7 Tips to Deal With Anger

7 Tips to Deal With Anger

Anger is an unpredictable thing. It can rise out of nowhere or be the result of a long line of un-addressed annoyances. Everyone feels anger. From a raging teenager to an elderly monk, there’s no escaping the fact that humans get angry.

However, as you may know, anger is not always a fantastic emotion to have. Anger sometimes makes you less appealing as a person; it affects your work, your private life and your sense of well-being. This is particularly true when you feel constantly on the edge of having an emotional breakdown.

Here are seven steps that you can implement to help you rein in your anger demons. Hopefully, this helps you obtain the control you need to be less stressed and avoid a rage-filled day-to-day lifestyle. No promises regarding traffic, however.



    Step 1: Just breathe

    When you’re angry beyond belief, there’s nothing more that you can do than just breathe and take back control of your body. Slowly breathe in and out. Simple as that.

    Yoga practitioners use a technique called “the cooling breath.” It involves rolling your tongue, breathing in through your mouth and out through your nose. It certainly cools. But if you can’t roll your tongue, try doing the same in-and-out breaths with your tongue pressed to the back of your teeth instead for instant relief.

    Step 2: Take a break

    If it’s your boss, your co-worker or even a friend who is causing your anger, just go take a break. Chances are if you’re having some anger management issues, you’re going to need a five-minute breather to stop yourself from saying or doing something you’ll regret.


    Is it a long term solution? No. But it can be a part of one. Breaks are a tool you use when anger and rage are too much at a particular moment in time. Go outside, get a drink, have a smoke or whatever, then go back with clearer eyes and a cooler mind.

    Step 3: Visualize your way to calmness

    “Visualize” doesn’t mean to fantasize taking your rage out on the person who’s causing your angry state. Although that is satisfying, and certainly something everyone indulges in, it’s not the best thing to help you calm down.

    Instead, try this technique that’s often used: Imagine a bath full of boiling, steaming water, and physically visualize yourself cooling the water until it’s nice and warm without being hot. This technique gives your mind something to focus on, and it is an active attempt to calm yourself down that should work.


    Step 4: Count to 10

    This tried-and-tested technique actually works. When you feel your inner Bruce Banner ready to spring into Hulk mode, go ahead and count to 10.

    The reason behind this technique is simple: It forces you to actively calm your heart rate and inner rage by counting a simple sequence with complete self-awareness. The technique ensures that you’re aware of your own anger, and it makes you more likely to calm down because of it.

    Step 5: Channel your anger into your passion

    Passion is a wonderful thing. It motivates millions, generates projects and creates relationships that make life all the more worthwhile. Anger, while not the same as passion, can be channeled the same way. It is always better to create something rather than destroy it.


    A 2006 study found that people who are slightly angrier make better cognitive choices. Hence, utilizing that anger might help plow through work and make you more productive, if only for a little bit. So go ahead, and channel your anger into your work.

    Step 6: Be a little aggressive

    This sounds like a counterproductive way to control your anger, but sometimes anger is necessary. Holding your anger in will only make you less psychologically healthy in the long run. Have you ever seen a seemingly normal person suddenly start having a breakdown in the middle of a Starbucks? That’s what holding onto anger can do to you.

    Try to channel your rage in a constructive way. Go take a karate class, do Zumba or play a team sport. Anger itself isn’t dangerous, it’s what you do with it. So if you “need” to destroy something, do some cleaning around your home, and tear up anything you don’t need or want anymore. Just make sure you use your aggression to your advantage, and you’ll soon have a handle on it.

    Step 7: Go forth and help others

    There’s nothing better than helping others without any thought for yourself. When you’re struggling to deal with the little red monster, going out and actively doing something that puts your focus on other peoples’ emotions and circumstances can be the perfect antidote to serious stress.

    You don’t have to run a marathon, but getting coffee or lunch for a busy colleague works wonders for calming you down. A good deed helps to move the focus away from an annoyance, or a trigger that invoked your rage, to something calmer and more positive. Plus, fostering positive relationships with others discourages them from do something that might annoy you in the first place.

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    Last Updated on August 21, 2018

    30 Brilliant Camping Hacks I Wish I Knew Earlier

    30 Brilliant Camping Hacks I Wish I Knew Earlier

    Ah, camping. The great outdoors, the campfires, the food you’d never eat in civilised society: it’s a wonderful experience.

    That said, things can get a little bit tricky when we are left to the mercy of Mother Nature. Here are 30 fantastic camping hacks you can use to make your camping experience as wonderful as possible!

     1. Use sage to repel mosquitoes.


      Place some sage in your campfire and the smell is sure to ward off any pesky mosquitos.

      2. Liquid soap + cotton balls = no ticks.


        If you or one of your fellow campers is having trouble with a tick, place the soap-soaked cotton on the tick for 20 seconds. The tick will eventually stop chewing and will come away with the cotton ball. If the tick was attached for a lengthy amount of time you may want to consider keeping it in a container so that you can test it for Lyme disease later.

        3. Use an acorn cap as a whistle if you get lost.


          It’s remarkably easy to get lost whilst camping. Here’s a full tutorial on how you can transform an acorn into a whistle!

          4. Corn chips for kindling!


            Doritos are a great way to start a fire, just be careful!


            5. Use the rest of the chips for nachos.


              Nachos are easy to pack, light and simple to make. Plus they’re incredibly tasty.

              6. Use compact, microfibre towels!


                These towels are incredibly easy to store and dry within an hour of use. Buy them here.

                7. Wrap duct-tape around your water bottle for emergencies.


                  You never know when you might need some.

                  8. Make lamps out of jars and solar disks.


                    Get all the info you need here.

                    9. Sangria!


                      We know what’s really important. How to here!

                      10. One water bottle will hold eight eggs.


                        By keeping all your eggs in a bottle you save time and hassle. Plus, no need to carry extra bowls or a whisk!


                        11. Johnson’s Baby Creamy Oil is a surprisingly good mosquito repellent.


                          Keep the bugs and the bug repellent smell at bay.

                          12. DIY shower.


                            All you need is a watering can and a large jug. Here’s the full instructions.

                            13. Keep sandpaper handy to light matches.


                              Glueing some sandpaper to the lid of a tupperware box where you can also store matches is a foolproof plan.

                              14. Make s’moreos easily.


                                15. MarshJell-o shots.


                                  Learn how to make these delicious things here!

                                  16. Or dip those marshmallows in Bailey’s. 

                                    Toast the marshmallow first and then dip it in Bailey’s.

                                    17. Turn a bottle into a spoon.


                                      It’s that easy!


                                      18. Grits repel ants.


                                        Just sprinkle grits wherever you see ants.

                                        19. Deodorant can be used to combat itchiness.


                                          20. Wrap your meat in cabbage to stop it from burning.


                                            That’s not an innuendo, it really will! The moistness in the cabbage creates the perfect barrier.

                                            21. Foam noodles will stop any injuries.


                                              For any fellow clumsy people, you know how possible it is to smack your head and cause serious injury. Placing a foam noodle on the awning strut narrows down at least one accident waiting to happen.

                                              22. Carry some essentials in a small tin with you at all times.


                                                You never know what you’ll need and when.

                                                23. Take toothpaste dots instead of a whole tube.


                                                  Let the drops dry out over 3 days, add a little baking soda and put them in a resealable bag.

                                                  24. Use a stick to secure your tent.


                                                    By placing a stick in the main centre line you ensure the pressure is even throughout, which will stop the grommets being pulled out.


                                                    25. Vacuum seal your food before you leave.


                                                      26. Popcorn on the campfire.

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                                                        Popcorn that you can place on the stove at home can also be popped over a campfire. You can also make your own using this tutorial.

                                                        27. You can even make bacon and eggs over it.

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                                                          That’s right! Full instructions here.

                                                          28. Keep your toiletries handy.


                                                            Buy this magnificent contraption here.

                                                            29. Compact, unbreakable cups!


                                                              Get them while you can!

                                                              30. Tic-Tac boxes are great for storing ingredients.


                                                                With these 30 camping tips and tricks, you can work DIY magic into nearly every aspect of camping, and make your next camping trip a comfortable, easy blast. Good luck!

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