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12 Qualities We Start To Value When We’re In Our Mid 20s

12 Qualities We Start To Value When We’re In Our Mid 20s

We never stop learning and growing. Every day is another opportunity to become a better person. Sound too simple? It is. There are some common qualities we start to value when we reach our mid 20’s. Please understand that no one is perfect, so I doubt anyone can claim to reflect these qualities every day. But it’s good to have something to aim for, isn’t it?

Focus

“When you connect to the silence within you, that is when you can make sense of the disturbance going on around you.” -Stephen Richards

Focus is eye contact; silencing your phone so you can actively listen to your friend; being aware of the signs an activity might be a time-waster in disguise.

Talent

“Everyone has talent. What’s rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.” -Erica Jong

Talent is making it look easy; understanding your strengths and weaknesses so you can use them to your advantage; hustling when you’d rather be playing a video game.

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Patience

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” -A.A. Milne

Patience is doing what it takes; being comfortable with the reality that nothing worth accomplishing will be easy; taking a peaceful walk at the park.

Positivity

“Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.” -Rabindranath Tagore

Positivity is a warm presence; complimenting people at every opportunity; mindfully focusing on empowering thoughts and discarding limiting ones.

Experience

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” -Truman Capote

Experience is an every day story full of plot-twists; an evolutionary process that continues until your death; being willing to admit you don’t have it all figured out.

Passion

“It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion, maybe we’d know some kind of peace. But we would be hollow. Empty rooms, shuttered and dank… without passion, we’d be truly dead.” -Angel

Passion is a feeling so powerful that it is impossible to contain; a chaotic force that can bring joy and suffering, leaving us so emotionally exhausted that we need a breather.

Self-awareness

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” -Socrates

Self-awareness is meditation; being curious about why you make the decisions you do; looking at your excuses without judgment, looking for clues that identify the root causes of them (for example, “I’m too busy” often = “I’m over-committed”).

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Trustworthiness

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

Trustworthiness is adding value to the world; only making promises you intend to keep (and apologizing if you don’t); refusing to participate in bullying, office gossip, or speculation about another person.

Ambition

“Intelligence without ambition is a bird without wings.” -Salvador Dali

Ambition is having a reason to wake up every morning; being excited by your work, because it adds meaning to your life; knowing that it’s better to aim too high and fall short than it is to aim too low and cheat yourself out of personal growth.

Confidence

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” -Hellen Keller

Confidence is believing in yourself; confronting the mental monsters that make you feel like a hopeless victim; presenting yourself in a way that attracts people to you.

Responsibility

Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future. -John F. Kennedy

Responsibility is being brutally honest with yourself; accepting the consequences of your actions, concentrating on the lessons contained that might help you avoid a similar situation in the future.

Creativity

“We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.” -Kurt Vonnegut

Creativity is art; believing it is better to innovate than regurgitate; gathering knowledge from a variety of sources, searching for common threads that might reveal a bigger picture.

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Are there any qualities you started to appreciate when you hit your mid 20’s? Tell us in the comments.

Featured photo credit: Woman with Umbrella/Darren Johnson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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