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4 Fun Ways to Skyrocket Your Motivation and Confidence

4 Fun Ways to Skyrocket Your Motivation and Confidence

You have probably read or heard all kinds of motivational tactics. How to think more positively, how to work towards your goal, and how anything is possible as long as you believe in it. There are tons of self-help books, and various motivational speakers, but they mostly want to influence your mindset. They go with the premise that if you change how you think, everything else will fall into place.

Truth be told, these are not ineffective tips, and the change must come from within, but this is not always the case. We are all different, and due to our idiosyncrasy, there are no universal suggestions. If it worked for someone else, it does not imply you will be affected in the same manner.

On the other hand, there are different things you can try, things that don’t require you to change the way you think but simply cause a positive reaction inside your body. So, even though we don’t all think the same way, our bodies do react in a very similar fashion.

With that in mind, we will go over some fun ways to improve your motivation and confidence. These will not include tips on how to change your perspective, or to meditate in order to filter out stressful thoughts – these will all be actionable tips that can work for anyone.

1. You want confidence? You have to fight for it!

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    Confidence is all about control and feeling prepared. A great way to become more confident is to hone your motor skills and work on your kinetic energy. Sometimes, it is the small things that begin to bother us – we do not like how we look or that we are clumsy, and with martial arts training you can effectively fight this type of negativity.

    To be more precise, you have the opportunity to develop practical skills, and therefore you’ll be inspired to try out different feats on your own. It is also a form of fitness exercise, so if your confidence is affected by your appearance, martial arts training is definitely going to come in handy.

    Furthermore, as you are devoted to training you also build up your willpower, thereby having an effective mechanism to cope with stressful situations. As you progress, you become more composed and far less impulsive, and it is something you are definitely going to notice.

    Since rigorous training means a lot of physical exercise, you will reap all the benefits from these activates and you will feel better in general. After all, exercise is a miracle drug, and knowing you did something healthy and constantly improving yourself has an incredibly positive impact on your confidence.

    2. Sexercise

    Since we are on the topic of physical exercise and activity, then it would be good to mention sex as one of the healthy and fun ways to boost motivation. Intercourse is extremely therapeutic, and having it on daily basis will make your self-esteem skyrocket.

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    If you are exposed to a lot of stress on a daily basis, then sexual activity will definitely counterbalance these irritating thoughts. In other words, one of the best medicines for stress is sexual healing. It will make you happier, it will improve your self-image, and as mentioned it is a great workout.

    Another benefit worth mentioning is improved wits. After all, our neurotransmitters carry information from one brain cell to another, and oxytocin and prolactin are both neurotransmitters. With daily sexual activity, our brain’s hippocampus initiates the process called neurogenesis, which is responsible for producing these neurotransmitters.

    3. Shopping spree

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      Now let’s talk about some other ways of improving your confidence, without including physical exercise. It is a recipe that was here for generations, and it really works. Shopping is an amazing way to increase your motivation and to really feel good about yourself for days. The downside is that it can be hard on your wallet and that it can become a compulsion if you overuse, but it sure feels good.

      In terms of combating stress, shopping spree has quite a simple effect, it helps you get your mind off the stressful topic. Also, it is one of the ways of altering your appearance and, as mentioned, if that is your source of dissatisfaction, shopping can boost your self-esteem, and it’s effective immediately.

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      Since the activity itself is fun in general, you can invite your friends and spend some time with them as well.  Also, let’s not forget that you feel refreshed and the whole thing really feels like a fresh start or a do-over.

      Again, use this technique with caution, since it can turn into a problem if you rely on it too much. You’ll lose money and your wardrobe will start to get cramped and messy.

      4. Create your own universe

      We all love good stories – it is something that helps us experience a different world, and yet still relate to it. They can be cautionary tales that make us wiser, uplifting stories that make us feel motivated and empowered, or something tragic and dramatic that serves as a catharsis for something we are going through. However, it can be far more uplifting if you tell your own tale if you create your own world and your own characters.

      You get to think about the struggles and hardships your characters can experience, and you also get to think about solutions, so it is an amazing mental exercise. It allows you to be in control of what is going on but at the same time, exercise restraint for the sake of natural pacing, as well as natural cause and effect.

      You can go through some tips on how to write fiction, and how to express yourself, and you can also learn a thing or two about good story structure etc. However, the story you tell will be entirely your own, and no one will pressure you to write, so you get to create something you are truly going to like.

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      These types of projects can really put your brain to work, and it is an awesome way to impress yourself with what you are capable of. You need to explore your mental capacities and your creativity in order to gain self-confidence, and creative writing is definitely a good way to do it.

      So, these are fun ways for empowering yourself, and for lifting your spirits. There is something for everybody here – for those who are in a relationship, for those who love to be creative, for those who love to customize how they look, and for those who want to achieve mastery in their passion. If you feel demoralized or overwhelmed, try some of these techniques, they will definitely come in handy.

      Featured photo credit: https://pixabay.com/en/users/Unsplash-242387/ via pixabay.com

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      How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

      How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

      We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

      When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

      In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

      Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

      If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

      According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

      No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

      When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

      Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

      1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

      When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

      Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

      When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

      Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

      In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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      It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

      You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

      Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

      What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

      You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

      That’s where we all should be.

      So, answer me this:

      How are you, really?

      And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

      Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

      Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

      Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

      Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

      It’s taking control.

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      2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

      You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

      You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

      In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

      Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

      You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

      Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

      But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

      It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

      In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

      It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

      Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

      Change will happen.

      Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

      You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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      And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

      You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

      That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

      You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

      When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

      There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

      3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

      Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

      In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

      If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

      Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

      Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

      How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

      Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

      “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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      Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

      Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

      It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

      Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

      “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

      What would you do if you felt you were enough?

      By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

      So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

      Final Thoughts

      By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

      Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

      When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

      You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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