The attitude of positive realism combines both the visionary view, as well as a realistic mode of thinking. The key aspect of positive realism is that we dream big – but then set realistic goals. Mary Jaksch
I connected with what Mary says here. It’s great to have big, huge, even enormous dreams, but living in that dream world is not practical. Now, don’t get me wrong here; I am a HUGE believer in the Law of Attraction, and I definitely believe that whatever you dream can come true, but if you are only living in the rose-coloured- glasses world where you are the cheeriest person on earth without a real grasp of everyday living, you might be heading for trouble.
A little history, just in case you didn’t know:
The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like. You can imagine yourself as a magnet attracting all of the circumstances, people and things in your life; your thoughts, visions, and feelings all work to attract certain things into your life. You can learn to use the Law of Attraction just put it into practice. Look for evidence of the things you want, and don’t forget to be patient with yourself. The Law of Attraction is literally you. Don’t expect overnight changes from yourself, but be balanced while still being open minded to great possibilities.Advertising
So how do you create that balance?
You have one side where you have great dreams and future plans and you have another side where you have your everyday life. The bills still need to be taken care of, the kids still need to be feed, your taxes still need to be paid.
Well, as Mary says “the key aspect of positive realism is that we dream – but then set realistic goals.”
To me, goals are dreams with deadlines—I create them to challenge myself, to lead me on a journey to be a better person, to explore what I am capable of and what I can do for others. For me, life is not complete without goals so to me, this is the balance.Advertising
I feel like I literally have my dreams in one hand and my goals in another hand and they are keeping my whole life balanced. My dreams are my map and my goals are my compass; only together will I be able to find what I am looking for in life.
I truly feel that nothing at all is impossible when I am actively using Positive Realism to propel my life forward.
Now, how do you put this into practice?
Through constant repetition by writing, you’re programming your unconscious mind to accept that your goals are possible, or likely, or realistic, or even already fulfilled. Then your unconscious mind will start bending reality to make your goals come true. Craig Childs
Imagine that you had all the money you could ever want, as well as great relationships and perfect health. Imagine you spent your life in peace and joy. If you practice the Laws of Attraction, these things can come true for you. The first thing you must do to practice the Laws is to embrace a feeling of gratitude: be thankful for everything that you have. Focusing on the good things in your life will help you key in on positive feelings.
Positive feelings will translate into a positive energy, according to the Laws of Attraction. When you send out this kind of positive energy, you will see good things come back to you in return.You can concentrate on the positive things by holding some kind of talisman in your pocket that will help you remember to be thankful every time you touch it.
Know what you want and simply, ask for it. Say it, write it, and believe in it. Think of it as if it has already happened. Imagine that it has, using the Laws of Attraction. Don’t do this in a whimsical, “gee wouldn’t it be swell” way, but actually close your eyes and visualize it. Don’t expect to know the method by which your dreams will come true—the Laws don’t work that way. You just need to trust that a good thing will happen, and leave the “how” up to the universe.Advertising
Knowing the Laws of Attraction can change your life. It takes a certain mindset to work with this mindset, but it is not hard to master—it just takes time, patience, and most of all, a lot of faith.
Faith combined with realism is the winning ticket for success. Start down the road to balancing your dreams and your goals.
Last Updated on May 23, 2019
Ditch Work Life Balance and Embrace Work Life Harmony
How do you usually go about your day?
Do you wake up in the morning, get ready for work, and then spend the whole day looking forward to being at home and unwinding?
We often hear about work life balance – having a good balance between work and personal time. Whilst this may sound like a smart idea, it can also imply that we should dedicate at least half of our time to work–and sacrifice time for our “personal life”.
To me, that seems…off balance. Because, the truth is, it’s nearly impossible to split your time equally between the two. And, you may end up stressing out if you’re not able to meet that expectation of balance.
Instead, why not think of having work life harmony instead?
With this mindset, you can actually integrate work into your life in a way that feels more complete. This way, you don’t need to view work and having personal time as separate.
So, how do you achieve work life harmony?
Work Life Harmony Explained
The difference between work life balance and work life harmony is pretty simple. With the former, there is an implication that you have to sacrifice your “life” for work. But, this is the worst way to go about things! How can you truly be at peace in life if you dread 8 hours of your day?
Work life harmony on the other hand, allows your work to be a part of your life. This means that you can choose to be happy both at home, and at work! Work no longer needs to be seen as the ‘bad’ or un-fun activity.
Having work life harmony also ensures you’re truly present in whatever place you find yourself.
Just take a look at Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon for example.
He uses a non traditional approach to work by making time for breakfast every morning with his family, doesn’t set his alarm before going to bed, schedules surprisingly few meetings, and still puts aside a few minutes every day to wash his own dishes.
He believes that all his staff should stop trying to achieve a ‘balance’ in their work and personal lives as that implies a trade off. Instead, he envisions a more holistic relationship between the two.
As the world’s richest man, he must be doing something right!
Rethink Time Management
Now, when we think of striking a balance, we usually associate it with time, don’t we? How much time are we spending at work versus how much time are we spending in our personal lives?Are we taking enough time to be with our loved ones, to do meaningful activities with others or even for ourselves, or are we just dedicating all our time to work?
This is the so-called-balance that many struggle with.
With work life harmony, we learn to rethink time management. By re-assessing how you manage your time, you’ll have a lot more of it. It’s incredible how much time can get wasted over the period of a day–especially when you’re not accurately tracking it.
Unfortunately, unless you’re consciously making an effort, your brain is not always the best at making accurate judgement calls when it comes to prioritizing. It tends to have a bias towards short term benefits and short term costs.
As there are often many more options our brains link to short term benefit; when you’re trying to focus on a task that gives you a long term benefit, that task usually becomes low priority. This is otherwise known as Priority Chaos.
In order to overcome this and be in better control of your time, identify the tasks that need the most focus to get accomplished. If it’s a big task, then it’s good to break it down into smaller bite-sized actions that will provide you with a clearer short term benefit.
When setting up tasks, give yourself a time limit. The brain has a bias towards short term benefits, and your attention span is limited, so if your tasks are going to take ages to complete, you’ll end up losing focus… and wasting time.
Once you have all your tasks written down, it’s time to prioritize them. Since you have a time limit, your focus should be on the top priority tasks. By doing this, you will already be able to get more done in less time at work!
Have Passion for What You Do
Managing your time is important in achieving that work life harmony. But, perhaps of greater importance, is loving what you do in life. One of the most effective ways to achieve a work life harmony is to really enjoy, or find a purpose, in what you do for a living. Even though everyone isn’t always lucky enough to find a position that pays them for pursuing their passion, you can strive to find meaning in what you are already doing, or pursue something new entirely!
For example, say you work at an office that sells paper. While many people wouldn’t consider this a world changing pursuit, I beg to differ. Think of all the individuals in the world that rely on paper. From creative types to quantum physics experts, your role at your workplace brings incredible value to many many people all over the world. You will have, without a doubt, helped bring a new idea into existence. Several new ideas to be precise.
So have a think about what you’re doing now. Is it something that allows you to embrace your passion?
Or perhaps you might not even know what it is that you love or enjoy doing. Why not explore and reflect on what gives you joy and contentment? Is there an area or industry that you could see yourself exploring to experience that fulfillment?
Can you find a deeper purpose in what you’re already doing?
When you’re able to find meaning in your work, you’re that much closer to achieving work life harmony.
Don’t Be Intimidated By Obstacles and Limitations
Creating work life harmony is also about understanding yourself–which includes your limitations and past obstacles–as this allows you to become more resilient.
If you never had to experience struggles, challenges or setbacks, then you would never be forced to adapt and mature. So in theory, having to face obstacles in life is actually quite necessary.
Most of us think of setbacks and obstacles as negative. Though, if you’re able to maintain an optimistic attitude, you’ll almost always have a higher chance of success of overcoming those obstacles to reach your eventual goal.
Your attitude towards setbacks will define the outcome of whether you rise from the challenge or remain stuck in it. So, in order to achieve work life harmony, it’s important to have a resilient attitude as challenges will always come your way–especially when you strive to integrate work into your life, and not a separate or dominant part of life.
Delegate When You Need To
Of course, when you want to increase productivity and minimize the time or effort spent, a great way to do so is to delegate!
If you spend a lot of time doing tasks on your own that could be delegated to others (whether at work or at home) you’re losing a lot of precious free time that could otherwise be spent elsewhere.
At the end of the day, we all have a limited amount of time. So we should all be striving to create a harmonious work and living situation where we can find meaning in all that we do.
While an overall goal may be meaningful, not all of the milestones or tasks needed to get there may be meaningful. That’s because we have our strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Not every task is going to be enjoyable or easy to complete. That’s where delegation comes in.
Delegation simply allows you to leverage time from an external source, thus giving you opportunities to increase your own quality of time. Keep in mind that delegation should be done with deliberate attention, otherwise you may end up over relying on others.
If you find that you’re running into the problem of over delegating, then it may be time to re-evaluate your motivation for doing whatever it is that you’re doing.
Embrace the Circle and Become Happier and More Productive
Living in harmony is about feeling good about the ways in which you spend your time, despite how busy you may be.Your switch from work mode to a more personal mode should be effortless. It’s about integrating your personal life and the things you love into your busy work life!
It all begins with the shift in perspective. Understanding what your passions are, and learning to be resilient, before taking a different approach to the way you manage your time and everyday tasks.
These are steps that you can start taking to move away from balance to harmony.
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