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12 Qualities We Start To Value When We’re In Our Mid 20s

12 Qualities We Start To Value When We’re In Our Mid 20s

We never stop learning and growing. Every day is another opportunity to become a better person. Sound too simple? It is. There are some common qualities we start to value when we reach our mid 20’s. Please understand that no one is perfect, so I doubt anyone can claim to reflect these qualities every day. But it’s good to have something to aim for, isn’t it?

Focus

“When you connect to the silence within you, that is when you can make sense of the disturbance going on around you.” -Stephen Richards

Focus is eye contact; silencing your phone so you can actively listen to your friend; being aware of the signs an activity might be a time-waster in disguise.

Talent

“Everyone has talent. What’s rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.” -Erica Jong

Talent is making it look easy; understanding your strengths and weaknesses so you can use them to your advantage; hustling when you’d rather be playing a video game.

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Patience

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” -A.A. Milne

Patience is doing what it takes; being comfortable with the reality that nothing worth accomplishing will be easy; taking a peaceful walk at the park.

Positivity

“Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.” -Rabindranath Tagore

Positivity is a warm presence; complimenting people at every opportunity; mindfully focusing on empowering thoughts and discarding limiting ones.

Experience

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” -Truman Capote

Experience is an every day story full of plot-twists; an evolutionary process that continues until your death; being willing to admit you don’t have it all figured out.

Passion

“It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion, maybe we’d know some kind of peace. But we would be hollow. Empty rooms, shuttered and dank… without passion, we’d be truly dead.” -Angel

Passion is a feeling so powerful that it is impossible to contain; a chaotic force that can bring joy and suffering, leaving us so emotionally exhausted that we need a breather.

Self-awareness

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” -Socrates

Self-awareness is meditation; being curious about why you make the decisions you do; looking at your excuses without judgment, looking for clues that identify the root causes of them (for example, “I’m too busy” often = “I’m over-committed”).

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Trustworthiness

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

Trustworthiness is adding value to the world; only making promises you intend to keep (and apologizing if you don’t); refusing to participate in bullying, office gossip, or speculation about another person.

Ambition

“Intelligence without ambition is a bird without wings.” -Salvador Dali

Ambition is having a reason to wake up every morning; being excited by your work, because it adds meaning to your life; knowing that it’s better to aim too high and fall short than it is to aim too low and cheat yourself out of personal growth.

Confidence

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” -Hellen Keller

Confidence is believing in yourself; confronting the mental monsters that make you feel like a hopeless victim; presenting yourself in a way that attracts people to you.

Responsibility

Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future. -John F. Kennedy

Responsibility is being brutally honest with yourself; accepting the consequences of your actions, concentrating on the lessons contained that might help you avoid a similar situation in the future.

Creativity

“We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” -Kurt Vonnegut

Creativity is art; believing it is better to innovate than regurgitate; gathering knowledge from a variety of sources, searching for common threads that might reveal a bigger picture.

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Are there any qualities you started to appreciate when you hit your mid 20’s? Tell us in the comments.

Featured photo credit: Woman with Umbrella/Darren Johnson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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