Advertising

How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

Advertising
How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

All kinds of situations can lead to embarrassment.

These can range from your first kiss – to interviewing for a job which you are unsuited to. No doubt you can bring to mind countless other personal examples. Some of them may even be painful to recall.

However, have you considered that your susceptibility to embarrassment may be holding back your chances of success in life?

If you are prone to embarrassment, then you may unconsciously be avoiding (and even fearing) circumstances that might be necessary for your success. You may also be demonstrating to others your lack of self-belief and confidence.

Advertising

Let’s take a deeper look now into this important subject, and see how you may be able to turn embarrassment into achievement.

Don’t let embarrassment stop you from following your dreams

“The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate.” – Douglas Engelbart

From a young age, we quickly learn that saying the wrong thing can lead to people mocking or even laughing at us. And how about when we choose to behave differently to others? This can rapidly bring scorn and ridicule to our door. It’s sad, but true.

We can pretend that we live in a free world, but the reality for most of us, is that we are heavily conditioned by society, media and culture.

Advertising

Perhaps you’re happy to conform, but you do so at the risk of missing out on your best chances of success.

Being easily embarrassed, means that you probably avoid situations that lead to this crippling emotional state. For example, if you are overly self-conscious, then you may regularly turn down social invitations. Yet, these social occasions may allow you to build friendships and networks that could springboard you to success.

Luckily, there are proven ways to conquer embarrassment.

Take these 5 steps to overcome embarrassment

“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

What do you see when you look at highly successful people?

In most cases, you’ll see confident, energetic individuals who appear to have powerful self-belief. Rarely will you see these people looking fearful or embarrassed.

To emulate their personal magnetism, adopt the 5 steps below:

  1. Be yourself – Reject conformity. Let your true, authentic self come to the fore.
  2. Be persistent – Don’t let defeat crush you. Instead, get straight back up again.
  3. Be confident – Hold your head up high. Be bold, be strong.
  4. Be humorous – Lighten the mood. Laughter is a winning medicine.
  5. Be free – Reach for your dreams. Keep your mind above limitations.

Of course, it would be unrealistic to expect major changes overnight. However, if you keep pushing your personal boundaries – then you’ll definitely find yourself becoming a stronger and more outgoing individual.

Advertising

It’s worth highlighting several famous, successful people who have openly admitted to being either introverted or lacking in confidence:

  • Frederic Chopin
  • Albert Einstein
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • J.K. Rowling
  • Dr. Seuss
  • Mark Zuckerberg

These famous people didn’t allow their self-consciousness to prevent them from aiming for the stars. They followed their dreams and allowed their lives purpose to be manifested. They could have chosen to hide their talents behind closed doors, but instead, they let their light shine for all to see.

Learn from these successful people, and refuse to allow embarrassment to hold you back. Break free. Climb higher. And enjoy the trip!

Embarrassment is natural, but being easily embarrassed is likely to be a hindrance to your success. Step beyond embarrassment, and you’ll be amazed at how much more you can achieve in your life, and how much happier you will be too.

Advertising

More by this author

Craig J Todd

UK Writer who loves to use the power of words to inspire and motivate.

Want to Get Free Product Samples Like Bloggers and Beauty Gurus Do? Read This. We Don’t Need More Likes, We Need Self-Esteem 30 Refreshing Routines to Boost Your Morning Motivation What to Do When You Hate Your Job (for Both Who Choose to Stay and Quit) Characteristics of Critical Thinking (And How to Think Critically)

Trending in Productivity

1 How to Create Your Own Ritual to Conquer Time Wasters and Laziness 2 Are You Addicted to Productivity? 3 Is Avoiding Difficult Tasks And Doing Easy Tasks First Less Productive? 4 How Remote Work Affects Your Productivity And Wellbeing (Backed By Data) 5 10 Best Productivity Planners To Get More Done in 2021

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on October 21, 2021

How to Create Your Own Ritual to Conquer Time Wasters and Laziness

Advertising
How to Create Your Own Ritual to Conquer Time Wasters and Laziness

Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

Advertising

Program Your Own Algorithms

Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

How to Form a Ritual

I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

Advertising

Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

  1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
  2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
  3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
  4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

Ways to Use a Ritual

Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

1. Waking Up

Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

2. Web Usage

How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

Advertising

3. Reading

How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

4. Friendliness

Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

5. Working

One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

6. Going to the gym

If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

Advertising

7. Exercise

Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

8. Sleeping

Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

8. Weekly Reviews

The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

Final Thoughts

We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

Advertising

More Tips to Conquer Time Wasters and Procrastination

 

Featured photo credit: RODOLFO BARRETO via unsplash.com

Read Next