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13 Things Really Powerful People Don’t Do

13 Things Really Powerful People Don’t Do

Really powerful people take whatever action is necessary to achieve the success they desire. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?” If you’d like to reach your full potential, watch out for these 13 things really powerful people don’t do.

1. They don’t crawl out of bed.

Really powerful people leap out of bed, bursting with energy to tackle a glorious new day that is full of exciting new opportunities and adventures. They wake up happy to have the chance to write another chapter of the story they call, “Life.”

2. They don’t socialize all day.

Really powerful people cherish the people they love, but they also know it’s impossible to get anything done while spending every waking moment in the company of others. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying good times with close friends, but you can’t expect success if you can’t stomach the thought of spending some time working alone.

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3. They don’t believe in “problems.”

Really powerful people realize that a “problem” is nothing more than an opportunity in disguise. Instead of freaking out about what to do about an inconvenient situation, powerful people spend their time inventing a creative solution.

4. They don’t play checkers, they play chess.

Really powerful people hustle with passion and purpose, but they aren’t trigger-happy. Before putting any business plan in place, they think ten steps ahead — identifying every possible outcome of their actions — so that they can react quickly and decisively, no matter what happens.

5. They don’t blame their problems on other people or circumstances.

Really powerful people are the CEO of their life, so they refuse to pass the buck by blaming another person for their faults. Life is full of mysterious events that cannot be predicted, but when faced with unexpected negative situations, really powerful people focus on their ability to react in a positive fashion. 

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6. They don’t accept defeat without putting up a fight.

Really powerful people are not immune to making mistakes. Instead of agonizing over a bad idea or failed business approach, they ask themselves, “Why didn’t this work and how can I do better next time?” Really powerful people know honest reflection will help them evolve into their true potential.

7. They don’t hide from harsh truths they need to hear.

Really powerful people are willing to confront the truth… whether they want to hear it or not. They are confident enough to confess their faults, develop their weaknesses, and evolve as required.

8. They don’t forget the people who helped them succeed.

Really powerful people appreciate those responsible for their success. They would never get so caught up in delusions of grandeur that they can’t take the time to call their mom, check in with their best-friend, or send a thoughtful email to a networking contact who helped them achieve a specific business goal.

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9. They don’t work without a higher purpose.

Really powerful people are passionate beings who cannot contain their excitement when they speak about what they hope to accomplish in the world. They are not fans of simply performing an eight-hour shift; instead, they see every work-day as another step forward to achieving their higher purpose.

10. They don’t care what people think about them.

Really powerful people are comfortable in their unique body and individual personality. While they hope to get along with as many people as they can, they don’t make any apologies for who they are.

11. They don’t get consumed in negative feedback.

Really powerful people don’t flinch at baseless claims, irrelevant criticisms, or nasty comments. While accepting constructive feedback is something anybody should do, really powerful people don’t get caught up in negative opinions they can’t do anything about.

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12. They don’t neglect their personal health and well-being.

Really powerful people treat their body as if it is a glorious vessel that protects them from illness and injury (because it is, of course!).There is no denying that life can get busy, so they might not stick with their healthy living plan 24/7. When they get off track, they give themselves a gentle reminder with a mantra like “To take care of others, I must first take care of myself.”

13. They don’t give away their power.

Really powerful people are willing to perform an honest assessment of their social situation. They know it’s hard to maintain an upbeat attitude while hanging out with people who bring you down. While it is always polite and proper to give a toxic person the benefit of the doubt, there can (and often will) come a time where the only option left is to walk away. This isn’t something really powerful people enjoy doing… but they know success is hard to come by if you’re surrounded by an atmosphere of negativity.

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The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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