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Happiness Is Indeed A Choice. With These 3 Habits You’ll Become A Totally Different Person

Happiness Is Indeed A Choice. With These 3 Habits You’ll Become A Totally Different Person

If you’re unhappy, you probably know it. So, what have you done to change it? Rather than taking a proactive approach much of us fall into self-pity, venting, and complaining. Sometimes it makes us feel a little better, but does in help? Not really. If you really want to make changes in your life then you need to start by developing daily practices and good habits.

Build Your Confidence Daily

What do you do when you get up in the morning? Do you get up, make yourself a cup of coffee then turn on the news? How do you feel after you watch a barrage of depressing and anxiety-inducing reports? Perhaps consider replacing your morning habit with something more positive. The News waited all night for you, so don’t worry, it can wait a little longer.

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Try reading a chapter from an empowering book, something that will make you feel confident and unafraid to face your day. It can be a practical self-help book, beautiful inspirational quotes, or something out of your favorite spiritual material; it doesn’t matter so long as it makes you feel good. If you drive to work early, make it an audiobook. Your co-workers will notice as you light up the day with a smile and a positive attitude!

Let go of the Things out of Your Control

It’s pointless to worry about the things that are in the far distant future. The habit just stresses you out. Have you ever noticed that the future rarely turns out like you expect but generally it’s not so bad?

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Instead of trying to control the things that you cannot, focus on measuring your smaller achievements. For example, if you’re a ballerina don’t focus all of your energies hoping you’ll someday star in a world renowned performance of “Swan Lake” try to notice the improvements you’re making each day in your routine and the efforts you’re making to be a part of other shows. You’ll feel happier and more motivated and you’ll actually be far more likely to achieve your dreams someday.

Reflect on Your Day

What do you do at the end of each day? Watch some TV, have a glass of wine, and go to sleep? Do you make every effort to forget about a stressful day? That’s understandable. In fact, it’s what most people do! But you may consider trying something a little different.

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Good or bad, each day is an important learning and self-improvement tool. Each day carries with it things we are proud of, glad about, and things that we wish we could have done differently. At the end of each day, try considering your day objectively. Think about what you did well and about the mistakes you made. What changes would you make if you could?

View life as a learning experience and it’ll seem far less intimidating. Each day is a new opportunity to put the things we learn into action! If you allow yourself time to reflect daily, you may find that you have changed the way you approach problems. You may also find yourself feeling a good deal more satisfied with your life.

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Don’t wait until tomorrow to start making your head a happier place to be in! The only person who can limit your happiness is you. Making simple changes in your life can have dramatic effects on your happiness and well-being. As you make them, you won’t just become a happier, better person; you’ll also attract more positive people and things in your life and positively affect the people around you. Who knows how many days you can brighten!

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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