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4 Steps to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

4 Steps to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking

Fear of public speaking ranks extremely high for most people.  Experts say that it is feared even more than death!  It’s easy to assume that you are not very good at it when, in fact, the problem is caused less by your ability to speak and more by your fear of speaking.  Once you break that barrier of fear, you may find out that you’re pretty darn good at it.  Not only that, you might even love it!  As someone who broke that very barrier, I understand this fear intimately.  Here are three steps to get you started in your journey.

Write down at least one way that this fear is limiting your life.

What is this fear stopping you from doing? If you can figure this out, then your motivation for overcoming it will increase.  Is the fear preventing you from speaking up in meetings or in the class room? Do you feel awkward at social gatherings? Do you choose your courses at school based on whether or not there are presentations to do? I sure did! All of that applied to me. I got sick of being afraid.  Everyone else seemed to be having so much more fun doing things that made my stomach churn knots.

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Join a speaking group.

Probably the most popular group is Toastmasters International.  It is a wonderful environment full of encouragement.  Sure it’s nerve-wracking! Sure your palms will get sweaty! Heck, I even cried during my first speech!  I completed the Competent Communicator Award which entails doing 10 very specific types of speeches.  The order of the speeches was well thought out.  The first one is just about introducing yourself to the group.  By the time you get to the last one, you are using effective gestures and visual aids. You might have even entered a contest or two by then!  I can’t tell you how liberating it felt to finally break that barrier.  I enjoy  public speaking more than I ever thought possible.  No, it didn’t turn me into an extrovert, but my inner world was finally ready to be shown to the outer world.  Should you decide you want to take speaking to a deeper level, there are many options for growth at Toastmasters.

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Acknowledge your fearful feelings.

Realize that you are afraid because you care.  It’s OK to have butterflies.  It’s OK to have sweaty palms.  You respect the task at hand and you care about doing a good job.  That’s great!  People can feel that you care.  They can also tell if you don’t care.  When you do care, people want to hear what you have to say.  I honestly used to think that people didn’t want to hear what I had to say, so I would rush through my speech.  I learned that I had valuable information to share that people wanted to hear! Once you truly believe that what you have to share has value, your speaking will improve dramatically.  The more practice you have with public speaking, the better you will become at controlling those fearful feelings.  You’ll be able to use them in a more positive, productive manner that will actually fuel you.

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Talk about what you know.

When you truly understand a topic, it is easier to focus on getting the idea across rather than trying to remember something word for word.  Being able to ad-lib gives you some freedom with your words.  This also lowers your anxiety.  If you must talk about something out of your comfort zone, research your topic well.  Try to relate it to something in your life so it becomes easier to talk about.

Public speaking is a skill that can be learned.  It can also be forgotten, just like other types of skills.  Once you break that barrier, keep yourself tuned up by either continuing with your speaking group or actively seeking out reasons to speak in public.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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