The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

Love is universal. We feel it and see it. Love, in a sense, is what makes the world go round. However, the ways of emotional communication can vary significantly from person to person. It is said that five unique “love languages” exist and make up the means of unspeakable connections between two people. They are the underlying reasons behind the “chemistry” or “sparks” that hold relationships together like binding glue. Love is not a trend. Rather, it is a basic human necessity for survival.

Here’s a quick overview of the five languages of love and how you can use this knowledge in your own relationship.

Words of Affirmation



    Everybody loves a nice compliment. But for people whose actions speak this language, it means the world for them to be called beautiful or handsome. Whether that means getting dressed up to be noticed for stellar looks, or simply being noticed for a dazzling smile, words of affirmation are the reason why these people light up when being exposed to flattery. A simple “You look beautiful today” can make the difference between a good day and a great one.

    Acts of Service


      Washing the dishes, doing the laundry, mowing the lawn — the list goes on and on for daily household chores that please the people who speak affection through cleaning and doing. They have a common mantra of “actions speak louder than words,” and swoon when their significant other helps out around the house. Down-to-earth and practical, they work with their partner to get the job done — one dish, one shirt, one square meter at a time.


      Receiving Gifts


        This language comes in the form of cards, flowers, jewelry, chocolates, gift cards — any and all material goods. Individuals who communicate through receiving these items adore being showered with boxes and boxes of beautifully wrapped gifts. Ideas over value, they always believe it’s the thought that counts. Receiving a thoughtful gift will make them feel that their partner truly loves and understands them. Holidays and birthdays are the ideal time to surprise these folks with carefully picked sentimental presents to compliment the celebratory mood!

        Physical Touch



          Arguably the most popular form of expressing love, touch is ubiquitous for warmth, closeness, and intimacy. Hugs, kisses, and cuddling exist because it makes these people feel safe and appreciated. After a tough, long day of work, those who feel the most love through touch only want to come home to one thing: their lover’s arms. Like a safe haven, it allows for a moment of bliss and escape from reality, to find comfort in closeness. It is crucial to ensure quiet moments of physical support for these individuals to thrive.

          Quality Time

          Happy couple having some quality time together.

            Time is precious, and people with this love language know it all too well. Whether it be spending the day at the fair, strolling through the park, or exploring the city, the very act of spending one’s minutes with their loved one fills up their heart with overflowing joy. A stroll through the park, an adventure exploring the city, a visit to the new restaurant — it’s all about the journey, growing, developing, and building one another up.


            For most people, we use a combination of two to three, or even all of these emotional languages, to express our affection for our significant someone. There is no “better” or “worse” love language, because that’s what makes us all unique. When you’ve decoded your lover’s language, it’s easier to convey those thoughts that hit the feelings in the right place. Every person wants to be loved, but not all people need to be loved in the same way.

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            7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

            7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

            When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

            You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

            1. Connecting them with each other

            Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.


            It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

            2. Connect with their emotions

            Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

            For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.


            3. Keep going back to the beginning

            Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

            On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

            4. Link to your audience’s motivation

            After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.


            Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

            5. Entertain them

            While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

            Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.


            6. Appeal to loyalty

            Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

            In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

            7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

            Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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