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15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

For many years, women were struggling to juggle careers and motherhood. Now, the tides seem to be turning, and more and more women are becoming stay-at-home moms. While many don’t see this as a career, don’t let anyone fool you into thinking that this isn’t a full-time job. There is so much that you must do, and you are also going through a lot of emotional issues at the same time. Here are 15 of the struggles that only other stay-at-home moms are going to understand.

1. You’re more than just a mom

No matter what anyone thinks or says, you are a lot more than just a mom. You are a doctor, a psychiatrist, a mediator, a handy woman, a caregiver, an errand runner, and a whole lot more.

2. You have a rolling office

Your office space is now your vehicle. You will do everything from take kids to school, activities, and play dates to running errands and taking care of other motherly duties.

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3. You can multitask

No business professional is ever going to have multitasking skills as great as yours. You are likely cleaning messes, feeding kids, fixing toys, and many other things, all at the same time.

4. Your bosses are cute

Even though your bosses are demanding, they are the cutest little bosses you will ever have in your life.

5. You can’t slack on the job

If you slack off on your duties as a mom, the kids are going to let you know about it pretty quick. There really is no rest for the wicked, or in this case, no rest for a mom.

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6. You are real

You may not be a hot movie mom, but you are a real mom. Love your body as it is.

7. You won’t be promoted

This isn’t a job where you will be in line for a promotion. But, you know what? This is the best job you are ever going to have, and as Mom, you have the highest position anyway.

8. You understand workspace politics

You may not be at a traditional job, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be involved in workspace politics. You will often be called on to play mediator when your kids are fighting.

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9. Your bosses are demanding

You may not work for pay, but don’t think your bosses (your kids) aren’t going to be as demanding, or more, than any boss at any company.

10. You know guilt

You may feel guilty about not contributing to the household income, or for not being able to buy your children every single toy or treat that you want. It’s okay. Every mother feels the same guilt.

11. You get no pay bonuses

As a stay-at-home mom, don’t expect to receive monetary bonuses. In fact, there will be only one income, so you will be stretching every dollar as far as it will go.

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12. Your benefits are awesome

You may not make money as a mom, but you do get great benefits. Where else can you work where your employees are going to give you hugs and tell you how much they love you?

13. You have superpowers

You may not think you are anything special, but to your children, you are Wonder Woman, Batgirl, Supergirl, and every other female super hero, all rolled up into one.

14. You don’t go out with the girls

Happy hour for you is an hour alone and the possibility of being able to sit down with a glass of wine.

15. You expect the unexpected

When you have kids, life never runs smoothly. Unexpected expenses, accidents, etc. are always going to be popping up, but you always know how to handle them.

Featured photo credit: Lauren Odell Usher Sharpton via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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