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4 Steps to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

4 Steps to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

Fear of public speaking ranks extremely high for most people.  Experts say that it is feared even more than death!  It’s easy to assume that you are not very good at it when, in fact, the problem is caused less by your ability to speak and more by your fear of speaking.  Once you break that barrier of fear, you may find out that you’re pretty darn good at it.  Not only that, you might even love it!  As someone who broke that very barrier, I understand this fear intimately.  Here are three steps to get you started in your journey.

Write down at least one way that this fear is limiting your life.

What is this fear stopping you from doing? If you can figure this out, then your motivation for overcoming it will increase.  Is the fear preventing you from speaking up in meetings or in the class room? Do you feel awkward at social gatherings? Do you choose your courses at school based on whether or not there are presentations to do? I sure did! All of that applied to me. I got sick of being afraid.  Everyone else seemed to be having so much more fun doing things that made my stomach churn knots.

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Join a speaking group.

Probably the most popular group is Toastmasters International.  It is a wonderful environment full of encouragement.  Sure it’s nerve-wracking! Sure your palms will get sweaty! Heck, I even cried during my first speech!  I completed the Competent Communicator Award which entails doing 10 very specific types of speeches.  The order of the speeches was well thought out.  The first one is just about introducing yourself to the group.  By the time you get to the last one, you are using effective gestures and visual aids. You might have even entered a contest or two by then!  I can’t tell you how liberating it felt to finally break that barrier.  I enjoy  public speaking more than I ever thought possible.  No, it didn’t turn me into an extrovert, but my inner world was finally ready to be shown to the outer world.  Should you decide you want to take speaking to a deeper level, there are many options for growth at Toastmasters.

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Acknowledge your fearful feelings.

Realize that you are afraid because you care.  It’s OK to have butterflies.  It’s OK to have sweaty palms.  You respect the task at hand and you care about doing a good job.  That’s great!  People can feel that you care.  They can also tell if you don’t care.  When you do care, people want to hear what you have to say.  I honestly used to think that people didn’t want to hear what I had to say, so I would rush through my speech.  I learned that I had valuable information to share that people wanted to hear! Once you truly believe that what you have to share has value, your speaking will improve dramatically.  The more practice you have with public speaking, the better you will become at controlling those fearful feelings.  You’ll be able to use them in a more positive, productive manner that will actually fuel you.

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Talk about what you know.

When you truly understand a topic, it is easier to focus on getting the idea across rather than trying to remember something word for word.  Being able to ad-lib gives you some freedom with your words.  This also lowers your anxiety.  If you must talk about something out of your comfort zone, research your topic well.  Try to relate it to something in your life so it becomes easier to talk about.

Public speaking is a skill that can be learned.  It can also be forgotten, just like other types of skills.  Once you break that barrier, keep yourself tuned up by either continuing with your speaking group or actively seeking out reasons to speak in public.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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