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Published on August 20, 2020

30 Morning Affirmations to Boost Your Confidence Daily

30 Morning Affirmations to Boost Your Confidence Daily

One of the most efficient forms of mental preparation is morning affirmations. Have you ever wanted to change something about your life? You go to sleep thinking, “Tomorrow will be different. Tomorrow will be the beginning of the rest of my life.” The desire to change your life is so strong you can barely fall asleep thinking about how great tomorrow will be.

Your plan is to stop procrastinating and start that new business, join a gym, demand a raise, or ask that special someone on a date. Then, the next day comes and nothing quite goes the way you expected. While the day showed promise, you ended up stopping before you ever gained any momentum.

That cycle is the result of you not mentally preparing yourself to change your life. Change can be stressful and overwhelming at times, so you want to be confident in your ability to succeed[1]. Morning affirmations can help you get there.

In this article, you will find 30 morning affirmations to help you start afresh, so read on!

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Don’t Overthink It

When you procrastinate, it is often due to a lack of certainty around what is going to happen next. What do you do if the business doesn’t take off like you hoped? How will you manage rejection, or what if you don’t accomplish your goals as quickly as you you hoped?

As you ponder the answer to these questions, your mind begins to worry about the likelihood of success. Somewhere in your subconscious, you have a belief that contradicts your conscious mind. As a result, you must take on the task of reprogramming your subconscious mind to match your conscious mind.

The most efficient way to reprogram your subconscious mind is to feed it experiences of success. You may believe every fiber of your being wants to change your life, but that is rarely the case. While, on a conscious level, you understand the benefits of the transformation you want to make in your life, the underlying fear of the unknown is causing you to hesitate and wonder if your life isn’t already good enough.

This doubt manifests itself when you attempt to try something new[2]. It makes you feel as though the change you want to make in your life will cost you your life if you fail. On a conscious level, you know rejection is not life threatening, but that doesn’t change the inner emotional turmoil you experience.

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The Key to Building Confidence

The best way to overcome your fear and self-doubt is to program your mind with confidence and faith. Faith is the ability to see a future that you have yet to experience. Since you have not materialized your strongest desires yet, there is plenty of uncertainty surrounding your ability to do so. This is why it is important for you to continually reinforce to your subconscious mind your desires and ability to change your life with morning affirmations.

Think of your subconscious mind as the accumulation of all your life experiences. These experiences then create your beliefs, which in turn create your habits, which ultimately create your actions. You could have been rejected as a child, and now you avoid sharing your ideas. There could have been a past business venture that failed, and now you don’t know if the next one will succeed.

Watch the People Around You

Interestingly enough, some of your past experiences are not even your own. The negative experiences of others can also lead to inaction and a lack of confidence. Imagine you have a friend who is always talking about how awful their experience was at a particular restaurant. How likely are you to want to eat at that restaurant?

Let me take it a step further. If someone asked for your opinion about the restaurant, what thoughts would immediately surface? The thoughts shared by your friend, of course. Even though you never personally attended the restaurant, you have strong feelings because of the repeated complaints from your friend.

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Whether positive or negative, consistent thoughts and experiences will change your perspective and cause your actions to change accordingly. By starting each day with morning affirmations, you will take control of what you allow your mind to contemplate throughout the day. Instead of allowing fear and doubt to paralyze you, you will fill your mind with thoughts of confidence and faith.

Protect Your Most Precious Treasure

The impact your experiences have on the decisions you make doesn’t stop there. It also includes fictional events that have never happened to anyone. Have you ever found yourself behind a semi-truck carrying a load of cut down trees? If you have seen the movie Final Destination, then you know where I am going with this. In the movie, there is a scene where twenty logs fall off the back of a semi-truck and start barreling into the cars behind him. Logs are smashing through windshields, flipping cars over and killing dozens of people.

Anyone that has seen this scene cannot help but feel uneasy about driving behind a semi-truck carrying logs. Even though this event did not happen in real life, your mind could care less. As far as it is concerned, because you “witnessed” it, you experienced it. And since you experienced it, your mind recognized the events that led to it “happening” and “warns” you.

Say It Like You Mean It

To your mind, experiences are experiences. Whether those experiences are your own, someone else’s, or even if they are fictional stories, your mind will absorb lessons from them. This is why morning affirmations work so well. Over time, your mind is going to accept those experiences as fact[3]. This will lead you to ultimately take action that is aligned with your goals.

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Confidence is built through experience, so you need to create the imagery in your mind of the change you want to see in your life. It may feel silly at first, but think about it. In each of the examples discussed, the actions were dictated by past experiences. What do your past experiences say about the decisions you make today?

If you are ready to change your life, then commit to repeating these morning affirmations every day for the next 30 days.

30 Morning Affirmations to Boost Your Confidence

  1. Problems allow me to showcase my strengths.
  2. I love change and easily adjust to new situations.
  3. Great things are happening to me every day.
  4. I have all I need to make today a great day.
  5. I am happy and content with my life.
  6. I am getting better every day and in every way.
  7. I am walking in line with my purpose.
  8. I am at peace in my life.
  9. I am confident in my ability to change my life.
  10. I embody confidence.
  11. My challenges help me grow.
  12. I will succeed by attracting to myself people who can help me.
  13. I know a positive attitude can bring me success.
  14. I know I have the ability to achieve my goals in life.
  15. I will concentrate my thoughts on the results I look to create.
  16. I always see the good in others and in myself.
  17. I am self-sufficient, creative, and resilient.
  18. I love myself.
  19. All of my problems have solutions.
  20. I am the creator of my best reality.
  21. My past will not dictate my future.
  22. Everything is going according to plan.
  23. I conquer every obstacle to create my dream life.
  24. I create and welcome only positivity in my life.
  25. Prosperity flows to and through me.
  26. I am enough.
  27. There is no one better to be than me.
  28. I am consistent in my hard work.
  29. I keep good people in my life.
  30. I feel healthy and strong today.

Final Thoughts

Morning affirmations can help you start each day with positive momentum. This momentum will propel you through your day and the challenges you face. The goal is to change your perception about the life, so you can change your actions.

Confidence is not a lack of fear, but the understanding you can accomplish the goal you set forth. You have confidence in anything you have already accomplished. If you have learned to walk or ride a bike, it is difficult for someone to convince you that you cannot accomplish those tasks. Yet, if I asked you to walk to the top of Mount Everest, your confidence may fade. Nevertheless, someone who has successfully scaled Mount Everest would not hesitate at the challenge.

For you to create confidence in something you haven’t done, start using morning affirmations immediately. The only thing that can overcome failure is persistence and faith in yourself. Stay true to yourself and never give up until you have made your dream a reality.

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Published on September 23, 2020

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.

If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

What is Negotiation?

First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.

Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.

In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.

Places We Negotiate

I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:

1. Work/Business

This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.

When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.

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In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.

Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.

2. Personal

I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?

I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.

Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.

3. Ourselves

You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.

I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?

Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.

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Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important

Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.

We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.

My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.

If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.

As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.

6 Negotiation Skills to Master

Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.

Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

1. Preparation

Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.

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It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.

For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.

After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.

2. Clear Communication

The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.

If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.

3. Active Listening

Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.

If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.

4. Teamwork and Collaboration

To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.

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If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.

When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.

5. Problem Solving

Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.

Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?

From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.

There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.

6. Decision-Making Ability

Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.

Conclusion

There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.

Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.

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