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Happiness Is Indeed A Choice. With These 3 Habits You’ll Become A Totally Different Person

Happiness Is Indeed A Choice. With These 3 Habits You’ll Become A Totally Different Person

If you’re unhappy, you probably know it. So, what have you done to change it? Rather than taking a proactive approach much of us fall into self-pity, venting, and complaining. Sometimes it makes us feel a little better, but does in help? Not really. If you really want to make changes in your life then you need to start by developing daily practices and good habits.

Build Your Confidence Daily

What do you do when you get up in the morning? Do you get up, make yourself a cup of coffee then turn on the news? How do you feel after you watch a barrage of depressing and anxiety-inducing reports? Perhaps consider replacing your morning habit with something more positive. The News waited all night for you, so don’t worry, it can wait a little longer.

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Try reading a chapter from an empowering book, something that will make you feel confident and unafraid to face your day. It can be a practical self-help book, beautiful inspirational quotes, or something out of your favorite spiritual material; it doesn’t matter so long as it makes you feel good. If you drive to work early, make it an audiobook. Your co-workers will notice as you light up the day with a smile and a positive attitude!

Let go of the Things out of Your Control

It’s pointless to worry about the things that are in the far distant future. The habit just stresses you out. Have you ever noticed that the future rarely turns out like you expect but generally it’s not so bad?

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Instead of trying to control the things that you cannot, focus on measuring your smaller achievements. For example, if you’re a ballerina don’t focus all of your energies hoping you’ll someday star in a world renowned performance of “Swan Lake” try to notice the improvements you’re making each day in your routine and the efforts you’re making to be a part of other shows. You’ll feel happier and more motivated and you’ll actually be far more likely to achieve your dreams someday.

Reflect on Your Day

What do you do at the end of each day? Watch some TV, have a glass of wine, and go to sleep? Do you make every effort to forget about a stressful day? That’s understandable. In fact, it’s what most people do! But you may consider trying something a little different.

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Good or bad, each day is an important learning and self-improvement tool. Each day carries with it things we are proud of, glad about, and things that we wish we could have done differently. At the end of each day, try considering your day objectively. Think about what you did well and about the mistakes you made. What changes would you make if you could?

View life as a learning experience and it’ll seem far less intimidating. Each day is a new opportunity to put the things we learn into action! If you allow yourself time to reflect daily, you may find that you have changed the way you approach problems. You may also find yourself feeling a good deal more satisfied with your life.

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Don’t wait until tomorrow to start making your head a happier place to be in! The only person who can limit your happiness is you. Making simple changes in your life can have dramatic effects on your happiness and well-being. As you make them, you won’t just become a happier, better person; you’ll also attract more positive people and things in your life and positively affect the people around you. Who knows how many days you can brighten!

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Last Updated on December 16, 2018

12 Simple Ways You Can Build A Positive Attitude

12 Simple Ways You Can Build A Positive Attitude

We all look for a better and happier life, but somehow we realize it’s our attitude that makes it hard to lead the life we want. How can we build a positive attitude? Grant Mathews has listed out the things (from the easiest to the hardest) we can do to cultivate this attitude on Quora:

1. Listen to good music.

Music definitely improves your mood, and it’s a really simple thing to do.

2. Don’t watch television passively.

Studies have shown that people who watch TV less are happier, which leads me to my next point…

3. Don’t do anything passively.

Whenever I do something, I like to ask myself if, at the end of the day, I would be content saying that I had spent time doing it. (This is why I block sites I find myself wasting too much time on. I enjoy them, but they’re just not worth it when I could be learning something new, or working on projects I care about.)

Time is incredibly valuable.

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4. Be aware of negativity

A community that considers itself intelligent tends to be negativity because criticizing is seen as a signaling mechanism to indicate that you’re more intelligent than the person you corrected. This was irrationally frustrating for me – it’s one of those things you’ll stay up all night to think about.

5. Make time to be alone.

I initially said “take time just to be alone.” I changed it because if you don’t ensure you can take a break, you’ll surely be interrupted.

Being with other people is something you can do to make you happy, but I don’t include it in this list because nearly everyone finds time to talk with friends. On the other hand, spending time just with yourself is almost considered a taboo.

Take some time to figure out who you are.

6. Exercise.

This is the best way to improve your immediate happiness.

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Exercise probably makes you happy. Try and go on a run. You’ll hate yourself while doing it, but the gratification that you get towards the end vastly outweighs the frustration of the first few attempts. I can’t say enough good things about exercise.

Exercising is also fantastic because it gives you time alone.

7. Have projects.

Having a goal, and moving towards it, is a key to happiness.

You have to realize though that achieving the goal is not necessarily what makes you happy – it’s the process. When I write music, I write it because writing is inherently enjoyable, not because I want to get popular (as if!).

8. Take time to do the things you enjoy.

That’s very general, so let me give you a good example.

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One of the things that has really changed my life was finding small communities centered around activities I enjoy. For instance, I like writing music, so I’m part of a community that meets up to write a song for an hour every week. I love the community. I’ve also written a song every week, 37 weeks in a row, which has gradually moved me towards larger goals and makes me feel very satisfied.

9. Change your definition of happiness.

Another reason I think I’m more happy than other people is because my definition of happiness is a lot more relaxed than most people’s. I don’t seek for some sort of constant euphoria; I don’t think it’s possible to live like that. My happiness is closer to stability.

10. Ignore things that don’t make you happy.

I get varying reactions to this one.

The argument goes “if something is making you unhappy, then you should find out why and improve it, not ignore it.” If you can do that, great. But on the other hand, there’s no reason to mope about a bad score on a test.

There’s another counterargument: perhaps you’re moping because your brain is trying to work out how to improve. In fact, this is the key purpose of depression: Depression’s Upside – NYTimes.com

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I can think of examples that go both ways. I remember, for instance, when I was debating a year or two ago and my partner and I would lose a round, I would mull over what we had done wrong for a long time. In that way, I got immensely better at debate (and public speaking in general – did you know debate has amazing effects on your public speaking ability? But now I really digress).

On the other hand, there’s no way that mulling over how dumb you were for missing that +x term on the left hand side will make you better at math. So stop worrying about it, and go practice math instead.

11. Find a way to measure your progress, and then measure it.

Video games are addictive for a reason: filling up an experience bar and making it to the next level is immensely satisfying. I think that it would be really cool if we could apply this concept to the real world.

I put this near the bottom of the list because, unfortunately, this hasn’t been done too often in the real world – startup idea, anyone? So you would have to do it yourself, which is difficult when you don’t even know how much you’ve progressed.

For a while, I kept a log of the runs I had taken, and my average speed. It was really cool to see my improvement over the weeks. (Also, I was exercising. Combining the two was fantastic for boosting happiness.)

12. Realize that happiness is an evolutionary reward, not an objective truth.

It’s easy to see that this is correct, but this is at the bottom of the list for a reason.

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