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Published on July 19, 2018

22 Tips to Help You Lead the Healthy Lifestyle Your Body Deserves

22 Tips to Help You Lead the Healthy Lifestyle Your Body Deserves

Do you dream of living the healthy lifestyle after you see a picture of a fit person on social media?

What you may not know is that it isn’t as hard as you think to live a healthy lifestyle if you know what to do.

You will find 22 practical tips in this article that will help you to live the healthy lifestyle you want!

1. Drink more water

This is obvious but really is the basics,

According to research: you should drink 3.01 L per day as a male and 2.21 L per day as a female.[1] This exact number should be taken as lightly as some people may need more due to the amount of water loss through activity, ambient temperature, and other factors.

Your body consists of around 60% of water. This alone proves the importance of hydration throughout the day.

Try consuming at least 0.5 L right when you wake up to live a healthy lifestyle because at this point your body is dehydrated. Then strategically plan to drink enough throughout the rest of the day with timers or an app to help you drink more water.

Another tip: take a bottle full of water with you everywhere you go to make it easier to live the healthy lifestyle.

2. Wash your hands

We all know that it’s good to wash your hands after going to the toilet, before eating, etc but only 12% of the people wash their hands before eating![2]

You are probably not one of them!

Washing your hands is critical on the following occasions:

  • Before, during and after preparing food
  • Before eating
  • After using the toilet
  • After touching anything dirty (animals, garbage, sick people)

Here’re some simple steps you may have missed when you wash your hands:

    The benefits of washing your hands are:

    • Preventing infections in the eyes
    • Lowering the chance of diarrhea and intestinal problems
    • Fewer bacteria = less chance on any infection or illness

    3. Floss your teeth

    Flossing helps remove food debris and bacteria where the brush can’t get to. This prevents bacteria from turning your teeth into a yellow canary which eventually leads to damaged teeth over time.

    We all know you should brush your teeth twice a day but how many times should we floss a day?

    According to the Water Tower Dental Care team, flossing once a day is more than enough to keep away these bacteria as they form a plague after 24 hours.[3]

    4. Create a healthy sleep routine for yourself

    There are so many successful people who live off of 3 – 5 hours of sleep per night;[4] but Mariah Carey says she needs 15 hours of sleep a day.[5]

    Now the question is: “How much sleep do you need?”

    Nobody knows, so you should experiment with it. Plan your sleep and record how you feel after waking up. Find your sweet spot.

    You don’t even have to follow a monophasic sleep schedule (known as sleeping in 1 go). You could try polyphasic sleeping schedules like the Uberman Sleep Cycle or simply have a siesta (1 – 1,5 hours of sleep) in the afternoon.

    Start the experiment now!

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    5. Track one full day of eating

    Tracking your intake of food for only one day can change everything. Using an app like MyFitnessPal shows what you ate and all the calories and nutrients of those foods.

    One rule: track literally everything.

    When you have tracked a typical day of eating; you will see what you usually eat, even the cookies you sneaked in at night.

    Awareness of the fact of what you’re eating can subconsciously change your unhealthy eating habits into healthy eating habits.

    The next time you crave a chocolate bar the option of eating a piece of fruit is going through your mind.

    You will train your healthy lifestyle discipline reserve the more you choose something to support your healthy lifestyle over something unhealthy.

    The next time you crave an unhealthy meal; eat a healthy snack instead and see how you feel about yourself:

    15 Healthy Snacks You Should Always Have At Home

    6. Make exercise fun

    Exercising shouldn’t feel like an obligation; it should be fun!

    You could make exercise a part of your daily routine by applying simple tweaks to your life:

    • Walk to work instead of commuting (don’t come into work late though!)
    • Instead of watching TV, walk the dog or take a walk with a loved one.
    • Use a standing/treadmill desk instead of a regular desk.

    Note: Consult a professional coach or doctor if you want to train like a hardcore athlete.

    7. Sit less

    Sitting time increases the chances of dying. In a study; they found that people who sit more (inactive) have a higher chance of dying than people who sit less (active).[6]

    If you exercise but sit a lot, you’re still unhealthy.

    So get off that chair and move around. Set a timer for 25 minutes and make sure you walk around for 5 minutes.

    It’s simple; minimize the time you spend sitting. Here’s how:

    The Simplest Way to Make You Sit Less

    8. Weigh yourself daily

    The same principle of tracking your daily food intake applies here.

    Weigh yourself between every 1-7 days consistently at the same time (preferably right after you wake up). And write it down on a piece of paper.

    Research proves that weighing yourself daily can actually prevent weight gain and increase fat loss.[7]

    Don’t hate yourself for it; be aware of it and change where you can.

    9. Plan and prepare your healthy meals

    Planning your meals forward takes away the unhealthy snacks you eat in between and the amount of effort it takes to decide what to eat.

    There are many benefits to planning your meals:

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    • Saves time and money
    • Helps avoid unhealthy choices
    • Makes shopping easier

    There are a lot of apps that can help plan your meals. Healthy meal planning includes breakfast, lunch, dinner and healthy snacks throughout the day.

    Preparing your food all at once saves time over the course of the week. Choose one day (most people do it on Sunday) in the week to invest a couple hours in preparing your meals for the week.

    Here’re some inspirations for healthy meals:

    40 Healthy And Really Delicious Meals You Can Make Under $5

    10. Get more vitamin N(ature)

    Another great principle to include in your life to lead the healthy lifestyle your body deserves is to stay as close to nature as possible.

    This means eating less processed foods, more organic foods, more plants and nuts.

    Aim for eating more fruits, nuts and vegetables instead of cheese, cereals, bacon, etc.

    You should also make sure you spend more time in nature. This way you’ll get more vitamin D in because of the sunlight.

    11. Love yourself

    There’s a close relationship between mental health and physical health.[8] So, loving yourself more by talking positively to yourself or having more love in your life increases mental and physical health.

    Another fascinating part of our nature is that we can make our bodies heal wounds.[9] How? The simple answer: oxytocin.

    Touching yourself releases oxytocin; just place your hands on your belly or anywhere you feel like.

    Or call your mom. I mean it; hearing the voice of a loved one also releases oxytocin.[10]

    12. Lower sugar and sodium intake

    We consume 82 grams of added sugar[11] and 3.4 grams of sodium (salt = sodium x 2.5) per day.[12] This is far above the recommended intake, which is:

    • Max. 25 grams of added sugar for women and 38 grams of added sugar for men.[13]
    • Max. 1.5 grams of sodium per day.

    The added sugars and sodium are mostly found in processed foods like bread, pizza, chocolate and soda drinks.

    Before you consume the next thing, check the labels first. Look for the amount of sugar and sodium that’s in it. If you’re really serious about it; you can even decide to track it.

    The benefits of consuming less sugar and sodium are:

    • Decreasing the chance of getting diseases like obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular disease and heart diseases.[14]
    • Preventing spikes in your blood pressure.
    • Preventing the build-up of resistance to insulin.

    13. Stop unhealthy habits

    Smoking, drinking alcohol or eating a lot of snacks at night. We all know that these are unhealthy habits but we’ve all been there.

    The most important thing here is getting rid of the unhealthy habits and replace them with healthy habits.

    The change is relatively simple; it can be done in 2 simple steps:

    1. First; you need to identify why you take part in the unhealthy habit. You need to find the trigger/cue which leads to the action. The reason why you crave smoking could be because you have the need to have a way of socializing; which in this case could be smoking.
    2. Now you can think of other ways to fulfill your needs. So, keep the same trigger/cue (= a need for social stimulation) and the same reward (= social interaction). The only thing you need to change is the routine (=smoking). You could turn this in grabbing coffee with a colleague or friend. This way you still get the social stimulation, but you improved and created a healthier habit.

      14. Regular health checkups

      People assume when they are feeling alright that they are living a healthy lifestyle. But this isn’t always the case. Having everything in perfect balance is hard.

      Checking your blood for specific diseases is never harmful. You might feel a little bit drained (literally) afterward, but at least you get to know how your health is looking.

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      Checking your blood every 6 months could be enough to discover some deficiencies and potential dangers. Some companies offer advanced blood tests which creates an overview of the areas you could improve in.

      Besides doing a blood test, there are also many other health-related tests you could do.

      15. Build healthy relationships

      “The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits.” – Dan Buettner

      If you want to live a healthy lifestyle, you should not spend most of your time with people who don’t live the healthy lifestyle.

      The solution is simple but not easy:

      Decrease the amount of time you spend with people who have unhealthy habits and increase the amount of time you spend with people who have healthy habits.

      If you don’t have a lot of friends with healthy habits, search for people who do. Search in communities where healthy habits are a focus like vegan or vegetarian people; Facebook groups focused around the subject; bloggers in the health industry or hire a health coach and become a knowledge sponge (absorbing all the information the person provides).

      There’re toxic people who you need to get rid of, and sometimes, you may need to do friendships decluttering.

      16. Increase your energy

      There are a lot of ways to increase your energy but the best change you can make is to live a healthy lifestyle that delivers sustainable energy levels throughout the day.

      It is important to watch which type of carbohydrate you are consuming. There are basically three main categories:

      • Simple carbohydrates (A.K.A. sugar) which give you an energy boost short-term.
      • Complex carbohydrates like whole grains; peas and beans. These can be divided into refined (processed) and unrefined (unprocessed) carbs. Unrefined is the healthy lifestyle choice as they still contain the complex carbohydrates.
      • Fibers found in most vegetables helps with digestion.

      Focusing on unrefined complex carbohydrates will result in sustainable energy levels throughout the day. Include a lot of vegetables and healthy sources of protein, and you are good to go.

      Besides having to deal with our physical energy; sometimes it comes down to mental energy. Check out this article on how to boost mental energy:

      15 Ways to Boost Mental Energy Levels

      17. Don’t skip breakfast

      A lot of people say that breakfast is the most important meal of all the meals. This is mainly because eating a high-protein,[15] and high-fiber[16] meal right after waking up is associated with fat loss.

      The benefits of having a healthy breakfast are:

      • Increased fat loss
      • Improved concentration and performance
      • More strength and endurance
      • Lower cholesterol levels

      Some breakfast inspirations for you to stay energetic throughout the day:

      31 Healthy Breakfast Recipes That Will Super Boost Your Energy

      18. Increase fiber intake

      The main benefits of fiber are:

      • Helps you on the toilet and decreases the chances of constipation[17]
      • Lowering the cholesterol levels
      • Helps control blood sugar levels by slowing the absorption[18]
      • Increases fat loss (see healthy lifestyle tip 16)

      Fiber can be found in

      • Oats
      • Beans
      • Vegetables like cauliflower and broccoli
      • Carrots

      Find out more foods which are rich in fiber here:

      20 Ultimate High Fiber Foods To Add To Your Meal Plan

      19. Choose meals in reverse order

      People usually tend to choose a meal in the order of 1. Carbohydrates, 2. Protein and 3. Vegetables.

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      Doing this the other way around makes sure you put more veggies on your plate and fewer carbs. Make sure you fill half of your plate with vegetables and feel the benefits such as:

      • Reducing the risk of heart disease including heart strokes and attacks
      • Protection against certain types of cancers[19]
      • Reducing the risk of type 2 diabetes

      Try it next time you put a meal together!

      20. Explore new hobbies

      “Happy people are 35 percent more likely to outlive unhappy people.” – Andrew Steptoe and Jane Wardle

      Being happy can mean something different for each individual. What is certain though is that enjoying your time while you can undoubtedly lead to happiness.

      Try out new hobbies and explore your options. There are so many things you can try out; you can even make a challenge to try out as much as possible.

      Find inspirations of hobbies you can try here:

      This List of 50 Low-cost Hobbies Will Excite You

      Or if you’re still wondering what to try, this can help you:

      How to Find One That Fits Your Personality

      21. Cheat day!

      Many people associate cheat day with people who are too weak to maintain their healthy lifestyle diet.

      One of the reasons to implement a cheat day in your diet is solely based on the improvement of your mood and motivation to keep going with the diet.

      Stick to a healthy lifestyle diet 6 days a week and choose 1 cheat day (usually a day on the weekend).

      You will be tempted throughout the week but here’s the solution; write everything down you are tempted by.

      If you feel like eating Oreo’s on Tuesday but Saturday is your cheat day; write it down so you can buy it on your cheat day and eat yourself to death (not literally).

      There are a couple of rules if you want to turn this into a healthy habit:

      1. Minimize the insulin spike by ensuring that your first meal (total should be 300-500 calories) of the day is not a cheat meal but a high-protein (at least 30 grams) and high-fiber meal. Before the second meal (which can be a cheat meal) you should consume a small amount of fructose like grapefruit juice. You should also supplement with Policosanol, Alpha-Lipoic Acid, Green Tea Extract and Garlic (PAGG). And consume citric juices throughout the day in the form of lemon juice in water or food or any other way.
      2. Increase the digestion speed by consuming caffeine and a combination of theobromine (found in dark chocolate) and theophylline (found in green tea).
      3. Last but not least, contract your muscles briefly throughout the day. It’s weird but doing exercises like air squats, wall presses and chest pulls (with bands) for 60-90 seconds a few minutes before eating and 90 minutes after eating transfers glucose transporter type 4 (GLUT-4) to the surface of muscle cells which causes calories to be absorbed by the muscles instead of transformed into fat.

      Make sure you follow these rules on your cheat day, and you will not have the feel guilty about it!

      22. Lose fat

      The last tip to lead the healthy lifestyle you want is about fat loss. The number of obese and overweight people worldwide is increasing.[20] This means that more and more people need simple principles to follow to lose fat.

      Here are the basic principles of fat loss:

      1. Avoid white carbohydrates like all bread, rice (also brown rice), cereal, potatoes, pasta tortillas and fried food with breading. Avoid white carbohydrates and you’re good to go.
      2. You should also avoid eating all fruits except for avocado and tomato (except for after 30 minutes of finishing a resistance-training workout, this also counts for white carbohydrates).
      3. Eat the same meals over and over again, this makes it easier to sustain the diet. Create 3-4 go to meals and stick with them. Choose per meal one main protein source (egg whites with whole eggs, chicken breast, beef, fish, pork or any vegan replacement), legumes (lentils or black/red/borlotti/soya beans) and vegetables (spinach, broccoli, cauliflower, green beans, etc.).
      4. Don’t drink your calories. Instead; drink water and red wine (max. 2 glasses per day).
      5. Take one day off the diet. Have a cheat day! See tip 20 for information on how to implement a cheat day in your diet.

      Before you leave, there’s something else…

      Before you move on to read the next article to live the healthy lifestyle your body deserves you should commit to applying at least 1 tip of the 21 tips above to see how you feel about living the healthy lifestyle.

      If you like it, apply more of the tips to your life.

      To conclude this article; here are some other recommendations to live the healthy lifestyle your body deserves:

      Featured photo credit: Pexels via pexels.com

      Reference

      [1] EJCN: Water as an essential nutrient: the physiological basis of hydration
      [2] Mail Online: Only 12% of people wash their hands before eating – despite them being more unhygienic than a park bench or escalator rail
      [3] Water Tower Dental Care: Can You Floss Too Much?
      [4] Business Insider: 19 Successful People Who Barely Sleep
      [5] Business Insider: Bizarre sleeping habits of successful people
      [6] Pennington Biomedical Research Center, Baton Rouge, LA; and Canadian Fitness and Lifestyle Research Institute, Ottawa, Ontario, CANADA: Sitting Time and Mortality from All Causes, Cardiovascular Disease, and Cancer
      [7] Jennifer A. Linde, Robert W. JefferySimone A. FrenchNicolaas P. PronkRaymond G. Boyle: Self-weighing in weight gain prevention and weight loss trials
      [8] Julius Ohrnbergera, Eleonora Ficherab, Matt Suttona: The relationship between physical and mental health: A mediation analysis
      [9] NCBI: Marital behavior, oxytocin, vasopressin, and wound healing.
      [10] The Royal Society: Social vocalizations can release oxytocin in humans
      [11] Sugar Science: How Much Is Too Much?
      [12] Medical News Today: Everyone needs salt for fluid balance and muscle and nerve function. But too much salt is bad for us, we hear. So how much do we need?
      [13] American Heart Association: Dietary Sugars Intake and Cardiovascular Health
      [14] Health Line: Top 9 Reasons to Avoid Sugar
      [15] Taylor & Francis Online: The Effects of High Protein Diets on Thermogenesis, Satiety and Weight Loss: A Critical Review
      [16] Joanne L. Slavin Ph.D., R.D.: Dietary Fiber and Body Weight
      [17] D.P Burkitt, A.R.P Walker, N.S Painter: Effect of dietary fibre on stools and transit-times, and its role in the causation of disease
      [18] the bmj: Dietary fibres, fibre analogues, and glucose tolerance: importance of viscosity.
      [19] The Journal of Nutrition: Phytochemicals from Cruciferous Plants Protect against Cancer by Modulating Carcinogen Metabolism
      [20] The Lancet: Global, regional, and national prevalence of overweight and obesity in children and adults during 1980–2013: a systematic analysis for the Global Burden of Disease Study 2013

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      13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

      13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

      Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

      Why is this so critically important to you?

      The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

      Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

      1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

      Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

      When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

      • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
      • The man facing the judge.
      • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
      • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
      • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
      • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

      These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

      Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

      Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

      2. Accept Your Fear

      Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

      We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

      And here’s what can be done.

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      3. Get Some Perspective

      I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

      And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

      That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

      We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

      So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

      • Are you really at risk?
      • Will this kill you?
      • Which leads us on to..
      • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

      4. Hold a Hand

      As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

      Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

      We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

      Ask yourself:

      • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
      • Could that really happen?
      • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
      • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

      By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

      5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

      This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

      Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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      The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

      It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

      For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

      Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

      6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

      I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

      Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

      Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

      Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

      Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

      Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

      7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

      Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

      I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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      It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

      One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

      Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

      It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

      8. Assume the Worse

      If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

      Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

      • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
      • Think about how they feel about champagne?
      • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

      And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

      When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

      Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

      9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

      If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

      Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

      Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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      10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

      One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

      11. Go with Fear

      When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

      I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

      Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

      One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

      However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

      We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

      12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

      And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

      The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

      What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

      13. Own Your Fear

      Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

      We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

      You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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