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4 Fun Ways to Skyrocket Your Motivation and Confidence

4 Fun Ways to Skyrocket Your Motivation and Confidence

You have probably read or heard all kinds of motivational tactics. How to think more positively, how to work towards your goal, and how anything is possible as long as you believe in it. There are tons of self-help books, and various motivational speakers, but they mostly want to influence your mindset. They go with the premise that if you change how you think, everything else will fall into place.

Truth be told, these are not ineffective tips, and the change must come from within, but this is not always the case. We are all different, and due to our idiosyncrasy, there are no universal suggestions. If it worked for someone else, it does not imply you will be affected in the same manner.

On the other hand, there are different things you can try, things that don’t require you to change the way you think but simply cause a positive reaction inside your body. So, even though we don’t all think the same way, our bodies do react in a very similar fashion.

With that in mind, we will go over some fun ways to improve your motivation and confidence. These will not include tips on how to change your perspective, or to meditate in order to filter out stressful thoughts – these will all be actionable tips that can work for anyone.

1. You want confidence? You have to fight for it!

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    Confidence is all about control and feeling prepared. A great way to become more confident is to hone your motor skills and work on your kinetic energy. Sometimes, it is the small things that begin to bother us – we do not like how we look or that we are clumsy, and with martial arts training you can effectively fight this type of negativity.

    To be more precise, you have the opportunity to develop practical skills, and therefore you’ll be inspired to try out different feats on your own. It is also a form of fitness exercise, so if your confidence is affected by your appearance, martial arts training is definitely going to come in handy.

    Furthermore, as you are devoted to training you also build up your willpower, thereby having an effective mechanism to cope with stressful situations. As you progress, you become more composed and far less impulsive, and it is something you are definitely going to notice.

    Since rigorous training means a lot of physical exercise, you will reap all the benefits from these activates and you will feel better in general. After all, exercise is a miracle drug, and knowing you did something healthy and constantly improving yourself has an incredibly positive impact on your confidence.

    2. Sexercise

    Since we are on the topic of physical exercise and activity, then it would be good to mention sex as one of the healthy and fun ways to boost motivation. Intercourse is extremely therapeutic, and having it on daily basis will make your self-esteem skyrocket.

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    If you are exposed to a lot of stress on a daily basis, then sexual activity will definitely counterbalance these irritating thoughts. In other words, one of the best medicines for stress is sexual healing. It will make you happier, it will improve your self-image, and as mentioned it is a great workout.

    Another benefit worth mentioning is improved wits. After all, our neurotransmitters carry information from one brain cell to another, and oxytocin and prolactin are both neurotransmitters. With daily sexual activity, our brain’s hippocampus initiates the process called neurogenesis, which is responsible for producing these neurotransmitters.

    3. Shopping spree

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      Now let’s talk about some other ways of improving your confidence, without including physical exercise. It is a recipe that was here for generations, and it really works. Shopping is an amazing way to increase your motivation and to really feel good about yourself for days. The downside is that it can be hard on your wallet and that it can become a compulsion if you overuse, but it sure feels good.

      In terms of combating stress, shopping spree has quite a simple effect, it helps you get your mind off the stressful topic. Also, it is one of the ways of altering your appearance and, as mentioned, if that is your source of dissatisfaction, shopping can boost your self-esteem, and it’s effective immediately.

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      Since the activity itself is fun in general, you can invite your friends and spend some time with them as well.  Also, let’s not forget that you feel refreshed and the whole thing really feels like a fresh start or a do-over.

      Again, use this technique with caution, since it can turn into a problem if you rely on it too much. You’ll lose money and your wardrobe will start to get cramped and messy.

      4. Create your own universe

      We all love good stories – it is something that helps us experience a different world, and yet still relate to it. They can be cautionary tales that make us wiser, uplifting stories that make us feel motivated and empowered, or something tragic and dramatic that serves as a catharsis for something we are going through. However, it can be far more uplifting if you tell your own tale if you create your own world and your own characters.

      You get to think about the struggles and hardships your characters can experience, and you also get to think about solutions, so it is an amazing mental exercise. It allows you to be in control of what is going on but at the same time, exercise restraint for the sake of natural pacing, as well as natural cause and effect.

      You can go through some tips on how to write fiction, and how to express yourself, and you can also learn a thing or two about good story structure etc. However, the story you tell will be entirely your own, and no one will pressure you to write, so you get to create something you are truly going to like.

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      These types of projects can really put your brain to work, and it is an awesome way to impress yourself with what you are capable of. You need to explore your mental capacities and your creativity in order to gain self-confidence, and creative writing is definitely a good way to do it.

      So, these are fun ways for empowering yourself, and for lifting your spirits. There is something for everybody here – for those who are in a relationship, for those who love to be creative, for those who love to customize how they look, and for those who want to achieve mastery in their passion. If you feel demoralized or overwhelmed, try some of these techniques, they will definitely come in handy.

      Featured photo credit: https://pixabay.com/en/users/Unsplash-242387/ via pixabay.com

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      Last Updated on August 6, 2020

      6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

      6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

      We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

      “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

      Are we speaking the same language?

      My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

      When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

      Am I being lazy?

      When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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      Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

      Early in the relationship:

      “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

      When the relationship is established:

      “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

      It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

      Have I actually got anything to say?

      When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

      A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

      When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

      Am I painting an accurate picture?

      One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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      How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

      Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

      What words am I using?

      It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

      Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

      Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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      Is the map really the territory?

      Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

      A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

      I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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