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100+ Motivational Quotes On Dream, Goal And Future

100+ Motivational Quotes On Dream, Goal And Future

1. You Can Never Cross The Ocean Unless You Have The Courage To Lose Sight Of The Shore.

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    2. If You Want Something You Never Had, You Have To Do Something You’ve Never Done.

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      3. The Distance Between Your Dreams And Reality Is Call Action.

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        4. Stop Waiting For Friday, For Summer, For Someone To Fall In Love With You, For Life. Happiness Is Achieved When You Stop Waiting For It And Make The Most Of The Moment You Are In Now.

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          5. Nobody Is Too Busy, It’s Just A Matter Of Priorities.

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            6. Do What You Have To Do Until You Can Do What You Want To Do.

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              7. Ask Yourself If What You’re Doing Today Is Getting You Closer To Where You Want To Be Tomorrow.

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                8. To Live Will Be An Awfully Big Adventure.

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                  9. I Want To See The World. Follow A Map To Its Edges…

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                    10. It Is Never Too Late To Be What You Might Have Been.

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                      11. Don’t Wait. Life Goes Faster Than You Think.

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                        12. You’re Never Too Young To Dream BIG!

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                          13. It Feels Good To Be Lost In The Right Direction.

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                            14. If You Haven’t Found It Yet, Keep Looking.

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                              15. Don’t Call It A Dream Call It A Plan.

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                                16. Don’t Tell People Your Dream. Show Them.

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                                  17. If You Don’t Know Where You Want To Go, Then It Doesn’t Matter Which Path You Take.

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                                    18. I Would Rather Regret The Things I Have Done Than The Things I Have Not.

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                                      19. You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want If You Want Great, Then Be Great.

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                                        20. Life Is Not Measured By The Number Of Breaths We Take, But By The Moments That Take Our Breath Away.

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                                          21. I Am Not What Happened To Me. I Am What I Choose To Become.

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                                            22. I Have Got The Dreamer Disease

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                                              23. Some See A Weed, Some See A Wish.

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                                                24 . It Always Seems Impossible Until It’s Done.

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                                                  25. If You Obey All The Rules You Miss All The Fun.

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                                                    26. Learn The Rules Like A Pro So You Can Break Them Like An Artist.

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                                                      27. Sometimes The Right Path Is Not The Easiest One.

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                                                        28. Do Not Pray For An Easy Life, Pray For The Strength To Endure A Difficult One.

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                                                          29. Sometimes Life Is About Risking Everything For A Dream No One Can See But You.

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                                                            30. You’re Allowed To Scream, You’re Allowed To Cry, But Do Not Give Up.

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                                                              31. Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.

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                                                                32. Don’t Quit. Suffer Now And Live The Rest Of Your Life As A Champion.

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                                                                  33. Keep On Dreaming Even If It Breaks Your Heart.

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                                                                    34. The Question Isn’t Who Is Going To Let Me; It’s Who Is Going To Stop Me.

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                                                                      35. I’m Too Busy Working On My Own Grass To Notice If Yours Is Greener.

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                                                                        36. You Never Realize How Strong You Are Until Being Strong Is the Only Choice You Have.

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                                                                          37. Keep Your Hopes Up.

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                                                                            38. I Deserve To Be Happy

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                                                                              39. Can You Remember Who You Were Before The World Told You Who You Should Be?

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                                                                                40. The Only Person You Should Try To Be Better Than, Is The Person You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                  41. Hey Little Fighter, Soon Things Will Be Brighter.

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                                                                                    42. May My Heart Be Brave, My Mind Fierce, And My Spirit Free.

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                                                                                      43. Only Those Who Care About You Can Hear You When You’re Quiet.

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                                                                                          44. Failure Is The Opportunity To Being Again More Intelligently.

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                                                                                            45. Life Isn’t About Finding Yourself. Life Is About Creating Yourself.

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                                                                                              46. Someday, Everything Will Make Perfect Sense. So For Now, Laugh At The Confusion, Smile Through The Tears, And Keep Reminding Yourself That Everything Happens For A Reason.

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                                                                                                47. Don’t Waste Words On People Who Deserve Your Silence. Sometimes The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say Is Nothing At All.

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                                                                                                  48. They Laugh At Me Because I’m Different; I Laugh At Them Because They’re All The Same.

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                                                                                                    49. If You’re Lucky Enough To Be Different, Don’t Ever Change.

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                                                                                                      50. I Am Strong Because I’ve Been Weak. I Am Fearless Because I’ve Been Afraid.

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                                                                                                        51. Sometimes You Face Difficulties You’re Doing Something Wrong, But Because You’re Doing Something Right.

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                                                                                                          52. When You Start Seeing Your Worth, You’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                                                                                            53. Sometimes You Just Need To Distance Yourself From People. If They Care, They’ll Notice. If They Don’t You Know Where You Stand.

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                                                                                                              54. Don’t Tell Me What They Said About Me, Tell Me Why They Were So Comfortable To Say It Around You.

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                                                                                                                55. Don’t Let The Behavior Of Others Destroy Inner Peace.

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                                                                                                                  56. Don’t Downgrade Your Dream Just To Fit Your Reality. Upgrade Your Conviction To Match Your Destiny.

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                                                                                                                    57. Only Those Who Care About You Can Hear You When You’re Quiet.

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                                                                                                                        58. Go Ahead Tell Me That I’m Not Good Enough Tell Me I Can’t Do It Because I Will Show You Over & Over That I Can!

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                                                                                                                          59. I’m Very Picky With Whom I Give My Energy To. I Prefer To Reserve My Time, Intensity And Spirit Exclusively To Those Who Reflect Sincerity.

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                                                                                                                            60. Never Apologize For Having High Standards. People Who Really Want To Be In Your Life Will Rise Up To Meet Them.

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                                                                                                                              61. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                                62. I’ve Never Met A Strong Person With An Easy Part.

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                                                                                                                                  63. The 3C’S In Life” Choice, Chance, Change. You Must Make The Choice, To Take The Chance, If You Want Anything In Life To Change.

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                                                                                                                                    64. One Of The Happiest Moments In Life Is When You Find The Courage To Let Go Of What You Can’t Change.

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                                                                                                                                      65. Sometimes You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever Were.

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                                                                                                                                        66. An Arrow Can Only Be Shot By Pulling It Backward. So When Life Is Dragging You Back The Difficulties, It Means That It’s Going To Launch You Into Something Great. So Just Focus, And Keep Aiming.

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                                                                                                                                          67. Hope Is The Only Thing Stronger Than Fear.

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                                                                                                                                            68. You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice

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                                                                                                                                              69. Your Mind Is A Powerful Thing. When You Fill It With Positive Thoughts, Your Life Will Start To Change.

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                                                                                                                                                70. Time Decides Who You Meet In Life, Your Heart Decides Who You Want In Your Life, And Your Behaviour Decide Who Stays In Your Life.

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                                                                                                                                                  71. The Struggle You’re In Today Is Developing The Strength You Need For Tomorrow.

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                                                                                                                                                    72. Once You Start To See Results, It Becomes An Addiction.

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                                                                                                                                                      73. If You Can’t Stop Thinking About It, Don’t Stop Working For It.

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                                                                                                                                                        74. The Say If You Dream A Thing More Than Once, It’s Sure To Come True.

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                                                                                                                                                          75. If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It.

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                                                                                                                                                            76. Believe You Can And You’re Halfway There.

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                                                                                                                                                              77. Make Your Dream Happen.

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                                                                                                                                                                78. Forget Your Past, Forgive Yourself, And Begin Again Right Now.

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                                                                                                                                                                  79. When You Face Difficult Times, Know That Challenges Are Not Sent To Destroy You. They’re Sent To Promote, Increase And Strengthen You.

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                                                                                                                                                                    80. Sometimes The Bad Things That Happen In Our Lives Put Us Directly On The Best Things That Will Ever Happen To Us.

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                                                                                                                                                                      81. What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

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                                                                                                                                                                        82. You Have To Be At Your Strongest When You’re feeling At Your Weakest.

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                                                                                                                                                                          83. You Were Given This Life Because You Are Strong Enough To Live It.

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                                                                                                                                                                            84. You Have Within You, Right Now, Everything You Need To Deal With Whatever The World Can Throw At You.

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                                                                                                                                                                              85. Nothing Can Dim The Light That Shines From Within.

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                                                                                                                                                                                86. Wake Up With Determination. Go To Bed With Satisfaction.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  87. Growth Is Painful. Change Is Painful. But Nothing Is As Painful As Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    88. In The End, We Only Regret The Chances We Didn’t Take.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      89. Life Has No Remote, Get Up And Change It Yourself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        90. You Only Live Once, You Might As Well As A Badass!

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                                                                                                                                                                                          91. Better Things Are Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            92. A Single Dream Is More Powerful Than A Thousand Realities.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              93. If You Don’t Imagine, Nothing Ever Happens At All.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                94. Dream. Believe. Do. Repeat.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  95. Things Take Time. So Just Be Patient.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    96. Be All In Or Get All Out. There Is No Halfway.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      97. Do Or Do Not. There Is No Try.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        98. I Am A Daydreamer And A Nightthinker.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          99. Breathing dreams like air.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            100. Surround Yourself With The Dreams And The Doers, The Believers And Thinkers, But Most Of All Surround Yourself With Those Who See Greatness Within You , Even When You Don’t See It Yourself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              101. She Dreams More Often Than She Sleeps.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                102. Stay Positive, Work Hard, Make It Happen.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  103. We Are The Dreamers Of Dreaming.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    104. It Always Seems Impressible Until Its Done.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      105. Dream On Dreamer

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Positive and Negative Reinforcement: Which Is More Effective?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Positive and Negative Reinforcement: Which Is More Effective?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        It has been said that rarely am I short of words, and yet I’ve rewritten this article on positive and negative reinforcement five times. Why?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        It’s not as if I have a lack of thoughts on this subject. It’s not as if I don’t spend my days enabling people to communicate powerfully and get what they want in life. So why the rewrites?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I’ve found myself thinking about the diversity of people I’ve coached and how different we all can be. Usually when I write for Lifehack, I’m able to see instant commonality in the subject that means I could share some ideas that would resonate wherever you are in life, whoever you are, regardless of what you were looking to achieve or what adversity you may be facing.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        However, with this, it’s a “How long’s a piece of string?” answer, i.e. I could probably write a whole book’s worth of words and still have ideas to share.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Let’s look at some key points:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • You will have times in your life where you need to get someone to do something.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • You will have times when someone needs you to do something.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Let’s look at how positive and negative reinforcement would work. In both of these situations, you can face some big obstacles:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Someone may resist your desire for them to change.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Someone may challenge your authority or leadership.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Someone may be at risk of getting hurt.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The important thing to remember is that, in life, we all have to be influenced and influence those around us, and some ways will help us get the result we want, and others won’t. However, that may differ on where you are, who you are talking to, and what you want to see happen!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        So, how do we know when positive reinforcement is effective[1], and can there ever be a time when negative reinforcement is good?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Worryingly, if you get positive and negative reinforcement wrong, you can risk your career, your business, your relationships, your reputation, and your brand.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Positive and negative reinforcement each have their merits, so it’s imperative to know when to employ them. Interestingly, despite a ton of evidence to the contrary, we still rely on the wrongs ones in society, business, and even in parenting.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The 4 examples below showcase the use of positive and negative reinforcement, and whether they personally apply to you right now or not, they will resonate and be very useful to you personally in every area of your life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        For each we will look at:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        1. What’s the problem?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        2. What have you tried?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        3. Now what?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        4. The results!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Boss

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Okay, you may not be a boss, but everyone will have times in their life where they need to get people organized and working together to get the best result. Often, leaders say things like this to me:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • “I’ve told them until I’m blue in the face not to do that!”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • “They constantly refuse to use the new system.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • “They just don’t listen.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • “They don’t respect me.”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What Did the Boss Try?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Often, I hear “We’ve tried everything!” No matter who is reading this, trust me, you’ve not tried everything. (That’s the first thing to accept.) When you accept that, you then need to look at what you have tried to move forward.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The boss has tried:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Giving the person training.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Spending time with them and showing them how to do it.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Telling them it wasn’t good enough.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Telling them we aren’t doing that any more.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Now What?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The above situations create tension between the two as you constantly battle to maintain your position on the situation. If you are looking to get someone to do something, and they constantly resist, you need to stop and ask yourself some questions:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        1. What have we tried? This helps you to understand what they are good at, so you can utilize that in the conversation.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        2. From their viewpoint, what could prevent them from doing what I’ve asked? What could they fear, and how will we allay those fears?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        3. What do they want? Seeing their viewpoint enables you to use their terminology and language so they feel listened to.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        4. What do they believe? Do their beliefs prevent them from seeing the benefits? Beliefs can be changed but not by force—coaching is very powerful for this.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        5. How do these answers differ from my beliefs and views? Bridging the gap helps you to see both views and communicate more powerfully.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        In my experience, rarely does a boss or leader need to say the word “No.” If someone is not doing what you want them to, the quickest way to see results is to ask questions and listen. Often, when you really listen, you discover a big gap between what you think you are saying and what the other person is hearing.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The reasons why someone is not doing what you want can include:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They don’t know how to do what you’ve asked them to do.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They are scared to get it wrong.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They fear what people will think of them.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They don’t have the confidence to come and tell you they need help.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They are scared that someone will tell them off.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • They don’t understand where the boundaries are.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        People tell me, “But I said that to them!” If you are too close to the situation, then how likely are they to take notice from you? Here’s what you can do:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Get out of your usual environment – Neutral environments make difficult conversations easier. They can take you both off your guard, which can be good.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Start by making that person feel safe to say anything. Start with ground rules like “This is a confidential conversation” and “I won’t make any judgement on what you say, I just want to understand.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Be prepared to say “I’m sorry” or “I didn’t realize.” When you do this, positive and negative reinforcement can be used.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Learning how to coach people instead of tell people is key. Enabling the other person to see the benefits of what you want for them (and not you) is quicker than trying to dictate action.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Lay out expected outcomes.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Create boundaries.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • Explain what support and help you will provide.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Results

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        This style of reinforcement is about utilizing both positive and negative reinforcement. It enables someone to feel safe to explain why they’ve not been taking action and helps them to overcome the limitations they feel while safe in the knowledge that they will get the support to change with the positive results explained in a way that matters to them.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Young Child

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        If you’ve ever found yourself on the wrong end of a relentless tantrum of a small child, you will know it can feel impossible to get through to them. While many elements of The Boss scenario could work, there are times where you may need some negative reinforcement.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What’s the Problem?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        My children are now 15 and 18. I can honestly say that, while we have had some challenging behaviors, our parenting means I have two children I’m very proud of–great communicators, great work ethic, kind, funny, considerate. The point is that, for my children, this stuff works. And, to be honest, when I’m with other people’s children, they often say “How did you get them to do that!”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Young children are amazing. It’s like they’ve just woken up in a new body and have been told to go touch, feel, experience everything–every emotion, every taste, smell, experience, texture, the lot! They are curious and keen to know more. They sap up everything, and a lot of that we don’t want them sapping up!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        When they go to put a pencil in an electric socket, or let go of your hand as you cross the road, it’s imperative they get the learning and knowledge they need fast. I once was talking to a parent that said I was wrong to say no to my children. I asked, “At what age would you like me to introduce them to that word?” to which they had no answer.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        While I agree that there are usually a lot more words than just no for children, “no” is a word that kept you and I safe when we were small.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What Have You Tried?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        While young children are incredibly intelligent, explaining the merits of your preferred course of action is not going to keep them safe. Tying them to your waist isn’t working. Punishing them and telling them there’s no more park time until you walk next to me doesn’t work either. So how do you say no and keep them safe?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Now What?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Sometimes negative reinforcement is essential[2]. For instance, my son (who adored Bob the Builder when he was little) was playing with his plastic tool kit and discovered an electric socket…I didn’t stop to explain the merits of how that could be dangerous. I said calmly, “No, that’s dangerous!”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Here’s the important point: It’s not just about your words. With young children, it’s important that your body language clearly says the same.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Results

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I did feel like the luckiest parent on the planet to have two children sleeping through the night, but that didn’t tell the full story. I can remember spending a few weeks calmly picking my daughter up with no eye contact, no overly big hug, no conversation, just saying, “Sorry darling but now’s bedtime, so back we go.” And yes, being the strong-willed girl that she is, there was sometimes a good hour of that until she got the message that Mum really isn’t going to play, turn into a dinosaur, sing, or read a story.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The thing with positive and negative reinforcement is that you need to have faith it will work, and you are doing the right thing.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Of course, when I went in to get her from her cot the next morning, I had a big grin on my face that said, “Wow, what a grown up girl you are staying in your bed all night!” I used positive reinforcement to get the day started.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Teenager

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What’s the Problem?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        If I’m honest, I don’t have problems with my teenagers. However, I think that is in no small part to my style of communication. Having respect for them is key, and appreciating how much change is happening in their lives really helps–as someone who helps large teams of people deal with change, I know how hard it can be.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        However, when I wrote the article How to Enjoy Parenting Teens and Help Your Kids Thrive, I was inundated with stories of hellish behavior from other parent’s teenagers, tales of staying out all night and not phoning home, abusive behavior towards parents and teens–I really felt for all involved.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        What Have You Tried?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The problem with teens is they know exactly how to wind you up like a little clock-work toy. And if you’ve had a tough day, the last thing you want is to have to deal with someone who can’t even communicate with words, let alone put their dishes in the dishwasher.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Losing it is never the option, but it can easily happen. Shouting, bribery, and doing it yourself because it’s just easier really don’t work in the long run.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Now What?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        If you consider everything we’ve covered, you can see that you need to communicate using positive and negative reinforcement. In life, there are consequences to all actions, and teens have a ton of stuff to learn to become effective, successful, happy adults.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Before you embark on any course of action, consider how the other person perceives the world. What are they going through?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        You may have loved being a teen, but that doesn’t ensure your children will. Likewise, in life, there are things you love that others will loathe–seeing the world through other people’s eyes really helps you to understand the best way to communicate.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The only big difference for teenagers is to use emotion with caution. I personally let my children see all emotions–I’ve not hidden my tears when I’ve lost a loved one as it’s a perfectly normal thing to do. However, if a teenager in a foul mood can spot a weakness, they may just take advantage of it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Results

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        My kids love to tell everyone I’m a scary mom. I’m not, I just have high standards, and I’m not prepared to drop them.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        We shy away from telling people what we expect and then wonder why we are getting as stressed as the other party because no one knows where they stand.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        I’m happy for my children to take over the TV room and eat far too much sweet stuff and binge on a box set. Just don’t put cups on the carpet, we have places for drinks. It’s having the confidence to say this is the rule.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        People think negative reinforcement is a bad thing. However, how can someone change if they don’t know what they are doing wrong? And that’s the issue: so many of us are fearful of saying “Stop doing that!” If you lack confidence, find your voice because people aren’t mind-readers.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Before you start considering whether positive or negative reinforcement is best for others, ask yourself what you respond better to.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Personally, I respond far better to negative reinforcement–I can improve and be more successful and happier if I know what I’m doing wrong. Furthermore, I know that sometimes negative reinforcement works better with some clients who really don’t want to look at the issue–but it’s always done with respect and love.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Coaching people is also a great representation of when positive and negative reinforcement is best. We are looking to find ways to increase the positive action with positive reinforcement and ways to reduce the negative results with negative reinforcement–and usually my clients keep those changes for the rest of their lives.

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