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3 Simple Ways To Try This Year To Become Happier And Mentally Stronger

3 Simple Ways To Try This Year To Become Happier And Mentally Stronger

Were you frustrated, upset, sad, and discouraged by 2016? All of the above? Most people have resolved to make 2017 a better year and, if you’re reading this, then you probably want to have a better year too. Whether it’s our health, we’d like to improve our mental and emotional fortitude or our mood in general. Most of us have something we’d like to improve this year. Luckily, none of this has to be difficult. Here are 3 ways you can put this into action right now that will help you become happier and stronger.

Review and analyze your day each night before you go to sleep.

Many of us find ourselves[1] thinking and worrying about the future before bed; many actually lose sleep over it! Try thinking instead about your day. What happened during the day? How do you feel about the situations that arose? Are you happy about how you handled them or do you feel like you could have done better? What might you do differently in a similar situation. This exercise isn’t meant to be stressful. In fact, it should have the very opposite effect. Do it every night and watch how your daily perspective shifts to become more positive and proactive.

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Don’t worry too much about gains you’ll make in the future.

The human brain is designed for immediate rewards, and not so much possible long-term benefits.[2] We can use this evolutionary programming to reduce our anxiety, and increase our daily happiness. Focus on the small, every-day successes to motivate yourself, rather than worrying about what you’ll receive in the future. For example, a nursing student shouldn’t worry constantly about finals at the beginning of the year. They should focus on daily quizzes, studying, and success with practicals. Not only will focusing on these smaller steps bring the student a sense of accomplishment, it will prepare them for the distant finals.

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Just say no.

We as human beings often have a very hard time saying no to anything or anybody. It’s difficult to break this habit and it will take practice but it will be well worth it. Think of any major successful person. Do you think they got to where they are in life by saying yes to everything? Probably not. People who run businesses or who have become successful in other ways have learned the important art of refusal. It’s important to remember that telling someone “no” isn’t rude or mean; try not to worry so much about offending people. Remember that your time and energy is just as valuable as anyone else’s. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t help your mom with her shopping, but it does mean you should have the power to choose the things you do. Make your life simpler and try saying no to everything by default with few exceptions. You’ll find that you have more time on your hands and you’ll be less stressed in general.

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Our problems in life are usually way simpler than we make them out to be. Find ways to change your perspectives and attitudes about life and you’ll find yourself becoming a happier and stronger person every day. Remember when you try the three suggestions above that making a practice work requires making it into a habit. They may seem like small changes, but they may have profound effects on your life. Make these three good habits part of your daily routine and make this year your best yet! Share this article with your friends and help them have a great year!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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