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Thinking It Is Too Late to Chase Your Dream? Then You Are the Killer

Thinking It Is Too Late to Chase Your Dream? Then You Are the Killer

We all have dreams, thoughts on things we want to do or have in life. Most of us reflect on them often, imagining and wishing they could become reality. More often than not, people sit in their cubicle or on their couch in their pajamas daydreaming and then formulating reasons to keep those dreams just that: dreams.

Here are some of the thoughts that have run through my head as I contemplated pursuing my dream:

  • People will think I’m crazy
  • My life will be screwed if it doesn’t work out
  • I’ll have to sacrifice too much to make it happen
  • I’m too young
  • I’m too old
  • I’m too busy
  • I don’t have enough money,
  • I’m not smart enough, knowledgeable enough, tough enough…
  • I’m not ready yet.

The list goes on, but you get the idea. I worked to relegate my dream to “someday”.

A lot of us put off our dreams, the things we want to achieve most until that fateful “someday…”

We tell ourselves the time isn’t right to change how I’m living and chase my dream. Five years go by; the voice in your head continues to rattle off the reasons not to start chasing dreams. Those reasons then grow into the belief that “it’s too late to pursue your dream” and then that dream dies. Left to be filed under “what if” buried in regret.

Here’s the thing: it’s never too late to start chasing dreams. You are never too much or too little of anything. Don’t put off starting to work toward your dream; don’t do that to yourself.

Don’t be a killer.

Here are 8 examples of regular people like you and me. These people didn’t let that voice in their heads steal their dream, they made their dreams reality.

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1. Pete and Dalene Heck

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    The Hecks are a Canadian couple who didn’t let personal tragedy get the better of their dreams. In fact, the tragedy they encountered in their lives gave birth to the extraordinary life they live and love today. In their words “they went from scraping the bottom of life’s deepest hole to blowing the roof clear off.”

    Once corporate ladder climbers living the quintessential Canadian dream; nice house, nice car, lots of nice stuff, promising careers. Pete and Dalene experienced a number of personal tragedies that caused them to re-evaluate life and realize their lives were short and they had to make the most of them.

    A lot of people could have used those personal challenges as reasons not to follow a dream. Not Pete and Dalene, they reduced their 2100 square foot home into combined luggage space of 200 liters and left Canada to travel the world.

    The Hecks have been joyously traveling the globe with little in the way of plans or possessions since 2009. They were awarded Travelers of the Year 2014 by National Geographic because of their blog that shares their inspiring, relateable story.

    2. Laura Dekker

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      In 2009 a Dutch girl, Laura Dekker then 13, announced she planned to sail around the world on her own. Laura was born on a boat off the coast of New Zealand, living at sea until she was two. She and her family had a deep connection with boats and sailing.

      The Dutch government objected to Laura’s bid to single handedly circumnavigate the globe and blocked her from going. The whole world weighed in to debate how far parents should go to support kids seemingly impossible dreams.

      Faced with the prospect of storms at sea and dangerous pirates, Laura remained confident beyond her years saying “I’m not really afraid, everything is really prepared on my boat”. She fought the government and world opinion and ultimately prevailed beginning her 2 year 27000 mile journey at 14 years of age.

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      Despite her youth, Laura Dekker fought undaunted to achieve her dream and was successful. No possible threat at sea could shake her. She set sail on her dream adventure leaving behind things most girls of her age would find impossible to leave.

      3. Pat Flynn

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        Pat used to have a 9 to 5 job he really enjoyed. As life goes, bad things happened that were outside his control and he was laid off from his great job—an unexpected set back that ended up being the best thing that ever happened to him.

        Pat discovered his 9 to 5 was holding him back, went on to make more money, and create more freedom to be with the people he loved the most: his family. Driven by his dream to do his own thing, Pat builds businesses online and shares his tips and strategies for making money online on his blog: Smart Passive Income.

        An accidental entrepreneur, Pat Flynn didn’t let a bad turn of events keep him down. He could have found another job in his field, but instead he used losing his job as a means to realize his dream, living life on his terms.

        4. Colonel Harland Saunders

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          At 40 years of age, Colonel Harland Saunders started serving chicken and other meals in his roadside service station in 1930 a midst the Great Depression. He worked to perfect his chicken for 10 years finally creating his famous secret recipe and expanding to more locations.

          People loved his chicken but construction of the interstate robbed the Colonels restaurants of much needed road traffic and he was forced to fold up his businesses. Seeing the value in partnership, the Colonel set out to find a candidate to franchise his chicken. He drove around, camping in his car, being turned away time after time until successfully finding a partner.

          Colonel Sanders encountered many huge challenges trying to bring his dream to fruition. He never gave up; despite being rejected thousands of times he persevered and ultimately was successful.

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          5. Sean Ogle

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            After graduating with a degree in finance in 2007, Sean Ogle was left with the feeling that school didn’t teach him tangible life skills to be successful after graduation. This lack of knowledge led him on a career path he quickly found wasn’t for him.

            In 2009 Sean started his website Location 180 as a means to hold himself accountable to do all the things he talked about doing in his life. Publishing his bucket list inspired the dream lifestyle he’s living today. The tagline for his website is “Build a Business, Live Anywhere, Achieve Freedom.” Sean’s life today is an example of just that.

            He didn’t let society’s opinion of success deter him from building his dream. He could have convinced himself to stick it out in the job he hated as many of us do, but instead, when he learned he was on the wrong track, he didn’t doubt himself; he began changing his life’s direction helping others achieve freedom to.

            6. Joanne Rowling

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              Jo (J.K.) Rowling once viewed herself as a failure. Her marriage had ended, and she was unemployed raising an infant daughter, but she recounts her failure as a sort of release allowing her to focus on her passion: writing.

              After completing the first Harry Potter manuscript while on government aid, she submitted her manually typed copies to 12 publishers, and it was rejected by all. Bloomsbury, a small publishing house in London, eventually gave it the green light and finally the world would get its first introduction to beloved Harry.

              Joanne Rowling never gave up on her dream despite rejection and poverty. She is the author of the best selling book series in history and rich beyond her wildest dreams because of that.

              7. Chris McCandless

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                Driven to chase his dream, Chris McCandless hiked across Alaska despite the naysayers that thought his minimalist lifestyle was crazy. He believed perceived security and materialism prevented people from pursuing their dreams and discovering their true selves.

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                Chris went on to live his dream, paying the ultimate price to do so, with his life. Incredibly, he explored remote corners of Alaska for 2 years with little more than a backpack and a few odds and ends. Ultimately giving up everything, he lived the life he thought he was destined to live.

                8. Neil Pasricha

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                  In 2008, the 1000 Awesome Things blog was launched. The creator, Neil Pasricha was inspired to share his purposeful positive views with the world because of the doom and gloom that dominated the paper and the evening news. No stranger to life struggles, divorced and grieving a friend’s suicide, Neil was bent on looking for the positive things in life.

                  He went on to win the Webby Award for 1000 Awesome Things and was subsequently commissioned to write a book filled with his awesome views. The Book of Awesome, published in 2010 became a bestseller in its first week on store shelves.

                  All of these amazing people achieved their dreams because they believed in themselves. Others definitely tried to influence them and dissuade them from pursuing their aspirations but they were successful because they kept the dream alive, they continued chasing dreams.

                  What are you capable of? Don’t doubt living the life you dream of is within your control. Start working toward your dream today, don’t be a killer.

                  Featured photo credit: WalkingGeek via flickr.com

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                  13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                  13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                  Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

                  Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

                  My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

                  To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

                  You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

                  Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

                  “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

                  “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

                  “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

                  “I don’t deserve happiness”

                  EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

                  Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

                  Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

                  This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

                  If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

                  1. Happy People Put Happiness First

                  Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

                  Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

                  To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

                  The happy person asks,

                  “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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                  “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

                  They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

                  If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

                  Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

                  If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

                  2. Happy People Embrace Pain

                  I know what you are thinking –

                  “No one is ALWAYS happy”

                  or …

                  “Even happy people get in bad moods”

                  and …

                  These statements are absolutely accurate.

                  Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

                  Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

                  Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

                  Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

                  When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

                  3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

                  We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

                  The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

                  How are you currently defining yourself?

                  For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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                  When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

                  When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

                  Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

                  Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

                  If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

                  4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

                  The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

                  Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

                  Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

                  They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

                  5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

                  Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

                  However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

                  We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

                  If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

                  What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

                  Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

                  They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

                  What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

                  These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

                  6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

                  Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

                  Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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                  Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

                  A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

                  A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

                  7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

                  Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

                  Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

                  We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

                  In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

                  8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

                  What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

                  What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

                  Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

                  When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

                  9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

                  Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

                  It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

                  Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

                  Negativity is NOT normal.

                  The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

                  Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

                  In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.

                  10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

                  The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

                  They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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                  The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

                  Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

                  If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

                  11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

                  Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

                  Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

                  It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

                  Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

                  12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

                  Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

                  It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

                  Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

                  13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

                  When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

                  Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

                  Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

                  In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

                  If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

                  I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

                  It starts with one decision – happiness.

                  The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

                  Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

                  Reference

                  [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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