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11 Positive Effects of Working Moms (For Everyone)

11 Positive Effects of Working Moms (For Everyone)

Working moms have been the subject of much debate in the parenting arena. They are often criticized for just not being there. In fact, there is now lots of research which shows that a working mom can bring up healthy and well-adjusted kids. The research shows that it is not damaging and that there are in fact many benefits for the children. After a little research of my own, I found these positive effects of working moms.

1. Working moms provide positive role models

Children need to realize from an early age that women are not just domestic servants and that they may have a professional life of their own. Girls will learn that they need to think about a career, rather than just getting married and having children. Boys need to realize that household chores are part and parcel of family life. This will also influence them significantly when they start their own families.

2. Working moms raise more independent kids

My mother worked at a local hospital while we were growing up. We were fortunate in having a wonderful home helper who was a surrogate mother in many ways. However, the main advantage was that we grew up to be very independent. We also had to take responsibility in making sure that meals were ready on time. That lesson is still useful today!

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3. Working moms are less prone to depression

Statistics show that a stay-at-home mom is more likely to suffer from depression, which in turn can take its toll on her children. Children can never really benefit from having a frustrated and depressed mother around them.

4. Working moms are better at ignoring the “parenting police”

Every parent is concerned about how much time and attention they should be giving to their kids. Working moms are always subject to unrelenting pressure from the “parenting police,” who are often thinly disguised as well-meaning relatives. Not to mention all the experts on parenting who have invaded the media. Everyone is a parenting expert, it seems these days. The sensible working mom knows what the trade-offs are. She is confident enough to juggle the demands of parenting with her desire to follow a career.

5. Working moms can better manage quality time with their kids

Everybody talks about quality or prime time with kids. It is a sad fact that many parents are only half listening when they are with their kids because the other half is attached to their device. Working moms know that they need to switch off the minute they get home, and that they need to dedicate 100% of their precious time to their kids. Email, texts, and Facebook can all wait until the kids are in bed.

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6. Working moms’ kids may do better at school

Denmark perhaps is not a typical example. They spend a lot more on early childhood care (1.2% of their GDP, compared to the miserly 0.4% in the USA). The results are clear: the children of working moms there are doing better academically.

7. Working moms’ kids have fewer behavioral problems

Many women worry that not spending enough time with their offspring may lead to behavioral problems. After looking at research studies since 1960, the truth is that working moms’ kids are not suffering at all. In many cases, they even turned out to be better behaved than the stay-at-home moms’ kids.

8. Working moms do not affect their children’s emotional development

Lots of research has been done at the University College London on whether working moms’ kids were liable to grow up emotionally deprived. The good news is that this is not at all the case. The secret is to get the balance right between work and parenting commitments. Day care and a supportive partner, together with parent-friendly workplace policies make it perfectly feasible.

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9. Working moms tend to be in happier relationships

Much will depend on the partner’s attitude and support for the working mom. I remember my father being very supportive of my mother and he often took on the role of supervisor in making sure that household chores got done.

Many working moms have found it easier to keep their relationship healthier because they are happier and more fulfilled. This can help to make the relationship stronger.

10. Working moms get a break

There are lots of jokes about the working mom closing the door and leaving all the chaos behind, not too worried about the fact that the caregiver may or may not cope! The real benefits are that working moms can be fulfilled and can have a break from family pressures and demanding children.

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11. Maternal employment will help families

Experts now agree that if long-awaited family policy reforms in the USA are put in place, there will be many benefits for families all round. This is urgent because US figures show that 66% of married mothers are in some form of employment. Also the USA has fallen behind other countries such as Norway, where paternal leave (a whopping 12 weeks, paid!) is standard practice. The US has a long way to go!

Did you have a working mom? What were the pros and cons? Let us know in the comments.

Featured photo credit: God could not be everywhere so he created mothers/ Sundaram Ramaswamy via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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