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What is FOMO? (and How to Beat It)

What is FOMO? (and How to Beat It)


    Are you unable to say “no” to a party invitation even if you have some work to do? Do you feel like an outsider if you don’t see the hottest Hollywood movie everyone is talking about? Do you feel that you have to buy the latest and hottest “making money online” information product because everyone else is doing so?

    If you have been in these or similar situations before, you have just experienced FOMO.

    What is FOMO?

    I learned about FOMO by reading a book “Find Your Focus Zone” by Lucy Jo Palladino. In that book she described the FOMO with an everyday example: Have you ever felt that you had to pick up the cell phone right away when it rings?

    The longer the phone rings, the more and more you experience the fear of missing out (FOMO). You feel that there is something important you are about to miss if you don’t pick up the phone at instant.

    The most important element in FOMO is the word “fear”. It makes us to do things even when we necessarily don’t want to.
    It’s like logic versus emotion: When a compelling option is presented to us, we feel like an outsider if we say “no” to that. We may even fear that we miss an opportunity of a lifetime if we say “no”.

    At the same time, we know that we probably shouldn’t say “yes”, because we may be spreading ourselves too thin. Also, there are going to be plenty of other opportunities out there, so missing this one wont probably make a difference after all.

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    What are the symptoms of FOMO?

    When you are a “victim” of fear of missing out, you are going to experience at least one of the following:

    1. Being unfocused and stressed, procrastination

    It is obvious, that when the temptation to say “yes” to a request is too big, you accept yet another task or project to your task list.

    In practice, you are spreading yourself too thin. Not only are you stressed out by too many activities in your life, it increases the likelihood for procrastination. This is because you cannot keep up with your schedule and you start finding excuses for not doing something you promised.

    2. Losing money

    Sometimes you don’t want to feel like being an outsider in a group by making different decisions than the rest of the people.

    For example, I have been in internet marketing circles for couple of years and every time there is a big product launch coming, there is a lot a of buzz around it.

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    Since this “next shiny object” is probably going to make you rich and famous overnight, you don’t want to miss out. If you do, others are going to be rich and famous, not you.

    Unfortunately, in many situations like these, nothing groundbreaking is going to happen after all (no fame, no money, just hard work). It is yet another product launch, which is going to waste your money, if the fear (FOMO) is getting the hold of you.

    3. Overwhelm

    Being overwhelmed is one of the symptoms of fear of missing out. When you are unable to say “no”, feeling overwhelmed is destined to happen at some point.

    There is just too much going on at the same time and you are unable to focus on anything properly.

    How to get rid of the fear of missing out?

    There are certain things you can do when you experience the FOMO:

    1. Be aware of it

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    First thing is to be aware of the feeling. Stop for a moment and acknowledge when you are having a feeling of FOMO.

    Understand that this is a natural (although undesirable) way of reacting in a certain situation (in other words, when you feel that you are missing out something important and you feel you have to say “yes”).

    2. Be honest to yourself and others

    Honesty is one of the best ways to deal with the situation.

    First, you have to be honest to yourself: If you say “yes”, you have to understand that you may be spreading yourself too thin.

    Second, it is also important to be honest to others too. They have to be aware that you may not be 100% committed to their requests, if you have plenty of action going on at the same time.

    3. Make a quick decision regarding the situation

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    One of the worst things to do to be on the fence on a decision. As long as something is left undecided, it is using your brain capacity for nothing.

    That’s why it is imperative to say “no” to an opportunity as quickly as possible, if you feel you are unable to commit to it 100%.

    When you say “no”, you may even your decision at first. On the other hand, if you are meant to experience the opportunity at all, it will come available to you at some point later.

    4. Change the perspective

    Lastly, one step in defeating the FOMO is to see if a situation or event supports your goals.

    For example, I used to buy lots of internet marketing training programs in the past. However, once I started to see things from my goals perspective (what I wanted to achieve and if the program supported that goal), I was able to eliminate distraction and fears of missing out on something seemingly important.

    Conclusion

    Fear of missing out can make you do things – sometimes even something that you don’t want to do. However, there is a way to overcome the fear. Once you learn to handle it, you will feel better and happier than before.

    (Photo credit: Businessman in Danger via Shutterstock)

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    12 Practical Tips To Stay Fit For Christmas

    12 Practical Tips To Stay Fit For Christmas

    Christmas is approaching fast, and lots of people not only tend to ruin their usual diets, but they also gain a few extra pounds. Based on studies, the majority of people tend to gain additional weight during the holiday season that starts at the Thanksgiving Day and ends with the New Year celebrations. Excessive eating is claimed to be the main cause for the additional weight gain, but it is also due to lack of physical activity and exercise.

    A lot of individuals out there tend to set aside their fitness routines during the holidays since they believe that they do not have enough time to perform their workouts. And because they feel guilty after the holiday season, most of the gyms and fitness centers are packed with fresh members. Always bear in mind that you can still enjoy the holidays and stay fit at the same time. If you want to stay fit during the holiday season, especially during Christmas and the New Year’s Eve, here are some useful tips that might help you:

    1. Eat Before Heading Out

    First, it is best that you eat something before heading out to visits, trips or family dinners. By doing so, you will no longer be tempted to eat a lot or overindulge yourself since you have already eaten. Skipping on meals is not a good idea either, because you will only be forced to eat more later.

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    2. Select The Treats

    Make sure to select the treats that you eat in a wise manner. You should choose something that you can only enjoy during the holiday season and not something that is readily available all the time.

    3. Avoid Skipping Meals

    Don’t skip meals, especially breakfast! Even though it can be tempting to skip on certain meals, believing that it will make up for the treats you consumed in the previous day, don’t do it because it will only lead to counterproductive results.

    4. Drink With Moderation

    It is best to regulate your drinking since alcohol, coke or other juices will only add more calories to the ones you already eaten!

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    5. Be Active

    You should still perform your fitness routine whenever possible and if you can’t do that, simply walk more, park your car some distance away from the store or just use the stairs!

    6. Get Out Of The House

    Make the holidays a family affair and plan outdoor activities where everyone is involved. Even a snowball fight in the backyard will burn a lot of calories and will keep the children entertained.

    7. Don’t Skip Your Strength Workouts

    Always remember to perform your strength training in order to maintain that muscle mass you worked hard to get. You might be tempted to use lightweights and just do some cardio, but you can burn just as many calories by lifting weights. And with all of those extra stakes you had on the holiday meals, you might even gain some extra muscle. And this is much better than gaining some extra fat.

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    8. Set Realistic Goals

    You should set realistic exercise objectives. Aim for at least half an hour per day and you will be very happy when you will achieve that. If you plan one hour or more and not achieve it, you will only end up disappointed.

    9. Enjoy Yourself

    Also make sure to set realistic diet plans! Trying to restrain yourself totally from some foods will only make you eat more. Feel free to enjoy the treats that you really love, but in small portions.

    10. Drink A Lot Of Water

    This can satiate your appetite as well as keep you hydrated at all times. And it will also prevent a possible hangover if you overdo it with alcohol.

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    11. Eat Less And More Often

    Distribute your meals evenly throughout the day, and do not eat everything at once.  Instead of having 2 enormous meals, have 5 small ones.  Eat your dinner earlier and have a nice walk before going to bed.

    12. Prioritize Your Workouts

    Try to do them early in the morning while everyone else is still sleeping. This way you will also avoid remarks like “Oh, come on! It’s Christmas…”

    So there you go! Twelve simple tips that will help you avoid gaining weight during the winter holidays, but will also allow you to enjoy yourself and have a great time with your loved ones.

    Happy Holidays everyone!

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