”.

            I know like no other that quitting your job can be very stressful. A dozen questions come up when you’re thinking about quitting your job, most starting with: What if?


            “What if I don’t find a job I love and regret quitting my current job?”
            “What if I can’t find another job and I get in debt because I can’t pay my bills?”
            “What if my family and friends judge me and disapprove of the decisions I make?”
            “What if I quit my job to pursue my dream, but I fail?

            After all, if you admit to the truth of your surroundings, you’re forced to acknowledge that you’ve made a wrong decision by choosing your current job. But don’t forget that quitting certain things in life can be the path to your success!

            One of my favorite quotes by Henry Ford:

            If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.

            Everything takes energy

            Everything you do in life takes energy. It takes energy to participate in your weekly activities. It takes energy to commute to work every day. It takes energy to organize your sister’s big wedding.


            Each of the responsibilities we have take a little bit of our energy. We only have a certain amount of energy a day, so we have to spend it wisely.  Same goes for our time. The only things we can’t buy in this world are time and energy. Yes, you could buy an energy drink, but will it feel the same as eight hours of sleep? Will it be as healthy?

            The more stress there is in your life, the less focus you have. This will weaken your results.

            Find something that is worth doing

            Do you have to quit every time the going gets touch? Absolutely not! You should quit when you’ve put everything you’ve got into something, but don’t see a bright future in it.

            When you do something you love and that has purpose in your life, you should push through and give everything you have.

            I find star athletes very inspiring. They don’t quit till they step on that stage to receive their hard earned gold medal. From the start, they know how much work its going to take and what they have to sacrifice.


            When you do something you’re really passionate about, you’re not in a downward spiral. Before you even start you can already see the finish line. The more focus you have for something, the faster you’ll reach the finish.

            It is definitely possible to spend your valuable time on something you love and earn money doing it. You just have to find out how — by doing enough research.

            Other excuses I often hear are:

            “But I have my wife and kids, who is going to pay the bills?”
            “I don’t have time for that, I’m too busy with… stuff” (Like watching TV for 2 hours every day.)
            “At least I get the same paycheck every month if I work for a boss.”
            “Quitting my job is too much risk with this crisis.”

            I understand those points. But if you’ve never tried it, you’ll never know how it could be. The fear of failure keeps people from stepping out of their comfort zone.


            I’ve heard many people say, “I work to let my children make their dream come true”. I think they should rephrase that sentence to: “I pursue my dreams — to inspire and show my children anything is possible.” 


            Think carefully about what you spend your time on. Don’t waste it on things that don’t brighten your future. Instead, search for opportunities. And come up with a solid plan before you take any impulsive actions.

            Only good things happen outside of your comfort zone.

            Do you dare to quit your job for more success in life?

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