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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

The statistics are dismal. A recent study has found that 69% of people feel trapped in the same old routine, and only 3 out of 10 people are happy with their lives.[1] People are feeling stuck.

Some are feeling stuck in their careers, feeling like they’re too far along one path to make a change. Some are feeling stuck in their personal lives. The toll of the daily grind sucks most of their time and energy. So their relationships, self-care, and personal goals get lost in the shuffle of the treadmill existence.

When people come across these challenges of feeling stuck, the feeling sometimes doesn’t go away. It often intensifies as time goes on. As the stuck feeling intensifies, some people choose to settle. Subconsciously, without even realizing it, they end up pushing their dreams and goals further and further down.

Others, if the feeling of being stuck intensifies to an unbearable point, choose to make changes. They may choose to pivot in their careers, even after years at a successful job. They may end up making big changes in their relationships, or start putting their fitness at a higher priority. They may make drastic changes to finally feel free. These changes can be incredibly difficult to make, especially if a person has lived many years in a certain lifestyle.

Feeling stuck is NOT fun. I’ve been there. I get it.

Why Are You Feeling Stuck?

People feel stuck once in a while. There are many causes of feeling stuck. Many people work toward goals that don’t actually align with who they are at the core or what they truly desire. I call these “False Objectives”.

Living a life of False Objectives can cause people to feel very stuck and frustrated. People can build lives that are very “successful” according to society; but if you’ve built your life based on False Objectives, you’re not going to feel fulfilled. You’ll end up feeling stuck.

Another cause of feeling stuck is not knowing who you are. If you don’t understand how you’re innately wired – your strengths, your gifts, your talents, your passions – it’s tough to make decisions that enable you to maximize those. It’s tough to reach your full potential if you don’t know who you are.

You can feel stuck if you’re doing work that doesn’t allow you to maximize your innate strengths. If you’re doing work that doesn’t bring out the best in who you are at the core, you’ll likely feel some dissatisfaction and you won’t reach your full potential.

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Other people feel stuck because they haven’t surrounded themselves with mentors or peers who have achieved what they want to achieve. They stay in certain routines while craving to do life differently. As Jim Rohn says,

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

If your goal is to run a marathon and you’re spending most evenings and weekends drinking beer with your coworkers, you’re probably not going to run that marathon. If your goal is to live a location-independent lifestyle and work anytime from anywhere, but everyone in your social circle is at traditional jobs; it’ll be tough to break free from the 9-5 mentality.

How Feeling Stuck Screws You up Secretly

Feeling stuck screws up people’s lives. The consequences of feeling stuck can range from mild to severe. People may feel a mild discontentment with life and end up succumbing to the idea that life is “okay,” and settle. (Nancy’s story will resonate with you.) They may never reach their full potential, their highest levels of happiness and satisfaction. And they may not make the impact on the world that they could make, and have a looming sense that there could be “more” to life.

Often, though, the feeling of being stuck comes with much larger consequences. Feeling stuck can hinder career growth and contribute to disrupted marriages. It can lead to huge midlife crises.

The feeling can (and frequently does) increase as the years go on, leading to significant regrets about unfulfilled dreams. In fact, the number one regret of the dying, according to Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse, is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” She writes:[2]

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Many people had not honored even a half of their dreams, and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

    Approaching Life Differently

    Thankfully, some highly effective strategies can prevent you from feeling stuck. Using these strategies can help you avoid significant problems in your life. It’s different than conventional living, and it works.

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    Commonly, people live with many set routines. While certain routines are helpful, becoming stuck in the daily grind routine can get frustrating. Many people eat roughly the same foods each week, go to the same place each day, talk to the same people, keep the same commitments, and end up living life on autopilot.

    It’s tough to feel like you’re progressing forward when each day is spent doing the same uninspiring routine. In order to avoid feeling stuck, it’s important to live intentionally. It’s crucial to live in the driver’s seat of your life and get out of autopilot mode.

    First, ditch the False Objectives. Just because everyone in your family are doctors doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. Just because all your friends are married with a big house, a white picket fence, and 2 kids doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. Just because everyone you know works 9-5 doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. It’s not easy to design your life intentionally, but it’s critical in order to avoid feeling stuck.

    Remember, the majority of people feel stuck. So, if you’re doing things like the majority of people, you’ll likely feel stuck, too. You’ll need to think differently and create your life differently.

    2 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Day

    In order to intentionally design your life, avoid falling prey to False Objectives, and prevent feeling stuck, there are questions to ask yourself every day. These questions can help you stay focused on what matters most to you, help you avoid feeling stuck and frustrated, and create the best life possible.

    1. Why Am I Going to Do What I’m Going to Do Today?

    If you’re showing up to work each day and giving your years to your job, it’s important that your “why” is deeper than “to pay the bills.” Knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing can help you make choices that inspire and motivate you.

    By asking yourself why you’re going to do what you’re going to do today, you will be living intentionally. In today’s incredibly busy, easily distracted world, living intentionally and focusing every day on what matters most is unique.

    When you choose to ask yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing every day, it will help you stay focused on what’s truly important to you. This can prevent you from getting stuck.

    2. What Would Future Want Me to Do Today?

    Imagine yourself, in the future, as the best version of you. What would that version of you want you to do today? Making decisions from the viewpoint of the future you can help you move forward and prevent the stuck and frustrated feeling.

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    When you make decisions from the viewpoint of future you, you will develop perseverance and reap the benefits of delayed gratification. Today’s society is very focused on instant gratification, but a lot of great things in life take time and effort. Learning to take small steps forward by making decisions from the future you’s standpoint can help you progress toward your biggest goals and dreams.

    4 Steps to Get Unstuck

    After asking yourself the two questions, work on the plan to get unstuck. I’ve personally tried these strategies and they work for me.

    1. Choose Goals You Truly Desire to Accomplish

    This might sound obvious but we all get sucked into False Objectives at times. When you’re setting goals in your career and your personal life, make sure they are goals that matter to you.

    Working hard toward big achievements that don’t align with your values, priorities, and who you are at the core is a fast-track toward feeling stuck.

    Learn about your strengths, your gifts, and your passions. Choose goals that align with who you are at the core, and work toward goals that align with your inner strengths and gifts. This will help you maximize your potential and minimize the stuck and frustrated feelings.

    2. Watch Your Mindset

    Often, we think we’re stuck, but the problem is our mindset. Being mindful of our mindset and self-talk is important to living a life of freedom and fulfillment. Work on rephrasing your self-talk in order to improve your mindset.

    For example, if you tell yourself, “I could never start a business,” rephrase it to, “I don’t know how to start a business YET, but I can learn.” If you find yourself saying, “I don’t have enough money to travel,” tell yourself, “I don’t have the money right now, but I can make a plan to save money to travel. Rephrasing your self-talk can help you see opportunities and possibilities instead of feeling stuck.

    Occasionally, even the most driven people have days where they feel unmotivated. Check out this article for tips to get motivated when you feel like doing nothing: What Motivates You And How to Always Stay Motivated

    Those tips can help you break free from the rut.

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    3. Get out of Your Comfort Zone and Add Some Excitement to Your Day

    Shaking up your daily routine and adding some excitement to your days can help you get unstuck.

    While breaking out of your daily routine can be uncomfortable, it can be a great way to invigorate your life. You can start by getting out of your comfort zone in small ways. Here are 10 ways to step out of your comfort zone and overcome your fear. As Brian Tracy says,

    “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

    Getting out of your comfort zone and experiencing growth can help you to continue to move forward and prevent you from getting stuck.

    4. Surround Yourself with People Who Have Done What You Aspire to Do

    It’s easy to get stuck if you’re trying to accomplish something and you’re struggling to believe it’s possible to accomplish it.

    Instead of letting yourself be isolated and stuck, commit to learning from people who have done what you aspire to do. This can help you believe it’s possible to achieve the same goals. It can also help you to be inspired to progress forward instead of staying in stuck-land.

    You can seek out a mentor, or even read inspiring books or listen to motivating podcasts by the people who have achieved your biggest goals and dreams.

    Final Thoughts

    It’s frustrating to feel stuck. But you don’t need to stay stuck if you know the right ways to break free from the rut.

    Practice living intentionally by asking yourself the 2 critical questions:

    • Why am I going to do what I’m going to do today?
    • What would future want me to do today?

    When you constantly reflect about what you truly want and whether you’re doing the things that lead you to what you desire, you’ll feel less stuck gradually.

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    How to Quit Your Unfulfilling Job and Lead Your Dream Career

    How to Quit Your Unfulfilling Job and Lead Your Dream Career

    Doesn’t matter whether it’s a 9 to 5 job or you work in shifts; is it a satisfactory job?

    Ain’t you tired of the monotony or should I ask:

    Didn’t you ever feel like quitting your unfulfilling job?

    Realizing your materialistic needs is important but do you love your means to earn bread?

    Too many questions… I’m sure you want to answer none.

    But don’t worry, most people are on the same leaky boat!

    Wondering what’s wrong?

    As a teenager, you dream; you aspire. You are exuberant enough to chase those crazy dreams.

    But as you grow older, the zeal seems to fade away. That drop-down in intensity level sets a foundation for a compromise.

    You don’t persist with even one dream.

    What’s worse, you give different names to your choice to back out. You blame people and situations as per your convenience.

    Alas! those vivid dreams lose to your sub-conscious mind.

    But before you get disheartened, here’s an interesting fact:

    The real Col. Sanders was an entrepreneur who didn’t become a professional chef until he was 40, didn’t franchise Kentucky Fried Chicken until he was 62, and didn’t become an icon until after he sold his company at 75.[1]

    So yes, though it’s tough to quit your tiring job; it’s easier than you think.

    And when you have realized your existing job is not leading to happiness, it’s time to change!

    Desperate for super easy solutions?

    Here’s a list of 19 simple actionable steps to quit your unfulfilling job and follow your aspiring career:

    1. Step out of Your Comfort Zone

    One big reason you are compromising today is your repulsion to challenge the boundaries of your comfort zone. You don’t want to raise the bar.

    You move on subconsciously making emotional adjustments and self-harming sacrifices.

    Not anymore; it’s time to challenge it!

    The clock is ticking and you need to flow with time. That is how you welcome the new. It is one of the major steps in breaking the monotony of an unsatisfactory job.

    Not sure about stepping out of your comfort zone still? Read this article: Is It Really Better to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone?

    2. Get Rid of the Memories from Your Existing Job

    Most of the times, it is your past which doesn’t allow you to liberate yourself in the present. Your memories from the current job are dominant over your memories you want to create.

    Come on! You are stronger than you think. You need to detach yourself from those sweet-sour memories. Only then, you could take a big leap towards self-realization.

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    Here’s the deal:

    A beautiful future awaits you where every moment is so blissful you’ll not recall the past to trigger a memory.

    Learn how to let go of the past: 7 Ways To Let Go Of The Past And Live A Happy Life

    3. Listen to Your Gut

    The problem is everyone has access to the locker of your right-wrong beliefs, but not you. You listen to everyone and lose your conscious decision.

    Why don’t you back yourself?

    If you don’t love what you are doing and you want to quit your unfulfilling job, QUIT.

    Why do you restrict yourself?

    Only you have the answers to your uncertainties. Stop seeking answers from others. Ask yourself receptively. You’ll unlock all the mysteries about yourself.

    Here’s some advice for you: How to Listen to Your Inner Voice

    4. Get Excited to Fail

    Sounds silly? It’s not:

    Success is an elusive mask covering many lifeless faces of failures.

    In case you don’t know, if Thomas Edison hadn’t failed, he might not have become America’s most well-known and prolific innovator.[2] And there are even more examples like this: 10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

    The pursuit of your dream career is full of struggles and failures. And unless you are ready to fail many times, you are ineligible to succeed.

    Only if you settle with your current job which is unsatisfying will you be a real failure. The excitement to fail on the other side is unmatched. Worth a shot!

    5. Disallow Social Environment to Control You

    If there were no cameras, every soul would tell an interesting story.[3]

    I’m sorry but your social environment is bullying you. You have become a puppet to people.

    People define your journeys and destinations, and you are losing big time.

    Wake up call!

    Cut the chord with your social environment which is not only polluting your personal but also your professional environment: Managing Your Social Network Addiction

    6. Do Not over Analyze, Execute

    Intelligent people are particularly prone to the overthinking that can cause analysis paralysis and lead to a failure to make decisions or take action.[4]

    Yes, you are intelligent but you need to be smarter! Never allow your intelligence to become a hindrance in quitting your unfulfilling job.

    Thinking and planning are important aspects of a visionary, but never allow overthinking to take a toll on the execution.

    Take small steps rather than thinking about giant leaps. Divide your goal into small targets; make sure you achieve them.

    Here’s how: Less Thinking, More Doing: Develop the Action Habit Today

    7. Make Your Family a Part of Your Dream

    If you are fortunate enough to live with your family, you owe responsibilities towards them. After all, they are your father, mother, siblings, life-partner.

    Maybe your dream career is something they haven’t heard about, but relax. Don’t expect magic overnight!

    Be courageous enough to make them understand why you want to quit your unsatisfactory job.

    You may fail big time but don’t lose hope. This is the absolute test of your endurance.

    When you convince them, you don’t have to search for a support system in your failures. And a few applauds from them in your small wins keep you up and running.

    8. Spend Time with Like-Minded People

    To challenge the now and dive into the new, I’m afraid you’ll not find many people standing by your side.

    But that’s fine!

    Keep a close watch on people with whom you spend your precious time.

    What you need to ask yourself:

    Are these people your motivators or the ones who constantly try to put you down?

    When you get an answer, trust it and go with the flow. You may lose people but you’ll discover yourself.

    9. Prioritize Inner Happiness over Monetary Happiness

    Possibly, there’s a big fat cheque between your unsatisfactory job and your aspiration. The choice is difficult!

    You’ll agree money is not everything but the first thing to be happy. But if your job is not reviving and is killing your happiness, what are you waiting for?

    Maybe your dream career isn’t as materialistically rich as your current job, but assuredly, it’ll make you spiritually content.

    You have found out what will make you happy, so just go out there and get it: How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up

    10. Learn to Say No

    ‘No’ is just a two-letter word, ever measured its intensity?

    It is loud enough to make you a warrior. However, we don’t use it often.

    Being on the receiving end of a no can be brutal, but saying yes to everything isn’t going to make up for that.[5]

    Learn this art to quit your unfulfilling job! Not only with others but use it often with yourself. Any denial or a small sacrifice for your own good is a gateway to self-love. It boosts your self-esteem to disallow the negative influences to entice you. You find reasons to listen to yourself.

    Leo Babauta has some suggestions on this: The Gentle Art of Saying No

    11. Accompany Yourself in Your Alone Time

    You encounter many moments in your daily life when there is no one around. What do you do in that alone time?

    Either you retreat to the past or you drive to the future. What you don’t realize is your present requires an introspection.

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    This ignorance is making you incomplete. Neither you are self-aware nor there is a clarity in your thought process.

    The secret is when you spend alone time with yourself, your dream becomes your mission, and the inroads make way for beautiful roads. Your journey doesn’t need a navigator. And your questions have answers.

    Use your alone time to do some self reflection: How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life

    12. Feel Fortunate for the Blessing

    When most of us are fighting for the necessities of survival; you discovered your dream.

    Where most of the people don’t get solitude time, you know what makes you blissful.

    Yes… you are fortunate! How could you dump this wonderful opportunity?

    There are many people who might replace you in your unfulfilling job. But make sure no one replaces you in the work you do the best.

    13. Never Lie to Yourself

    Confidence is imperative but if there is no transparency in your thought process, only confidence is a big disaster.

    Self-acceptance is supreme in pursuance of your dream career.

    You need to acknowledge your current standing and future goals.

    You need to be brutally honest to yourself. Only then, there’s a clarity in your thought process.

    Don’t blindly run towards your dream’s realization; walk on your aspiration-driven path consciously.

    14. Become an Inspiration for Others

    Amidst your uncertainties, someone is closely watching your actions and reactions.

    Maybe your close friend or your younger sibling, there’s someone relating to you. They are curious about your next move.

    But what do they seek from you? They silently urge you to take one brave move to open the floodgate.

    Only you can break the shackles of their boring monotony. Because when you execute, they feel happy and liberated like you.

    You become their unsung hero!

    15. Realize Your Current Job Is Saturating You

    Your current job is unsatisfactory. It cannot get worse. It is tiring and boring, it doesn’t release serotonin anymore.

    And you know it!

    You even know your exploration begins only when you quit your current job. What else can motivate?

    Always remember:

    You may do well in your existing job but you will create wonders on the other side. Go all in!

    16. Segregate Your Dream into a Passionate Movement

    You have a dream career in mind. But to follow it, you are not resilient to do what it takes to reach there.

    You lose hope quickly!

    Look:

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    Neither dreaming is enough nor quitting your existing job is easy.

    Only your passionate will is powerful enough to withstand the test of time. Let that fire burn inside you until your dream coincides with reality.

    17. Pen down the Possible Positives

    It’s super easy! But you are probably wondering:

    How could such a small step be beneficial in quitting my unsatisfactory job?

    Yes, it’s a small step but immensely powerful.

    When you list down how quitting your unfulfilling job is a boon, trusting your decision becomes easier.

    Any apprehensions at any point flush out when you recall those jotted positives of leading a dream career.

    18. Break the Rules

    There is no thumb rule or a particular mantra for success. It’s good to have idols. There’s no harm in following them. But what’s wrong is you compare your journey with them.

    What you don’t realize is that you may share the same goal but the approach has to be different.

    Never kill your originality trying to become like them.

    Define your own journey. Never set a rule or a predefined path for success. Break-free!

    19. Presume the Worst-Case Situation

    Try to question yourself:

    What will happen if you quit your unfulfilling job to lead to your dream career?

    Is it your financial stability or an emotional dependency you are losing on? Whatever it is, imagining the worst-case scenario enables you to loosen up.

    It provokes a nothing-to-lose attitude where there is no fear of anyone and anything. You move forward wholeheartedly with authority and devotion.

    Your self-motivation is at cloud nine; you don’t fear the consequences anymore.

    I hope any of these actionable techniques revive the feel you were about to lose.

    Final Thoughts

    You are a blessed soul who knows a couple of things more than most of the people:

    Your current job is unfulfilling, and that you have a career-oriented dream.

    But knowing about these isn’t enough!

    Set yourself free as an individual and dive into the competition where your only competitor is you.

    Life is too short to regret! Now when you have tasted the feeling of your chips being down, you deserve the magical feel to be on the other side of the table.

    Always remember:

    You are wrong only till the time you are struggling. But if you keep moving and taking those hard punches, one day you’ll realize your dream. With you, people realize everything about you were (and are) right!

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