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Last Updated on August 30, 2018

20 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

20 Definitions Of Success You Should Never Ignore

How do you define success?

Is it wealth? Is it happiness? Webster’s dictionary has three definitions:

  1. The fact of getting or achieving wealth respect or fame.
  2. The correct or desired result of an attempt.
  3. Someone or something that is successful: a person or thing that succeeds.

The late Zig Ziglar was one of the most respected modern day experts on success, motivation, and leading a balanced life.

In his book Born to Win!, he argues that success cannot be defined in one sentence, but instead it is comprised of many things. One could argue that the definition depends on the individual and one size does not fit all.

Here are 20 new definitions of success, find your own success definition and create meaning for your life:

1. Success is always doing your best.

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    Success can be achieved when you try your best in all aspects of everything you do.

    2. Success is properly setting concrete goals.

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      Be realistic and concrete when setting goals. Success does not come from setting abstract goals.

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      3. Success is having a place to call home.

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        Home is where your heart soars. You are always successful when you can call a place home.

        4. Success is understanding the difference between need and want.

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          If you can meet your monthly obligations and fulfill your basic needs, you are successful.

          5. Success is believing you can.

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            If you believe you can, you will succeed.

            6. Success is remembering to balance work with passion.

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              Work without passion creates undue stress and empty achievements. Focus on what excites you.

              7. Success is taking care of your needs.

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                Remember to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others.

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                8. Success is learning that you sometimes have to say no.

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                  Success only comes with a balanced life. Part of balance is learning to say no.

                  9. Success is knowing your life is filled with abundance.

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                    Love, health, friends, family… life is filled with abundance.

                    10. Success is understanding you cannot keep what you don’t give away.

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                      You will only succeed if you help others succeed.

                      11. Success is overcoming fear.

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                        Conquering a fear makes you feel invincible. No one can stop you now.

                        12. Success is seeing your child graduate.

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                          Your love, guidance, and discipline has paid off. You both succeed today.

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                          13. Success is learning something new each day.

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                            Successful people understand learning never stops.

                            14. Success is learning that losing a few battles can help you win a war.

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                              Successful people choose their battles wisely.

                              15. Success is loving and being loved back.

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                                Unconditional love is the best!

                                16. Success is standing your ground when you believe in something.

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                                  Successful people never give up on things they believe with all their heart.

                                  17. Success is not giving up.

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                                    Perseverance creates grit, grit achieves success

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                                    18. Success is celebrating small victories.

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                                      Anytime a goal is reached or an obstacle is overcome, take time to celebrate.

                                      19. Success is never letting a disability hold you back.

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                                        Disabilities do not define a person’s success. The body and mind will compensate.

                                        20. Success is understanding you control your destiny.

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                                          Your destiny is controlled by you and you alone.

                                          Success can be defined in many ways. I think we accomplish success when at the end of a day we can say… this was a good day. I look forward to doing it again tomorrow.

                                          How do you define success?

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                                          The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

                                          The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

                                          In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

                                          Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

                                          Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

                                          Conflicts are literally everywhere.

                                          Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

                                          Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

                                          Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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                                          Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

                                          Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

                                          Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

                                          The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

                                          Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

                                          Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

                                          How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

                                          Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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                                          Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

                                          Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

                                          How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

                                          Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

                                          Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

                                          Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

                                          How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

                                          Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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                                          Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

                                          Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

                                          How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

                                          Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

                                          Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

                                          Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

                                          How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

                                          Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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                                          Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

                                          Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

                                          How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

                                          Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

                                          Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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