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8 Things Only People Who Overthink All The Time Would Understand

8 Things Only People Who Overthink All The Time Would Understand

Overthinking is a common habit. Those of us who know the feeling of thinking about one thing again and again and again, will find themselves in this article.

1. They have high expectations.

They’re hard on themselves because they always want to put their best foot forward. They expect a lot of others also because they give so much of themselves.  Overthinking leads to higher standards and higher expectations.

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    2. They’re great conversationalists.

    Everything they’ve ever attempted, they’ve thought through. This means that they researched every possible way to do something then settled on the best approach. They usually have tidbits of information on almost everything. These guys have thought of everything!

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      3. They are patient.

      They have the stamina to consider all options before committing to a decision. As long as they can feed their need to overthink, they are willing to take the time to do more, give more, over-extend themselves, all for the sake of analyzing the situation completely. Overthinkers are less likely to make quick, irrational decisions.

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        4. They’re multi-taskers.

        They cover all the bases, they would do the work of four people to make sure something is done correctly. They tend to do a little more than what is expected of them and are happy to do so. They don’t even realize how much extra effort they exert.

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          5. They are multi-passionate.

          Overthinkers are open to trying new things, eating new foods, attempting new approaches. They’re open to change. They leave no stone un-turned. To overthink, is to get tired of one way of thinking and to continue to think of the same thing with a new angle. Overthinking breeds change which then breeds creativity and innovation.  

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            6. They are self-aware and socially-aware.

            They follow etiquette rules and have couth.  They rarely put their foot in their mouth because they understand the basic rules of social engagement. If they don’t know the rules, they find them. They are too afraid to act incorrectly that they avoid it by thinking of all scenarios and being prepared in all situations.

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              7. Their brains can handle a lot of information.

              They’re driven a little further than others who would not have the stamina to think of so many things. They can handle higher highs and lower lows than most.

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                8. They have no regrets.

                They put all they have into everything so that they don’t ever have to wish they had tried harder, said something smarter, gave more, or done better. They’ve thought out all outcomes. They are prepared for all situations. They’ve over thought, thus seeking new knowledge to make better decisions.

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                  Last Updated on January 12, 2021

                  Why We Say What We Won’t Do (but Still Say It Anyway)

                  Why We Say What We Won’t Do (but Still Say It Anyway)

                  Every day we say a lot about what we want and will do.

                  “I want to pet a cat.”

                  “I want to buy a house for my parents.”

                  “I don’t want to be single anymore.”

                  “I will love you no matter what.”

                  “I will work harder in the future.”

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                    It’s easy to make plans for the future. And we make resolutions all the time. Consider that a full 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.[1] And that a vast majority of relationships (plus many marriages) end as well with break-ups or divorce. The best intentions and the best-laid plans generally speaking end in failure.

                    No one intended to lie

                    In general, people make these kinds of promises or resolutions with the best intentions. They don’t want to fail; if anything, they want desperately to be right, to improve themselves, and to make their friends and family happy. So even if a resolution doesn’t work out, when they utter them, it’s far from a lie.

                      People often speak without thinking. They say what comes to mind, but without really thinking it through. And what usually comes to mind is wishful thinking – the ideal result, not what’s possible and practical. It’s tempting to fantasize about a beautiful and perfect future: a good romantic relationship, to have the approval and respect of your parents, and to have a successful career.

                      But how to get what you want is not always clear to you in the moment you utter it. It’s hard to see beyond just the easy, idealized image. The challenges you may come across, the disappointments and sadness you may face – none of that is anywhere to be seen in a daydreaming mind.

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                      Wishful thinking often end in crushing disappointment

                      The problem is this. Wishful thinking and fantasies will only end in disappointment if you don’t follow through. You disappoint your friends, your family, your boss, and – most importantly – yourself. This can really take a toll on your own psyche and sense of self-worth.

                            At a personal level, you’ll have so many unfulfilled dreams and goals. This is an incredibly common situation for people everywhere. As a teenager, you might have dreamed of what your life would be like as an adult: happily married and with a successful and high-earning career by the time you’re 25. But these are two seriously challenging goals that take planning and effort. Many people find themselves alone and in a dead-end job – rather than a career – wondering where they went wrong.

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                                On an interpersonal level, making empty promises is hurtful and damaging to relationships. Friendship and healthy family relationships are built on trust. People who want to be your friend take you at your word and expect you to follow through. If you tell your friends that you’ll “be there for them,” but never pick up the phone, they will be hurt and no longer want to hang out. The same is true for family or even professional relationships. You might find it tempting to tell your boss that you’ll finish a major project “by the end of the week,” without considering whether this is plausible. If you are unable to complete the task in the timeframe that you set, it’s not easy to regain your boss’s trust.

                                Keep what you want to yourself

                                It’s vital to be clear about what you want. Notice when people around you are prone to saying “I want ___” and “I don’t want ____.”

                                Kids are very prone to saying all their wants out loud, partly because they don’t have the independence and resources to get it themselves. This is why children and young people are often vague about what they want in the future. They have lots of wants without a concrete plan on how to get them.

                                This is one of the challenges of being an adult. As you gain the practical ability to provide for yourself, and as you learn from your mistakes, it’s more and more important to be clear about how you plan to get what you want.

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                                  Practice visualizing plans to attain your goals. For example, you might want a pet – everyone shares pictures of their dogs and cats on Instagram! But before you go out to adopt one at the shelter, make sure you visualize all the things you have to do to take care of your pet. Pet-ownership involves: cleaning up after it, house-training it, taking it to the vet, walking it, buying it food, and making sure that it gets plenty of stimulation and exercise.

                                  If you want or need a car, think about how much you need to save to purchase the car, the cleaning and maintenance costs, how to pay for regular car insurance, parking costs, et cetera.

                                    If you really want something, don’t just say it. Plan for it and do it. Create conditions that make what you want inevitable. Do small things consistently and make it a habit. You’ll amaze yourself and your friends if you constantly work on attaining your goals. Read more about how to follow through your goals here: Why I Can Be the Only 8% of People Who Reach the Goal Every Single Time

                                    It’s easy to make or break promises. Set yourself apart from others by being reliable, deliberate, and thoughtful. Match your intentions with planning and action, and you’ll find that you’re happier with yourself and that your relationships are enriched.

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