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15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

For many years, women were struggling to juggle careers and motherhood. Now, the tides seem to be turning, and more and more women are becoming stay-at-home moms. While many don’t see this as a career, don’t let anyone fool you into thinking that this isn’t a full-time job. There is so much that you must do, and you are also going through a lot of emotional issues at the same time. Here are 15 of the struggles that only other stay-at-home moms are going to understand.

1. You’re more than just a mom

No matter what anyone thinks or says, you are a lot more than just a mom. You are a doctor, a psychiatrist, a mediator, a handy woman, a caregiver, an errand runner, and a whole lot more.

2. You have a rolling office

Your office space is now your vehicle. You will do everything from take kids to school, activities, and play dates to running errands and taking care of other motherly duties.

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3. You can multitask

No business professional is ever going to have multitasking skills as great as yours. You are likely cleaning messes, feeding kids, fixing toys, and many other things, all at the same time.

4. Your bosses are cute

Even though your bosses are demanding, they are the cutest little bosses you will ever have in your life.

5. You can’t slack on the job

If you slack off on your duties as a mom, the kids are going to let you know about it pretty quick. There really is no rest for the wicked, or in this case, no rest for a mom.

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6. You are real

You may not be a hot movie mom, but you are a real mom. Love your body as it is.

7. You won’t be promoted

This isn’t a job where you will be in line for a promotion. But, you know what? This is the best job you are ever going to have, and as Mom, you have the highest position anyway.

8. You understand workspace politics

You may not be at a traditional job, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be involved in workspace politics. You will often be called on to play mediator when your kids are fighting.

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9. Your bosses are demanding

You may not work for pay, but don’t think your bosses (your kids) aren’t going to be as demanding, or more, than any boss at any company.

10. You know guilt

You may feel guilty about not contributing to the household income, or for not being able to buy your children every single toy or treat that you want. It’s okay. Every mother feels the same guilt.

11. You get no pay bonuses

As a stay-at-home mom, don’t expect to receive monetary bonuses. In fact, there will be only one income, so you will be stretching every dollar as far as it will go.

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12. Your benefits are awesome

You may not make money as a mom, but you do get great benefits. Where else can you work where your employees are going to give you hugs and tell you how much they love you?

13. You have superpowers

You may not think you are anything special, but to your children, you are Wonder Woman, Batgirl, Supergirl, and every other female super hero, all rolled up into one.

14. You don’t go out with the girls

Happy hour for you is an hour alone and the possibility of being able to sit down with a glass of wine.

15. You expect the unexpected

When you have kids, life never runs smoothly. Unexpected expenses, accidents, etc. are always going to be popping up, but you always know how to handle them.

Featured photo credit: Lauren Odell Usher Sharpton via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 20, 2018

10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

A new year beautifully symbolizes a new chapter opening in the book that is your life. But while so many people like you aspire to achieve ambitious goals, only 12% of you will ever experience the taste of victory. Sound bad? It is. 156 million people (that’s 156,000,000) will probably give up on their resolution before you can say “confetti.” Keep on reading to learn why New Year’s resolutions fail (and how to succeed).

Note: Since losing weight is the most common New Year’s resolution, I chose to focus on weight loss (but these principles can be applied to just about any goal you think of — make it work for you!).

1. You’re treating a marathon like a sprint.

Slow and steady habit change might not be sexy, but it’s a lot more effective than the “I want it ALL and I want it NOW!” mentality. Small changes stick better because they aren’t intimidating (if you do it right, you’ll barely even notice them!).

If you have a lot of bad habits today, the last thing you need to do is remodel your entire life overnight. Want to lose weight? Stop it with the crash diets and excessive exercise plans. Instead of following a super restrictive plan that bans anything fun, add one positive habit per week. For example, you could start with something easy like drinking more water during your first week. The following week, you could move on to eating 3 fruits and veggies every day. And the next week, you could aim to eat a fistful of protein at every meal.

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2. You put the cart before the horse.

“Supplementing” a crappy diet is stupid, so don’t even think about it. Focus on the actions that produce the overwhelming amount of results. If it’s not important, don’t worry about it.

3. You don’t believe in yourself.

A failure to act can cripple you before you leave the starting line. If you’ve tried (and failed) to set a New Year’s resolution (or several) in the past, I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist personal growth with every ounce of its being. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Who cares if you’ve failed a time or two? This year, you can try again (but better this time).

4. Too much thinking, not enough doing.

The best self-help book in the world can’t save you if you fail to take action. Yes, seek inspiration and knowledge, but only as much as you can realistically apply to your life. If you can put just one thing you learn from every book or article you read into practice, you’ll be on the fast track to success.

5. You’re in too much of a hurry.

If it was quick-and-easy, everybody would do it, so it’s in your best interest to exercise your patience muscles.

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6. You don’t enjoy the process.

Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating as a chore and exercise as a dreadful bore? The best fitness plan is one that causes the least interruption to your daily life. The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.

The best of us couldn’t bring ourselves to do something we hate consistently, so make getting in shape fun, however you’ve gotta do it. That could be participating in a sport you love, exercising with a good friend or two, joining a group exercise class so you can meet new people, or giving yourself one “free day” per week where you forget about your training plan and exercise in any way you please.

7. You’re trying too hard.

Unless you want to experience some nasty cravings, don’t deprive your body of pleasure. The more you tell yourself you can’t have a food, the more you’re going to want it. As long as you’re making positive choices 80-90% of the time, don’t sweat the occasional indulgence.

8. You don’t track your progress.

Keeping a written record of your training progress will help you sustain an “I CAN do this” attitude. All you need is a notebook and a pen. For every workout, record what exercises you do, the number of repetitions performed, and how much weight you used if applicable. Your goal? Do better next time. Improving your best performance on a regular basis offers positive feedback that will encourage you to keep going.

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9. You have no social support.

It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. The good news? You’re not alone: far from it. Post a status on Facebook asking your friends if anybody would like to be your gym or accountability buddy. If you know a co-worker who shares your goal, try to coordinate your lunch time and go out together so you’ll be more likely to make positive decisions. Join a support group of like-minded folks on Facebook, LinkedIn, or elsewhere on the internet. Strength in numbers is powerful, so use it to your advantage.

10. You know your what but not your why.

The biggest reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail: you know what you want but you not why you want it.

Yes: you want to get fit, lose weight, or be healthy… but why is your goal important to you? For example:

Do you want to be fit so you can be a positive example that your children can admire and look up to?

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Do you want to lose fat so you’ll feel more confident and sexy in your body than ever before?

Do you want to be healthy so you’ll have increased clarity, energy, and focus that would carry over into every single aspect of your life?

Whether you’re getting in shape because you want to live longer, be a good example, boost your energy, feel confident, have an excuse to buy hot new clothes, or increase your likelihood of getting laid (hey, I’m not here to judge) is up to you. Forget about any preconceived notions and be true to yourself.

  • The more specific you can make your goal,
  • The more vivid it will be in your imagination,
  • The more encouraged you’ll be,
  • The more likely it is you will succeed (because yes, you CAN do this!).

I hope this guide to why New Year’s resolutions fail helps you achieve your goals this year. If you found this helpful, please pass it along to some friends so they can be successful just like you. What do you hope to accomplish next year?

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