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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

5 Steps to Designing Your Life to Maximize Success

5 Steps to Designing Your Life to Maximize Success

Are you consciously designing your life? Do you really understand what that means and how to do it?

This matters because, in a time when online marketers are pitching their services or products, promising that they’ll give you the time and financial freedom you need to create your “life by design,” it is important for you to have an understanding of what designing your life actually looks like and how to do it effectively.

The problem is that, while it sounds great in theory, most people don’t understand what it means to create a meaningful life by design, and they do not have the first clue where to start to make that happen when they feel stuck.

For that reason, I’m going to share with you 5 steps for designing your life in a way that is both sustainable and wise. If changing your life feels like too big a task, check out the video below to find some inspiration before you continue reading:

Step 1: Get Clear on What You Want

At the core of designing your life is the question of what you actually want and what will help you wake up excited to live every day. In order to achieve this, you have to get clear on exactly what you want.

We live in a society where people are overwhelmed with the inputs, thoughts, beliefs, and opinions of others. Not to mention, the environments we are routinely in impact our values, beliefs, and desires on a deep level.

Because of that, it becomes very easy to lose touch with who we are and what we want in life among all the noise.

That’s why seeking clarity is so important.

Clarity is foundational to designing the life you desire to live because without it, the desires and expectations that everyone else has for your life will take over.

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In order to design your life, you have to break free from the stories of your past that have told you who you are and what you should want. The only effective way to do that is by seeking clarity. You can do this through mind mapping, journaling, or meditation.

If you’re not sure where to begin when figuring out what you want to do with your life, check out this article.

Step 2: Create a Plan

Once you’ve gotten clarity on exactly what you want in your life, the real “design” work comes when you create a plan to achieve those desires.

If you’re not sure what a good plan may include, this article is a good place to start.

Think about your life like a beautiful work of architecture. A bunch of builders didn’t just walk out there one day and start throwing things together in hopes that something nice would turn out.

Instead, they did the tedious work of mapping out every single detail of that structure, and they did it long before they ever even broke ground on building it.

One of the biggest reasons people never get to live the life they desire is that they are unwilling to do the necessary work of creating a plan to get there.

Yes, hard work, perseverance, and belief are all essential parts of you effectively creating and living the life you desire, but all of those are for naught if there isn’t a plan in place to design and build your life.

Be like the architect and take the time to create the plan before you start metaphorically breaking ground, swinging hammers, and constructing anything of significance in your life.

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Otherwise, you may find that the structure you’ve built isn’t the one you had hoped for.

Step 3: Be Flexible and Open-minded

Even when there is a plan in place, those who live the most fulfilled and joyful lives are those who are flexible and open-minded to change and new opportunities.[1]

One of the downsides to planning is that, because you invest so much time, energy, and effort into creating it, you can get rigid about following it to a T.

The problem is that many aspects of your life are constantly evolving and changing, and it is that fluid nature of life that brings uncertainty and adventure into the picture. Therefore, the plans you make today may no longer be relevant tomorrow.

You may have plans of going back to school to further your education, but an opportunity to step into entrepreneurship may come available.

Accomplishing some big goal may be in your plans, but a bigger goal may present itself, or the original goal may no longer be of interest to you.

In both of those scenarios, being dogmatic about carrying out the original plan may be a detriment to future opportunities. The main point in all of this is that when it comes to designing your life, you absolutely want to have a plan in place, but you must also keep an open heart and open mind.

Step 4: Say “No” More Often

If you take away nothing else from this article, this may be the one piece of wisdom you want to hold on to.

We live in a society where “busy” is celebrated. The problem is that when busy becomes your default way of living, the things you care most about have a way of getting buried under other stuff.

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That’s why the subtle art of learning to say no more often is necessary if you want to start designing your life.[2]

Learn to say no to start designing your life wisely

    One truth about life is that you can’t do two things at once — at least not effectively.

    If you add together the unknown and the limited time you have, you’re either designing your life, or you are falling victim to others’ agendas.

    We live in a culture where “no” has a negative connotation. Because of that, most people grow up lacking the ability to effectively take a stand for their time and confidently say no to something.

    Whether it’s due to a fear of upsetting someone or letting someone down, or the dreaded fear of missing out (FOMO), people just aren’t great at saying no.

    However, if you truly want to start designing your life effectively, it’s imperative that you take back control of your time and agenda.

    Step 5: Understand That Failure Is Part of the Process

    Most people live in fear of failure, and that fear stifles their ability to go after the true goals, dreams, and aspirations. However, if you want to be able to design your life, you must not only accept that failure is going to be part of the process, but you must also learn to embrace it.

    I’ll tell you why: it is through the failures in life that we often learn our greatest lessons and are able to achieve more growth.

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    You see, most people don’t take time to reflect upon their wins to figure out what went well that allowed them to win. And they definitely don’t take time to evaluate what they can do better next time.

    However, when people fail, they tend to be a bit more reflective, especially regarding why they failed in the first place. If you can learn to dig into your failures a bit more and see them as learning opportunities, you will set yourself up for long-term success.

    One of the biggest problems with failure is that people see it as a stop sign. They think that is the end of the road, but that doesn’t have to be the case.

    If you want to start designing your life, start thinking of failure as a yield sign instead — a place where you pause, evaluate the situation, and proceed when you’re ready.

    When you can learn to view failure in this way, you start to understand the benefits of it, and once you can understand its benefits, you’ll not only stop fearing failure, but you’ll start embracing it.

    Final Thoughts

    Living a life by design is absolutely possible. However, you have to remember that it is a conscious process.

    Just like with architecture, great works don’t happen by accident. It’s through conscious, intentional action that someone is able to build a well-lived life.

    By engaging with the 5 steps outlined here, you’ll be effective and actually enjoy the process of designing your life.

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    I like to use the word passion interchangeably with words like determination, conviction, and love. Passion is a strong desire that can get you to do amazing things.

    Passion is an emotion to be acted upon. Without action, passion yields no worthwhile results. Passion is the fuel in the fire of action. When you have passion for something, you love it even when you hate it.

    So what is passion? How do you recognize your passion, and how do you put it to good use?

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    What Is Passion?

    A desire fueled by passion will bring about the greatest results in life.

    I like to skateboard, but I don’t have the determination to push myself through broken bones and hospital visits. That’s why I’m not as good as I could be. I don’t have a passion for it.

    Passion can push you through difficult times because you don’t care what it takes to become better. We all have the ability to create whatever kind of life we want. The secret to living the dream is hidden in our passions and what we do because of them.

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    How to Know What You’re Passionate About?

    Finding what you are passionate about is a journey in itself. Don’t be frustrated if you don’t feel like you know yet. Keep trying new things. It will come even if you have to build it. If you find your passion, or find yourself hot on its trail, don’t give it up.

    What if you know what you have a passion for but you don’t do anything about it? This is the main problem with passion. You can have all the passion in the world for something but if you never do anything about it, that passion is useless.

    Maybe you work a good job that pays all the bills but it doesn’t allow you to truly follow your passion. You’re afraid of what will happen if you change things up. Yes, change is scary, but it’s not until we leave our comfort zone that we find what we’ve been missing out on.

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    You’re the author of your life. Don’t settle for the bare minimum just because it’s working out right now.

    You will never know what you’re truly capable of unless you push yourself.

    But even when you pursue your passion, you will find yourself tripped up by failures and other obstacles. You can’t let that get to you. It happens to everyone on the path of following their passion. Abe Lincoln had a strong passion for building a great country. You think he let a few failures stop him from that? Don’t let obstacles get you down.

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    What About Passion for People?

    The idea of passion also applies to people. Don’t fall into the common trap of thinking you love someone and not doing anything about it. Ask yourself, is giving up my pride worth it to maintain a relationship? What about being unselfish and sacrificing your time or comfort? If you can’t do that, it’s probably not real love, or you need to start making changes.

    Often, I think we need to remind ourselves who we love and act accordingly. It’s easy to let family relationships weaken because of pride. Of course, you say you love your family, but when your brother is in the school play, and you hate plays, do you go?

    The same applies to intimate relationships. Do you only love them when it’s easy? Real love takes sacrifice and work. You push through the difficult times because you love them and you understand that every passion pursued will have bumps in the road. Unfortunately, many people don’t understand what it means to have passion for someone. This is why divorce rates are so high and families are often torn apart by hurt feelings and unnecessary drama.

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