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7 Things House of Cards Taught Me About Success

7 Things House of Cards Taught Me About Success

Success demands a thought-out strategy and an ability to outmaneuver your opponents by thinking several steps ahead. No one illustrates those traits better than Frank Underwood, a man who stopped at nothing to quench his thirst for power in the Netflix smash hit, “House of Cards.” Keep on reading to discover what President Underwood can teach you about success.

1. Success demands honest reflection and transformation.

There are two kinds of pain. The sort of pain that makes you strong. Or useless pain… the sort of pain that’s only suffering. I have no patience for useless things.

Successful people don’t stagger through life as a mere spectator. They actively improve their situation every day by confronting their problems without hesitation. I have to confess that writing is my emotional outlet of choice. Expressing my fears and frustrations in words helps me overcome them and evolve into the person I am meant to be. Start a daily journal to cope with your present troubles and leap forward into a better future.

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2. Success demands mental strength and an unstoppable attitude.

From this moment on, you are a rock. You absorb nothing, you say nothing, and nothing breaks you.

Successful people don’t agonize over negative feedback. They are aware that it would be silly to expect all people to appreciate their work. While they are always open to constructive criticism, they don’t justify personal attacks with a response.

3. Success demands a clear perception of who you hope to serve.

Power is a lot like real estate. It’s all about location, location, location. The closer you are to the source, the higher your property value.

Successful people avoid the temptation to pander to whatever crowd crosses their path, because nobody likes a phony. Instead, they focus their energry on creating an authentic emotional connection with the people they can relate with most.

4. Success demands consistent effort and a refusal to quit.

For those climbing to the top of the food chain, there can be no mercy. There is but one rule: hunt or be hunted.

Successful people don’t stop when they are tired. They stop when they have won. They strive to identify innovative solutions to common problems that remain unsolved, resulting in a revolving door of exciting opportunities and adventures.

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5. Success demands a generous nature and the earning of trust.

Keep being valuable. That’s the best way to show your gratitude.

Successful people don’t expect to be trusted before they have earned it. They give until it hurts, because they know that creating value is the best way to win a person’s trust.

6. Success demands a willingness to overcome resistance.

Friends make the worst enemies.

Successful people don’t automatically label their competitors as “enemies,” but they are willing to push through resistance if their philosophy runs against the accepted “status quo.” When the odds feel insurmountable, they remind themselves of their passion and resolve to remain firm in their conviction.

7. Success demands creativity and an ability to innovate.

“Democracy is so overrated.”

Successful people don’t flinch if they face temporary defeat. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the evolution process. Success isn’t reserved for a special kind of person, but it can’t be expected without dedication and a burning desire to excel.

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While Frank Underwood’s methods might be ruthless, you can’t argue with the results of his cold and calculated nature. I feel his lessons could be applied in a more positive fashion for success in your business and life. What do you think? Tell us in the comments. And if you’re friends with any fellow “House of Cards” fans, make sure to invite them to the conversation by clicking the share button.

First published in Medium – 7 Things House of Cards Taught Me about Success.

Featured photo credit: Kevin Spacey in House of Cards/Netflix via salon.com

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7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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