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6 Mistakes That Keep You Struggling In Life

6 Mistakes That Keep You Struggling In Life

Whether you’re dealing with financial problems, family conflict, or work-related issues, struggles are inevitable. Overcoming life’s struggles is never easy. If you’re making any of these mistakes in your life, it’s likely that you’ll just keep on struggling.

1. Are You Uncertain What Your Goals Are?

If you don’t have clear goals, it can be hard to stay on track. Without goals that you’re working toward, you may feel like you’re floundering aimlessly.

You’ll do your best when you have clear goals in mind. Your goals can help you make decisions about your career, your finances, and your social life. It’s easier to view struggles as challenges that you can overcome when you have bigger goals that you’re working toward.

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2. Do You Insist on Immediate Gratification?

While today’s world offers a lot of instant gratification in terms of same-day delivery, instant movie streaming, and call-ahead seating, the rest of the world doesn’t always move so quickly. If you expect everything in life to to come easy or happen fast, it can lead to a lot of frustration.

Patience is necessary when you’re overcoming obstacles in life. Hard work takes time. If you expect immediate results you’ll likely be disappointed and you may just keep struggling in life rather than persevering with hard work.

3. Do You Have Difficulty Prioritizing What to do First?

If you feel overwhelmed by all the changes you need to make, it’s likely that you’ll remain stuck. Often, people want to lose weight, quit smoking, earn more money, or move to a better place, but they struggle to prioritize what to do first.

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If you try to work on everything all at once, it’s unlikely you’ll be successful. Trying to address too many problems at the same time can leave you paralyzed when it comes to deciding what to do first. It’s important to prioritize which order to address your issues and begin working on them systematically.

4. Do You Give Up Easily When Things Don’t Go the Way You Want?

If you give up as soon as things don’t go your way, it’s unlikely that you’re going to be successful in overcoming your struggles. A common mistake people make that keeps them struggling in life is that they give up if their first attempt to solve the problem does not work.

Most problems require many attempts to reach a successful solution. Often, creative solutions are needed to successfully resolve problems. However, if you quit trying as soon as your first attempt at a resolution isn’t successful, you aren’t likely to move forward.

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5. Do You Blame Others in Your Life for Your Mistakes?

Blaming others for your struggles isn’t helpful. In fact, it’s necessary to take responsibility for your behavior and your ability to work through solutions before you can successfully overcome many of life’s struggles.

If you blame your childhood, bad luck, or lack of support for your problems, you’re likely to stay stuck. However, if you can own your mistakes in life and develop strategies to overcome problems, you’re much more likely to be successful.

6. Do You Ask for Help When You Need It?

There are times that you will need help from other people in life. Asking for help can be difficult if you aren’t used to it. However, asking for help can be one of the best ways to overcome a variety of problems.

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Sometimes you may need help from friends, family, or co-workers. At other times, you may need professional help. A willingness to ask for help often shows strength and courage. Practice helping others when you can and ask for help when you need it.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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