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Last Updated on May 16, 2021

How to Find an Accountability Partner to Help You Reach Your Goal

How to Find an Accountability Partner to Help You Reach Your Goal

An accountability partner is someone working solely to keep us in check and accountable. It can be more than one person who will keep you focused and committed to your goals and make sure that you take the right steps on your way to success.

So, what exactly is an accountability partner, and how can you find a good one? Let’s get right into it and learn about this important addition to your support system.

What Is an Accountability Partner?

A good accountability partner has a responsibility to make sure we stay on track and notice any blind spots in our self-reflection mirrors. In many cases, an individual makes the right decisions when they know that they are answerable to someone else. This is where an accountability partner steps in and helps us understand the consequences of things in order to improve our judgment and resulting actions.

Your partner will be dedicated to helping you better understand your flaws and make improvements to yourself. Being accountable to someone else may seem like an unpleasant thing for many people, but in the long run, it can help you become a better person. The feedback you get from a partner can be used to stay on track and make changes when necessary.

Why Do You Need an Accountability Partner?

The importance of finding an accountability partner is immense for any individual who is trying to improve their life. Whether it is for professional progress or personal goals, a partner can guide us in the form of constant accountability to make better decisions in the future.

You can find a partner for almost everything. Whether it’s to keep your behavior or bad habits in check, make good business decisions, or keep up an exercise routine, an accountability partner can be the reason for your betterment and success.

This is why accountability is essential to success in any field by working on personal growth. You can mutually agree with them to be accountability partners for each other and provide feedback. This way both of you can be beneficial for each other and help each other achieve goals.

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How Does It Work?

Whether you hire a professional accountability partner or ask someone you know, the tool used in accountability is constructive criticism. A professional counselor has an arsenal of experience and guidance that can be helpful for you in many ways.

Your partner will review your decisions and behavior and provide feedback on a regular basis that will help you build massive momentum. You can use this feedback as positive criticism to push yourself harder and become more successful in anything you wish to achieve.

For people doing business, this is extremely important as it can help them improve different structures of their companies and make the right decisions by constantly being accountable. In this case, having an accountability partner who has been successful in their own business would be ideal.

Types of Accountability Partners

Now that you know the basics of what an accountability partner is, it’s also important to know the different types of partners you can choose from. This gives you the freedom to find someone that’ll fit your preferences or specific goals.

Professional Counselor

A professional is always a great way to find guidance in any field. They have a ton of experience that you can greatly benefit from to accomplish your dreams. They know how to help you find balance between your wants and needs, as well as between your emotions and your logic.

Senior Who Had a Similar Journey

Having a person who’s been through similar experiences as what you’re currently going through can be great, as they can give you proper tips for success. This person doesn’t necessarily have to be older than you; it could be someone younger who simply has more experience in a certain area.

Colleague

This is another great idea for an accountability partner as a colleague or peer is going through a similar career path as you and may have similar interests. Having someone provide feedback from a neutral perspective can help you shape your career effectively and be better at work.

Friend or Family Member

Someone close to you will always have your best interests at heart and be genuinely interested in your success, which makes them a great choice for your accountability partner. Their advice and feedback will always be for your own good. Just make sure it’s someone who is willing to be brutally honest, even when it may cause you temporary discomfort.

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How to Find a Good Partner Who’s Suitable for You

Finding a suitable accounting partner is as important as having one. It is essential to note that you don’t want someone who is going to bring you down, as this would make matters worse.

If you’re wondering how to find the right person to keep you in check, here are some of the things you should look for in an accountability partner.

1. Someone With Your Best Interests at Heart

This is an important trait you should look for in your partner, as it is crucial to have someone who wants the best for you. Their intentions need to be pure and for your betterment.

If the person in your partnership does not have the best intentions, then your partnership will be negative and only keep you further away from your goal. This is worse than having no partner at all. Make sure you find someone who makes you a better and more successful person.

2. Motivational Person

Motivation

is the drive that can help us achieve many things. Having such a trait in your accountability partner can be great for you.

There are times where we feel down and motivation is needed. If your partner can offer you that drive to bring you up, they are the right person for you, and your partnership will flourish. They can pull you out of your stress and bring you back on the right path with a discussion and some motivation.

Working with an accountability partner who can motivate you is also going to help you stay away from procrastination when it comes time to act on your goals. If you need extra help in this area, you can check out Lifehack’s Fast-Track Class: No More Procrastination.

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3. Experience

Experience is the key to success in many different fields. An accountability partner with plenty of experience can guide you on your decisions. They can tell from experience if a certain business idea will succeed or if a new diet will be doable.

To have such a person in your corner can be the reason for your success. You can take advantage of their experience and utilize it in your story to achieve anything.

4. Frequent Discussions

Another important thing in an accountability partner is their openness to constant and frequent discussions. Your partner should be able to provide you with regular or weekly feedback and have enough time and dedication to do so.

Having an accountability partner who gives you feedback in months is similar to having no partner at all. Also, it is essential to have constant accountability for every major decision you make.

5. Dedicated to Your Success

A person who has goals and ambitions of their own will have the drive to achieve great things. Such a person will be dedicated to anything they do, and if they set their minds on providing positive criticism and feedback to you, it will be a reason for your success.

Their constant and productive discussions will help you stay true to yourself and be accountable for every decision you make. This will then inspire you to be ambitious as well and help you achieve your dreams.

6. Pushes You to Be Better

It is always important to know your limits and push yourself forward. If the same ideology is shared between you and your accountability partner, it will greatly benefit both of you.

However, it is crucial to not overdo it as this can harm you. Knowing where you stand and using your accountability partnership as a basis for improvement is the best move.

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Things to Consider After Finding a Good Partner

If you were thinking that your work is done after finding a suitable partner, you’re wrong. It is important to establish some guidelines for each other to follow. Things you should abstain from can be discussed, as well.

You should focus on having good communication skills with your accountability partner to discuss every mistake. Communication skills can also help you convey the message better during a discussion.

Make sure your discussions and commitments with them are honored. Be on time for every discussion to leave a good impression on your partner. It is also important to own your mistakes and understand that mistakes are a part of improvement and you can learn a lot from them.

This ideology can help you to accept failure and get right back up to succeed. This mentality can make you own your mistakes and understand that the criticism offered by your partner is for your greater good.

Final Thoughts

Getting an accountability partner is a great way to understand your flaws and make room for improvement. They can help you with a neutral perspective on the scenarios you are facing in your life. This helps you in understanding everything from another person’s perspective.

With the help of an accountability partnership, you can make all the right decisions and achieve every goal you set your mind to.

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What to Do If You Find Yourself Making Slow Progress Towards Your Goal

What to Do If You Find Yourself Making Slow Progress Towards Your Goal

If you are making slow progress on a goal you’ve set, maybe it is the wrong goal in the first place. Perhaps factors, including your attitude or environment, do not allow you to make your desired progress. However, it is easy to blame timing and luck; if you set a goal, you and only you are accountable for achieving it (read the achieve my goals guide). The question is, how?

Start With Why

On my career path, I have been fortunate to have the opportunity to explore and learn things practically. After a successful corporate career, I spent two years trying to establish an entrepreneurial consultancy, only to realize marginal success.

The consultancy formed based on my core values, candor, curiosity, and collaboration, but unfortunately, my customer base and projects were seemingly random and disjointed. While I understood I needed to establish a consistent and repeatable approach to content marketing to drive my clients’ results, that approach was not apparent in the brand I had built. Things got so rough that I had to resort to collecting unemployment at the onset of the pandemic.

At the beginning of the pandemic, I delivered a webinar called earning trust in uncertain times: coronavirus edition. Afterward, I received an email from a participant. He shared some thoughts on a campaign for his jewelry company and asked for feedback. When I read his email, I realized I could quickly help him to gain clarity, so I sent him a note with an offer to get his message on track. He offered to pay me for my time, and I said to myself,

“I am adding value, and I can charge for this!”

This first client needed to shift my offerings from general marketing consulting to a more diversified career that focuses on personal brand building.

It took a global pandemic to realize I needed to shift my goals to align with the change I was trying to make in the world, to a new business, coaching that applies my skills in an authentic way to me and valuable to prospects and customers.

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Start With Your Identity

James Clear discusses identity-based habits as deeply rooted in a person’s outlook toward life.[1] As a businessperson, identity-based practices are what impact business goals and your approaches towards achieving them. Identity is what you believe in, and outcomes determine what you seek to achieve. A permanent change comes from transforming the who part of behavior—the character.

Whether it is a coaching program I develop, a class I teach, or a marketing campaign I create, I always start identity. According to The Brookings Institute:[2]

Identity is a unique, inherited collection of assets, history, traits, and culture that distinguishes it internally and externally and can unite people and places.

But this logic also applies to personal goals. If losing weight is your goal, your focus is on an outcome rather than an identity-based plan, and you may lose motivation. Think, “Why am I trying to lose weight?”

  • Is it to be more healthy?
  • Did you get some lousy test results at the doctor?
  • Are you at risk of severe health problems?

It may help reframe your goal around a positive statement like, I am working to lead a healthy and active lifestyle. Motivation has to come from a place of confidence and belief in yourself. You know what they say about the air mask on the airplane – put it on yourself first.

It is ok to set goals for others; for example, “I am losing weight so I can live for my kids;” however, if you don’t set goals around themes that you can own, and you don’t do it for yourself first, then the people in your life will not receive any benefit.

Think about what you achieve from your efforts — the outcomes. The reality that you are looking at right now must also allude to the fact you promise to create for your clientele, and that is not possible unless you believe in it and make it believable for others.

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Be Specific About What, How, and When

Your values need to align with other people and systems to engage in meeting your desired outcome, so make sure to put in place a process that accounts for what motivates you, that you can reliably complete until you achieve your goal.

If you are not specific and clear about how many pounds you are trying to lose and when you will lose then, then how will you know if you met your goal in the first place?

BJ FOGG, the author of Tiny Habits, suggests that you start small. In the Tiny Habits method, you always start with a tiny behavior. Some examples:

  • Floss one tooth
  • Read one sentence in a book.
  • Take one deep breath.

According to Fogg, an excellent tiny behavior has these qualities:

  • takes less than 30 seconds (even better: just 5 seconds)
  • requires no real effort
  • doesn’t create pain or destructive emotions

Make sure it’s a habit you want to have in your life. Don’t pick something that’s a “should,” choose new behaviors you wish to.

The next thing to learn is where to place the further tiny action in your life. Just like planting a seed, you want the right spot for it, a place where it fits naturally and where it can thrive.

Be flexible and adaptable. We are in a complicated and volatile world, and things change on a dime, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you need to change how you go about achieving your goal or even what goals you are trying to accomplish first place.

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Be aware of bias. As you set out to achieve your goals, it is critical to be aware of the bias that can sneak in and sabotage your thinking. Yes, it is essential to collaborate with others to achieve your goals, but you need to understand yourself and make sure you are not getting in your way before doing that. Here are some common forms of bias.

  • Confirmation bias: People tend to listen more often to information that confirms the beliefs they already have.
  • Selection bias: Selecting individuals, groups that do not provide diverse perspectives for you to consider.
  • Self-serving bias: People tend to give themselves credit for successes but blame failures on external causes.

What about serendipity? Many of us believe that the great turning points and opportunities in our lives happen by chance, that they’re out of our control.

Dr. Christian Busch, author of The Serendipity Mindset: The Art and Science of Creating Good Luck, spent a decade exploring how, if acted upon, unexpected encounters can expand our random social encounters can enhance our worldview, expand our social circles, and create new professional opportunities.

Serendipity is usually about connecting dots that have previously remained elusive. Busch’s findings suggest that Good luck isn’t just chance—it can be learned and leveraged. When you are perceptive, curious, open-minded, and eager to see opportunities, others might see only negatively. If you notice something unusual but can connect that bit of information with something else, you are in the right mindset for achieving serendipity.

Motivation and a Realistic Plan

Only you can choose the goals you set. Motivation is critical in meeting your goals. But choosing goals is not enough; you need to select the right goals and define a plan that keeps you accountable for meeting your goals.

Author Gabriele Oettingen defined a methodology you can use to get better at achieving your hopes and dreams. It’s called WOOMP![3]

WOOP stands for:

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  • W = Wish
  • O = Outcome
  • O = Obstacle
  • P = Plan

WOOMP, there it is! WOOMP will force you to be hyper-realistic about your goals and be action-minded in your approach to achieving them.

Show up Consistently

In order to turn your vision into reality, you will have to regularly show up by consistently organizing, leading, and building to get to your goals.

“Some people show up when they need something. Some people show up before they need something, knowing that it will pay off later when they need something. And some people merely show up. Not needing anything, not in anticipation of needing something, but merely because they can.” — Seth Godin

Final Thoughts

While I would be happy to be your trusted advisor and coach, the answer has to start with you. My process will help you to define and document an ownable set of values and marketing frameworks that will make you more appealing to clients/ employers, especially on LinkedIn. These values will translate beyond work, as well.

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