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Last Updated on January 12, 2021

Giving up Is Not an Option! How to Not Give up and Stay Motivated

Giving up Is Not an Option! How to Not Give up and Stay Motivated

We all get them – those feelings of doubt, fear, lack of self-confidence and lack of self-belief. Whatever it is we want to achieve in life, no matter how much we want it, there will always be times when you hit a challenging period, your motivation hits a wall and you feel like giving up.

You’ve heard it, “giving up is not an option”, but when it comes to how not to give up, it could be difficult sometimes.

In this article, you’ll learn that tough times make even the most motivated person consider giving up and this is completely normal.

Despite the overwhelming feeling of wanting to just give up, it’s actually the most important time not to.

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What makes you want to give up easily

Identifying the reasons why giving up seems like the best option is so important. There are many reasons why people want to give up and each is driven by different motivations. However, there are a few human instincts that come into play here.

  • Mistaking lessons for failure: Not being able to see the roadblock for the lesson it is and keep going anyway.
  • The outcome is more important than the journey: Putting more emphasis on the end result and dismissing the importance of how you’re getting to the end goal and growing along the way.
  • Seeing the failure before it’s even happened: Self-sabotaging yourself by creating the thought that it just won’t happen. This is usually down to limiting beliefs and lack of self-belief.
  • Lack of discipline: Realizing that achieving your dream won’t just fall into your lap within a few weeks but will actually take hard work and determination.
  • Not adjusting to changes: Not embracing changes in direction, the need to tweak ideas or finding things evolve differently to how you originally imagined it and taking it as a sign it’s not meant to work out, are showing you that you’re not open to changes and the natural evolution to something even more amazing.

People often say, the moment they almost decided to give up was the moment just before they had a breakthrough. While demotivation, failure and giving up feels horrible, there’s a reason for this: it’s because you’re giving up on something that deep down you know is possible.

Why you should think twice about giving up

The power lies with your mindset and shifting this is key to keeping up the motivation you need when the going gets tough. This is why it’s important to realize why you shouldn’t give in and give up.

Instant success is a myth.

It is a generation of instant gratification which creates the illusion that everyone needs what they want. People look at other successful people and assume they got overnight success but in reality it took hard work and a lot of failing to get where they did. Most never see the journey but only the destination, and they fall in love with this idea that they don’t need to work hard to get it.

Understand this is a myth. Don’t be deterred by this because actually the journey is where the magic happens and makes your end goal ever more sweet.

A different approach maybe needed.

People judge themselves so harshly and assume that they are just not capable if they seem to be failing at something they want. It could simply be resolved by trying a different approach.

People are often so focused on the end goal and believe there’s just one or two ways to get there. In fact there may be a hundred more avenues that their mind isn’t opening up to.

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Open up and change your perspective. Are there other ways you can do it that feels better to you?

You’ll always wonder ‘what if’.

That feeling of regret can hit you hard. What if I’d just stuck with it? I could have achieved it by now. What if I hadn’t given up, how different my life would be?

While regret is the number one thing you shouldn’t waste your time doing, before you quit your dream just imagine how your life could transform and where you could be in a year, two years or five years.

Don’t give your future self the chance to become regretful because of the one decision you make in the present moment.

You could be quitting right before your success.

Many times, when people give up, they’re actually just a step away from success like this:

    The toughest times are a precursor to a major breakthrough to success. Think of it as being tested just to make sure this is exactly what you want.

    Decide yes, I still want this more than ever! You’re pretty much saying yep, give it to me now I deserve this after all I’ve done and this is usually the time it happens. Keep going! It’s all about trust that it’s going to work out.

    It’ll happen again and again.

    Do you find yourself quitting things a lot?  By default, your habitual mindsets and thought patterns play out over and over again throughout your life if you don’t identify and change them. Don’t think, ‘I’ll have another go in a year’s time’ because you are really likely to repeat exactly the same pattern again.

    It’s important to sit down with yourself and identify why you have a tendency to give up. This may feel uncomfortable and you may feel resistance to doing the process. But once you actually work through your limiting beliefs, they can be released really quickly and help you to remove mental obstacles you didn’t know were stopping you.

    Struggle does not equate to failure.

    We’ve been led to believe en mass that struggle is something to be ashamed of. It’s somehow a negative representation of our core character and ability to move through the world. I’m here to tell you it’s not. Never think of hard times as failure. In fact, just take failure out of your vocabulary. Stop caring about what others think and just know and believe you are capable of getting through it and coming out the other end.

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    Struggle actually builds character. It’s there to serve you – to help you learn something you’ll need to use later on. Stop assuming struggle is negative but see it as a blessing on your road to great success.

    How to not give up and stay motivated

    The thing people tend to forget when all they want to do is give up is that failure doesn’t fix anything. Maybe for a moment you’ll feel relief because you no longer have to face that challenge, but the satisfaction will be fleeting.

    Whether you’re trying to quit smoking, drinking, or any kind of bad habits; or whether you’re trying to achieve a goal; the misery you were experiencing will be back, one way or another if you choose to give up at the most difficult time.

    The real challenge you’re experiencing in that moment is your own weakness manifesting in a physical form. When you accept that you aren’t worthy or good enough, that’s the mind set you will keep.

    No matter what challenge you are facing (be it work or play) you will struggle with maintaining your optimism, dedication and will power because you haven’t addressed the real issue: yourself.

    Imagine the Great Challenge as a big rock in front of you.

      If you choose to give up, you work around the stone just to go around it.

        Yet the fastest way to get over it is to break this big rock and go right through it.

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          It’s the same with your weaknesses. You could continue to adjust your life to fit your fears (i.e. no longer job-hunting because you’ve accepted you will always fail), or you could keep sending out applications and calling to follow up and schedule interviews.

          No matter how great the challenge is, breaking it down is a must.

          In order to truly stay motivated, no matter how great the challenge is, you’ve got to learn to break the Great Challenge down.

            To truly overcome your weakness, you need break down the big rock into smaller pieces and deal with the small stones piece by piece.

              Right now it may seem impossible. It may seem like this is the hardest thing you will ever go through. But remember how often your threshold changes.

              Below are some tips that can help you take those first steps in keeping your chin up and truly facing the difficult choices in your life:

              1. Figure out what you lack

              No matter what the challenge you’re facing may be, there’s a reason it’s challenging to you. If it’s a job, why is it you aren’t getting hired? Go back through the job listings and skills required and find the common thread your resume doesn’t have. Is it not listed because you don’t have it? If so, work on doing something to give you that skill. Be it an online course or a volunteer project, do something to help push you closer to the “perfect candidate.”

              2. Be patient with yourself

              No one becomes a CEO overnight. If you have big dreams, you’re going to have to do big work to accomplish them. It’s okay to take time figuring out the best way to proceed, but it’s not okay to walk away because it’s challenging.

              3. Be proud of yourself for every small win

              Have you ever noticed how a small mistake can weigh on you for days? Whether or not you categorize yourself as a dramatic person doesn’t matter when it comes to the guilt we so often put upon ourselves. But when we make small strides in achieving our goal(s), we never seem to give ourselves much respect.

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              When we fail to pat ourselves on the back for little victories, it decreases our motivation and makes it much harder to achieve big goals.[1]

              4. Remember that you aren’t the first to feel this way

              When we face difficult choices or events in our lives, we often forget that we are not the first/only/last to experience this. Everyone faces hard decisions – be it deciding to end a relationship, changing careers, moving to a different place and leaving friends behind. We all go through it.

              So don’t be afraid to reach out to your friends or family for a sounding board. In some cases, they may even be able to offer you advice you wouldn’t have thought of otherwise.

              5. Know that you will grow as a person just from going through it

              We build character through those hard times. The old cliche, “what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger” is true. When you go through something challenging, you learn from it, regardless of the outcome. Recognize the opportunities for learning and personal development.

              6. Remember that you have choices

              No matter how hard the challenge you’re facing may be, one of the best things you can focus on is that you have choices. Only you can decide how you handle something and the steps you take. More so, only you can decide how you take the next step.

              You have the power to stand in your own way and to get out of it. Allow yourself to stay motivated by choosing to be stay motivated.

              Choose to see obstacles as lessons. Ask yourself, what is this showing me? What is it bringing up for me? In most cases, they’re there to point you in a direction you’ve previously not considered. Trust in this and keep going.

              Final thoughts

              Great things never come easy. When difficult times do stop you in your tracks, you need a way to push through.

              Learn and understand what it is that’s truly demotivating you. Adjust your mindset, learn to deal with challenges and you’ll come out the other side a strong and successful person.

              Featured photo credit: Vecteezy via vecteezy.com

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              Last Updated on January 18, 2021

              30 Refreshing Routines to Boost Your Morning Motivation

              30 Refreshing Routines to Boost Your Morning Motivation

              Your morning motivation determines whether you can win the day. In 2016, researchers from the University of Pennsylvania and Ohio State University studied call center staff working for an insurance company[1].

              They specifically looked at the mood of the call center staff throughout their working day. The three-week study discovered something interesting. Namely, staff who started the day in a bad mood usually ended the day in a bad mood. This was despite them receiving calls from positive customers throughout the day.

              Staff who started their day calm or happy finished their working day in the same upbeat emotional state. Furthermore, the study found that staff with low moods had low productivity. Staff with elevated moods demonstrated high productivity.

              As you can see from the above revelations, it’s vital that you start your day well with a great morning routine.

              If you’re prone to starting off your day in a gloomy and stressed state, then you’ll be sure to benefit from the suggestions below.

              1. Wake up on Time

              Waking up on time (or waking up early) is critical to starting your day positively and keeping your sleep cycle in check. It will give you space and time to complete your morning routines, and you won’t need to worry about rushing around your home[2].

              Keep your sleep cycle in check for morning motivation.

                If you often hit the snooze button, set your alarm and put your phone at least a few feet away from your bed so you have to get up to turn off the alarm in the morning.

                2. Open Your Curtains

                One of the first things you should do upon rising is to open your bedroom curtains to boost your early morning motivation.

                The human body clock depends highly on the sun and our exposure to it. When we wake up to sunlight, we will naturally feel more energized, and our body clocks will be set for the day ahead[3].

                3. Make Your Bed

                Remember your student days? Making your bed was probably the last thing you thought about when you were stumbling out of it in the morning.

                This habit may be okay for students, but if you want to accelerate your motivation and productivity, you should definitely make your bed.

                It takes less than a minute, and you’ll be rewarded by a tidy room and a feeling of self-satisfaction.

                4. Enjoy a Refreshing Shower

                I’m always amazed when people tell me that they didn’t have time to shower in the morning.

                A shower only takes 10 minutes or so, and it’s a great way to clean your body, and the perfect way to wake up motivated.

                5. Drink a Freshly-Blended Smoothie

                Every morning, I enjoy a freshly-blended, fruit-based smoothie. This consists of organic milk and a small portion of fruit, such as bananas, mangoes, or strawberries.

                It’s a superb way to kick-start your day with morning motivation. Not only does it taste great, but it’s also full of antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals.

                6. Take a 10-Minute Walk in the Morning Sunshine

                If you have a dog, then this will be an easy task for you.

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                However, even if you don’t own a dog, why not try walking for 10 minutes outside every morning?

                If you’re lucky enough to live close to a park, then you could walk around the park before going to work. Fresh air and exercise are an invigorating combination that will set the tone for your whole day.

                7. Check Your To-Do List

                Organized people tend to have to-do lists. It helps them keep track of what needs doing at home, work, and beyond.

                To-do lists can be paper-based, or you can use one of the many free apps that are available. The morning time is perfect for checking your to-do list and prioritizing items for the day.

                You may also find that you can tick off some items that you completed the previous day.

                8. Listen to Some Upbeat Music

                Music is a powerful mood changer. If you’re not a typical morning person, you can boost your morning motivation by listening to upbeat music.

                Simply try to choose music that makes you feel happy and lively. You could listen to this music while you shower, when you’re in your kitchen, or perhaps when you’re commuting to work.

                Here’re also some for your inspirations: 30 Inspirational Songs that Keep You Motivated for Life

                9. Complete a Mini Workout

                If you have a home gym, then spend 30 minutes each morning working out. This will rapidly wake you up and increase your mental well-being in the long term.

                If you don’t have a home gym, you can still do a mini workout. For example, try doing sets of push-ups and sit-ups on a yoga mat.

                10. Review Your Goals

                Early morning can be an excellent time for contemplation.

                While you may want to think about trivial things, successful people often use this time to review their personal goals. You can do the same.

                For instance, if one of your goals is to start your own business, then use the morning time to come up with ideas to help move you towards this goal.

                11. Pack Some Healthy Snacks to Take to Work

                You may have started the day with a healthy breakfast, but have you noticed how easy it is for our diets to go downhill from there!

                As soon as we arrive at college or work, we begin looking for the coffee. Not long after that, we get hungry and start seeking out cakes, cookies, and chocolate.

                Luckily, with a bit of preparation, you can avoid this situation. The trick is to pack some healthy snacks, such as apples, bananas, or nuts. These healthy treats will happily keep you going until lunchtime.

                12. Declutter Part of Your Home

                Unless your home is currently spotless and has nothing out of place, then you could spend a few minutes each morning decluttering an area of your home.

                Take your hallway, for example. This may have shoes and bags that could be tidied away in just a few minutes. With this bit of productivity, your morning motivation will skyrocket.

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                13. Meditate for 5 Minutes

                Many high achievers say that they mediate each morning. This gives them balance and poise before beginning their working day[4].

                Have you thought about trying meditation? Although there are different forms of meditation, the simplest method is to just close your eyes, control your breathing, and let your thoughts settle.

                Like most things in life, the more you practice meditation, the easier it will become for you.

                14. Stretch Your Body

                You may have woken up with a stiff neck, or perhaps pain in your back.

                Stretching for just a few minutes offers quick pain relief, improved posture and enhanced energy levels[5]

                Morning stretches for morning motivation

                  You can also try these 17 Morning Stretches That Will Jumpstart Your Body and Mind.

                  15. Read a Motivational Quote

                  If you want to boost your productivity, then make a habit of reading a motivational quote each morning.

                  To get you in the mood for adopting this behavior, I’ve picked out one of my favorite quotes for you:

                  “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” -Og Mandino

                  And here’re more: 50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

                  16. Drink a Glass of Water

                  Hydration is essential, especially after hours of sleeping. Water can reduce calorie intake throughout the day, increase mental performance, and transport all the nutrients your body needs[6].

                  Even if you’re a caffeine addict, try drinking a glass of water before you start on the hard stuff.

                  17. Create Something

                  Let’s say that you are a budding singer-songwriter. You’re not famous yet, but you want to be!

                  Before heading off to do your current job, you could spend 20 minutes or so writing lyrics for a new song. Do this everyday for a week, and you’ll probably have enough lyrics for a whole album.

                  Other ideas for creating something include putting together a bouquet of flowers, working on your novel, or adding the finishing touches to your latest artwork. You’ll be surprised by how much this helps your early morning motivation.

                  18. Write Down Things You’re Grateful for

                  It’s all too easy to take things for granted. We need to constantly remind ourselves of things in our life that we’re grateful for.

                  A beneficial and rewarding morning practice is to write a list of things that you’re currently grateful for. These could be things such as your partner, your job, and your health.

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                  Some people like to write a list each morning that includes everything they were grateful for from the previous day. Over time, you can develop an attitude of gratitude. Moreover, gratitude is an indicator of overall well-being in life[7].

                  19. Play With Your Pets

                  If you’re fortunate enough to have a pet, then the morning is the perfect time to have some fun with them.

                  For instance, if you have a dog, they’re sure to like playing with a ball or Frisbee first thing in the morning. They’ll have fun, and you will, too.

                  20. Listen to an Inspiring Podcast

                  Podcasts are a great way to listen to inspiring speakers for some morning motivation.

                  As they’re audio only, you can listen to them while making your breakfast, or even while you’re driving your car.

                  Just imagine hearing expert tips on business, success, and well-being every morning. Before long, this precious wisdom is bound to sink into your consciousness.

                  Here’re some podcasts recommended for you:

                  21. Plan Your Day

                  Self-help guru Alan Lakein famously said:

                  “Failing to plan, is planning to fail.”

                  Wise words indeed.

                  To be successful in life, you must learn how to make plans and set goals. You can use a few minutes each morning to plan the day ahead. It’s a simple technique that offers a surprising boost to your daily productivity.

                  22. Learn Something New

                  Each morning is the start of a new day. Why not tap into this fresh energy by learning something new every morning?

                  This could be something like a few words of a new language, a new guitar chord, or some facts related to your favorite basketball team.

                  23. Enjoy the Quiet

                  If you can get up in the morning before the majority of other people, you’ll be rewarded with peace and quiet.

                  You can make use of this special time by perhaps reading a book or sitting in your garden. Let the quiet sink in before you get to the chaos of the day.

                  24. Think of a Way to Help Someone Later in the Day

                  Today’s society seems riddled with a me, me, me mentality.

                  It’s important not to get caught in this self-centered trend. One way to do this is to take a few minutes each morning to think of ways that you can help other people later in the day.

                  To give you an example, you may have a colleague who has a sweet tooth. You could decide to take some chocolates to work that you could share with this individual.

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                  25. Go for a Swim

                  If you like to swim, and there is a swimming pool nearby, then this is a wonderful way to start your day with some morning motivation.

                  Swimming pools are usually quiet in the morning, so you’re likely to have loads of space for serious swimming, or simply having fun!

                  26. Meet Some Friends for Breakfast

                  Until I was in my 20s, I’d never thought about going out for breakfast with friends. However, I was fortunate to be introduced to this idea by a couple of American friends who were staying with me in London.

                  I distinctively remember them saying, “Where shall we go for breakfast?” I was taken aback because I had always just had breakfast at home.

                  I’m glad they persuaded me, though, as I loved having breakfast with them in a local café. In fact, I enjoyed it so much that I now regularly meet friends for breakfast. If you haven’t tried it before, give it a go!

                  27. Check Yourself in the Mirror

                  I’ve heard people say that they don’t like to look in the mirror in the morning because they’re afraid of what they might see.

                  I’m guessing that they probably look miserable and tired first thing in the morning, and want to avoid been reminded of this. It’s understandable, but I think mirrors are a great tool to use in the morning.

                  Instead of being afraid of them, use them to check your appearance. You can quickly check your hair and makeup (for example).

                  But more importantly, you can ensure that you’re looking alert, confident, and purposeful.

                  28. Follow Steve Jobs’ Advice

                  In a speech he gave at Stanford University in 2005, Steve Jobs revealed that he started each day by asking the following question:

                  “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”

                  He went on to say that, if the answer to the question was “no” for several days, then this told him that he needed to make changes in his life.

                  29. Leave Plenty of Time for Your Commute

                  Rushing to work is the cause of so much stress and anxiety. One of the problems is that most people seem to leave a set amount of time for their commute but don’t allow for any delays. When they encounter one, their morning motivation is destroyed.

                  The resolution is simple: always allow more time than you need.

                  30. Kiss Your Loved Ones Before You Leave the House

                  Don’t be in so much of a hurry in the morning that you forget the most valuable people in your life.

                  Whether it’s your partner or your children, be sure to hug and kiss them before heading out the door. Relationships are so important, so be certain to nurture yours.

                  The Bottom Line

                  Hopefully, the above list will give you plenty of food for thought.

                  I recommend that you pick out a handful of the above suggestions, and make them a part of your daily routine.

                  By building these new habits, you’ll find that your days start happier and stronger. You’ll also discover that you’re more motivated and productive than ever before.

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                  Featured photo credit: Anthony Tran via unsplash.com

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