Achieving even the simplest of goals requires us to learn the meaning of commitment. Throughout our life, we are reminded of commitment, whether it’s related to personal or business goals, and we realize that without committing, we can’t achieve anything.
When you think about it, everything you ever achieved sprouted from a commitment you made; whether it’s your children, your degree, your job, or even your house. Learning how to commit is not simply about making commitments, however, it’s about keeping those commitments in the face of foreseen and unforeseen hurdles.
Here are 4 tips that will help you get “commit” right and change your life.
1. Don’t Be Involved, Commit!
Doing things halfway is the mother of everything that can go wrong.
“The difference between ‘involvement’ and ‘commitment’ is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was ‘involved’ – the pig was ‘committed’.”
When you want your project to succeed, you invest yourself in it fully. Why? Because you can’t afford to only be involved; being involved means you’re not committed enough, and if you’re not committed enough, that thing you’ve been working on, won’t see the light of day. Don’t chicken out.
You can’t work on several things at the same time and expect excellent results. Make sure you’re doing one thing, and you’re investing all you’ve got.
2. If You Won’t Learn How to Commit, Someone Else Will
There’s someone out there who knows everything you know and they’re probably not alone.
“Competing in sports has taught me that if I’m not willing to give 120 percent, somebody else will. “ — Ronald Mark Blomberg (Boomer)
We live in a highly-competitive environment and truth be told, it’s exhausting. So what are you going to do? Are you going to quit? Probably not, but why?
You’re wired to keep on fighting—every time you think you’ve reached rock bottom, you connect to an inner mechanism based on millions of years of evolution whose sole purpose is keeping us alive. It can be either by running and hiding so you’ll be able to fight another day, or by making you fight tooth and nail to get what you need.
You probably heard about this fight-or-flight instinct. In fight-or-flight mode, your pupils dilate, your heart rate goes up, and blood pressure increases with the purpose of getting more oxygen into your brain and muscles. This response allows you to give much more in a competitive environment… but guess what? the same happens inside the other guy’s body. That’s why the one who’s more committed will be the last one standing.
3. Never Give Up, Never Give In
Quitting is also a lesson; a really expensive lesson, if you ask me. You pay for that lesson with the time you lost, the energies you invested, and a major blow to your ego. However, sometimes you find yourself with your back to the wall and you need to take drastic measures to save the day.
Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese author of The Art of War called it “desperate ground”:
“Throw your soldiers into positions fro whence there is no escape, and they will prefer death to flight. If they will face death, there is nothing they may not achieve. Officers and men alike will put forth their uttermost strength.” — Sun Tzu
Do you know why people quit? There are 3 major reasons:
- Lack of faith
- General inability to keep commitments due to a history of failures
All three are bound to each other. The more you fail, the less committed you become. If you’re less committed, you have less faith. If you don’t have faith in what you’re doing, every non-perfect condition can break your resolution. It’s that simple.
Fight perfectionism, fight lack of faith (whether in you or in others) and fight history to stop it from repeating itself.
Here’s a great reminder why you shouldn’t give up and how to do so: Giving up Is Not an Option! How to Not Give up and Stay Motivated
4. Free Your Mind, and the Rest Will Follow
Once you’re committed to something, your mind becomes like a homing beacon. There are no more choices to be made, just a focus on the target in front of your eyes—smooth sailing.
“The resolved mind hath no cares. “ — George Herbert
But what happens when you suddenly change your mind? What if the choice you’ve made is no longer as attractive as you previously imagined it would be?
You know of course what I’m talking about; that thought that you could’ve made a different choice, or as Neo said in the first Matrix “Why didn’t I take the blue pill?”
That’s why when you make a choice, weigh it heavily, commit, and never look back.
5. Commit to Something Bigger Than Yourself
If you have problems committing, it will be beneficial to commit in a group setting. The most likely way to overcome the fear of commitment is to commit to something bigger than just you, and in a group, you’ll be to draw upon others for both motivation and support.
“Individual commitment to a group effort—that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work. “ — Vince Lombardi
In a committed group, everyone works for the benefit of that group. A perfect example is trying to teach a child to swim on his own versus with a group of kids his own age.
Commitment allows us to fulfill our most basic needs and achieve our most sought after dreams. It gives us purpose.
Start small and remember the 4 things I suggested above. It’s never too late to learn how to commit.
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