4 Ways to Deal with Big Life Changes
October 2 by Amanda Abella in Lifestyle | 209 Shares
Change is constant. Whether it’s in the workplace or our relationships, nothing in life ever remains quite the same.
Regardless of the gravity of change, it can always be a little scary. So scary, in fact, that some people are downright crippled by the idea of it causing them to remain stagnant in anxiety.
Think about it for a second. Have you ever noticed how much of life’s transitional periods are ridden with anxious vibes? The Quarter Life Crisis, The Mid-Life Crisis, wet feet before getting married, freaking out when you retire, teenage angst, and going from relationship to relationship are just a few examples of transitional periods when people tend to panic.
We can’t control every aspect of our lives and we can’t stop change from happening. But how we respond to change will greatly affect our overall life experience.
1. Don’t fight it
I once heard one of my favorite yoga instructors say “Suffering is what occurs when we resist what is already happening.” The lesson has stuck with me ever since.
Life changes are usually out of our control. Rather than trying to manipulate the situation and wishing things were different, try flowing with it instead.
Of course, some initial resistance is natural if we’re going into survival mode. Just make sure you are conscious of when this resistance is no longer serving you.
2. Find healthy ways to deal with your feelings
Whenever we’re in transitional periods it can be easy to lose track of ourselves. Sometimes we feel like we’re being tossed about by life and like we’ve lost our footing, causing some very uncomfortable feelings to rise.
One way we can channel these feelings is by finding healthy ways to release them. For instance, whenever I find myself in a difficult transitional phase I end up in a mixed martial arts studio.
The physical activity helps me channel my emotions and release endorphins. It also helps me get in shape which generally increases my mood and energy levels.
3. Reframe your perspective
Reframing perspectives is a very powerful tool used in life coaching. It helps clients take a situation they are struggling with, such as a major life change, and find some sort of empowerment in it.
Some examples of disempowered thinking during life changes include casting blame, focusing on negative details or victimizing. These perspectives can make awkward transitional phases much worse than they have to be.
Meanwhile if we come from a more positive perspective such as finding a lesson in the situation, realizing that there may be an opportunity for something or that everything passes we can come from a greater place of ease.
4. Find time for self-reflection
Having time to reflect is important at any stage in your life, but it’s especially important during transitional periods.It’s quite simple really, we need our time to step back and get centered when things get a little crazy.
As a result, big life changes are perfect for doing some self-reflection. They are opportunities to check in with ourselves and practice getting grounded for a few minutes.
Self-reflective exercises include meditating, yoga or journaling – all of which require some quiet time to get yourself together.
Big life changes may rock us for a little while, but they don’t have to be as bad as we initially perceive them. If handled in a positive manner transitional periods can pave the way for some serious self-growth, reflection and awareness.
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I’ve learned that suffering happens when we try to change something that we have no control over. The amount of energy spent resisting the inevitable, is much better spent on consciously accepting the change.
Yes! Absolutely! I have found that is the best way to deal with life’s curve balls. Thanks for sharing!
Great post! My motto that has got me through any life changes, or any struggle period is to “lean into it”. The more you fight against something, the bigger the struggle. Everything seems to go much smoother when you give in a bit and let what will be, be. Not so easy to always, but certainly easier than a fight.
Thanks for a great post!
Thank you for the kind words! I’m so glad you enjoyed it!
For me, even when times are going great, it is really important to always remind myself that whatever happens, I will always have myself. That’s even more important to realize in transitional periods, since it sometimes seems like you’re losing everything you have. If you can realize and really embrace the fact that no matter what ever happens to you, YOU will always be there with yourself. And if you’re in the frame of mind where you love yourself and ultimately only need yourself to be happy, I feel like you really can get through anything.
Hello Paul,
Your words touched me very much. Not only do I enjoy my own company, but I have spent most of my life by myself. I have lost count how many times I have reinvented myself, and survived each and every crisis. Even though I have wonderful friends it was always up to me, myself, and I. I love your wise words and will remember them always.
Wow I am so touched by what both of you commented :) The human spirit really is resilient!
Thanks for sharing! is a good stop in life :)
Cheers!
Cheers! Thanks for stopping by!