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How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

How Easily Do You Feel Embarrassed? It Can Indicate Your Chance Of Success

All kinds of situations can lead to embarrassment.

These can range from your first kiss – to interviewing for a job which you are unsuited to. No doubt you can bring to mind countless other personal examples. Some of them may even be painful to recall.

However, have you considered that your susceptibility to embarrassment may be holding back your chances of success in life?

If you are prone to embarrassment, then you may unconsciously be avoiding (and even fearing) circumstances that might be necessary for your success. You may also be demonstrating to others your lack of self-belief and confidence.

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Let’s take a deeper look now into this important subject, and see how you may be able to turn embarrassment into achievement.

Don’t let embarrassment stop you from following your dreams

“The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate.” – Douglas Engelbart

From a young age, we quickly learn that saying the wrong thing can lead to people mocking or even laughing at us. And how about when we choose to behave differently to others? This can rapidly bring scorn and ridicule to our door. It’s sad, but true.

We can pretend that we live in a free world, but the reality for most of us, is that we are heavily conditioned by society, media and culture.

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Perhaps you’re happy to conform, but you do so at the risk of missing out on your best chances of success.

Being easily embarrassed, means that you probably avoid situations that lead to this crippling emotional state. For example, if you are overly self-conscious, then you may regularly turn down social invitations. Yet, these social occasions may allow you to build friendships and networks that could springboard you to success.

Luckily, there are proven ways to conquer embarrassment.

Take these 5 steps to overcome embarrassment

“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

What do you see when you look at highly successful people?

In most cases, you’ll see confident, energetic individuals who appear to have powerful self-belief. Rarely will you see these people looking fearful or embarrassed.

To emulate their personal magnetism, adopt the 5 steps below:

  1. Be yourself – Reject conformity. Let your true, authentic self come to the fore.
  2. Be persistent – Don’t let defeat crush you. Instead, get straight back up again.
  3. Be confident – Hold your head up high. Be bold, be strong.
  4. Be humorous – Lighten the mood. Laughter is a winning medicine.
  5. Be free – Reach for your dreams. Keep your mind above limitations.

Of course, it would be unrealistic to expect major changes overnight. However, if you keep pushing your personal boundaries – then you’ll definitely find yourself becoming a stronger and more outgoing individual.

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It’s worth highlighting several famous, successful people who have openly admitted to being either introverted or lacking in confidence:

  • Frederic Chopin
  • Albert Einstein
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Eleanor Roosevelt
  • J.K. Rowling
  • Dr. Seuss
  • Mark Zuckerberg

These famous people didn’t allow their self-consciousness to prevent them from aiming for the stars. They followed their dreams and allowed their lives purpose to be manifested. They could have chosen to hide their talents behind closed doors, but instead, they let their light shine for all to see.

Learn from these successful people, and refuse to allow embarrassment to hold you back. Break free. Climb higher. And enjoy the trip!

Embarrassment is natural, but being easily embarrassed is likely to be a hindrance to your success. Step beyond embarrassment, and you’ll be amazed at how much more you can achieve in your life, and how much happier you will be too.

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Last Updated on July 21, 2021

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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