20 Heavenly Desserts Recipes For This Fall

20 Heavenly Desserts Recipes For This Fall

Fall is such a glorious time of year. I find with the crispness of the mornings, the warm daylight, and the cool evenings, it puts me in a mood to bake. The smell of homemade breads,cookies, and pies is one of my favorite things in the Fall season.  Some of these are super easy but so delicious. Here are some of my most-liked recipes for you to enjoy!

1. Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookies


    • 1 cup canned pumpkin
    • 1 cup white sugar
    • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
    • 1 egg
    • 2 cups all-purpose flour
    • 2 teaspoons baking powder
    • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
    • 1/2 teaspoon salt
    • 1 teaspoon baking soda
    • 1 teaspoon milk
    • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract
    • 2 cups semisweet chocolate chips
    • 1/2 cup chopped walnuts(optional)
    1. Combine pumpkin, sugar, vegetable oil, and egg. In a separate bowl, stir together flour, baking powder, ground cinnamon, and salt. Dissolve the baking soda with the milk and stir in. Add flour mixture to pumpkin mixture and mix well.
    2. Add vanilla, chocolate chips and nuts.
    3. Drop by spoonful on greased cookie sheet and bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for approximately 10 minutes or until lightly brown and firm.

    2. Banana Crumb Muffins


      •  1/2 cups all-purpose flour
      • 1 teaspoon baking soda
      • 1 teaspoon baking powder
      • 1/2 teaspoon salt
      • 3 bananas, mashed
      • 3/4 cup white sugar
      • 1 egg, lightly beaten
      • 1/3 cup butter, melted
      • 1/3 cup packed brown sugar
      • 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
      • 1/8 teaspoon ground cinnamon
      • 1 tablespoon butter
      1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Lightly grease 10 muffin cups, or line with muffin papers.
      2. In a large bowl, mix together 1 1/2 cups flour, baking soda, baking powder and salt. In another bowl, beat together bananas, sugar, egg and melted butter. Stir the banana mixture into the flour mixture just until moistened. Spoon batter into prepared muffin cups.
      3. In a small bowl, mix together brown sugar, 2 tablespoons flour and cinnamon. Cut in 1 tablespoon butter until mixture resembles coarse cornmeal. Sprinkle topping over muffins.
      4. Bake in preheated oven for 18 to 20 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into center of a muffin comes out clean.

      3. Double Layer Pumpkin Cheesecake



        • 2 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened
        • 1/2 cup white sugar
        • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
        • 2 eggs
        • 1 (9 inch) prepared graham cracker crust
        • 1/2 cup pumpkin puree
        • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
        • 1 pinch ground cloves
        • 1 pinch ground nutmeg
        • 1/2 cup frozen whipped topping, thawed
        1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C).
        2. In a large bowl, combine cream cheese, sugar and vanilla. Beat until smooth. Blend in eggs one at a time. Remove 1 cup of batter and spread into bottom of crust; set aside.
        3. Add pumpkin, cinnamon, cloves and nutmeg to the remaining batter and stir gently until well blended. Carefully spread over the batter in the crust.
        4. Bake in preheated oven for 35 to 40 minutes, or until center is almost set. Allow to cool, then refrigerate for 3 hours or overnight. Cover with whipped topping before serving.

        4. Carrot Cake

          • 3/4 cup buttermilk
          • 3 eggs
          • 3/4 cup vegetable oil
          • 1 1/2 cups white sugar
          • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
          • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
          • 1/4 teaspoon salt
          • 2 cups all-purpose flour
          • 2 teaspoons baking soda
          • 2 cups shredded carrots
          • 1 cup flaked coconut
          • 1 cup chopped walnuts
          • 1 (8 ounce) can crushed pineapple with juice
          • 1 cup raisins
          1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour an 8×12 inch pan.
          2. In a medium bowl, sift together flour, baking soda, salt and cinnamon. Set aside.
          3. In a large bowl, combine eggs, buttermilk, oil, sugar and vanilla. Mix well. Add flour mixture and mix well.
          4. In a medium bowl, combine shredded carrots, coconut, walnuts, pineapple and raisins.
          5. Using a large wooden spoon or a very heavy whisk, add carrot mixture to batter and fold in well.
          6. Pour into prepared 8×12 inch pan, and bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 1 hour. Check with a toothpick.
          7. Allow to cool for at least 20 minutes before serving.

           5. Dessert Nachos

            Ingredients –  makes 4 servings
            • 1/3 cup peanut butter
            • 2 tablespoons confectioners’ sugar
            • 1/2 cup chocolate chips
            • 2 1/2 cups mini round corn tortilla chips
            • 1/4 cup miniature marshmallows
            • 1/4 cup sweetened flaked coconut
            1. Preheat your oven’s broiler.
            2. Combine the peanut butter and confectioners’ sugar in a microwave-safe bowl. Heat the mixture until the peanut butter melts, about 1 minute. Place the chocolate chips in a separate microwave-safe bowl; melt the chips in the microwave, about 1 minute.
            3. Arrange the tortilla chips into an even layer on a baking sheet. Drizzle the peanut butter mixture and the melted chocolate over the chips. Scatter the marshmallows and coconut over the chips.
            4. Place under preheated broiler until the marshmallows begin to brown, 2 to 3 minutes. Serve hot.

            6. Apple Enchilada Dessert

              • 1 (21 ounce) can apple pie filling
              • 6 (8 inch) flour tortillas
              • teaspoon ground cinnamon
              • 1/3 cup margarine
              • 1/2 cup white sugar
              • 1/2 cup packed brown sugar
              • 1/2 cup water
              1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
              2. Spoon fruit evenly onto all tortillas, sprinkle with cinnamon. Roll up tortillas and place seam side down on lightly greased 8×8 baking pan.
              3. Bring margarine, sugars and water to a boil in a medium sauce pan. Reduce heat and simmer, stirring constantly for 3 minutes.
              4. Pour sauce evenly over tortillas; sprinkle with extra cinnamon on top if desired. Bake in preheated oven for 20 minutes.
              5. Makes 6 large tortillas; may be cut in half to serve 12.

              7. Apple and Pumpkin Dessert

                Ingredients – Makes one serving
                • 2 (1 gram) packets sugar or substitute
                • 1 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice
                • Granny Smith apple – peeled, cored and chopped
                • 1/4 cup canned pumpkin
                • 2 tablespoons water
                1. Sprinkle 1/3 packet of sugar or  substitute and 1/3 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice in the bottom of a microwave-safe bowl. Layer 1/4 of the apple pieces into the bowl; repeat. Spread the pumpkin over the apples. Sprinkle the remaining sugar substitute and pumpkin pie spice on the pumpkin. Top with the remaining apples. Pour the water over the mixture.
                2. Cook in microwave on high for 3 1/2 minutes, stirring every minute.

                8. Apple Strudel Dessert

                  Ingredients –  makes 6 servings
                  • 2 (8 ounce) packagesrefrigerated crescent roll dough
                  • 1 (21 ounce) can apple pie filling
                  • 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                  1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Grease a 9 inch round pan.
                  2. Using a slotted spoon, place about 1 tablespoon pie filling near the large end of a crescent roll dough triangle. Roll up the triangle. Repeat with remaining dough. Place rolls in prepared pan with points toward the center. Top with remaining pie filling. Sprinkle with cinnamon.
                  3. Bake in preheated oven 30 minutes, until browned

                  9. Pumpkin Chocolate Dessert Cake

                    • 2 2/3 cups all-purpose flour
                    • 2/3 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
                    • 1 1/2 tablespoons pumpkin pie spice
                    • 2 teaspoons baking powder
                    • 1 teaspoon baking soda
                    • 3/4 cup butter
                    • 2 cups white sugar
                    • 1/3 cup applesauce
                    • 3 eggs, beaten
                    • 1/2 cup heavy cream
                    • 1 (15 ounce) can pumpkin
                    • 1 cup brown sugar
                    • 1/2 cup butter
                    • 1/3 cup heavy cream
                    • 1 cup confectioners’ sugar
                    1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Lightly grease a 9 inch Bundt pan.
                    2. In a medium bowl, mix the flour, cocoa powder, pumpkin pie spice, baking powder and baking soda. In a large bowl, beat together 3/4 cup butter, 2 cups sugar, applesauce, and eggs. Mix in 1/2 cup heavy cream and pumpkin. Stir into the flour mixture just until blended. Spread evenly in the prepared pan.
                    3. Bake 40 minutes in the preheated oven, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean. Allow to cool in the pan over a wire rack. Invert cake onto a serving plate.
                    4. Place the brown sugar, 1/2 cup butter, and 1/3 cup heavy cream in a medium saucepan. Bring to a boil while stirring to blend until smooth. Cook until sugar is dissolved. Whisk in the confectioner’s sugar, and drizzle over the cake immediately.

                    10. Heavenly “Apple of My Thigh” Dessert

                      • 1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, at room temperature
                      • 1/4 cup white sugar
                      • 3/4 cup caramel ice cream topping
                      • 3 (1.4 ounce) bars chocolate covered English toffee, chopped
                      • 5 green apples, cored and sliced
                      1. Mix together the cream cheese, sugar and 1/4 cup of the caramel sauce in a medium bowl. Spread onto a serving tray or a plate.
                      2. Drizzle the remaining caramel sauce over the top and sprinkle with pieces of chocolate covered toffee.
                      3. Refrigerate for 30 minutes, then serve with apple slices.

                      11. Autumn Cheesecake

                        • 1 cup graham cracker crumbs
                        • 1/2 cup finely chopped pecans
                        • 3 tablespoons white sugar
                        • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                        • 1/4 cup unsalted butter, melted
                        • 2 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened
                        • 1/2 cup white sugar
                        • 2 eggs
                        • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
                        • 4 cups apples – peeled, cored and thinly sliced
                        • 1/3 cup white sugar
                        • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                        • 1/4 cup chopped pecans
                        1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). In a large bowl, stir together the graham cracker crumbs, 1/2 cup finely chopped pecans, 3 tablespoons sugar, 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon and melted butter; press into the bottom of a 9 inch springform pan. Bake in preheated oven for 10 minutes.
                        2. In a large bowl, combine cream cheese and 1/2 cup sugar. Mix at medium speed until smooth. Beat in eggs one at a time, mixing well after each addition. Blend in vanilla; pour filling into the baked crust.
                        3. In a small bowl, stir together 1/3 cup sugar and 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon. Toss the cinnamon-sugar with the apples to coat. Spoon apple mixture over cream cheese layer and sprinkle with 1/4 cup chopped pecans.
                        4. Bake in preheated oven for 60 to 70 minutes. With a knife, loosen cake from rim of pan. Let cool, then remove the rim of pan. Chill cake before serving

                        12. Apple Crisp with Oat Topping

                          • 6 apples – peeled, cored, and sliced
                          • 2 tablespoons white sugar
                          • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                          • 1 cup brown sugar
                          • 3/4 cup old-fashioned oats
                          • 3/4 cup all-purpose flour
                          • 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                          • 1/2 cup cold butter
                          1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
                          2. Toss apples with white sugar and 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon in a medium bowl to coat; pour into a 9-inch square baking dish.
                          3. Mix brown sugar, oats, flour, and 1 teaspoon cinnamon in a separate bowl. Use a pastry cutter or 2 forks to mash cold butter into the oats mixture until the mixture resembles coarse crumbs; spread over the apples to the edges of the baking dish. Pat the topping gently until even.
                          4. Bake in preheated oven until golden brown and sides are bubbling, about 40 minutes.

                          13. Pumpkin Ginger Cupcakes

                            • 2 cups all-purpose flour
                            • 1 (3.4 ounce) package instant butterscotch pudding mix
                            • 2 teaspoons baking soda
                            • 1/4 teaspoon salt
                            • 1 tablespoon ground cinnamon
                            • 1/2 teaspoon ground ginger
                            • 1/2 teaspoon ground allspice
                            • 1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
                            • 1/3 cup finely chopped crystallized ginger
                            • 1 cup butter, room temperature
                            • 1 cup white sugar
                            • 1 cup packed brown sugar
                            • 4 eggs
                            • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
                            • 1 (15 ounce) can pumpkin puree
                            1. Preheat an oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease 24 muffin cups, or line with paper muffin liners. Whisk together the flour, pudding mix, baking soda, salt, cinnamon, ground ginger, allspice, cloves, and crystallized ginger in a bowl; set aside.
                            2. Beat the butter, white sugar, and brown sugar with an electric mixer in a large bowl until light and fluffy. The mixture should be noticeably lighter in color. Add the room-temperature eggs one at a time, allowing each egg to blend into the butter mixture before adding the next. Beat in the vanilla and pumpkin puree with the last egg. Stir in the flour mixture, mixing until just incorporated. Pour the batter into the prepared muffin cups.
                            3. Bake in the preheated oven until golden and the tops spring back when lightly pressed, about 20 minutes. Cool in the pans for 10 minutes before removing to cool completely on a wire rack.

                            14. Big, Soft Ginger Cookies

                              • 2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
                              • 2 teaspoons ground ginger
                              • 1 teaspoon baking soda
                              • 3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                              • 1/2 teaspoon ground cloves
                              • 1/4 teaspoon salt
                              • 3/4 cup margarine, softened
                              • 1 cup white sugar
                              • 1 egg
                              • 1 tablespoon water
                              • 1/4 cup molasses
                              • 2 tablespoons white sugar
                              1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Sift together the flour, ginger, baking soda, cinnamon, cloves, and salt. Set aside.
                              2. In a large bowl, cream together the margarine and 1 cup sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in the egg, then stir in the water and molasses. Gradually stir the sifted ingredients into the molasses mixture. Shape dough into walnut sized balls, and roll them in the remaining 2 tablespoons of sugar. Place the cookies 2 inches apart onto an ungreased cookie sheet, and flatten slightly.
                              3. Bake for 8 to 10 minutes in the preheated oven. Allow cookies to cool on baking sheet for 5 minutes before removing to a wire rack to cool completely. Store in an airtight container

                              15. Creamy Rice Pudding

                                • 3/4 cup uncooked white rice
                                • 2 cups milk, divided
                                • 1/3 cup white sugar
                                • 1/4 teaspoon salt
                                • 1 egg, beaten
                                • 2/3 cup golden raisins
                                • 1 tablespoon butter
                                • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
                                1. Bring 1 1/2 cups water to a boil in a saucepan; stir rice into boiling water. Reduce heat to low, cover, and simmer for 20 minutes.
                                2. In a clean saucepan, combine 1 1/2 cups cooked rice, 1 1/2 cups milk, sugar and salt. Cook over medium heat until thick and creamy, 15 to 20 minutes. Stir in remaining 1/2 cup milk, beaten egg, and raisins; cook 2 minutes more, stirring constantly. Remove from heat and stir in butter and vanilla.

                                16. Country Apple Dumplings

                                  • 2 (10 ounce) cans refrigerated crescent roll dough
                                  • 2 large Granny Smith apples, peeled and cored
                                  • 1 cup butter
                                  • 1 1/2 cups white sugar
                                  • 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                                  • 1 (12 fluid ounce) can or bottle Mountain Dew ™
                                  1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9×13 inch baking dish.
                                  2. Cut each apple into 8 wedges and set aside. Separate the crescent roll dough into triangles. Roll each apple wedge in crescent roll dough starting at the smallest end. Pinch to seal and place in the baking dish.
                                  3. Melt butter in a small saucepan and stir in the sugar and cinnamon. Pour over the apple dumplings. Pour Mountain Dew™ over the dumplings.
                                  4. Bake for 35 to 45 minutes in the preheated oven, or until golden brown.

                                  17. Sweet Potato Pie

                                  • 1 (1 pound) sweet potato
                                  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
                                  • 1 cup white sugar
                                  • 1/2 cup milk
                                  • 2 eggs
                                  • 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
                                  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
                                  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
                                  • 1 (9 inch) unbaked pie crust
                                  1. Boil sweet potato whole in skin for 40 to 50 minutes, or until done. Run cold water over the sweet potato, and remove the skin.
                                  2. Break apart sweet potato in a bowl. Add butter, and mix well with mixer. Stir in sugar, milk, eggs, nutmeg, cinnamon and vanilla. Beat on medium speed until mixture is smooth. Pour filling into an unbaked pie crust.
                                  3. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 55 to 60 minutes, or until knife inserted in center comes out clean. Pie will puff up like a souffle, and then will sink down as it cools.

                                  18. Raspberry and Almond Shortbread Thumbprints

                                    • 1 cup butter, softened
                                    • 2/3 cup white sugar
                                    • 1/2 teaspoon almond extract
                                    • 2 cups all-purpose flour
                                    • 1/2 cup seedless raspberry jam
                                    • 1/2 cup confectioners’ sugar
                                    • 3/4 teaspoon almond extract
                                    • 1 teaspoon milk
                                    1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
                                    2. In a medium bowl, cream together butter and white sugar until smooth. Mix in 1/2 teaspoon almond extract. Mix in flour until dough comes together. Roll dough into 1 1/2 inch balls, and place on ungreased cookie sheets. Make a small hole in the center of each ball, using your thumb and finger, and fill the hole with preserves.
                                    3. Bake for 14 to 18 minutes in preheated oven, or until lightly browned. Let cool 1 minute on the cookie sheet.
                                    4. In a medium bowl, mix together the confectioners’ sugar, 3/4 teaspoon almond extract, and milk until smooth. Drizzle lightly over warm cookies.

                                    19. No Bake Cookies

                                    • 2 cups white sugar
                                    • 3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
                                    • 1/2 cup margarine
                                    • 1/2 cup milk
                                    • 1 pinch salt
                                    • 3 cups quick cooking oats
                                    • 1/2 cup peanut butter
                                    • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
                                    1. In a saucepan bring sugar, cocoa, margarine, milk, and salt to a rapid boil for 1 minute.
                                    2. Add quick cooking oats, peanut butter, and vanilla; mix well.
                                    3. Working quickly, drop by teaspoonfuls onto waxed paper, and let cool.

                                    20. Golden Rum Cake

                                    • 1 cup chopped walnuts
                                    • 1 (18.25 ounce) package yellow cake mix
                                    • 1 (3.4 ounce) package instant vanilla pudding mix
                                    • 4 eggs
                                    • 1/2 cup water
                                    • 1/2 cup vegetable oil
                                    • 1/2 cup dark rum
                                    • 1/2 cup butter
                                    • 1/4 cup water
                                    • 1 cup white sugar
                                    • 1/2 cup dark rum
                                    1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Grease and flour a 10 inch Bundt pan. Sprinkle chopped nuts evenly over the bottom of the pan.
                                    2. In a large bowl, combine cake mix and pudding mix. Mix in the eggs, 1/2 cup water, oil and 1/2 cup rum. Blend well. Pour batter over chopped nuts in the pan.
                                    3. Bake in the preheated oven for 60 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the cake comes out clean. Let sit for 10 minutes in the pan, then turn out onto serving plate. Brush glaze over top and sides. Allow cake to absorb glaze and repeat until all glaze is used.
                                    4. To make the glaze: in a saucepan, combine butter, 1/4 cup water and 1 cup sugar. Bring to a boil over medium heat and continue to boil for 5 minutes, stirring constantly. Remove from heat and stir in 1/2 cup rum.

                                    I hope you enjoy trying out some of these recipes from These are some of the best dessert recipes around. I am certainly going to be on my way to the store soon, to buy some apples, because I am now in the mood for the delicious Apple Dumplings! Make sure to let me know which ones are your favorites!

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                                    How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                    How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

                                    When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

                                    Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

                                    1. Learn Something New

                                    Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

                                    Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

                                    2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

                                    This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

                                    3. Hit the Gym

                                    The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

                                    Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

                                    4. Go to a Networking Event

                                    Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

                                    By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

                                    5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

                                    If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

                                    For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

                                    6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

                                    Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

                                    I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

                                    7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

                                    Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

                                    Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

                                    8. Converse With New People

                                    Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

                                    You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

                                    9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

                                    Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

                                    10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

                                    This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

                                    Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

                                    11. Give Yourself Good Advice

                                    Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

                                    Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

                                    This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

                                    12. Ask Someone on a Date

                                    If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.


                                    Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

                                    13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

                                    Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

                                    I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

                                    14. Stop Playing Different Roles

                                    Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

                                    Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

                                    If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

                                    15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

                                    Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

                                    Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

                                      Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

                                      16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

                                      Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

                                      For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

                                      You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

                                      17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

                                      Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

                                      If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

                                      • What would make this easier?
                                      • Is there a different way of doing this?
                                      • Could research help?

                                      18. Laugh at Yourself

                                      Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

                                      Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

                                      19. Listen to Your Doubts

                                      Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

                                      The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

                                      To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

                                      20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

                                      Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

                                      21. Tear up Your Rule Book

                                      You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

                                      It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

                                      22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

                                      Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

                                      Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.


                                      Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

                                      23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

                                      If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

                                      Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

                                      Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

                                      24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

                                      Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

                                      Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

                                      By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

                                      25. Be Your Own Hero

                                      Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

                                      We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

                                      Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

                                      26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

                                      If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

                                      However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

                                      27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

                                      Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

                                      If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

                                      28. Admit You’re Wrong

                                      It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

                                      You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

                                      29. Trust Your Instincts

                                      We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

                                      30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

                                      Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

                                      They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

                                      Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

                                      31. Ask for Help

                                      This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

                                      The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

                                      32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

                                      Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

                                      At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.


                                      33. Participate in the World Around You

                                      Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

                                      Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

                                      34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

                                      What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

                                      If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

                                      Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

                                      35. Act Until You Make It

                                      The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

                                      This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

                                      Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

                                      36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

                                      Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

                                      37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

                                      Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

                                      Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

                                      You can get started with this guide.

                                      38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

                                      Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

                                      Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

                                      Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

                                      39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

                                      If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

                                      Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

                                      40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

                                      There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

                                      If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

                                      41. Clean up Your Environment

                                      Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

                                      42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

                                      Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

                                      Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

                                      Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

                                      43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

                                      Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.


                                      While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

                                      For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

                                      However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

                                      If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

                                      44. Use Your Strengths

                                      We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

                                      For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

                                      45. Complete a To-Do List

                                      The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

                                      If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

                                      46. Treat Your Body Well

                                      When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

                                      What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

                                      If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

                                      47. Learn to Say No

                                      Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

                                      While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

                                      48. Learn From Confident People

                                      Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

                                      People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

                                      49. Follow Through on Your Plans

                                      Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

                                      If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

                                      50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

                                      When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

                                      I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

                                      51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

                                      Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

                                      The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

                                      Final Thoughts

                                      Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

                                      It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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