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3 Simple Ways To Try This Year To Become Happier And Mentally Stronger

3 Simple Ways To Try This Year To Become Happier And Mentally Stronger

Were you frustrated, upset, sad, and discouraged by 2016? All of the above? Most people have resolved to make 2017 a better year and, if you’re reading this, then you probably want to have a better year too. Whether it’s our health, we’d like to improve our mental and emotional fortitude or our mood in general. Most of us have something we’d like to improve this year. Luckily, none of this has to be difficult. Here are 3 ways you can put this into action right now that will help you become happier and stronger.

Review and analyze your day each night before you go to sleep.

Many of us find ourselves[1] thinking and worrying about the future before bed; many actually lose sleep over it! Try thinking instead about your day. What happened during the day? How do you feel about the situations that arose? Are you happy about how you handled them or do you feel like you could have done better? What might you do differently in a similar situation. This exercise isn’t meant to be stressful. In fact, it should have the very opposite effect. Do it every night and watch how your daily perspective shifts to become more positive and proactive.

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Don’t worry too much about gains you’ll make in the future.

The human brain is designed for immediate rewards, and not so much possible long-term benefits.[2] We can use this evolutionary programming to reduce our anxiety, and increase our daily happiness. Focus on the small, every-day successes to motivate yourself, rather than worrying about what you’ll receive in the future. For example, a nursing student shouldn’t worry constantly about finals at the beginning of the year. They should focus on daily quizzes, studying, and success with practicals. Not only will focusing on these smaller steps bring the student a sense of accomplishment, it will prepare them for the distant finals.

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Just say no.

We as human beings often have a very hard time saying no to anything or anybody. It’s difficult to break this habit and it will take practice but it will be well worth it. Think of any major successful person. Do you think they got to where they are in life by saying yes to everything? Probably not. People who run businesses or who have become successful in other ways have learned the important art of refusal. It’s important to remember that telling someone “no” isn’t rude or mean; try not to worry so much about offending people. Remember that your time and energy is just as valuable as anyone else’s. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t help your mom with her shopping, but it does mean you should have the power to choose the things you do. Make your life simpler and try saying no to everything by default with few exceptions. You’ll find that you have more time on your hands and you’ll be less stressed in general.

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Our problems in life are usually way simpler than we make them out to be. Find ways to change your perspectives and attitudes about life and you’ll find yourself becoming a happier and stronger person every day. Remember when you try the three suggestions above that making a practice work requires making it into a habit. They may seem like small changes, but they may have profound effects on your life. Make these three good habits part of your daily routine and make this year your best yet! Share this article with your friends and help them have a great year!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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