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15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

For many years, women were struggling to juggle careers and motherhood. Now, the tides seem to be turning, and more and more women are becoming stay-at-home moms. While many don’t see this as a career, don’t let anyone fool you into thinking that this isn’t a full-time job. There is so much that you must do, and you are also going through a lot of emotional issues at the same time. Here are 15 of the struggles that only other stay-at-home moms are going to understand.

1. You’re more than just a mom

No matter what anyone thinks or says, you are a lot more than just a mom. You are a doctor, a psychiatrist, a mediator, a handy woman, a caregiver, an errand runner, and a whole lot more.

2. You have a rolling office

Your office space is now your vehicle. You will do everything from take kids to school, activities, and play dates to running errands and taking care of other motherly duties.

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3. You can multitask

No business professional is ever going to have multitasking skills as great as yours. You are likely cleaning messes, feeding kids, fixing toys, and many other things, all at the same time.

4. Your bosses are cute

Even though your bosses are demanding, they are the cutest little bosses you will ever have in your life.

5. You can’t slack on the job

If you slack off on your duties as a mom, the kids are going to let you know about it pretty quick. There really is no rest for the wicked, or in this case, no rest for a mom.

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6. You are real

You may not be a hot movie mom, but you are a real mom. Love your body as it is.

7. You won’t be promoted

This isn’t a job where you will be in line for a promotion. But, you know what? This is the best job you are ever going to have, and as Mom, you have the highest position anyway.

8. You understand workspace politics

You may not be at a traditional job, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be involved in workspace politics. You will often be called on to play mediator when your kids are fighting.

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9. Your bosses are demanding

You may not work for pay, but don’t think your bosses (your kids) aren’t going to be as demanding, or more, than any boss at any company.

10. You know guilt

You may feel guilty about not contributing to the household income, or for not being able to buy your children every single toy or treat that you want. It’s okay. Every mother feels the same guilt.

11. You get no pay bonuses

As a stay-at-home mom, don’t expect to receive monetary bonuses. In fact, there will be only one income, so you will be stretching every dollar as far as it will go.

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12. Your benefits are awesome

You may not make money as a mom, but you do get great benefits. Where else can you work where your employees are going to give you hugs and tell you how much they love you?

13. You have superpowers

You may not think you are anything special, but to your children, you are Wonder Woman, Batgirl, Supergirl, and every other female super hero, all rolled up into one.

14. You don’t go out with the girls

Happy hour for you is an hour alone and the possibility of being able to sit down with a glass of wine.

15. You expect the unexpected

When you have kids, life never runs smoothly. Unexpected expenses, accidents, etc. are always going to be popping up, but you always know how to handle them.

Featured photo credit: Lauren Odell Usher Sharpton via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 28, 2020

How to Overcome Boredom

How to Overcome Boredom

Have you ever been bored? Restless? Fidgety? In need of some inspiration?

I have a theory on boredom. I believe that the rate of boredom has increased alongside the pace of technology.

If you think about it, technology has provided us with mobile phones, laptops, Ipads, device after device – all to ultimately fix one problem: boredom.

What is Boredom?

We have become a global nation that feeds on entertainment. We associate ‘living’ with ‘doing’. People now do not know how to sit still, and we feel guilty when we are not doing anything. Today, inactivity has become the ultimate sin.

You might not realize it, but boredom stimulates a form of anxiety and stress. It evokes an emotional state that creates frustration and feeds procrastination.

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It’s a desire to be ‘doing something’ or to be ‘entertained’ – it’s a desire for sensory stimulation. What it boils down to is a lack of focus.

If you think about those times when you’re bored, it’s usually because you did not know what to do. So, indecision also plays a big part.

When we are focused on what’s important to us and what we want to achieve, it’s pretty hard to be bored. So, one answer to boredom is to become focused on what you want.

Sometimes It’s Good to Be Bored

If boredom is a desire for sensory stimulation – then what’s the opposite of that? To be content with no stimulation – in other words – to enjoy stillness.

Sometimes, it’s not boredom itself that causes the frustration but the resistance to doing nothing.

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Think about it. What would happen if you were to ‘let go’ of the desire to be entertained? You wouldn’t be bored anymore, and you will feel more relaxed!

In my experience, it’s often the most obvious, simplistic solutions that are the most powerful in life. So, when you’re bored, the easiest way to combat this is to enjoy it.

It may sound weird but think of ‘boredom’ as a form of ‘relaxation’. It’s a break from the constant stimulation that 21st-century living provides – constant TVs, mobile phones, radios, internet, emails, phone calls, etc.

Who knows, maybe ‘boredom’ is actually good for us?

Next time you’re ‘feeling bored’ instead of feeding the frustration by frantically looking for something to do, maybe you can sit back, relax, and savor the feeling of having nothing to do.

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In this article, I’ll share with you my 3-step strategy on how to overcome boredom.

3-Step Strategy to Overcome Boredom

1. Get Focused

Instead of chasing sensory stimulation at random, focus on what’s really important to you. Focusing on something important helps prevent boredom because it forces you to utilize your time productively.

You should ask yourself: what would make good use of your time? What could you be doing that would contribute to your major goals in life?

Here are a few ideas:

  • Spend some time in quiet contemplation considering what’s important to you.
  • Start that creative project you’ve been talking about for the last few weeks.
  • Brainstorm: think of some ideas for new innovative products or businesses.

2. Kill Procrastination

Boredom is useful in some ways because it gives you the energy and time to do things. It is only a problem if you let it. But if you use it to motivate yourself to be productive, then you can more easily overcome boredom.

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So, the next time you’re bored, why not put this good energy to use by ticking off those things that you have been meaning to get done but have been too busy to finish? This also presents a great time for you to clear your to-do list.

Here are some ideas:

  • Do some exercise.
  • Read a book.
  • Learn something new.
  • Call a friend.
  • Get creative (draw, paint, sculpt, create music, write).
  • Do a spring cleaning.
  • Wash the car.
  • Renovate the house.
  • Re-arrange the furniture.
  • Write your shopping list.
  • Water the plants.
  • Walk the dog.
  • Sort out your mail & email.
  • De-clutter (clear out that wardrobe).

3. Enjoy Boredom

If none of the above solutions work, then you can try a different approach. Don’t give in to boredom and instead choose to enjoy it. This doesn’t mean allowing yourself to waste your time being bored. Instead, think of it as your time to relax and re-energize, which will help you be more productive the next time you work.

Contrary to popular belief, we don’t need to be constantly doing things to be productive. In fact, research has shown that people are more productive when they take periods of rest to recharge.[1] Taking breaks once in a while helps boost your performance and can help make you feel more motivated.

So, take some time to relax. You never know, you might even like it.

Final Thoughts

Learning how to overcome boredom may be difficult at the beginning, but it can be easier if you make use of some techniques. You can start with my 3-step strategy on how to overcome boredom and work your way from there. So, ready your mind and make use of these tips, and you will be overcoming boredom in no time.

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