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9 Toxic Habits That Kill Your Motivation

9 Toxic Habits That Kill Your Motivation

Want to be successful?  You have to start by getting motivated.  Unfortunately, everyday you are bombarded by toxic habits that can kill your motivation.  Here are the most common culprits.

1.  You desire to be perfect.

Pursuing perfection is the quickest way to kill your motivation.  If this one is particularly hard for you, next time you are working on a project, tell yourself you are just doing a “rough draft,” and you will make it “perfect” later.  When later arrives, do a few revisions to your project and call it good.  Having something done is better than never finishing anything.

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2. You compare yourself to others.

Constantly comparing yourself to others is one of the easiest ways to lose motivation.  Not only will you stop working, but you will also  waste a ton of time.  Instead of comparing yourself to others, find out what makes them so good at their jobs.  By telling someone you admire them, you may find out what their secret of success is–or you may find out that the person you’re comparing yourself to doesn’t have it as good as you thought.

3. You don’t believe in yourself.

If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?  Stop wasting time and energy by tearing yourself down.  Next time you’re feeling down, force yourself to think of one thing you do well.  It will feel weird at first, but eventually you will realize that you are doing better than you thought.

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4. You do too much at once.

The best way to find motivation is to focus on the tasks you want to complete.  If you have 100 projects going on at once, you won’t get anything done.  So focus on what you want to accomplish and get started.

5. You don’t have any goals.

If you don’t have goals, you won’t be motivated because you don’t know where you’re going.  You need to figure out where you want to go and then your goals will take you there.  Not having goals is like trying to find a new restaurant without an address.  You might luck into it every once in a while, but you will be stuck wandering most of the time.

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6. You don’t encourage yourself.

Do you ever wish someone would tell you you’re doing a great job?  Well, you can get that encouragement today–from yourself.  By finding a way to encourage yourself, with notes, emails, even a special treat, you will feel more rewarded and motivated.  Remember, treat yourself the way you expect others to treat you.

7. You forget to rest.

Don’t forget sleep!  You need to take time to recharge so can have energy at work.  Want to take this one step further?  Carve out some “quiet time” every day.  Let your mind relax while you’re awake, and you will be able to come back to a project with a renewed spirit.

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8.  You have trouble finding new ideas.

You need to fuel your motivation with new ideas.  If motivation is gas, new ideas are the gas pump. By reading, thinking, and talking to others you will discover new ideas and make connections to old ideas.  This way you can solve problems and your tank will stay full.

9.  You get distracted.

We all have one activity that makes hours–or days–of our lives disappear.  From TV, to the Internet, to social media, you’ve got to learn how to shut out distractions so you can be motivated.  Need help?  A great way to focus is to schedule your time.  If you need to work on a project, set aside time every day to work on it.  This way, when you’re tempted to read about the latest celebrity gossip, you can remember your time is already spoken for.

These 9 toxic habits can kill your motivation.  Now you know what to look for, so make sure you stop them before they stop you.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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