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6 Compelling Reasons to Try Couples Yoga (And the Best Poses to Try)

6 Compelling Reasons to Try Couples Yoga (And the Best Poses to Try)

Yoga is an integrated exercise that includes training both body and mind. In addition to contemplation, its techniques are numerous including relaxation and physical movements. Yet couples yoga is unique in its nature and reasons. It has its own compelling reasons that make it both necessary and fun.

Sometimes intimate couples’ relationship undergoes some kind of ups and downs that make it in need of more bonding and excitement. Experts and practitioners in the field confirm that practicing couples yoga would be an effective treatment.

Kristin Buettner (2016) states that in such a case, the calming, harmonizing practice of yoga would be a fabulous escape from stressors of daily life. She states also that it could increase the couples’ relationship ability to be more flexible, more intimate, and stronger.

The most compelling reasons to try couples yoga

There are numerous reasons why practicing yoga should be part and parcel of couples’ daily routine. Yet there are some more compelling reasons:

1. Build emotional support

In any pose you may do, you will rely, entirely or partially, on your partner. You won’t be trying doing your exercise depending just on yourself. You both will feel you need each other more. You both will feel to what extent you can assist each other to achieve a shared aim.

In all poses, you will also feel that you have to relinquish control to your partner. You will let her/him choose relying on you for doing some movements. This experience helps you find out each other’s new talents and powers. It also lets you discover your limitations and work together for expanding them.

You need to support your emotional relationship. So you will find that practicing couples yoga as a daily routine is a most compelling reason for clinging to it.

2. Enhance intimacy and sex life

A study performed by Loyola University Health System in 2013 showed that partner yoga could help couples who are suffering from sex dysfunction. There is a pattern of yoga that includes massage, breathing exercises and reciprocally beneficial poses. Couples can do such exercises to build confidence, intimacy and better sexual intercourses.

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Sometimes couples experience resentment due to either log-term relationship or the same daily boring routine. Such feeling will inevitably lead to resentment. In this case, practicing partner yoga could be more effectual.

3. Reduce stress and anxiety

It is well known that yoga reduces stress and delimits anxiety. Partner yoga, on the other hand, can do the same for both partners, and what is more is that it can augment peace of mind.

Being in a relationship with a partner could add more responsibility. Much research proves that responsibility is one significant factor that causes stress. Such personal relationship can also result in anxiety. Even partners’ day-to-day living may cause excessive anxiety that could have a negative influence on their relationship.

Couples yoga practice can help partners stay calm and relaxed in the midst of daily life. It also helps couples face the events that afflict them with a sense of discomfort and anxiety.

4. Eliminate egotism and pride

One of the most devastative factors of intimate relationship is egotism. Those who suffer egotism are always narcissistic and overwhelmed by destructive pride. When one of the partners is egotistic, there would be no sort of communication or understanding.

Even sexual wellness specialists state that egotism and pride are factors which affect intimacy negatively. Doing partners’ yoga exercises are crucial in this case. They help couples depend on each other’s effort. They also teach them how to accept each other with their differences and drawbacks.

Couples yoga will help couples strengthen their relationship spiritually, emotionally and sentimentally.

5. Create opportunities to spend time together

Partner yoga helps partners how to give and take. Nowadays people are too busy to get time to spend with their partners. Such instances would deprive one of them of having enough time with the other. Therefore, distance might takes place, which creates frustration and boredom.

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Hence, both partners should create shared moments during which they can get together and enjoy their relationship. Yoga is the most suitable way that can offer them such opportunity. Each one can bear the other’s heavy loads by sharing the exercises moments. Every one of them will rely on the other and give him/her the best chance to receive their weight.

6. Offer a touch of warmth and affection

Warmth and affection could slip away in the wade of life preoccupations. This, of course, could lead to a cold and dull relationship.

Experts and specialists confirm that touch is an integral part of partner yoga. This integral part can heighten the partners’ desire towards getting into more poses that give them the feeling of warmth and affection.

One physical touch during the shared exercises can ignite feelings of love and adoration. Such touch could augment their awareness of each other and their hearts will beat with passion.

The best yoga poses to bring partners closer

It is a wonderful experience when you practice yoga with your partner. It is even more wonderful when you both create new postures depending on each other’s thoughts and innovative ideas. Love and adoration do wonder when couples create effective yoga postures.

Partners can use their body weight, hands, legs and even eyes to help each other form the most suitable posture. It is all about co-operative work that infuses affection and willpower in themselves. If your partner is romantic, try the following best poses that can inflame his/her love and romance:

1. Partner double tree

    In this exercise, you will delicately lean on your partner a bit and try to make the figure of a double tree.

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    1. Stand side by side making a tree pose.
    2. Looking at the same direction (to the forward), place your right foot against the inside of the left thigh.
    3. Place your inside arm around each other’s waist.
    4. Lift the outside arm up.
    5. Place all your weight on the inside leg.
    6. Try to make your outside foot touch your ankle, thigh or calf.
    7. Then, you can complete the pose either ways:
      – Bring your arm across the front and press your palm gently against your partner’s; or
      – Touch each other’s hand overhead so as to create an arch.
    8. Stand still and count for 15 to 20 seconds or breaths. Afterwards, try to switch side and do the same.

    2. Downward double dog

      This pose might seem difficult to you but it’s very easy. It will give you both the feeling of modesty and closeness. After repeating it for several times, your partner will feel very close to you. And there will be no more pride.

      1. Tell your partner to lie on arms and legs. Legs are straightened letting the area of the hips (buttocks) higher than the arms, and head down.
      2. Do the same placing your legs and feet on your partner’s buttocks, forwarding your heat downwards.
      3. Take deep breaths in intervals as long as you can.
      4. Try not to speak a word during the session.
      5. After 10 to 20 seconds, exchange the roles.
      6. Repeat exchanging the roles for four or five times, or until you feel satisfied.

      3. Back to back pose

        With this pose, both partners exert the same effort without any trouble. After doing such exercise, you will feel much refreshed. You will also feel better blood circulation.

        1. Sit down back-to-back with your partner doing the same so that your spines are both quite aligned.
        2. Twist you torsos to the right, putting your left hands on the right knees and the right hand on the partner’s left knee. This is to help yourselves stretch well.
        3. Get back to the center and raise your hands up.
        4. Loop your hands together, pressing your elbows against each other.
        5. One of you can lean forward, stretching the area between shoulders.
        6. Keep such pose for about 5 to 10 breaths, then exchange roles.
        7. Place your feet hip-width apart out.
        8. Hook inner elbows and try to stand up.
        9. Repeat sitting down and standing up for 3 to 4 times.

        4. Partner camel

          It is the most wonderful sensation when you feel deep affection and getting closer to you partner. Such sensation can be more overwhelming when you both do yoga like one hand in one glove. Be ready to do an amazing co-operative exercise that will make you live in a dreamful world; it is partner camel couple yoga.

          1. Facing each other, kneel and grab each other’s forearms.
          2. Push your hips forward.
          3. Push your chests and heads backward, and lean back.
          4. While leaning back, grasp you partner’s forearm firmly so as to keep balance.
          5. With the other free hands, catch you ankles and try to put all weight on them.
          6. Repeat the same pose on the other side, using the free forearms.
          7. Take some moments to do this interesting exercise. Repeating it once or twice a week will help you restore your warm connection.

          5. Temple pose

            Either do it as a stand-alone exercise or as a ring of an exercise program chain, temple pose is amazing. Here is how to do it together:

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            1. Stand straight facing each other.
            2. Take a space about 3 feet from each other.
            3. Lean forward while taking a deep breath.
            4. With you arms, try to reach your partner’s arms.
            5. Get your elbows to touch, and grasp each other’s hand firmly.
            6. Let your elbows and forearms rest against your partner’s.
            7. Place your chest and faces against the ground.
            8. Stay still for about 10 breaths.
            9. Step forward while releasing each one’s hands, and let your arms down.
            10. Take a deep breath and hold it for 5 seconds.

            If you would like to repeat this exercises again, you may feel much enjoyment. It is quite entertaining. Try it now!

            6. Boat pose

              A breathtaking body posture that can fill partners’ hearts with joy and feeling of passion in this body pose. Try it once and you can’t do yoga without it. It could offer you more relaxation and calmness.

              1. Sit on a mat facing each other.
              2. Take a suitable distance from each other.
              3. Bend your hip joints as much as you can.
              4. Let you feet touch your partner’s.
              5. Let your toes touch firmly.
              6. Hold each other’s hands.
              7. Keep your back straight, and chest extended.

              You should know that this exercise needs some more effort and strength. So, it is not recommended for elderly people. Yet, it can rejuvenate your body refreshment and vitality. It also implants the tendency to loyalty and dedication into your hearts.

              7. Forward and back bend

                This exercise requires you to have strong and much flexible bodies. If you doubt this, please do not try it. In spite of this, it is entirely considered as one of the most important and effective couple yoga exercises. Each movement in this exercises requires you and your partner to do well in helping each other. Once you have done it perfectly, you will feel more love and adoration hit your hearts gently with their magic stick!

                1. Sit back to back.
                2. Place your legs away in front of you.
                3. Bend forward while your legs are straight, and spread your arms forward.
                4. Let your partner stand up and begin to lean backward on your body, extending legsbr and feet facing flour .
                5. Switch and let your partner sit bending forward.
                6. Do as your partner has done with you before.

                There are many reasons why couples yoga is so compelling. To keep your love life vivid and full of refreshment, try to practice some of the above partner yoga exercises on a regular basis!

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                25 Best Self Improvement Books to Read No Matter How Old You Are

                25 Best Self Improvement Books to Read No Matter How Old You Are

                I remember the first time I got my hands on a self-improvement book. I was baffled. At that moment, I realized my fate was not set in stone. I could become my own drill master and coach. The books I read would set out the training course for me to overcome. All I had to do was listen to that voice that aspired to climb higher and higher.

                Every time I committed to a new challenge, I knew it was going to be outside of my comfort zone. But after enough iterations, I also knew it will not just be part of my repertoire, it will be part of me.

                Not all self-improvement books are made equal. Some help start you out on your journey, others give you a boost when you’ve achieved experience in certain areas.

                Here are the best ones that I recommend to read no matter how old you are:

                1. Whatcha Gonna Do with That Duck? And Other Provocations

                by Seth Godin

                  This book is a masterpiece, and unlike most self-improvement books, this one targets an infinite array of areas in which you can, and ultimately must, improve.

                  With its ruthless honesty and genuine inspiration, Godin makes you ponder the difficult questions you wouldn’t ever dare to ask yourself. The result is a completely new perspective of the world- a fresher, more vibrant perspective, packed with new and bold possibilities.

                  If you need a friend who understands you, a boss that forces you to venture deep in your non-comfort zone, a wise guru that tells you what needs to be left behind and a sage that proclaims the coming of a new age, then look no further; you will find these shrewd voices all tied together in this magnificent book. Make sure to get this one.

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                  2. Fooled by Randomness: The Hidden Role of Chance in Life and in the Markets

                  by Nassim Nicholas Taleb

                    Perhaps it is the fact that randomness played such a significant role in my years as a poker player that I find this book utterly important.

                    We often attribute skill where there is only luck; we confuse correlation with causation and we underestimate the incredible effect small changes can have.

                    This book gave me a perspective that I unfortunately rarely encounter in others: you can do everything right and still lose, or do everything wrong and still win. It is thus not about the outcome; it is about your actions that have lead you there.

                    This important message is central to many of my decisions I make in my life. This book by Taleb helps you develop such a perspective so you will be able to live in a world one cannot fully understand, where the results are not always clear markers of performance and where chance seems to play games with our fates. Stop being fooled by randomness!

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                    3. The 48 Laws of Power

                    by Robert Greene

                      I read this book in a time where I thought power was something I should attain. Power for power’s sake. And while I disagree with my former self on this point, the fact remains that power is very real, it forms the invisible scepter of all hierarchical relations around us.

                      I still recommend this book. I believe it is important to know how people use power for their own benefit and what to do to protect yourself from certain abuses of power.

                      Besides the fact that all stories in this book gravitate around power. It contains many life lessons, amazing historical anecdotes. If read in a certain light, the ability to use power for good.

                      From Caesar to Goethe, Sun-Tzu to Machiavelli, this eye opening book spans a wide range of human development. If you, like me, would rather be interested in something less egotistical, perhaps Greene’s latest book Mastery will suffice (I haven’t read that one myself).

                      Another great book in the same style, but this time around; covering a wider scope, and perhaps, something that will make the world make a better place.

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                      4. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

                      by Stephen. R. Covey

                        The title of this book doesn’t capture it all. Covey shares with us seven habits one should adapt to become truly effective in whatever you would like to achieve.

                        Of course, it is not as easy as it sounds. He stresses the fact that we need to go through a paradigm shift – a fundamental change in how we perceive the world and ourselves.

                        This book can be read as a guide, with practices and everything, to go through the stages in order to make such a shift happen. Part shock-therapy, part ageless spiritual wisdom, Covey’s book is packed with wisdom that actually makes a difference.

                        And as I mentioned, don’t let the title of the book fool you; it is about much more than just becoming more effective. It is about becoming a whole integer person who not only seeks the best in oneself, but also in the people around her.

                        A must read for anyone who feels there is always something left to learn.

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                        5. The Psychedelic Explorer’s Guide: Safe, Therapeutic, and Sacred Journeys

                        by James Fadiman

                          While finding a book on psychedelics in this list of books on self-improvement might come as a surprise, I believe any metaphysical distinction between tools such as books, meditation or molecules hold no ground. They should all be solely judged on their merits. And the merits of certain chemical keys, used in a constructive way, are perhaps bigger than any book in this list.

                          The Psychedelic Explorer’s Guide will teach you how to prepare yourself and your surroundings, what and how much to take, and what do do when something goes wrong. So you can safely enhance your thinking, creativity, introspection and emotional balance.

                          This book contains everything you need to know about using psychedelics as a tool for self-improvement while drawing on extensive scientific literature and personal wisdom. A must have for the beginning and experienced psychonaut alike.

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                          6.  Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time

                          by Brian Tracy

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                            We all know how that destructive downward spiral feels.

                            We have to do some big tasks of which the thought alone triggers resistance. We aren’t sure how and where to begin and feeling overwhelmed before we even start. We get easily distracted to get rid of that feeling, only to suddenly realize that hours went by- precious hours- and then find ourselves in the same position as before, still not knowing where and how to begin, but now, feeling guilty on top of it which expresses itself in more craving for distraction.

                            Ad infinitum

                            To break this spell of procrastination before it paralyzes us, Tracy advises us to Eat That Frog: to set our priorities straight, deconstruct larger tasks into smaller ones, learn when to tackle the big frog first or to start out with something else.

                            Tracy is truly a motivational writer. While I wished he had gone a bit deeper into the psychological reasons why people procrastinate, it is still a must have for anyone who wants to break the spell and get shit done.

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                            7. Think and Grow Rich: The Original 1937 Unedited Edition

                            by Napoleon Hill

                              A from 1937, this book by Hill is a masterpiece. Don’t bother with the edited versions since they all omit important and controversial information: some historical, and some pertaining to the goal of the book, which is to think and grow rich.

                              The word rich might imply that this book is all about material gain, and while it certainly covers that area, it is about much more than that.

                              This is perhaps the first explicit mention of positive thinking on how to care not just about the cash in your pocket, but also the thoughts in your head.

                              This book has been able to withstand the destruction of time. It covers all the basics from planning, decision making and persistence, to the more advanced techniques as auto-suggestion, transmutation and what we can learn from fear.

                              This is not a grow rich book, but a timeless guide to find out what actually matters. As it says clearly in the beginning ‘Riches can’t always be measured in money!’

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                              8. The Attention Revolution: Unlocking the Power of the Focused Mind

                              by Alan Wallace

                                In a world that is dominated by ever stronger technologies designed to grab your attention, a way to empower yourself is to bring that attention back to where you want it to shine. This book offers just that.

                                In The Attention Revolution, Wallace describes the path to attaining Shamatha, a buddhist meditation state of mind that is free from any flickering of distraction. It is a hard and long path, probably not possible for us to reach in this lifetime. However, even getting to stage two or three will make everything in life easier.

                                A wonderful introduction to meditation, The Attention Revolution will inspire you to take on the challenge and see what training your mind can actually achieve.

                                Once you have achieved such level of focus, you can put it to use to open your heart with the practice of The Four Immeasurables or deepen the practice with this wonderful commentary by Dudjom Lingpa, both by Alan B. Wallace.

                                Before you read this book, you may want to take a look at this guide so you get a better idea on how to prioritize your life:

                                The Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life

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                                9. The Paleo Manifesto: Ancient Wisdom for Lifelong Health

                                by John Durant

                                  In the last 10,000 years or so, it seems we have been propelled into an ever faster paced world forged by our own hands and minds. Only recently have we been able to reconstruct our journey and reflect back upon our humble origins.

                                  This amazing book is such a reflection. It goes back to the paleolithic searching for answers to health and longevity.

                                  Between science and his personal experiments, Durant weaves a mind blowing story that will convey the importance of an evolutionary perspective on how to live well.

                                  It covers everything from nutrition to exercise, from sleep to fasting, from ancient practices to modern biohacking and even has an outline for a vision of the future where depression and obesity have become obsolete.

                                  If you only have room for a couple of books on this list, make sure this one is included.

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                                  10. Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation

                                  by Daniel J. Siegel

                                    As my Burmese meditation teacher often proclaimed, ‘Mindfulness alone is not enough!’ Siegel seems to have taken this to heart and made an unique synthesis between meditation, psychoanalysis and neuroscience which he calls ‘Mindsight‘. As he says himself, a potent combination between emotional and social intelligence.

                                    All of us deal with one disorder or another, something that seems to disturb the very core of our being at ease; and while it might not always be the best strategy to want to get rid of it, it certainly helps to understand and have compassion for that little aspect that upsets that perfect image of ourselves.

                                    Brimming with techniques, insights and epiphanies, this book contains everything you need to know to reprogram your brain and to optimally use its capacity of neuroplasticity. A great book for spiritual seekers and scientists alike.

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                                    11. How to Win Friends & Influence People

                                    by Dale Carnegie

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                                      This is the first self-improvement book I have ever read and it is also probably one of the oldest in this category.

                                      Written in 1937, mainly for the door to door salesman of that era, this book by Carnegie can truly be called a classic. It shows what we all intuitively know:

                                      It doesn’t matter what your line of work is or what you want to achieve. If you are doing business of any kind, you need to make it about the other person.

                                      Being nice helps, a lot. And while I might not fully defend the premise of this book because it doesn’t distinguish between genuine interest and faking it to get what you want; it still contains a treasure chest full of timeless wisdom.

                                      Everybody wants to feel appreciated, and rightfully so. Learning to take a small effort to make someone’s day will make the world better no matter what your goal is.

                                      I still spontaneously remember some of his guidance, and perhaps this quality is the reason why this book still draws millions of readers to this day.

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                                      12. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

                                      by David D. Burns

                                        Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the most effective therapy used by psychologists today. It consists of identifying thought patterns that have a detrimental effect on your self-image and mood; and deconstructing these in order to break out of these destructive cycles.

                                        If you want to know how this works, which moods are central in your life, what thought patterns are causing your depression, how to overcome self-judgment and guilt, how to defeat approval and love addiction and how your self-perfectionism is hindering you, then don’t look further.

                                        Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has helped millions of people and it can help you, and this is the best book for the job. Packed with scientific research, exercises and examples, this is the best improvement your self is going to get.

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                                        13. Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life

                                        by Maxwell Maltz

                                          What can a plastic surgeon tell us about happiness?

                                          By dealing with his patients, Dr. Maxwell Maltz experienced firsthand that having your expectations come true doesn’t automatically result into a more positive life experience. Their outward appearances did indeed change but their inner insecurity remained.

                                          This caused him to find other means to help his patients, resulting in visualization techniques. He found a person’s outer success can never rise above the one visualized internally.

                                          This book carries a very honest and humbling story, loaded with fundamental truths about our psychology and how our own philosophy affects us. This is all told by a very compassionate writer.

                                          Of some books it can be said that it will be valuable for years to come, and I am absolutely positive that this is one of them.

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                                          14. Thinking, Fast and Slow

                                          by Daniel Kahneman

                                            This brilliant book by Nobel prize winner Daniel Kahneman is a lucid account of all the amazing research he has done over the years. He is the founder of behavioral economics – the way our psychology affects our decisions – and explains in simple prose how our thinking is divided in two systems: one fast and one slow. (Here’s an explanation on how these two systems work.)

                                            The fast one is almost instant; it consists of the hardwired instincts that govern emotions, a remnant of an evolutionary past, an unconscious irrational machine.

                                            The slow one is deliberate, self-reflexive and logical, but can easily be distracted and takes a lot of effort.

                                            Both play a large role in our lives and Kahneman explores when the fast system fails and why the slow system is often not utilized.

                                            Packed with mind blowing examples and sharp analyses, this book teaches you how to learn to make sound judgments, and use the best of both systems.

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                                            15. An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth: What Going to Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything

                                            by Chris Hadfield

                                              A few extraordinary people journey to the edge of our world and come back with a unique story to tell. Colonel Hadfield is such a person, and his story is perhaps the most important one in this list.

                                              While the other books in this list teach you to be independent, visualize your future and dream big, this astronaut’s guide turns these all upside down.

                                              A truly remarkable book, overflowing with mind-blowing stories that illustrate the life lessons he learned as one of the most accomplished astronauts that ever lived.

                                              Full of compassion, warmth and genuine self-reflexive humor, he conveys to us to be prepared for the worst and never let yourself be swayed from enjoying every moment.

                                              Part action story, part no-nonsense hard truth and part timeless spiritual wisdom, this book makes you feel like you stepped onto a rocket ship and experienced what he did while learning these most valuable lessons on the way.

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                                              16. Perfect Health Diet: Regain Health and Lose Weight by Eating the Way You Were Meant to Eat

                                              by Paul Jaminet & Shou-Ching Jaminet

                                                No self-improvement list is complete without a nutrition book and the Perfect Health Diet is arguably the best diet book on the market now.

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                                                If you are overweight or not, feel sick, or just looking for an extra boost in health (and keep it this way), then look no further.

                                                From reading decades of studies the authors construct the optimal way to eat, destroying popular food fads in the process. They explain in sufficient details the optimal macro-ratios of which starches are safe, which vitamins and supplements to take and what foods, or what they call toxins, to avoid.

                                                This book is a great supplement to the Paleo Manifesto as it shares its basic evolutionary perspective; we were evolved to eat non-toxic, high fat, moderate protein and carbohydrates.

                                                And sometimes, going around with no food at all, can be a very healthy thing. If your body is not in optimal health, then it is almost no use to read the other books. Make this your priority number one.

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                                                17. Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success

                                                by John C. Maxwell

                                                  At one time or another, we will all fail. What matters most is how you deal with it once you do.

                                                  Will you give up? Or will you use it as a stepping stone for success?

                                                  I recently read an article about new start-ups in silicon valley. Its hypothesis was the more you had failed in the past, the more likely you were going to get funding.

                                                  Why?

                                                  Because failing teaches you invaluable lessons, and if you decide to continue after you hit the pavement, the more you have it in you to deliver.

                                                  Now, this is not in anyway our instinctual reaction to failing. Most of us dread it, avoid it or refuse to fail at all costs. All three are by far sub-optimal. It is far better to accept failure where it arises, to accept responsibility and use it as a way to learn about yourself and your weaknesses.

                                                  Only when you are absolute honest with yourself with respect to failure can you hope to grow. This wonderful book will teach you how to do exactly this. A honest book for everyone searching for a clean mirror.

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                                                  18. The Power of Now

                                                  by Eckhart Tolle

                                                    The Power of Now hardly needs any introduction. It is perhaps the book that has had the most impact on our collective consciousness in recent years.

                                                    It inspired millions of people all over the world to live a more fulfilling and compassionate life, all through the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness consists of moment to moment non-judgmental awareness. 

                                                    It is a technique that alleviates depression, increases emotional intelligence and develops compassion. And only recently has come to the west, which remained weary and skeptical until science had validated a wide array of its claims.

                                                    The brain can be trained. The Power of Now teaches you how to release your attachment to certain thoughts and states of mind, thereby clearing the mind to fully embrace the present moment.

                                                    If you already have read this book and are looking for deeper understanding, readWherever You Go, There You Are.

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                                                    19. The Last Lecture

                                                    by Randy Pausch

                                                      At some point or another, almost all of us has come across The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch. (If you haven’t, watch this powerful message here.)

                                                      What would you say when you only have a few months left to live? This was probably Pausch’s question he posed to himself when he had to deliver his lecture a week later.

                                                      But being confined to an academic setting and short time frame, he felt he had more to share, thus marking the birth of this book.

                                                      Filled with stories about his childhood, it is a very down to earth exploration of what it means to chase your dreams, to be a good person and live a life that gives value to others.

                                                      A beautiful mixture of humor and optimism, his tender voice will be a source of inspiration for everyone who will take the time to listen, something he tried to impart on his readers.

                                                      A very lovely read. And don’t forget, ‘It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.’
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                                                      20. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

                                                      by Brené Brown

                                                        I love Brené Brown’s books. She writes about an insight that I have found to be scary but true at the same time.

                                                        Vulnerability, unlike we have been taught, is not a weakness, but a power to be tapped. Growing up with the idea that we have to hide certain parts of ourselves, to look strong and persevere at all costs always seemed a facade to me. And now she has the research to back that up.

                                                        From that place of vulnerability comes a sense of worthiness, which for most of us, needs to be cultivated every day. Only if we get in touch with that tender spot of our hearts can we connect with others and develop genuine compassion, which are prerequisites, Brown tells us, for living a ‘wholehearted life.’

                                                        The reality, however, is that we often close down, feel neglected and misunderstood, and rather want the vulnerability and perhaps even ourselves to disappear.

                                                        This book is an amazing antidote for that common instinct. Want to be truly convinced? Check out her amazing ted talk here.

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                                                        21. The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark

                                                        by Carl Sagan

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                                                          We all find UFO’s fascinating. We all really want to believe in magic or visiting aliens. (Surely the crop circles are conclusive proof!) And some of us believe the government is poisoning us with chemtrails.

                                                          At the same time we are fascinated by the progress made by science, by all the new technology and medicines and the fascinating discoveries being

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                                                          22. Philosophy for Life

                                                          by Jules Evans

                                                            As philosopher Sloterdijk puts it; ‘philosophy is a beautiful child of an ugly mother.’

                                                            Philosophy first arose when the old Greek polis states were at the brink of destruction. Philosophy, according to Sloterdijk, was not just a way to make sense of the world, to come to knowledge or truth, but to serve as a psychological immune system.

                                                            This book is an amazing expression of this perspective. From the stoics to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Jules Evans writes about some of the amazing philosophical techniques we can use to train and improve our cognitive immune systems.

                                                            He weaves ancient stories with modern applications, from heroism to cosmic contemplation. Philosophy for Life is a beautifully written book that makes it easy to understand the practical nature of philosophy.

                                                            Perhaps the book would have been better if he would have gone deeper into the subject matter, but nonetheless he captures the essence of what philosophy can mean for the modern person. A must read.

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                                                            23. Man’s Search For Meaning

                                                            by Victor. E. Frankl

                                                              If I had to pick one book from this list for mandatory reading, I would choose this one.

                                                              For three years, Viktor Frankl labored in four different Nazi concentration camps, including Auschwitz. He tells us about his experience and that of his fellow prisoners.

                                                              Both chilling and uplifting, confronted with the idea that they would be trapped there for the rest of their lives; he gives us an account of those who found meaning and those who succumbed to nihilism.

                                                              A blend between a memoir, a psychological investigation and a self-help book, Frankl delivers a powerful message:

                                                              Finding meaning lies at the core of being human.

                                                              From his own experience as a psychiatrist, combined with anecdotes from his time in the concentration camps, he tells us how important it is to find meaning in our own lives and what we can become if we don’t.

                                                              Suffering, he conveys to us, is inevitable. But as to how we cope with it is dependent on ourselves. If we can find meaning, even in the worst acts our species have ever inflicted upon their fellow men, we will be able to move forward with renewed purpose.

                                                              I also recommend you to check out this article to help you find out your purpose and passion that will motivate you to live in a meaningful way: How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up

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                                                              24. Simplify

                                                              by Joshua Becker

                                                                This is a fun little book written by Joshua Becker, a big proponent of minimalist living. We all know that quote from Fightclub: “Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need.” 

                                                                Well, this is ending.

                                                                Slowly we are outgrowing an era where the unquestioned mantra ‘more is always better’ dictates our behavior. Rather, we now find ourselves, our lives and our homes cluttered with too much information, too much stuff and just too much shit we don’t need.

                                                                This simple book helps you become aware of the freedom gained from living with less. It is a small book, easily read under an hour, but it carries a persuasive punch to start living live in a very different way.

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                                                                25. Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

                                                                by Kamal Ravikant

                                                                  The fundamental ground upon which all true self improvement is build is called self-love. Because in the end, no matter which way you turn, if you don’t love yourself, you will sabotage yourself at one point. You will think that, for some reason or another, you are not worthy. And if you think that, why would you truly want to achieve anything?

                                                                  And this is not just about achievement. This is about how you approach yourself every day; this is what you see when you look in the mirror.

                                                                  We make so many snap-judgments about ourselves- often without being conscious of them- that are filled with negativity, haltering us before we can even begin to heal. This powerful book shows you the antidote.

                                                                  Self love. Not to be confused with creating some narcissistic image of ourselves that some previous books in this list implicitly endorse, but self love, that inner gratefulness that no external condition can take away.

                                                                  Self love, that infinite source you can share with others.

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                                                                  Final Thoughts

                                                                  Now that you’ve got a list of the most inspirational books to improve your life, what should you do next? Read them all?

                                                                  It’s of course best to read them all, but we only have so much brain energy to take all this knowledge. What if I tell you there’s a way to boost your brain power? Here it is:

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