Last Updated on August 28, 2018

How to Communicate Effectively in Your Daily Life in 3 Simple Steps

How to Communicate Effectively in Your Daily Life in 3 Simple Steps

Talk is cheap. This saying is a tired cliche, but it’s true. Communication, on the other hand, is a hot commodity. And effective communication is just one of those things that’s “priceless” in life.

The whole point of communication is to help the person on the other side of the conversation understand just what it is you’re trying to tell them, and vice versa.

So just how do you go about learning to get your point across with optimal comprehension and minimal confusion? Here are three effective ways on how to communicate effectively with co-workers, spouses and even your children:

1. Try to use “I” statements

The best way to speak your truth effectively on a regular basis, however, is to use “I” statements. When you keep the focus of the situation on what you’re experiencing – seeing, hearing, feeling and the why behind it – people are more open to seeing things from your perspective and often offer up their own explanations as well.


Being able to see things from the other person’s vantage point effectively reduces the risk of misunderstandings and potential arguments.

Mark Twain once said,

“Always tell the truth. That way you’ll never have to remember what you said.”

For many of us, that quote is nothing shy of brilliant as we have countless other things running through our minds at any given moment.


2. Ask open-ended questions

Think about the quote:

“There are no stupid questions, only stupid people.”

There may in fact be no stupid questions, but some questions are more effective for getting what you want than others.

For instance, say you have a teenage daughter. One day your teen comes home from school, and you ask her how her day was. She replies with a terse “Uh, horrible,” and stalks off to her room. Your mistake, in this example, is asking close-ended questions–that is, questions that can be answered with one word.


Open-ended questions require more than one-word answers and allow you to keep the conversation going with more open-ended questions. Next time try asking something like “So what did you talk about in history class today?”

Try this kind of communication when your children are upset as well. Use open lines of communication by letting them know you see they’re upset and you’re there for them when they are ready to talk. Then, actually listen. You can also use “I” statements to help them grasp that you’re actually trying to hear what they’re saying.

This new way of communicating with your children may take practice, but don’t give up! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and the same is true about building trusting relationships.

You just might become the first person your kids come to for advice when times get tough. That is effective communication in daily life at its finest.


3. Say you’re sorry

Nothing breaks down communication barriers faster, or more effectively, than a heart-felt apology. Rarely is there room for pride in any type of communication, and owning up to an inadvertent wrong is one of the kindest and humblest ways to express yourself and show respect to the other person.

Speaking your truth with love and asking for forgiveness reinforces the building of trust and it tears down the defenses of the person receiving the apology. While you don’t have to say you’re sorry every day, be sure to take advantage of this tip every chance you get. After all, what goes around, comes around.

These tips are not mutually exclusive to just parents or family members. Using “I” statements, asking open-ended questions and saying you’re sorry – to name just a few ways of how to effectively communicate in your daily life – can be used with anyone at any time. Go ahead. Give it a whirl, and see what happens.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.


The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.


How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”


There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’


When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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