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7 Ways You Can Reach Your Highest Potential

7 Ways You Can Reach Your Highest Potential

Have you ever heard of someone who achieved greatness in their lives just by using a mediocre amount of their talent or potential? All of the great names that you will see throughout human history that have contributed to the human development and evolution in different fields had one thing in common—they all did what they did at their highest potential.

Whether it is Einstein, Gandhi or Martin Luther King, all of them achieved greatness in their domains just because they exhibited and observed their highest potential in their undertaking. Therefore, in order to be successful and achieve greatness, you have to work to your best potential. Usually the highest potential is considered exertion of greater level of efforts; however, working on the highest potential is easier said than done and there is much more to it than just exerting efforts.

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Below, I’ll be discussing with you the 7 things that you can do to reach your highest potential.

1. Identifying your potential is the key.

Before achieving highest potential, it is imperative that you know what your potential is. You need to know about what you do best or the things you love doing the most. In most of the cases, it will be the things you love doing in which you have potential. Therefore, it is of grave importance that you identify the things you love doing before blindly exerting efforts. You must know whether you want to be a doctor or a lawyer instead of doing the wrong thing your whole life, and then wondering at the end why you did not achieve excellence in your profession. Ergo, before following a particular profession and exerting efforts, first identify whether or not you have the potential for that very undertaking.

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2. Commitment is the compulsory factor.

Once you have identified the field in which you have potential, the next thing you ought to do in order to achieve the highest potential is be committed to achieving the higher level of potential. When doing this, there are two things that need to be considered. First of all, you must be aware of the fact that change is the only constant and that things will change around you; however, your commitment should be with the holistic goal. The second and more important thing to remember is that commitment requires inspiration; therefore, to ensure that your potential level soars, you need to find some inspiration, whether its in the form of some idols or something that is the voice of your heart.

3. Take small steps toward your potential.

You cannot possibly become a physics genius by reading the course of masters when you are in 8th grade. Thus, the journey to your higher potential must always comprise of small steps, where with every step your level of knowledge and expertise in your potential increase ,which will eventually lead to the highest step of the ladder.

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4. Accept failures as learning experiences.

Without disappointment you cannot appreciate victory. Failure is an important part of the learning curve, and failure is the condition where your metal is tested; therefore, it is important that you consider failure as an integral component of your journey toward higher potential. With each failure, you come to know one more way of not doing things; thus, you exert your efforts in the right direction, which ultimately boosts your spirit and morale leading to achievement of a higher potential.

5. Be confident in your ability to reach your highest potential.

Perhaps the single most important factor without which you cannot achieve even little potential, let alone higher potential, is confidence. You need to be confident of your ability pertaining to achieving higher potential. One major factor that can lead to you becoming confident about your abilities is when you love what you do or you are someone who you love. When you are in such a mental state, then you feel confident about your potential. Thus, with time, the confidence grows and you reach a higher level of potential.

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6. There is no shame in getting support.

I cannot understand why people feel shame in getting support in something which they aren’t capable of doing on their own. In every walk of life, we have some ideals, some inspiration, and some personalities to whom we turn for guidance at the time of need. Therefore, if you aren’t able to maximize your potential despite all your efforts, then you should not feel shame in getting support from a mentor or someone who has been in the same condition as you. Having a mentor will make your way to higher potential easier and more effective.

8. Listen to your intuition.

Intuition is a combination of instinct and experience; therefore, when you feel that the level of your potential has become stagnant, you need to consider the scenario from both the instinct and experience perspective. When you undertake an activity after deciding upon it with both experience and your gut feeling, you will feel confident that you will perform to your highest potential.

Now it’s your turn!

What do you think about the common notion regarding potential that it is just exertion of efforts? How did you find your potential? How did you raise it? What ways did you adopt to improve your potential in your field? Please share your insightful opinion in the comments section below.

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Last Updated on July 15, 2020

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

“Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

1. Recognize the Red Flags

Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

Red flags can include:

  • They always put themselves first.
  • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
  • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
  • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
  • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
  • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
  • You are the villain; they are the victim.
  • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
  • They may engage in abuse.

2. Set Boundaries

There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

3. Invest in Yourself

You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

Final Thoughts

Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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