The attitude of positive realism combines both the visionary view, as well as a realistic mode of thinking. The key aspect of positive realism is that we dream big – but then set realistic goals. Mary Jaksch
I connected with what Mary says here. It’s great to have big, huge, even enormous dreams, but living in that dream world is not practical. Now, don’t get me wrong here; I am a HUGE believer in the Law of Attraction, and I definitely believe that whatever you dream can come true, but if you are only living in the rose-coloured- glasses world where you are the cheeriest person on earth without a real grasp of everyday living, you might be heading for trouble.
A little history, just in case you didn’t know:
The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like. You can imagine yourself as a magnet attracting all of the circumstances, people and things in your life; your thoughts, visions, and feelings all work to attract certain things into your life. You can learn to use the Law of Attraction just put it into practice. Look for evidence of the things you want, and don’t forget to be patient with yourself. The Law of Attraction is literally you. Don’t expect overnight changes from yourself, but be balanced while still being open minded to great possibilities.Advertising
So how do you create that balance?
You have one side where you have great dreams and future plans and you have another side where you have your everyday life. The bills still need to be taken care of, the kids still need to be feed, your taxes still need to be paid.
Well, as Mary says “the key aspect of positive realism is that we dream – but then set realistic goals.”
To me, goals are dreams with deadlines—I create them to challenge myself, to lead me on a journey to be a better person, to explore what I am capable of and what I can do for others. For me, life is not complete without goals so to me, this is the balance.Advertising
I feel like I literally have my dreams in one hand and my goals in another hand and they are keeping my whole life balanced. My dreams are my map and my goals are my compass; only together will I be able to find what I am looking for in life.
I truly feel that nothing at all is impossible when I am actively using Positive Realism to propel my life forward.
Now, how do you put this into practice?
Through constant repetition by writing, you’re programming your unconscious mind to accept that your goals are possible, or likely, or realistic, or even already fulfilled. Then your unconscious mind will start bending reality to make your goals come true. Craig Childs
Imagine that you had all the money you could ever want, as well as great relationships and perfect health. Imagine you spent your life in peace and joy. If you practice the Laws of Attraction, these things can come true for you. The first thing you must do to practice the Laws is to embrace a feeling of gratitude: be thankful for everything that you have. Focusing on the good things in your life will help you key in on positive feelings.
Positive feelings will translate into a positive energy, according to the Laws of Attraction. When you send out this kind of positive energy, you will see good things come back to you in return.You can concentrate on the positive things by holding some kind of talisman in your pocket that will help you remember to be thankful every time you touch it.
Know what you want and simply, ask for it. Say it, write it, and believe in it. Think of it as if it has already happened. Imagine that it has, using the Laws of Attraction. Don’t do this in a whimsical, “gee wouldn’t it be swell” way, but actually close your eyes and visualize it. Don’t expect to know the method by which your dreams will come true—the Laws don’t work that way. You just need to trust that a good thing will happen, and leave the “how” up to the universe.Advertising
Knowing the Laws of Attraction can change your life. It takes a certain mindset to work with this mindset, but it is not hard to master—it just takes time, patience, and most of all, a lot of faith.
Faith combined with realism is the winning ticket for success. Start down the road to balancing your dreams and your goals.
Last Updated on September 20, 2018
8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More
You go to the gym to train your muscles. You run outside or go for hikes to train your endurance. Or, maybe you do neither of those, but still wish you exercised more.
Well, here is how to train one of the most important parts of your body: your brain.
When you train your brain, you will:
- Avoid embarrassing situations. You remember his face, but what was his name?
- Be a faster learner in all sorts of different skills. No problem for you to pick up a new language or new management skill.
- Avoid diseases that hit as you get older. Alzheimer’s will not be affecting you.
So how to train your brain and improve your cognitive skills?
1. Work your memory
Twyla Tharp, a NYC-based renowned choreographer has come up with the following memory workout:
When she watches one of her performances, she tries to remember the first twelve to fourteen corrections she wants to discuss with her cast without writing them down.
If you think this is anything less than a feat, then think again. In her book The Creative Habit she says that most people cannot remember more than three.
The practice of both remembering events or things and then discussing them with others has actually been supported by brain fitness studies.
Memory activities that engage all levels of brain operation—receiving, remembering and thinking—help to improve the function of the brain.
Now, you may not have dancers to correct, but you may be required to give feedback on a presentation, or your friends may ask you what interesting things you saw at the museum. These are great opportunities to practically train your brain by flexing your memory muscles.
What is the simplest way to help yourself remember what you see? Repetition.
For example, say you just met someone new:
“Hi, my name is George”
Don’t just respond with, “Nice to meet you”. Instead, say, “Nice to meet you George.”
Got it? Good.
2. Do something different repeatedly
By actually doing something new over and over again, your brain wires new pathways that help you do this new thing better and faster.
Think back to when you were three years old. You surely were strong enough to hold a knife and a fork just fine. Yet, when you were eating all by yourself, you were creating a mess.
It was not a matter of strength, you see. It was a matter of cultivating more and better neural pathways that would help you eat by yourself just like an adult does.
And guess what? With enough repetition you made that happen!
But how does this apply to your life right now?
Say you are a procrastinator. The more you don’t procrastinate, the more you teach your brain not to wait for the last minute to make things happen.
Now, you might be thinking “Duh, if only not procrastinating could be that easy!”
Well, it can be. By doing something really small, that you wouldn’t normally do, but is in the direction of getting that task done, you will start creating those new precious neural pathways.
So if you have been postponing organizing your desk, just take one paper and put in its right place. Or, you can go even smaller. Look at one piece of paper and decide where to put it: Trash? Right cabinet? Another room? Give it to someone?
You don’t actually need to clean up that paper; you only need to decide what you need to do with it.
That’s how small you can start. And yet, those neural pathways are still being built. Gradually, you will transform yourself from a procrastinator to an in-the-moment action taker.
3. Learn something new
It might sound obvious, but the more you use your brain, the better its going to perform for you.
For example, learning a new instrument improves your skill of translating something you see (sheet music) to something you actually do (playing the instrument).
Learning a new language exposes your brain to a different way of thinking, a different way of expressing yourself.
You can even literally take it a step further, and learn how to dance. Studies indicate that learning to dance helps seniors avoid Alzheimer’s. Not bad, huh?
4. Follow a brain training program
The Internet world can help you improve your brain function while lazily sitting on your couch. A clinically proven program like BrainHQ can help you improve your memory, or think faster, by just following their brain training exercises.
5. Work your body
You knew this one was coming didn’t you? Yes indeed, exercise does not just work your body; it also improves the fitness of your brain.
Even briefly exercising for 20 minutes facilitates information processing and memory functions. But it’s not just that–exercise actually helps your brain create those new neural connections faster. You will learn faster, your alertness level will increase, and you get all that by moving your body.
Now, if you are not already a regular exerciser, and already feel guilty that you are not helping your brain by exercising more, try a brain training exercise program like Exercise Bliss.
Remember, just like we discussed in #2, by training your brain to do something new repeatedly, you are actually changing yourself permanently.
6. Spend time with your loved ones
If you want optimal cognitive abilities, then you’ve got to have meaningful relationships in your life. Talking with others and engaging with your loved ones helps you think more clearly, and it can also lift your mood.
If you are an extrovert, this holds even more weight for you. At a class at Stanford University, I learned that extroverts actually use talking to other people as a way to understand and process their own thoughts.
I remember that the teacher told us that after a personality test said she was an extrovert, she was surprised. She had always thought of herself as an introvert. But then, she realized how much talking to others helped her frame her own thoughts, so she accepted her new-found status as an extrovert.
7. Avoid crossword puzzles
Many of us, when we think of brain fitness, think of crossword puzzles. And it’s true–crossword puzzles do improve our fluency, yet studies show they are not enough by themselves.
Are they fun? Yes. Do they sharpen your brain? Not really.
Of course, if you are doing this for fun, then by all means go ahead. If you are doing it for brain fitness, then you might want to choose another activity
8. Eat right – and make sure dark chocolate is included
Foods like fish, fruits, and vegetables help your brain perform optimally. Yet, you might not know that dark chocolate gives your brain a good boost as well.
When you eat chocolate, your brain produces dopamine. And dopamine helps you learn faster and remember better. Not to mention, chocolate contains flavonols, antioxidants, which also improve your brain functions.
So next time you have something difficult to do, make sure you grab a bite or two of dark chocolate!
The bottom line
Now that you know how to train your brain, it’s actually time to start doing.
Don’t just consume this content and then go on with your life as if nothing has changed. Put this knowledge into action and become smarter than ever!
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