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Last Updated on August 26, 2021

How to Use the Law of Attraction to Make Your Dreams Happen

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How to Use the Law of Attraction to Make Your Dreams Happen

People seem to believe that they can simply think their way straight to success. They mistakenly believe that if they just think about their dreams often enough and vividly enough that—poof!—they’ll just come true.

But life is not a magic trick.

If you told a starving child who had not had a single meal in five days how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest a meal for themselves, how well do you think it would work out for them?

Clearly, there’s more to it than envisioning what you want.

If you want to know what it really takes to achieve your greatest goals and ambitions, below you will find some steps that will outline how to use the Law of Attraction the proper way.

What Is the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction is based on the idea that we attract what we are focused on[1]. It revolves around the idea that the universe will offer us what our energy is directed toward.

As mentioned above, just thinking about something is unlikely to offer any solid results, but once you start focusing on something, you are more likely to take action to make it happen, which will most certainly bring some results.

Here’s how to use the Law of Attraction to start down your path to success.

1. Focus Your Thoughts in the Direction of Your Dreams

If you take a pebble and toss it into a pond, what happens?

As soon as the pebble strikes the surface of the water, you get a series of ripples or waves, which spread outwards in a circular direction, until they get to the shoreline and seem to stop.

Two stones of different sizes and weights tossed in at the same time, at different places but in close proximity, will both create a series of ripples, which will eventually merge with one another.

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When the two sets of ripples converge, there seems to be a bit of a struggle as to which one overcomes the other. As far as the human eye can see, if the ripples are the same size, both seem to stop or merge when they collide.

However, if one set of ripples is larger than the other, the larger set sweeps over the smaller set and creates waves in the wake of the smaller ripples.

Let’s consider this analogy in relation to our own thought-patterns and mental impulses.

Imagine you’ve got two stones in each hand.

  • The stone in your left hand is labeled “Failure”
  • The stone in your right hand is labeled “Success”

The weight of each stone is in direct proportion to the amount of *thought* you give its label.

So, how heavy are your stones?

If your “failure” stone is heavier, then its ripples will simply stop or take over the ripples created by your stone labeled “success.”

But if your “success” stone is heavier, then that will be the one that takes over.

It’s important to keep this in mind as you put the Law of Attraction to use towards making your dreams happen: ensure that you focus your thoughts on successfully achieving those dreams more often than you focus on the fear of failure that you might experience if you don’t.

2. Get Specific

What do you want? What do your dreams look like, specifically?

Simply saying, “I want to work at a job I love” isn’t going to get you there. Why? It’s not specific enough. What does your dream job look like? What are you passionate about? What would make you happy to get out of bed each morning? If you change that statement to something like, “I want to work at an NGO where I can help people every day,” you are getting much closer to attracting a specific type of job and taking actionable steps to get there.

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If you want to make the Law of Attraction work for you, you have got to get specific. What is it exactly that you want? Figure it out down to every specific detail and write it down. If you don’t like to write, make a vision board that will help you visualize what your goals and dreams look like. Get creative with the way you present your specific goals, but make sure they’re visible each day.

Once you’ve done that, it’s time to start taking action towards making it happen.

3. Put Some Actions Where Your Thoughts Are

Many people make the mistake of looking at the Law of Attraction as if it were a stand-alone solution to making their dreams a reality. They believe that they can make a vision board and use positive thinking to achieve success.

But these folks need a wake-up call, because positive thinking is not enough. It will never be enough.

If we THINK positive, but we still FEEL negative, then how will we ACT?

Your thoughts, actions, and feelings are like a three-legged stool. Positive thinking is powerful, but only when we think of it as one of the three necessary legs that reinforces the stool we’re sitting on.

The key here, when it comes to how to use the Law of Attraction, is to focus on being as congruent as possible between your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Once you have your thoughts pointed in the right direction, start taking steps toward those thoughts. Are you visualizing that amazing European vacation you want to take next year? Start putting away money for it. Are you thinking about how nice it would be to have a bigger circle of friends? Get out of the house once a week to see where that takes you.

The steps you take don’t have to be big ones, but you do need to move in the direction of your goals if you ever want them to become reality.

4. Trust the process

After setting clear goals, you need to believe that the universe will bring what you want into your life. Believing is at the core of the manifestation process. And it’s one of the hardest parts of this process. The best way to build trust is by setting small intentions in the beginning.

5. Be Mindful of what you receive

While you won’t get everything you envision in the order that you want, you should be mindful of what you get – no matter how small or big it is. When you acknowledge what you get, you need to practice gratitude.

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6. Practice gratitude

Most people who use the law of attraction fail to achieve their goals in the long run due to their lack of gratitude. When they receive a few gifts from the universe, they cut all the wires that connect them to it by failing to be grateful.

The nearer you live to the source of wealth, love, and power, the more you shall receive them. The person who lives in closer touch with the universe by practicing gratitude will always receive more. And they will come rapidly. Gratitude will keep your mind along the path by which your dreams are realized. Plus, it will prevent from falling into the trap of impatience.

To practice gratitude, you need to create a gratitude journal. Before going to bed, spend at least ten minutes writing down the things that you are deeply grateful for. As you are going to see, there are lots of things to be grateful for every day.

7. Let go of limiting beliefs and other forms of resistance

For the law of attraction to transform your life, you’ll have to let go of limiting beliefs. And this includes negative self-talk and fear. Most people tell themselves that they are unworthy, not smart enough, or good enough. If you are one of these people, you should stop playing this tape in your mind.

Imagine this – if you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourself, would you have any friends at the end of the day? To achieve your goals and become your best self, you have to let go of these forms of resistance.

To let go of limiting beliefs, you need to start by identifying what they are. What beliefs do you have that are hindering your growth? Write them down in your diary. And then cross them out and write new affirmations. For instance, a limiting belief like “I am not good enough” can be reversed with “I am as great as I can be today”.

8. Start your day with affirmations

After writing down your new affirmations in your diary, you should consider creating a vision board and transferring them to it. Hang the vision board near your bed so that you see it in the morning when you get up.

Your mind is usually calm and receptive in the morning. Therefore, reading your affirmations at this time will set the right tone for your day. You should also read them at night before falling asleep.

Doing this will fill your subconscious mind with positive thoughts about yourself and your goals. As you sleep, your subconscious will work on your goals and help you achieve them quickly and easily.

9. Check your energy and change when necessary

You are energy. The world and the universe are energy. In short, everything is energy. The energy you put in your world is the energy you’ll get back. This means that if you are always sending out negative energy through your thoughts or emotions, you’ll attract it back into your life.

On the other hand, if you send out positive vibrations by raising your vibrations, you’ll attract positivity into your life. And this will help you achieve your goals. Fortunately, raising your vibrations is simpler than you think. All you have to do is focus on activities that make you feel happy and alive.

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Whether it’s volunteering, helping a loved one, spending your evening in nature, or exercising in the morning, concentrating on these activities will transform your life for the better. Plus, you can also focus on your emotions. If you want to be loved, set the intention to become a loving person.

10. Love yourself regardless of your past

To manifest your dreams, you have to love yourself. You need to accept your failures and learn from your mistakes to move forward. The strongest sign that you can send to the universe is loving yourself. While self-love is a process that can take time and effort, there are a few simple things that you can start doing right now.

Practicing self-care doesn’t have to be time-consuming or difficult. Even the smallest habits can boost your confidence and lead to more self-love.

Simple acts of self-care include writing down things that you appreciate about yourself, exercising, socializing with an old friend, improving a skill, and getting into nature to name a few. Remember, the more you love yourself, the more love you’ll attract into your life. It all begins with you.

11. Act as if

To put yourself in a happy space, you need to act as if you’ve accomplished your goals. Acting as if you’ve already achieved your goals sends positive energy into the universe. When you do this, the universe will respond by bringing good things to you.

When you start feeling negative and discontented with your life, all you have to do is imagine your wishes fulfilled. This is a critical area in the manifestation process.

12. Stay focused

Most people who are in the path to manifesting their dreams get easily lost and distracted. To prevent this from happening to you, focus on your goals. When you focus on your final accomplishments, you’ll get back on track and keep on keeping on.

The Bottom Line

It’s not the Law of Attraction or positive thinking alone that drives our success in life — it’s about being in positive congruence between the way we think, act, and feel.

Start with a positive mindset, and let that push you toward actions that will make your dreams a reality. The energy that you put into the world will come back into your life. Therefore, always send out positive energy by replacing your limiting beliefs with affirmations, starting your day with affirmations, and learning from your past mistakes.

The universe is eager to give you what you want. Be patient and practice gratitude every day.

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Published on September 16, 2021

What Are Process Goals? (With Examples)

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Ready. Set. Go. For years, this was my three-step mindset when it came to goals. I would reach for the moon and hope to land among the stars without feeling the pain of the fall. This approach was all or nothing, and as a result, I experienced loads of burnout and almost zero productivity. In short, my task list was filled with high-level intentions, but I hadn’t taken the time to create a map to reach the destinations. I was lost in the planning stages because I didn’t understand process goals or have any examples to follow.

Since then, I’ve learned how to embrace the journey and break my outcome goals into smaller and more manageable process goals. This approach has improved my focus and reduced frustration because I’m now working towards a surefire strategy that will take me where I want to go––I’m creating a plan of action with achievable daily targets (a process goal).

What Is a Process Goal?

A process goal is not a destination, it’s the path you plan on taking to get there. For example, if you want to become better at writing, your process goal would be to post one blog article per week and learn from the feedback you receive. The destination is a monthly goal of 12 articles.

This distinction is important because it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that these types of goals are not all or nothing. Think about it. You’ve heard it said: it’s not about working hard but working smart.

Well, a process goal is an actionable target with what we call SMART criteria:

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  • Specific – The more detailed your goal, the better. For example, instead of “I want to be fit,” you would say, “I want to lose five pounds.” Make sure your goal is crystal clear.
  • Measurable – You need a way to measure progress and success, so it needs to be quantifiable. This is where you decide what “fit” actually means for you (more on this later).
  • Achievable – If your goal isn’t challenging, then it’s not going to be motivating. On the other hand, there must be a steeper mountain to climb if you want substantial results.
  • Realistic – “I want to run a marathon” is not practical for most people. Ensure you have the time, energy, and resources (e.g., training program) required to achieve your goal.
  • Time-Bound – Your goal needs an assigned deadline or it’s just a pipe dream. There’s nothing wrong with dreaming, but what happens when the fantasy ends?

To summarize, these are the essential components of any process goal: specific, measurable, achievable within a certain time frame, and realistic.

What Is a Destination Goal?

A destination goal is a point in time when you plan to be at a particular destination. For example, if your goal is to get to represent your country at the 2025 Summer Olympics, you right need to focus on smaller increments to attain that success. On your way to that goal, you need to focus on smaller destinations. First, make the national team. Then, compete in a few events and so forth.

If you try to make it to the Olympics from the very start without any milestones along the way, it would be too daunting. On the other hand, if you focus on each milestone as a destination goal, it will all seem possible and achievable.

Process Goal Template

Let’s say you want to become a better cook. Here is one way of writing the process goal: “I will save $100 per week by cooking all my meals at home for 12 weeks.” This would be your destination (monthly), and the steps required to achieve this goal (weekly) would be:

  1. Spend one hour on Sunday planning my meals for the week.
  2. Shop for groceries after work on Monday and Tuesday nights.
  3. Cook all meals at home on Wednesdays through Sundays.
  4. Pack my lunch for work on Mondays and Tuesdays.
  5. Save $100 per week in cash by cooking at home.

This process goal will help you become a better cook by teaching you to save money through planning, shopping, cooking, packing your own lunch, and trying new recipes. It also includes a weekly reward (saving $100 in cash) that will help you stay motivated.

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Process goals encourage you to reach your ultimate goals. When you feel like you can accomplish smaller goals along the way, you gain sustainability and confidence to move forward.

In many ways, process goals are a lot like faith. Each accomplishment brings you closer to seeing the fullness of the life that you desire––it breaks through the fog and makes things clearer.

What Questions Helped Me Find My Process Goals?

After several years of setting lofty goals and becoming increasingly frustrated when I wasn’t getting the results I wanted, I decided to take a closer look at my approach.

Now, there are many ways you can do this, but here’s how I went about it. Last year, I asked myself the following questions:

  • What am I doing right now?
  • How can I get better at this?
  • Is this process goal leading me closer to my ultimate goals?

The choices I made from the answers to these questions became my process goals. They were the driving force that kept me motivated and moving forward when I wanted to give up and throw in the towel. Since then, I’ve been able to accomplish lifelong goals that I had given up on years ago. For example, I’ve been able to obtain a publishing contract, create more digital products for my business, and enjoy the moment.

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Before I broke down my goals into smaller ones, I was struggling to just get out of bed. The thought of my endless list kept me stagnant. Now, I look forward to each morning and taking on smaller projects to reach profitable outcomes.

What Are Some Process Goals You Can Try?

So, now that you understand the importance of process goals, let’s get you started with some examples that you can utilize this week:

  • Sign up for a new class.
  • Complete one portion of your project by Thursday.
  • Start walking around the block instead of running a mile.
  • Improve your writing by spending 30 minutes everyday journaling.
  • Practice your interview skills.
  • Read at least one book from the library this week.
  • Do ten push-ups each day before you leave for work.

You get the idea. These process goals don’t have to be complicated. If anything, you want to break down your plans to the point of them feeling easy or at least doable without needing a week’s vacation. By breaking your goals down into smaller pieces, you can accomplish a lot more in a shorter period. You’ll also feel more confident that you’re able to accomplish something within the moment.

It isn’t easy to continue towards your goal if achievement feels too far away. You need to celebrate the small things and embrace the process.

What Do You Need for Process Goals?

Think about how much time and money you’ve spent on new clothes, books, technology, etc. Many of us want to keep up with the latest trends and purchase the best gadgets from Apple or Microsoft. But all of these extra investments come at a steep price.

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To find your process goals, you may have to face some difficult emotions or situations bravely and confront them head-on. You might need to forgo the new outfit or the latest Mac book to meet your overall objectives.[1] Remember, process goals not only protect you from feeling overwhelmed, but they also keep you from being distracted.

Final Thoughts

You may feel overwhelmed at first when trying to set a process goal. Sometimes, just thinking about change triggers stress hormones, which only leads to more worries and anxious feelings. However, if you keep yourself focused and take small steps in the right direction, you’ll soon realize that goals don’t have to be complicated.

You can achieve your process goals one day at a time, and you can start today by breaking down your larger goal into smaller steps. It doesn’t matter if the process takes a week or six months, what matters most is that you’re moving forward and doing something to make yourself better.

Now, go on out there and achieve one of your process goals!

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