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Last Updated on December 4, 2020

12 Steps to Building the Ideal Life You Dream of

12 Steps to Building the Ideal Life You Dream of

The ideal lifestyle is possible. Everyone can live the way they want… and in fact, they do. Because the way you live now, regardless of whether you like it or not, is what you chose to live like.

And you realize that mostly when you compare yourself to others, or when you do things you don’t want to do (the job you don’t like, different tasks and commitments). It’s when you see the bigger picture and understand this is not the way you want to live that you become aware of the fact that you can actually live better. So then you ask yourself: “What do I want my life to be like?” and “Who do I want to be in it?”.

And that itself is the first step towards your journey to the ideal life. It’s not about perfectionism, not at all. It’s about not having to work something we can’t stand, do things we don’t want, miss opportunities, lack time and sleep and so on.

It’s about enjoying life more, doing what you love, becoming someone you can be proud of, doing things for others and actually spending more time with your loved ones, creating things, giving and sharing… and simply being happy and contented with every day of your life.

1. Define the Ideal Lifestyle

For a start, ask yourself those two questions:

“What do I want my life to be like?” and “Who do I want to be in it?”

Answer them in the best and most honest way possible, because this will be your definition of what you want in life and who you want to become, and will eventually become your reality after some time.

An important thing you don’t want to miss is accepting the idea that you need to become someone else in order to live another kind of lifestyle. Many people think about what they could improve in the outer world and tend to forget that many inner changes will happen that are often more crucial. So be aware of that and embrace the qualities you need to build to become that person.

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2. Eliminate the Unnecessary

There are many things in your life right now that are preventing you from moving on. They may be people, thoughts, events, habits and so on. What you need to do is to eliminate them because they don’t have a place in your ideal lifestyle.

These are the things that hold you back from living the life you want: 12 Things You Do That Are Holding You Back From Success

3. Find What Works Best for You

Now that you have eliminated the unnecessary, you can make another step in your personal development. And this is the time to try and fail as much as possible.

What I mean is, you need to find what works best for you. And the best way is to try as many different things as you can and preferably fail many times. Because there is no better teacher than experience. Once you fail at something, you will know whether or not it’s for you and if it’s worth working on it.

Experiment with everything. You will eventually find out which works best for you — whether it’s a hobby, a job, the food you eat, the habits you do etc. Listen to your instincts in this case and do what’s best for you. Find your thing and stick to it.

4. Build a Few Keystone Habits

A keystone habit is a habit that provokes a chain of other activities that are good for you.

Getting up early for me is connected to a morning ritual with a healthy breakfast, a quick workout and a positive start of the day. This usually includes reading affirmations out loud and writing something. Going to the gym every day helps me stay on track. It’s followed by alternating hot and cold showers and staying motivated for the rest of the day.

The earlier you build such habits, the better. Once you make them stick, everything else will improve too. So work on them now and concentrate on other things later.

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Here are the best habits you can start implementing now:

  • working out
  • meditating
  • eating healthy
  • getting up early
  • planning your day from the night before

They are proven to work wonders and it’s very important to stick to them no matter what. Just make them lifelong habits and do the certain thing even if you’re on a vacation, even after you’ve had a bad day, even when everything seems pointless.

5. Find Your Passion

Listen to your inner voice, focus on the things you enjoy doing.

The point is not to only find it, but also embrace it, get better in it and make it an essential part of your daily life. You will find yourself living a more intentional and fulfilling life.

Learn How to Find Purpose in Life and Make Yourself a Better Person.

6. Make It Your Career

Here things get a little harder as you’ll need to work on your passion. But the difference this time is that you’ll be doing something you love, so you can’t really call it working.

If you want to become a writer, write every single day, whenever you can. Try to improve your writing at the same time and find ways to promote your work.

If you are a gym freak, master your performance in the gym. Keep your body in shape. Learn everything in this niche and get a certificate. Become a personal trainer and help others achieve the fitness goals they want.

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Absolutely everything in this world can be mastered and turned into something prosperous. Once you find what your passion is, work hard on it, dedicate time, energy and effort in it, and you’ll manage to make it your life’s work — one that perfectly suits your ideal life.

7. Decide What Time You Want to Spend Working

Arrange things in such a way that you’ll be able to work productively. It could be a few hours each day, or 4 days in a week.

Just make sure that you’re dedicating sufficient time and work to turn what you love into a profitable career.

Take a look at these 5 Steps To Turn Your Passion Into A Career.

8. Travel Often

Traveling is one of the best things you can do in life. It’s important to make it something you’ll do at least once or twice a year.

Most people usually travel to get out of reality and forget about their problems. But since you’ve built such a lifestyle that has a great reality and you don’t want to escape from it, traveling actullay offers you the opportunity to see the beauty of the world, and learn about the customs and culture of other countries.

This way your life will never be sedentary and you’ll never get bored.

9. Have Hobbies

Besides your career, what other things do yuo enjoy doing? Have some hobbies that can help you to rest or entertain your mind and body.

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Take a look at these 20 Productive Hobbies That Will Make You Smarter and Happier.

10. Be Always on the Go

Never miss an opportunity to learn something new. No matter who you are now and what your income is, you always have what to learn.

Don’t neglect your spiritual and mental world. Meditate, read good books and find inspiration. Here’re 10 Ways to Find Learning Motivation (Even After You’ve Graduated).

11. Always Be Open for New Things

Try to do something new and something you fear a few times a month.

It may be approaching strangers, bungee jumping, public speaking, dancing, visiting new countries, trying new sports, etc. Each time you try something new, you challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone and grow. Try these 7 Ways To Push Yourself Out Of Your Comfort Zones.

12. Give and Be Grateful

Giving is the best investment and can make you way more contented than buying new stuff. So be able to give as much as you can, be it advice, encouragement or resources.

Also, never forget to be grateful. Each step of this journey should go along with appreciation. Express your gratitude to everything and everyone you have in life daily.

Final Thoughts

You see, building the ideal life may take some time and effort, but it’s not impossible.You just need a burning desire to achieve it all, and the willingness to work for it. Eventually, you’ll know it’s all worth it to lead the life you truly want.

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Lidiya is the founder of Let's Reach Success, a blog on personal, spiritual and business growth.

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What Is Passion and What It Means To Have Passion

What Is Passion and What It Means To Have Passion

I like to use the word passion interchangeably with words like determination, conviction, and love. Passion is a strong desire that can get you to do amazing things.

Passion is an emotion to be acted upon. Without action, passion yields no worthwhile results. Passion is the fuel in the fire of action. When you have passion for something, you love it even when you hate it.

So what is passion? How do you recognize your passion, and how do you put it to good use?

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What Is Passion?

A desire fueled by passion will bring about the greatest results in life.

I like to skateboard, but I don’t have the determination to push myself through broken bones and hospital visits. That’s why I’m not as good as I could be. I don’t have a passion for it.

Passion can push you through difficult times because you don’t care what it takes to become better. We all have the ability to create whatever kind of life we want. The secret to living the dream is hidden in our passions and what we do because of them.

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How to Know What You’re Passionate About?

Finding what you are passionate about is a journey in itself. Don’t be frustrated if you don’t feel like you know yet. Keep trying new things. It will come even if you have to build it. If you find your passion, or find yourself hot on its trail, don’t give it up.

What if you know what you have a passion for but you don’t do anything about it? This is the main problem with passion. You can have all the passion in the world for something but if you never do anything about it, that passion is useless.

Maybe you work a good job that pays all the bills but it doesn’t allow you to truly follow your passion. You’re afraid of what will happen if you change things up. Yes, change is scary, but it’s not until we leave our comfort zone that we find what we’ve been missing out on.

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You’re the author of your life. Don’t settle for the bare minimum just because it’s working out right now.

You will never know what you’re truly capable of unless you push yourself.

But even when you pursue your passion, you will find yourself tripped up by failures and other obstacles. You can’t let that get to you. It happens to everyone on the path of following their passion. Abe Lincoln had a strong passion for building a great country. You think he let a few failures stop him from that? Don’t let obstacles get you down.

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What About Passion for People?

The idea of passion also applies to people. Don’t fall into the common trap of thinking you love someone and not doing anything about it. Ask yourself, is giving up my pride worth it to maintain a relationship? What about being unselfish and sacrificing your time or comfort? If you can’t do that, it’s probably not real love, or you need to start making changes.

Often, I think we need to remind ourselves who we love and act accordingly. It’s easy to let family relationships weaken because of pride. Of course, you say you love your family, but when your brother is in the school play, and you hate plays, do you go?

The same applies to intimate relationships. Do you only love them when it’s easy? Real love takes sacrifice and work. You push through the difficult times because you love them and you understand that every passion pursued will have bumps in the road. Unfortunately, many people don’t understand what it means to have passion for someone. This is why divorce rates are so high and families are often torn apart by hurt feelings and unnecessary drama.

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Following any passion takes vulnerability and work. But I promise in the end, the outcome of such efforts will be the most fulfilling to your life.

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