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15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

15 Struggles Only A Stay-at-home Mom Understands

For many years, women were struggling to juggle careers and motherhood. Now, the tides seem to be turning, and more and more women are becoming stay-at-home moms. While many don’t see this as a career, don’t let anyone fool you into thinking that this isn’t a full-time job. There is so much that you must do, and you are also going through a lot of emotional issues at the same time. Here are 15 of the struggles that only other stay-at-home moms are going to understand.

1. You’re more than just a mom

No matter what anyone thinks or says, you are a lot more than just a mom. You are a doctor, a psychiatrist, a mediator, a handy woman, a caregiver, an errand runner, and a whole lot more.

2. You have a rolling office

Your office space is now your vehicle. You will do everything from take kids to school, activities, and play dates to running errands and taking care of other motherly duties.

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3. You can multitask

No business professional is ever going to have multitasking skills as great as yours. You are likely cleaning messes, feeding kids, fixing toys, and many other things, all at the same time.

4. Your bosses are cute

Even though your bosses are demanding, they are the cutest little bosses you will ever have in your life.

5. You can’t slack on the job

If you slack off on your duties as a mom, the kids are going to let you know about it pretty quick. There really is no rest for the wicked, or in this case, no rest for a mom.

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6. You are real

You may not be a hot movie mom, but you are a real mom. Love your body as it is.

7. You won’t be promoted

This isn’t a job where you will be in line for a promotion. But, you know what? This is the best job you are ever going to have, and as Mom, you have the highest position anyway.

8. You understand workspace politics

You may not be at a traditional job, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be involved in workspace politics. You will often be called on to play mediator when your kids are fighting.

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9. Your bosses are demanding

You may not work for pay, but don’t think your bosses (your kids) aren’t going to be as demanding, or more, than any boss at any company.

10. You know guilt

You may feel guilty about not contributing to the household income, or for not being able to buy your children every single toy or treat that you want. It’s okay. Every mother feels the same guilt.

11. You get no pay bonuses

As a stay-at-home mom, don’t expect to receive monetary bonuses. In fact, there will be only one income, so you will be stretching every dollar as far as it will go.

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12. Your benefits are awesome

You may not make money as a mom, but you do get great benefits. Where else can you work where your employees are going to give you hugs and tell you how much they love you?

13. You have superpowers

You may not think you are anything special, but to your children, you are Wonder Woman, Batgirl, Supergirl, and every other female super hero, all rolled up into one.

14. You don’t go out with the girls

Happy hour for you is an hour alone and the possibility of being able to sit down with a glass of wine.

15. You expect the unexpected

When you have kids, life never runs smoothly. Unexpected expenses, accidents, etc. are always going to be popping up, but you always know how to handle them.

Featured photo credit: Lauren Odell Usher Sharpton via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 15, 2019

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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