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55 Ways to Make Peace of Mind Right Now

55 Ways to Make Peace of Mind Right Now

Do you need more effective ways to make peace of mind?

If not, you are in the minority, as most people live so stressed out that they have forgotten what peace of mind feels like.

I’m not joking.  American Psychological Association research suggests that 77% of people have physical symptoms associated with chronic stress. When chronic stress begins to manifest physical symptoms, peace of mind is a world away.

We need to get back to basics. Our top priority should be living with an abiding sense of inward calm. We need to learn what to do to consciously create peace of mind.

Toward this end, I’m offering the following list of ways to make inner peace quickly. I created the list myself and filled it with things you can do, inwardly and outwardly, that naturally bring peace of mind.

Everything on the list is simple and easy to do, although many of the items are psychologically profound and backed by research. Enjoy!

55 Ways to Get Peace of Mind Right Now

1. Breathe in four counts, hold your breath four counts, and exhale four counts. Repeat.

2. Take a pen and write out your thoughts until you go blank.

3. List three unrealistic expectations and let one of them go.

4. Accept that life is difficult.

5. Commit to putting forth your very best effort today, tomorrow, and forever.

6. Write down your top 3 greatest blessings in life.

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7. Tell a friend or loved one how much he or she means to you.

8. Sit on your porch, do nothing, and resolve to do it more often.

9. Give yourself permission to do nothing for a while.

10. Stare at clouds for a few minutes.

11. Float above your life in your mind’s eye.

12. Expand your physical vision to include the periphery, and just notice everything for a few minutes.

13. Give five bucks to a charity.

14. Imagine a protective bubble all around you.

15. Place your hand over your heart and feel it beat. Be glad to be alive.

16. Dry skin brush!

17. Make a choice to have a positive attitude, no matter what, for the rest of the day.

18. Be grateful that you don’t always get what you want.

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19. Think about what you would do with your life if you knew you’d never be rich.

20. Let your body do whatever it wants for a minute (nothing illegal, please).

21. Smell a fresh flower, deeply.

22. Listen to your inner critic as if you were best friends.

23. Notice where you are holding tension in your body, make it more tense, and then relax.

24. Tap on your upper check bone for a few seconds (either side).

25. Go outside and touch something 100% natural. Really feel the texture.

26. Look around you and quietly label each object you see. Realize how simple things really are.

27. Smile the goofiest smile in the world, imagining how you look.

28. Think of a difficult problem while listening to inner clown music.

29. Ground yourself. Imagine roots extending beneath your feet to the center of the earth. You are connected to the planet.

30. Hum a deep, slow hummmmmmm….

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31. Give yourself a scalp massage with all 10 fingers and really feel it.

32. Realize you will always possess your greatest personal strength.

33. Count from 10 backwards to 1, hearing an imaginary echo after each count.

34. Feel the bare earth beneath your feet and realize it is holding you.

35. Practice thought labeling: say to yourself, “I am having the thought….” Wait for a thought. Repeat. (This is my personal favorite peace of mind technique.)

36. Resolve to stop fixing other people.

37. Stop pretending you don’t care what other people think!

38. Decide to say no.

39. Decide to make others earn your trust.

40. Write a list of every problem that worries you. Then, filter out the ones that aren’t really your responsibility or under your control.

41. Hydrate (dehydration causes stress).

42. Choose to live within your means.

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43. Understand the difference between your wants and needs.

44. Sincerely apologize to (you know who).

45. Ponder the vastness of the universe and realize how small your troubles are.

46. Give up the pursuit of that quick fix for a challenging problem and commit to solving it at a deeper level.
 (46. Give up that get-rich-quick scheme, too.)

47. Spend some no-agenda time with a child.

48. Listen to white noise and notice how relaxing it is.

49. Write down the best piece of advice you have ever gotten and apply it.

50.  Brush your dog.

51. Close your eyes and allow the sunshine to warm your eyelids.

52. Give yourself the freedom to admit when you’re wrong.

53. Look at other people and realize they are people just like you — with their own hopes, dreams, fears, and struggles.

54. Accept that there will always be someone richer, smarter, and more X….

55. Decide to save money for the rest of your life.

Do you have a favorite peace of mind tip? Share it in the comments!

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Co-Founder @inlpcenter, which offers NLP training and life coach certification to students in over 70 countries.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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