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How To Develop Your Full Potential: Bias And Strategies

How To Develop Your Full Potential: Bias And Strategies

Life presents limitless possibilities and we are all filled with exciting potential. Exploring your fullest potential will lead you on a path towards the greatest fulfillment life can offer. Yet, it is never easily achieved and, in many cases, not pursued at all.

The first challenge you must face is realizing where your true potential lies. Once discovered, you must cultivate your skills using effective strategies. For those setting out on this path of self-discovery, the following guidance will serve you well.

Discovering Where Your True Potential Lies

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    First and foremost, you’ve got uncover exactly where your potential lies. It’s going to be a deeply personal search and you must be completely honest with yourself.

    It doesn’t necessarily have to align with your current skills or qualifications, but it must resonate with you. Watch out for these 3 common potential blockers!

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    Convention And Social Proof

    You shouldn’t allow others to influence your search, and social-proof tendency may force you to play it safe. But simply following the mainstream may cut you off from your true area of potential.

    As an example, let’s say your potential lies in writing. You feel energized as your thoughts transform into words and sentences. Yet, if you were persuaded into an unrelated (and uninteresting) career, it’s likely your writing potential would be left to starve.

    Comfort Zones And Exploration

    Don’t let your comfort zone stop you from exploring. A nagging curiosity could be the whisper of your potential. Remember: the more things you try, the closer you’ll be to finding your true calling.

    As a potential writer, you might need to take a leap of faith. It could be a financial risk to pursue your interests. Yet, sticking with what you know could be holding you back from an astonishing writing career!

    Inconsistency And Distractions

    In order to develop full potential, it must be cultivated consistently. Misalignment with your mind or actions will hinder or halt progress. If your potential is neglected for too long, you may lose sight of it completely.

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    As a budding writer, working a demanding job could zap you of the physical and creative energy needed to pursue your true potential. If the other job always takes priority, you may eventually stop writing altogether.

    Develop Full Potential Through Effective Strategies

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      Even with true potential uncovered, simply setting goals does not guarantee it will reach maturity. Lack of action, smart planning, and negative environments are the most common pitfalls.

      These two powerful strategies will support you in developing your full potential.

      Aligning Goals With Dreams

      If you can see yourself inching towards your dream, you’ll be compelled to continue through hardship. Setting achievable goals keeps us motivated and moving in the right direction.

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      Developing your full potential certainly won’t happen overnight, so you’ll need smart goals to keep you on track.

      As a writer, your dream could be to write for a famous publication or earn a fortune from your words. This may seem ambitious, but look at how aligning actionable goals can quickly grow your potential:

      1. Launch a personal blog and write about subjects that interest you.
      2. Publish articles at least 3 articles per week.
      3. Contact websites you admire and offer to write for free.
      4. Build a portfolio of your writing experience.
      5. Negotiate terms for paid writing jobs.

      Continue with the following milestones:

      • Earn X amount of money monthly from writing
      • Contact X number of prospects

      As you work through this list, you will feel the momentum building and potential awakening. You can easily create a similar list to help you develop full potential in any field you choose.

      Building a Supportive Network

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        Surrounding yourself with individuals that energize, inspire, and encourage you works wonders. Similarly, cutting negative influences from your life allows you to develop full potential unhindered.

        It’s amazing how much faster you can explore your potential in a positive environment. Choose the right people and you will receive support, motivation, and guidance.

        Interacting with those you aspire to be is rocket fuel to your potential. Most importantly, it compels you to take real action.

        As a growing writer, meeting with other professional writers could be an excellent experience. There’s so much to gain: tips for honing your style, advice on landing clients, and possibly invitations to exciting opportunities.

        Here’s a great strategy for building yourself a supportive community:

        1. Cut out negative influences, possibly including social media.
        2. Register and become active in relevant online communities.
        3. Attend scheduled meet-ups and network with other attendees.
        4. Find an accountability partner with whom to share progress and reflect ideas.
        5. Build a following or mentor someone starting out.

        Remember, you only live once. There’s no greater duty you have to yourself than exploring and developing your full potential!

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        Published on May 4, 2021

        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

        In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

        How to Spot Fake People?

        When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

        Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

        1. Full of Themselves

        Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

        Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

        2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

        Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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        It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

        3. Zero Self-Reflection

        To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

        Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

        4. Unrealistic Perceptions

        Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

        A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

        5. Love Attention

        As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

        6. People Pleaser

        Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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        Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

        7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

        Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

        8. Crappy friend

        Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

        It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

        The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

        How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

        It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

        There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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        1. Boundaries

        Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

        2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

        Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

        3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

        If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

        4. Ask for Advice

        If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

        Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

        5. Dig Deeper

        Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

        Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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        6. Practice Self-Care!

        Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

        Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

        Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

        Final Thoughts

        Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

        We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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