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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

How to Set Goals in Life to Achieve the Success You Want

How to Set Goals in Life to Achieve the Success You Want

If you Google “goals in life”, you’ll get almost 3 billion results. Yes, you read that right. Billion.

There’s a good reason why. It’s widely recognized that having clear goals is essential to achieving success in all areas of your life; relationships, career, health, finances, spirituality, learning, growth, business, you name it.

    In fact, setting goals has many benefits:

    • They support you to live an exciting, fulfilling and meaningful life.
    • They give you something to focus on and work towards.
    • They help you identify what you want and what’s most important to you.
    • They show you where you’re going and how much progress you’re making.
    • They inform major decisions in your life and give you a North Star to stay grounded.
    • They provide direction in your life and clarity in decision-making.
    • They drive motivation and inspiration.
    • They accelerate your accomplishments and provides a sense of satisfaction.

    That’s why I make a habit of setting goals regularly and encourage my clients to do the same. In fact, for as long as I can remember, my husband and I sit down at the beginning of the year to set goals and intentions for the year ahead. When the kids became old enough to participate, they started joining us for this important ritual.

    Goals have power. Even if you have no idea how you’re going to achieve them, you know what you want to achieve, and this sets you up to find a way.

    Think about the last time you had a clear, compelling goal. How did you feel? What impact did that have on your happiness, energy, and success?

    So, if you’re feeling stuck, bored or unmotivated; or you’re looking for ways to accelerate your success and experience more fulfillment in all areas of your life, it’s time to start creating goals.

    People have been setting goals since the dawn of time. Then, the theory of goal setting was brought into the mainstream by Edwin A. Locke in the mid-1960s[1] and the first publication of SMART goals was released in 1981 in an issue of Management Review.[2] We’ve been obsessed with setting goals ever since.

    I’ve been wondering, what could I possibly tell you about goal-setting that’s not already been shared in the almost three billion resources you have at your fingertips? Absolutely nothing. I’d like to say I have some new methodology or innovative pearl of wisdom to share. But I don’t.

    The problem is not that there isn’t enough content or information out there about goal-setting. The problem is that we read articles, scroll through social media, listen to podcasts, watch videos on YouTube and then don’t take any action forward.

    It’s not enough to know goals are important or how to set a goal. You must identify your own goals, write them down and take action towards them.

    As a corporate trainer, coach and consultant, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how much knowledge or information someone has. In order to take their learning to the next level, they must apply it. That’s where the real value comes in.

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    So today, rather than give you more content, I’m going to walk you through a process.

    My goal? That you take the time to walk through this process yourself and when you finish this article, you’ll have at least one goal that supports you to live the life of your dreams.

    Here’s your step-by-step guide on how to set goals in life, and actually achieve them. Grab a pencil and paper, or open the notes on your phone and get ready to take action.

    Step 1: Pick an Area of Your Life That Is Important to You.

    Think of a part of your life where you’d like to have more success or greater satisfaction. Focus on an area you feel is lacking and you’d like to make a change or improvement. This might include your career, finances, business, spirituality, personal growth, health, family, relationships, social life or attitude.

    Check out the wheel of life below if you need some help. On a scale of 1-10, rate your current level of satisfaction in each area:

      The closer you are to the center-line, the more you lack in that area; the closer to the outer line, the more successful and happy you feel in that part of your life.

      Got an area you’d like to focus on? Great! You can move on to step two.

      Step 2: Think About What You Want in This Area of Your Life

      If you don’t know what you want, how do you expect to get it?

      Imagine yourself 6 months from today. What needs to have happened for you to feel happy, successful or satisfied in that part of your life?

      Here are some ideas to get you started:

      • Career – Do you want to get the raise or promotion, find a new role, take on a big project, improve your leadership skills, make a career switch or retire?
      • Finances – Perhaps you want to have financial freedom, pay off debt, buy a house, make an investment or increase your income?
      • Personal Growth – Do you want to improve your self-awareness, build confidence or self-esteem, address old wounds or heal trauma? Or do you want to learn a new skill, get an advanced degree or go back to school?
      • Health – Do you want to have greater health and more energy? Perhaps you want to run a marathon, exercise more regularly, eat better, meditate or practice mindfulness.
      • Relationships – Do you want to be in a loving relationship, be a better parent, be more compassionate, increase your social circle, spend more time with your friends?

      Once you know what you want, you can move to step three.

      Step 3: Set a Goal

      There are all types of goals you can set for yourself.

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      • Short-term goals, long-term goals, lifetime goals.
      • Small, incremental goals and big hairy audacious goals (BHAG).
      • Skill goals (to learn to ride a skateboard or peak a new language)
      • Behavioral goals (to be more patient, kind or confident)

      There are goals around

      • Things you want to have (owning a house or car, making partner, finding a new job or career)
      • Things you want to do (skydiving, spending time with family, exercising, losing weight or traveling to Australia)
      • Experiences you want to enjoy (have you always wanted to skydive, run a marathon or take up painting?)
      • What you want to give or how you want to contribute. (Think about your time, talents energy or money). Studies prove that those who give are happier, so if you want to be happier, make more goals to give.

      And one that’s often not given enough time or attention… Who you want to BE? Happy, confident, successful, kind, loving, grateful, generous, fulfilled, settled, passionate, creative, fun?

      Last year, I wanted to be more relaxed – to stop stressing so much and go with the flow more. Our family made a goal to all be more observant, loving and helpful. One of my daughters wanted to be more patient, another to be more focused.

      What is a goal you’d like to set for yourself? Remember, there is no one right answer or one-size-fits-all approach. Write it down now. Then, move on to the next step.

      Step 4: Check Your Goal

      Make sure your goals are SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely).

      You also must make sure you:

      • Identify your why: Why is your goal important to you? If you don’t know your why, you’re going to get distracted and lost along the way. Your goals must be meaningful and relevant.
      • Have a deep desire to achieve your goal. The keywords here being YOU and DESIRE. You must really want to achieve this. It can’t be for someone else. Ask yourself, “Does this goal support the life I’m trying to create?”
      • Believe it’s possible. You may not know how it’s going to happen, but in order to reach your goals, some part of you, deep down, needs to believe it’s possible. This is why it’s important to create goals that inspire and motivate you but aren’t so big that you don’t believe they’re possible.

      If you checked that your goals are SMART, know your why, have a deep desire to achieve your goal and truly believe it’s possible, you can move on to the next step.

      Step 5: Visualize the Outcome

      Clarity is key. We all know the power of visualization. Visualize yourself AS IF you have already achieved your goal.

      Take a moment to close your eyes and really imagine it. Step into that scene and feeling as much as possible. What do you notice? What do you see, hear or feel as a result of achieving this goal? Really put yourself in the power that you’ll feel when you’ve achieved your goal.

      Next, it’s time to create a plan of action.

      Step 6: Create a Plan to Achieve your Goal

      At the very least, create the first step. Actions lead to the achievement of your goals. Small actions eventually lead to big results.

      Create as much of a plan as you can to achieve your goal. The bigger the goal, the larger the plan. But keep it as simple as possible, too.

      Got your first step and a plan of action to achieve your goals? Great. You’re almost ready to get started. Before you do, you must identify your obstacles.

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      Step 7: Anticipate Obstacles

      When you know what’s going to get in the way, you’re going to be much less likely to get thrown off track when things don’t go the way you expected (they never do).

      What could get in the way of you achieving your goal? Consider factors such as distraction, procrastination, loss of focus, your environment, underestimating time and resources.

      For example, if you want to exercise three days a week, maybe you can foresee that work travel is going to get in the way. How can you make alternative plans for those weeks? Maybe you want to go back to school, but you’re not sure if you can get the financial aid you need. Sort that out first or figure out your plan.

      Read the top 7 reasons why so many New Year’s Resolutions (and goal-setting) fail here.

      Once you have a sense of what’s going to get in the way and have a strategy in place for when that arises, it’s time to get started.

      Step 8: Take the First Step

      Remember that plan of action? What’s your first step? Take it.

      “A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” -Tony Robbins

      If you’re serious about achieving your goal, take action now. Today. Pick up your phone. Make the call. Send the email. Join the dating site. Start the job search. Join the gym. Call a friend. Schedule it in your calendar. Get started. There is no better time than the present.

        Step 9: Stay on Track

        In order to achieve your goals, you must stay on track. Think about a goal, resolution or commitment you made that you DID keep. What worked to keep you on track? Why did you keep it? What were the factors at play?

        In research conducted at the Dominican University of California, psychology professor Dr. Gail Matthews concluded the following:[3]

        “My study provides empirical evidence for the effectiveness of three coaching tools: accountability, commitment, and writing down one’s goals”

        Start by writing down your goals and placing them where you can see them. One statistic I read shared that 23% of people forgot their New Years’ resolutions. Forgot!

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        My sister tells the story often about the goal she had for selling her business. She wrote the sale price and date on a post-it and taped it to her mirror where she could see it daily. It served as a constant reminder of her North Star and what was most important to her. It kept her focused and on track. Our family goals are pinned to a bulletin board in the kitchen in our house for this very reason.

        Next, let’s talk about accountability.

        Matthews found that more than 70 percent of the participants who sent weekly updates to a friend reported successful goal achievement (completely accomplished their goal or were more than halfway there), compared to 35 percent of those who kept their goals to themselves, without writing them down.

        Other studies have proven the same. Share your goals with others. Get an accountability partner to keep you on track or simply send weekly updates to a friend.[4]

        You can also create checkpoints. If you’ve ever participated in a long race, you know how important checkpoints are to keeping you on track. When you know where you are along the way to your goals, you can speed up, slow down or make changes.

        Lastly, always remember to celebrate your successes. Will you fail sometimes? Face setbacks or obstacles? Absolutely! But having a clear goal will get you further down the track.

        Create short term rewards for yourself and tie them to your checkpoints. For example, if you have a goal to lose 10 pounds by the end of the year, you might want to buy yourself a new pair of running shoes or treat yourself to a spa day when you’ve reached the half-way point.

        Summing It Up

          Bottom Line

          Congratulations, you did it! If you followed the step-by-step instructions above, you now have a clear, compelling goal that will improve some area of your life.

          If you didn’t go through the steps right now, you can schedule some time later today or this week to dedicate to this important process. I’m going to encourage you to schedule that now before you move on to the next thing!

          Then, it’s up to you to APPLY. Remember, knowledge is not power, action is.

          You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. — C.S. Lewis

          Finish this year strong and start the new year with clarity, focus, momentum and a sense of satisfaction knowing you’re one step closer to your goals.

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          Lifehack's Personal Development Expert, a results-driven coach dedicated to helping people achieve greater levels of happiness and success.

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          How to Commit, Achieve Excellence And Change Your Life

          How to Commit, Achieve Excellence And Change Your Life

          Achieving even the simplest of goals requires us to learn the meaning of commitment. Throughout our life, we are reminded of commitment, whether it’s related to personal or business goals, and we realize that without committing, we can’t achieve anything.

          When you think about it, everything you ever achieved sprouted from a commitment you made; whether it’s your children, your degree, your job, or even your house. Learning how to commit is not simply about making commitments, however, it’s about keeping those commitments in the face of foreseen and unforeseen hurdles.

          So, how to commit to something to achieve excellence in life?

          Here are 4 tips that will help you get “commit” right and change your life.

          1. Don’t Be Involved, Commit!

          Doing things halfway is the mother of everything that can go wrong.

          “The difference between ‘involvement’ and ‘commitment’ is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was ‘involved’ – the pig was ‘committed’.”

          When you want your project to succeed, you invest yourself in it fully. Why? Because you can’t afford to only be involved; being involved means you’re not committed enough, and if you’re not committed enough, that thing you’ve been working on, won’t see the light of day. Don’t chicken out.

          You can’t work on several things at the same time and expect excellent results. Make sure you’re doing one thing, and you’re investing all you’ve got.

          2. If You Won’t Learn How to Commit, Someone Else Will

          There’s someone out there who knows everything you know and they’re probably not alone.

          “Competing in sports has taught me that if I’m not willing to give 120 percent, somebody else will. “ — Ronald Mark Blomberg (Boomer)

          We live in a highly-competitive environment and truth be told, it’s exhausting. So what are you going to do? Are you going to quit? Probably not, but why?

          You’re wired to keep on fighting—every time you think you’ve reached rock bottom, you connect to an inner mechanism based on millions of years of evolution whose sole purpose is keeping us alive. It can be either by running and hiding so you’ll be able to fight another day, or by making you fight tooth and nail to get what you need.

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          You probably heard about this fight-or-flight instinct. In fight-or-flight mode, your pupils dilate, your heart rate goes up, and blood pressure increases with the purpose of getting more oxygen into your brain and muscles. This response allows you to give much more in a competitive environment… but guess what? the same happens inside the other guy’s body. That’s why the one who’s more committed will be the last one standing.

          3. Never Give Up, Never Give In

          Quitting is also a lesson; a really expensive lesson, if you ask me. You pay for that lesson with the time you lost, the energies you invested, and a major blow to your ego. However, sometimes you find yourself with your back to the wall and you need to take drastic measures to save the day.

          Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese author of The Art of War called it “desperate ground”:

          “Throw your soldiers into positions fro whence there is no escape, and they will prefer death to flight.  If they will face death, there is nothing they may not achieve. Officers and men alike will put forth their uttermost strength.” — Sun Tzu

          Do you know why people quit? There are 3 major reasons:

          • Perfectionism
          • Lack of faith
          • General inability to keep commitments due to a history of failures

          All three are bound to each other. The more you fail, the less committed you become. If you’re less committed, you have less faith. If you don’t have faith in what you’re doing, every non-perfect condition can break your resolution. It’s that simple.

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          Fight perfectionism, fight lack of faith (whether in you or in others) and fight history to stop it from repeating itself.

          Here’s a great reminder why you shouldn’t give up and how to do so: Giving up Is Not an Option! How to Not Give up and Stay Motivated

          4. Free Your Mind, and the Rest Will Follow

          Once you’re committed to something, your mind becomes like a homing beacon. There are no more choices to be made, just a focus on the target in front of your eyes—smooth sailing.

          “The resolved mind hath no cares. “ — George Herbert

          But what happens when you suddenly change your mind? What if the choice you’ve made is no longer as attractive as you previously imagined it would be?

          You know of course what I’m talking about; that thought that you could’ve made a different choice, or as Neo said in the first Matrix “Why didn’t I take the blue pill?”

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          That’s why when you make a choice, weigh it heavily, commit, and never look back.

          5. Commit to Something Bigger Than Yourself

          If you have problems committing, it will be beneficial to commit in a group setting. The most likely way to overcome the fear of commitment is to commit to something bigger than just you, and in a group, you’ll be to draw upon others for both motivation and support.

          “Individual commitment to a group effort—that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work. “ — Vince Lombardi

          In a committed group, everyone works for the benefit of that group. A perfect example is trying to teach a child to swim on his own versus with a group of kids his own age.

          Bonus: 5 Strategies to Change Your Life Now

          Bottom Line

          Commitment allows us to fulfill our most basic needs and achieve our most sought after dreams. It gives us purpose.

          Start small and remember the 4 things I suggested above. It’s never too late to learn how to commit.

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