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11 Positive Effects of Working Moms (For Everyone)

11 Positive Effects of Working Moms (For Everyone)

Working moms have been the subject of much debate in the parenting arena. They are often criticized for just not being there. In fact, there is now lots of research which shows that a working mom can bring up healthy and well-adjusted kids. The research shows that it is not damaging and that there are in fact many benefits for the children. After a little research of my own, I found these positive effects of working moms.

1. Working moms provide positive role models

Children need to realize from an early age that women are not just domestic servants and that they may have a professional life of their own. Girls will learn that they need to think about a career, rather than just getting married and having children. Boys need to realize that household chores are part and parcel of family life. This will also influence them significantly when they start their own families.

2. Working moms raise more independent kids

My mother worked at a local hospital while we were growing up. We were fortunate in having a wonderful home helper who was a surrogate mother in many ways. However, the main advantage was that we grew up to be very independent. We also had to take responsibility in making sure that meals were ready on time. That lesson is still useful today!

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3. Working moms are less prone to depression

Statistics show that a stay-at-home mom is more likely to suffer from depression, which in turn can take its toll on her children. Children can never really benefit from having a frustrated and depressed mother around them.

4. Working moms are better at ignoring the “parenting police”

Every parent is concerned about how much time and attention they should be giving to their kids. Working moms are always subject to unrelenting pressure from the “parenting police,” who are often thinly disguised as well-meaning relatives. Not to mention all the experts on parenting who have invaded the media. Everyone is a parenting expert, it seems these days. The sensible working mom knows what the trade-offs are. She is confident enough to juggle the demands of parenting with her desire to follow a career.

5. Working moms can better manage quality time with their kids

Everybody talks about quality or prime time with kids. It is a sad fact that many parents are only half listening when they are with their kids because the other half is attached to their device. Working moms know that they need to switch off the minute they get home, and that they need to dedicate 100% of their precious time to their kids. Email, texts, and Facebook can all wait until the kids are in bed.

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6. Working moms’ kids may do better at school

Denmark perhaps is not a typical example. They spend a lot more on early childhood care (1.2% of their GDP, compared to the miserly 0.4% in the USA). The results are clear: the children of working moms there are doing better academically.

7. Working moms’ kids have fewer behavioral problems

Many women worry that not spending enough time with their offspring may lead to behavioral problems. After looking at research studies since 1960, the truth is that working moms’ kids are not suffering at all. In many cases, they even turned out to be better behaved than the stay-at-home moms’ kids.

8. Working moms do not affect their children’s emotional development

Lots of research has been done at the University College London on whether working moms’ kids were liable to grow up emotionally deprived. The good news is that this is not at all the case. The secret is to get the balance right between work and parenting commitments. Day care and a supportive partner, together with parent-friendly workplace policies make it perfectly feasible.

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9. Working moms tend to be in happier relationships

Much will depend on the partner’s attitude and support for the working mom. I remember my father being very supportive of my mother and he often took on the role of supervisor in making sure that household chores got done.

Many working moms have found it easier to keep their relationship healthier because they are happier and more fulfilled. This can help to make the relationship stronger.

10. Working moms get a break

There are lots of jokes about the working mom closing the door and leaving all the chaos behind, not too worried about the fact that the caregiver may or may not cope! The real benefits are that working moms can be fulfilled and can have a break from family pressures and demanding children.

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11. Maternal employment will help families

Experts now agree that if long-awaited family policy reforms in the USA are put in place, there will be many benefits for families all round. This is urgent because US figures show that 66% of married mothers are in some form of employment. Also the USA has fallen behind other countries such as Norway, where paternal leave (a whopping 12 weeks, paid!) is standard practice. The US has a long way to go!

Did you have a working mom? What were the pros and cons? Let us know in the comments.

Featured photo credit: God could not be everywhere so he created mothers/ Sundaram Ramaswamy via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Huge Differences Between A Boss And A Leader

10 Huge Differences Between A Boss And A Leader

When you try to think of a leader at your place of work, you might think of your boss – you know, the supervisor in the tasteful office down the hall.

However, bosses are not the only leaders in the office, and not every boss has mastered the art of excellent leadership. Maybe the best leader you know is the co-worker sitting at the desk next to yours who is always willing to loan out her stapler and help you problem solve.

You see, a boss’ main priority is to efficiently cross items off of the corporate to-do list, while a true leader both completes tasks and works to empower and motivate the people he or she interacts with on a daily basis.

A leader is someone who works to improve things instead of focusing on the negatives. People acknowledge the authority of a boss, but people cherish a true leader.

Puzzled about what it takes to be a great leader? Let’s take a look at the difference between a boss and a leader, and why cultivating quality leadership skills is essential for people who really want to make a positive impact.

1. Leaders are compassionate human beings; bosses are cold.

It can be easy to equate professionalism with robot-like impersonal behavior. Many bosses stay holed up in their offices and barely ever interact with staff.

Even if your schedule is packed, you should always make time to reach out to the people around you. Remember that when you ask someone to share how they are feeling, you should be prepared to be vulnerable and open in your communication as well.

Does acting human at the office sound silly? It’s not.

A lack of compassion in the office leads to psychological turmoil, whereas positive connection leads to healthier staff.[1]

If people feel that you are being open, honest and compassionate with them, they will feel able to approach your office with what is on their minds, leading to a more productive and stress-free work environment.

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2. Leaders say “we”; bosses say “I”.

Practice developing a team-first mentality when thinking and speaking. In meetings, talk about trying to meet deadlines as a team instead of using accusatory “you” phrases. This makes it clear that you are a part of the team, too, and that you are willing to work hard and support your team members.

Let me explain:

A “we” mentality shifts the office dynamic from “trying to make the boss happy” to a spirit of teamwork, goal-setting, and accomplishment.

A “we” mentality allows for the accountability and community that is essential in the modern day workplace.

3. Leaders develop and invest in people; bosses use people.

Unfortunately, many office climates involve people using others to get what they want or to climb the corporate ladder. This is another example of the “me first” mentality that is so toxic in both office environments and personal relationships.

Instead of using others or focusing on your needs, think about how you can help other people grow.

Use your building blocks of compassion and team-mentality to stay attuned to the needs of others note the areas in which you can help them develop. A great leader wants to see his or her people flourish.

Make a list of ways you can invest in your team members to help them develop personally and professionally, and then take action!

4. Leaders respect people; bosses are fear-mongering.

Earning respect from everyone on your team will take time and commitment, but the rewards are worth every ounce of effort.

A boss who is a poor leader may try to control the office through fear and bully-like behavior. Employees who are petrified about their performance or who feel overwhelmed and stressed by unfair deadlines are probably working for a boss who uses a fear system instead of a respect system.

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What’s the bottom line?

Work to build respect among your team by treating everyone with fairness and kindness. Maintain a positive tone and stay reliable for those who approach you for help.

5. Leaders give credit where it’s due; bosses only take credits.

Looking for specific ways to gain respect from your colleagues and employees? There is no better place to start than with the simple act of giving credit where it is due.

Don’t be tempted to take credit for things you didn’t do, and always go above and beyond to generously acknowledge those who worked on a project and performed well.

You might be wondering how you can get started:

  • Begin by simply noticing which team member contributes what during your next project at work.
  • If possible, make mental notes. Remember that these notes should not be about ways in which team members are failing, but about ways in which they are excelling.
  • Depending on your leadership style, let people know how well they are doing either in private one-on-one meetings or in a group setting. Be honest and generous in your communication about a person’s performance.

6. Leaders see delegation as their best friend; bosses see it as an enemy.

If delegation is a leader’s best friend, then micromanagement is the enemy.

Delegation equates to trust and micromanagement equates to distrust. Nothing is more frustrating for an employee than feeling that his or her every movement is being critically observed.

Encourage trust in your office by delegating important tasks and acknowledging that your people are capable, smart individuals who can succeed!

Delegation is a great way to cash in on the positive benefits of a psychological phenomenon called a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a self-fulfilling prophecy, a person’s expectations of another person can cause the expectations to be fulfilled.[2]

In other words, if you truly believe that your team member can handle a project or task, he or she is more likely to deliver.

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Learn how to delegate in my other article:

How to Delegate Work (the Definitive Guide for Successful Leaders)

7. Leaders work hard; bosses let others do the work.

Delegation is not an excuse to get out of hard work. Instead of telling people to go accomplish the hardest work alone, make it clear that you are willing to pitch in and help with the hardest work of all when the need arises.

Here’s the deal:

Showing others that you work hard sets the tone for your whole team and will spur them on to greatness.

The next time you catch yourself telling someone to “go”, a.k.a accomplish a difficult task alone, change your phrasing to “let’s go”, showing that you are totally willing to help and support.

8. Leaders think long-term; bosses think short-term.

A leader who only utilizes short-term thinking is someone who cannot be prepared or organized for the future. Your colleagues or staff members need to know that they can trust you to have a handle on things not just this week, but next month or even next year.

Display your long-term thinking skills in group talks and meetings by sharing long-term hopes or concerns. Create plans for possible scenarios and be prepared for emergencies.

For example, if you know that you are losing someone on your team in a few months, be prepared to share a clear plan of how you and the remaining team members can best handle the change and workload until someone new is hired.

9. Leaders are like your colleagues; bosses are just bosses.

Another word for colleague is collaborator. Make sure your team knows that you are “one of them” and that you want to collaborate or work side by side.

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Not getting involved in the going ons of the office is a mistake because you will miss out on development and connection opportunities.

As our regular readers know, I love to remind people of the importance of building routines into each day. Create a routine that encourages you to leave your isolated office and collaborate with others. Spark healthy habits that benefit both you and your co-workers.

10. Leaders put people first; bosses put results first.

Bosses without crucial leadership training may focus on process and results instead of people. They may stick to a pre-set systems playbook even when employees voice new ideas or concerns.

Ignoring people’s opinions for the sake of company tradition like this is never truly beneficial to an organization.

Here’s what I mean by process over people:

Some organizations focus on proper structures or systems as their greatest assets instead of people. I believe that people lend real value to an organization, and that focusing on the development of people is a key ingredient for success in leadership.

Learning to be a leader is an ongoing adventure.

This list of differences makes it clear that, unlike an ordinary boss, a leader is able to be compassionate, inclusive, generous, and hard-working for the good of the team.

Instead of being a stereotypical scary or micromanaging-obsessed boss, a quality leader is able to establish an atmosphere of respect and collaboration.

Whether you are new to your work environment or a seasoned administrator, these leadership traits will help you get a jump start so that you can excel as a leader and positively impact the people around you.

For more inspiration and guidance, you can even start keeping tabs on some of the world’s top leadership experts. With an adventurous and positive attitude, anyone can learn good leadership.

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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