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How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

All kinds of situations can lead to embarrassment.

These can range from your first kiss – to interviewing for a job which you are unsuited to. No doubt you can bring to mind countless other personal examples. Some of them may even be painful to recall.

However, have you considered that your susceptibility to embarrassment may be holding back your chances of success in life?

If you are prone to embarrassment, then you may unconsciously be avoiding (and even fearing) circumstances that might be necessary for your success. You may also be demonstrating to others your lack of self-belief and confidence.

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Let’s take a deeper look now into this important subject, and see how you may be able to turn embarrassment into achievement.

Don’t let embarrassment stop you from following your dreams

“The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate.” – Douglas Engelbart

From a young age, we quickly learn that saying the wrong thing can lead to people mocking or even laughing at us. And how about when we choose to behave differently to others? This can rapidly bring scorn and ridicule to our door. It’s sad, but true.

We can pretend that we live in a free world, but the reality for most of us, is that we are heavily conditioned by society, media and culture.

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Perhaps you’re happy to conform, but you do so at the risk of missing out on your best chances of success.

Being easily embarrassed, means that you probably avoid situations that lead to this crippling emotional state. For example, if you are overly self-conscious, then you may regularly turn down social invitations. Yet, these social occasions may allow you to build friendships and networks that could springboard you to success.

Luckily, there are proven ways to conquer embarrassment.

Take these 5 steps to overcome embarrassment

“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

What do you see when you look at highly successful people?

In most cases, you’ll see confident, energetic individuals who appear to have powerful self-belief. Rarely will you see these people looking fearful or embarrassed.

To emulate their personal magnetism, adopt the 5 steps below:

  1. Be yourself – Reject conformity. Let your true, authentic self come to the fore.
  2. Be persistent – Don’t let defeat crush you. Instead, get straight back up again.
  3. Be confident – Hold your head up high. Be bold, be strong.
  4. Be humorous – Lighten the mood. Laughter is a winning medicine.
  5. Be free – Reach for your dreams. Keep your mind above limitations.

Of course, it would be unrealistic to expect major changes overnight. However, if you keep pushing your personal boundaries – then you’ll definitely find yourself becoming a stronger and more outgoing individual.

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It’s worth highlighting several famous, successful people who have openly admitted to being either introverted or lacking in confidence:

  • Frederic Chopin
  • Albert Einstein
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • J.K. Rowling
  • Dr. Seuss
  • Mark Zuckerberg

These famous people didn’t allow their self-consciousness to prevent them from aiming for the stars. They followed their dreams and allowed their lives purpose to be manifested. They could have chosen to hide their talents behind closed doors, but instead, they let their light shine for all to see.

Learn from these successful people, and refuse to allow embarrassment to hold you back. Break free. Climb higher. And enjoy the trip!

Embarrassment is natural, but being easily embarrassed is likely to be a hindrance to your success. Step beyond embarrassment, and you’ll be amazed at how much more you can achieve in your life, and how much happier you will be too.

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Published on June 19, 2019

Your Beliefs About Success May Be Holding You Back

Your Beliefs About Success May Be Holding You Back
Pause for a moment and think about how you would describe success.

If your description is dominated by money or status, then your image of success is faulty.

For example, there are countless people who have these assets but don’t feel successful. Some of these people have enormous amounts of disposable income, but work so many hours during the day that they have no life beyond their work.

Would you regard these people as successful?

At first glance, I likely wouldn’t.

And, then there are the endless celebrities who go from fame to failure (think bankruptcy, addictions and worse).

Are they successful?

Probably not.

In truth, success is about happiness and fulfillment in life.

But, there is more than one definition of success. Just look at the above example of the person who worked too hard to spend their money. If they’re happy with their life, then we shouldn’t criticize their version of success.

So how about you? Do you have a clear definition of what success looks like for you?

If you don’t, you’ll be constantly chasing someone else’s idea of success, and could find yourself totally unfulfilled and miserable.

The good news is that over the next few minutes, I’m going to give you the tools you need to build a crystal clear picture of YOUR SUCCESS.

Positive Thinking

With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

For instance, if you’re fed up with your job, but do nothing to change it, then you’ll likely be stuck there for years to come. But, if you see the job as a stepping stone to something bigger and better, then not only will you enjoy your work more, but you’ll have something positive to aim towards (e.g., a promotion or new job).

The example above demonstrates a little-known factor of success… suffering!

Yes, suffering may be a negative thing that most people go out of their way to avoid; but successful people use suffering as a springboard to big achievements. Mindset really does separate the losers from the winners.

Another thing you can do, is to gradually build up your positivity and confidence by tracking your progress towards your goals. And, each time you accomplish something – however small – be sure to celebrate it!

This is a great way to propel you towards success.

The Purpose of a Purpose

What is your purpose in life?

These are questions I suggest you spend some time thinking about. To help you find the answers, consider the following:

If you just seek a career, all you will find is a career.

But, if you seek a purpose, you’ll find something much more than a career – you’ll find your calling. And when you’ve found this, and you begin following it, you’ll be firmly in the middle of the happiness, satisfaction and success zone.

This is backed by science, with research showing that people who have a purpose and meaning in life have an increase in:[1]
  • Overall well-being
  • Mental and physical health
  • Resiliency
  • Self-esteem

But, don’t mistake seeking happiness and success as your purpose. These things are a natural result of following your purpose – but shouldn’t be your focal point.

Austrian Neurologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said it well:

“It is the very pursuit of happiness, that thwarts happiness.”

What about YOUR purpose?

If you’re struggling to identify it, look for the things in your life that you’re good at, enthuse you, and provide a benefit to the world.

Becoming a Better You

Are your beliefs holding you back?

If yes, here are three things you can do RIGHT NOW to break out of your mind trap:

  1. Boost Your Confidence: you can do this by overcoming challenges that come your way. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, face this challenge head-on by agreeing to do regular presentations for your company, or by joining a public speaking organization like Toastmasters International. Speak in public often enough, and your fear of it will plunge like a river going over a waterfall.
  2. Develop Healthy Habits: I’m talking about positive habits that will serve you day in, day out. Habits such as lifelong learning, eating well, and waking up early. When these things are automatic for you, you’ll reap incredible benefits from them. Take eating well, for example. You’ll feel better. You’ll look better. And you’ll have way more energy to make things happen in your life.
  3. Invoke the Magic of Goal Setting: Without goals, you’ll drift through life like a plastic bottle in the sea. But with goals, you’ll be like a 100m sprinter running towards the finishing line. Goals really are powerful tools. They’ll direct your focus and energy, and will allow you to track your progress in life. I recommend the SMART goal-setting method (find out about this here).

And, always remember… don’t compare yourself to others; only compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

Each step you take forward is making you a better version of you.

Success Is Self-Love

I encourage you to take the tips I’ve shared in this article and put them into action in your life. Ideally, starting right now!

Firstly, transform your mindset by facing up to challenges and overcoming them. Then spend time to discover your purpose. And, once you’ve found it – start following it.

Becoming a better version of you will take some time, but will be worth the wait. Not only will you reach into untapped potential in your life, but you’ll also develop respect and love for yourself along the way.

So don’t let your beliefs hold you back anymore. BREAK FREE from them and start enjoying a happy, healthy and successful life.

Featured photo credit: Razvan Chisu via unsplash.com

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