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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

7 Ways To Get Back Up After A Major Failure

7 Ways To Get Back Up After A Major Failure

Every one of us knows how devastating failure can be—seeing your business go belly up, missing the pass mark that would have gotten you that coveted scholarship, getting fired from your job, not making the cut into the team after training all year, and so on.

Experiencing a major failure comes with a lot of pain. Failure crushes you, messes up your self-esteem, and leaves you demoralized and feeling like you are not worth anything.

What’s even worse is the fact that moving forward after a major failure is not any easier. However, if you want to go on and have a fulfilling life, you cannot let failure hold you back. The important thing is that you move on from failure and learn how to get back up.

Question is, how do you do it?

Here are 7 ways you can get back up after a major failure.

1. Dissect the Situation and Understand What Went Wrong

In most cases, failure doesn’t just appear out of the blues. Failure is a direct result of something you did or failed to do—either you didn’t prepare enough, you overlooked some important factors, you took too big a risk, or maybe you trusted someone you shouldn’t have.

Whatever the case, there was some reason behind your failure. Understanding the reason why you failed is the first step to dealing with failure and getting back up.

Go back to the circumstances leading up to the failure and try to understand what exactly went wrong. Look at each of the steps you took and figure out which of them contributed to the failure.

When we experience failure, the natural response for most of us to blame and judge ourselves. We berate ourselves and convince ourselves that we were destined to be failures.

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However, when you dissect the situation to understand what went wrong, you shift your mindset from blaming the failure on yourself to the specific action or inaction that led to the failure. This makes it a lot easier for you to deal with and overcome failure.

For instance, let’s say you were trying to build a profitable online store, but you’ve finally been forced to shut it down due to poor sales. This failure might leave you feeling like an incompetent person who was never destined to be an entrepreneur.

After analyzing the circumstances leading up to closing down your business, however, you might realize that the actual problem is that you ignored that competitor you thought was too small until it was too late. Once you realize that your business failed as a result of ignoring your competitor and not because you were destined to be a failure in business, it becomes a lot easier to move on from the failure.

According to research by Ethan Kross and Ozlem Ayduk, analyzing the situation as if it happened to someone else instead of yourself can make it easier for you to objectively look at the situation without getting too caught up in the negative emotions that accompanied the failure. This is something the researchers refer to as “self-distancing.”[1]

2. Forgive Yourself

Imagine that someone close to you, such as a sibling or a very close friend, made a mistake that cost you a major business deal or led to the loss of money. While you’d certainly be cross with them, you’d also understand that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes sometimes. Eventually, you’d forgive them for their mistake because you understand that their mistake doesn’t define them.

The ironic thing is that while we can forgive others, most of us find it very hard to forgive ourselves. When we make a mistake, instead of forgiving ourselves like we would have forgiven others, we define ourselves by our mistake.

It is impossible to move on from failure without forgiving yourself. Therefore, after you have identified the mistake that led to the failure, remind yourself that you are not perfect and forgive yourself for making the mistake. If you want to get back up from a failure, you first have to forgive yourself.

3. See What You Can Learn From Your Failure

While failure is generally considered to be something negative, I believe there is something positive about failure. To me, failure is a feedback mechanism. It tells us that there is something about our approach or strategy that is not working. By figuring out what failure is trying to tell you, you can turn it into a learning opportunity.

Trying to see what lessons you can learn from your failure will prevent you from making the same mistakes again in the future, which will increase your chances of success in similar endeavors in the future.

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For instance, let’s say that you ended up closing your business because you made the mistake of partnering with someone who was not committed to the business and instead, contributed to running it to the ground. Next time you set up a business, you will either go at it alone or exercise greater caution when picking a partner and therefore, you’re less likely to end up with another uncommitted partner who could run your business to the ground.

Some of the strategies you can use to turn failure into a learning opportunity include reevaluating your planning, reevaluating your preparation, reevaluating your execution, and focusing on the variables that were under your control.

Aside from preventing you from repeating the same mistakes, viewing your failure as a learning opportunity shifts your mindset. You stop viewing the failure as a negative thing and embrace the lessons that it has taught you. This makes it a lot easier to get back up and move forward.

4. Focus on Your Strengths

When we experience major failures, our instinct is to peg the failure on some inadequacy on our part. While this is somewhat true—the failure was most probably caused by something you didn’t do right—it doesn’t mean that you are inadequate in every aspect of life.

You still have things your key strengths and things you’re good at, and by focusing on these strengths, you can chart a path to move you forward from failure.

Apple founder Steve Jobs provides a good example of the importance of focusing on your strengths after a major failure. Jobs hit rock bottom when he was ousted from Apple, the company he had founded with his friend Steve Wozniak.

However, instead of drowning in self-pity, Jobs quickly shifted his focus on his strengths. He was a talented innovator who was great at coming up with new ideas for next-generation computers and devices, and this is the strength he focused on.

After his ouster, Jobs quickly founded another computer company known as NeXT. A few years down the line, Apple would end up acquiring NeXT from Jobs, and eventually, Jobs made his way back to Apple as the CEO. And the rest, as they say, is history.

Just like Steve Jobs, after experiencing a major failure, don’t sulk and drown yourself in self-pity. Instead, make a list of your strengths and come up with a plan on how you’re going to capitalize on these strengths to move forward and get past your failure.

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5. Get Support and Inspiration From Trusted People

One of the things that makes it hard for people to move on from failure is the fact that most of us close ourselves off to the outside world after experiencing a major failure. However, there’s no reason for you to go through your failure alone. Talking to someone you trust allows you to get things off your chest and get rid of the negative emotions that come with failure.

Another benefit of talking to and getting support from another person is that a third party can look at your failure objectively, without having their judgment clouded by emotions. Therefore, it is a lot easier for them to spot something you might have missed or to identify a mistake that might have led to your failure since they’re not affected by personal bias.

In addition, talking to someone you trust allows them to encourage you and remind you that failure is not the end of the world—that you can get through the failure and get your life back on track.

Aside from talking to people close to you, you can also get inspiration by reading blog posts or listening to podcasts from people who have gone through similar failures and were able to get their life back on track.

This will show you that it is possible to get past your failure and infuse you with the optimism you need to get back up and move ahead. These people will also share the lessons they learned during their journey to overcome their failure, which can also be very useful as you embark on your journey to rise back from your failure.

6. Take Action

The problem with failure is that it robs you of your energy and demotivates you. After experiencing a major failure, you don’t feel like you have it in you to try something new again. You are afraid of experiencing another heart-wrenching failure. However, this is not the time for inactivity.

If you already identified your strengths and came up with a plan on how to capitalize on these strengths to move forward, now is the time to put that plan into action.

Resist the temptation to procrastinate, and don’t get caught up in analysis paralysis. After experiencing failure, you might want to make sure that everything is perfect before you move on. However, perfection is a myth, and if you wait for perfection, you will never move ahead.

Therefore, just come up with the best plan you can, make sure you’ve incorporated the lessons learned from your failure, and start taking action to get back up.

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7. Believe in Yourself and Keep Dreaming Big

Even though you have just gone through a major failure, don’t lose faith in yourself. Before this one failure, you had several other wins and accomplishments, and guess what—even though you’ve experienced failure, you’re still the same person who achieved all those previous wins, and you still have the talent, knowledge, and skills that helped you achieve them.

Therefore, don’t lose faith in yourself just because something didn’t work out. When a child is learning how to walk, they will fall down several times. However, never will you hear a child say “maybe this walking thing is not for me.” No. They believe in themselves and keep trying until they finally master this crucial skill.

Similarly, you should believe that you still have in yourself what it takes to succeed, and then go for it. Actually, perseverance and an unstoppable will to win is one of the essential characteristics of successful entrepreneurs.

Finally, even though you’ve just gone through the disappointment of failure, don’t let failure dim your dreams. Hold onto your big ambitions, envision yourself achieving success, and go at it again—this time with experience and great lessons under your belt.

Wrapping Up

Failure is an inevitable part of life. However, you shouldn’t let failure hold you back or keep you from going after your dreams. Instead, let it motivate you to get back up and pursue your aspiration.

It is possible to pick yourself up and rise again after failure. You can start with these 7 ways to help you get back after a major failure.

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50 Words of Encouragement for Moving Forward

50 Words of Encouragement for Moving Forward

Do you know how there are saying or words of encouragement that you remember and use all the time? Some came from a loved one, some bring you comfort, and others stick with you from your past and possibly hold you stuck.

These are the words of encouragement that come to mind when you need them most to remind you that:

  • You’ve got this.
  • You can overcome any obstacle.
  • Nothing will stop you.
  • No matter what you need, you will find the solutions.
  • What you really want in life, you can have it. Honestly, you can have it.

Look for the quotes that resonate with you, and write them somewhere prominent in your life. Look for simple solutions and strategies because they are the ones that have the biggest impact. There is a reason why some of the great ideas from the ancients are still the most used and adaptable to 21st-century living—because they work.

Quotes that inspire need to be easy to remember, connect with you on a personal level, and fire up your passion, enthusiasm, and goals in life.

50 Quotes and Words of Encouragement for Moving Forward

Here are 50 quotes and words of encouragement to keep you inspired and motivated.

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    2.“For what reasons can it not be you?”

    3. Ditch the guilt. Guilt is one emotion that never leads to good things. Remove the guilt and you can move on.

    4. At this moment in time, you are everything you need to be everything you want to be.

    5. The day you realize how amazing you are is the day the world had better stand back.

    6. You need to know on a good day how to look after yourself and your success on a bad day. How will you ensure you take action on this advice?

    7. Your mind can be a power for your success or power for your failure. Choose wisely the quality of your thoughts. How will you monitor the quality of your thoughts and ensure they work for you?

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    8. Even the long-distance swimmer does not achieve success on their own—who is in your team toward success?

    9. How do you keep going? Look how far you have come. What helped you get this far? Who helped you get this far? How will they feature in the future to ensure you succeed and overcome?

    10. Life is easier with love—swap the word “life” for success, happiness, achieving your goals. Now ask yourself—where do you get your love from? The first place should be you.

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      12. Learn the science of who you are. This is powerful knowledge that will empower you to move forward no matter what you face or want to achieve.

      13. Trying to copy the route to success that someone else took doesn’t guarantee you success. You have to honor your values, beliefs, and experiences.

      14. What you think is possible is absolutely correct. Challenge what you think.

      15. For one month, ask this question every day and score yourself out of 10 (10 being exceptional, 1 being lousy). Write the answer in your phone’s calendar: How successful do I feel? You can swap successful for happy, rich, loved, etc. Notice what affects your score.

      16. Remember that everything changes. The hibernating tree looks dead but will return in the spring rejuvenated. This is essential knowledge for good times and bad. In bad times, it reminds you to keep going, and in good times, it reminds you to be grateful and keep looking to learn and grow. (Just like that tree!)

      17. What’s stopping you? Is it a perception or a fact? Either way, you can do something about it, even if it is just to change the thoughts attached to the thing that is stopping you. Nothing can have power over you unless you let it.

      18. Steer clear of negative people, news, and views. It’s all too easy to get dragged into other people’s negativity. Understand how negative news, views, and people impact you. If you can’t find ways to keep that negativity away, then step away metaphorically and physically. Your success will appreciate it.

      19. The quality of your thoughts and feelings impacts your actions and results. Everything you can see started as a thought. So, when you need encouragement, ask yourself, “are my thoughts enabling me or disabling me?” Are my thoughts “moving me forward or holding me back?”

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        21. Sad isn’t bad. We get all the emotions, not just the good ones. So, when you feel sad, guilty, lonely, upset, frustrated, angry, mad, don’t push those emotions away. Take yourself through this process:

        1. For what reason am I feeling this?
        2. What does it tell me about my life right now?
        3. What does it tell me about my actions and results right now?
        4. What would I like to feel instead?
        5. What would this do for me?
        6. How will I get myself there?

        Take yourself through the process and own all emotions.

        23. The one thing you can control is what you think.

        24. On this planet, your job is not to fit in. Your job is to shine. Stand out. Speak up, and be the unique individual you are meant to be. It’s the quickest way to lasting success.

        25. Words can only have power if you let them. Good words, bad words. Happy words. Successful words. Which words are you giving the most power to?

        26. If you want to achieve more, you’ve got to assume you are worth it. Are you worth it? (The answer is “Yes, with bells on are you worth it!”) And if you don’t believe this, then what will you do to rocket your confidence?

        27. While many fear failure, it is a gift in disguise. It tells you what not to repeat, it tells you what didn’t work, and it moves you forward to what you want to achieve. Don’t berate and hate your failures. They are driving you forward to your success.

        28. It’s hard to achieve great things if you don’t have a plan. It’s like wanting to go on holiday and just rocking up at the airport on the off chance you can get on a plane going to your dream destination. Plan what you want and create a plan of action to help get you there. It’s easier and faster.

        29. Everyone needs someone in their corner—someone to cheerlead, support, nurture, and wipe your grazed knees and remind you that you can. Who is in your corner? You can add me to that list.

        30. Social media is supposed to be good for you. It’s supposed to connect you to like-minded people, inspire you, motivate you, and make you laugh, feel connected, and loved like you are part of something truly special. If it doesn’t, start snoozing the haters, step away from the negative groups, and look for the things that inspire you—yes you can include cute funny cat videos!

        31. Action! The key to success is knowing when to take action and when to stop.

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        32. When someone tells you that one book changed their life, that doesn’t mean it will work for you. If it doesn’t work for you, you did not fail, the book failed. The book was the wrong book for you. Don’t stop reading. Just look for the right fit for you.

        33. Just as all people are different with different beliefs and aspirations, so is the journey to success and progress different for all. Expecting to move forward and get what you want by copying others is not the same as looking up to the right role models.

        34. Your success, happiness, and progress in life are not dependent on luck. It is dependent on self-belief. Check your levels.

        35. It is not beneficial to apologize for what you need in life. It takes away its value to you. If you need it, own it!

        35. It’s a good idea to know the difference between enjoying the breeze and being pushed around by life.

        36. Motivation. If you are needing some, don’t look for it on a bad day. Look for it on a good day. Music, aromas, people, environments, photos, even fairy lights, and dancing can be the key to kick you back into action and results.

        37. Black and white. Nothing in life is black and white and yet people want things to be like this—to be “yes” or “no.” Final. Getting what you want in life rarely is so finite. You need to be able to accept a bit of grey area in life to get more of what you want. Being someone reliant on absolutes makes it so much harder.

        38. The racing driver does not concentrate on the brick wall at the side of the road as they race at 100+ miles per hour. They concentrate on the bend, the next bend, the finish line, and success. If you don’t want to hit the wall, concentrate on the track.

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          40. Choosing to stop thinking about something because it upsets you, infuriates you, or angers you doesn’t mean your brain is not trying to process how you feel. You need to make space to process those negatives so that you are back in the flow and doing what you excel at.

          41. Being reactive instead of proactive stops you from moving forward. What needs to change?

          42. Is your fundamental desire for what you want rooted in love? If it is not, question how powerful your motivation is.

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          43. When you really need motivation and encouragement and want to reach out to others, did you know that helping others also helps you? Altruism is a fast way to feeling good and doing good and it, in turn, helps you to feel motivated, too.

          44. Think back to a time that you overcome adversity, achieved something big, or kept going when you really didn’t want to. What skills do you notice? What were you telling yourself? What did you learn about who you are? How will you use that knowledge moving forward?

          45. “Don’t,” “Won’t,” and “Can’t” all have power. One holds power over you, one is neutral, and one takes ownership. Which one are you using? Can you tell the difference?

          46. Whoever said words had no power had never met a powerful coach! Words can be the building blocks to overcoming anything and getting what you want in life. So, what words are you allowing in your head? How do you word your goals and ambitions?

          47. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Is that a good idea with a starving tiger in the same room? Will you stick around and have a chat about how you wish to overcome the fear of the tiger or will you take action? Move so far away from your fear that it doesn’t exist? And get an expert to help you deal with the tiger? Analogies like this help you see how fear is allowed to stick around and how to get rid of it permanently.

          48. Believing that “it is what it is” is a great way to stay stuck. If you choose to believe there is a better way, you will find it.

          49. Being honest about what you face is not moaning, it’s reaching out. If people see this as moaning, they are the wrong people to be turning to. Maybe it’s time to upgrade your network of friends, colleagues, and people you can trust.

          50. Look in the mirror, who do you see? Someone you love or someone you loathe? Both will impact your success.

          So, What Now?

          Now that you’ve read 50 quotes and words of encouragement, which ones got you thinking and which ones can’t you remember reading? Some will really resonate with you and make you question how you think and how you act. Take just three minutes to decide which words of encouragement are going to be your mantra for the coming week.

          Take the time at the end of the week to review and reflect. Did you see any improvement? Did you really remember to hold on to this quote with the power to encourage you forward to great things?

          If not, stop in your tracks and consider how much you believe in yourself. The most powerful words in the world can’t work on the person who already believes that they are good enough, capable, or have failed.

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