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Last Updated on September 25, 2019

8 Important Things to Remember When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

8 Important Things to Remember When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life. Everyone feels overwhelmed by expectations, responsibilities and lacking of time at work, in relationships and other aspects of life once in a while. But dwelling on that feeling is dangerous.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stuck with more than you can handle, here are 8 things to keep in mind to help you get through it:

1. Humans have always had the same problems.

You’re not alone. People have struggled with the same problems for years.

Everyday, millions of people conquer overwhelming feelings and come out happy and alive on the other side.

Humans are built to overcome and succeed. We are not built to fail.

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life, but dwelling on that feeling is dangerous. You have to believe you can overcome.

2. It’s just a breakdown of your thoughts, not a breakdown of your actual life.

Our minds are powerful things. In the book, As a Man ThinkethJames Allen says:

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“As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.”

We have the power to control our thoughts, and as a result, control who we are.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, your life isn’t falling apart—your thoughts are.

Take a minute to find and clean out all your self-deprecating, negative thoughts. As you do this, you will find yourself feeling refreshed and invigorated with renewed energy to take on the world. Don’t believe it? Try it.

3. Things change quickly when you start doing something.

Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with a project at work and don’t think you have the energy or time to finish it. You start letting yourself play out every negative scenario resulting from a failed project.

Stop right there!

Sitting on the couch, dwelling on these thoughts isn’t going to make anything better. In fact, it usually makes things worse.

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Things seem to fall in place as you chip away at a project and come to realize it wasn’t as bad as you thought.

And it’s never too late to start over, here’s the proof: How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

4. You’ve felt this way before.

Think about the last time you felt overwhelmed. How did you overcome it? Was it really as bad as you thought?

If you don’t learn from past experiences, you’ll find yourself suffering from the same problems over and over.

Successful people are the ones who understand that every experience, good or bad, is valuable.

Go to a private place and take as long as you need to remember previous times in your life you felt this way and how you overcame it.

5. Your problems aren’t always as bad as you think.

The best way to find out how good you actually have it is to take a break from worrying about your own life and do something kind for someone in a worse spot than you.

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Go do service at a homeless shelter, orphanage, or battered women’s home, etc. Helping people who are worse off than you puts your own problems into perspective and helps you feel far less overwhelmed.

6. When it feels like you can’t do anything, that’s exactly when you need to do something.

Like it says in number 3, your situation changes quickly when you start doing something.

Those who overcome their struggles quickly are the ones who never give up, even when they feel that all is lost.

At times it might feel like there is nothing you can do, but that is exactly when you need to do something.

How will you ever know for sure there was nothing you could do if you didn’t at least try? You’ll only live your best life once you step out. Here’s why.

And at the very least, you will find personal confidence in knowing that you did everything you could.

7. Be grateful for what you do have.

In a world of people obsessed with putting their best self forward, it’s easy to feel like everyone has more than you.

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STOP!

Get that thought out of your head and remember what you do have. Often the things you have right now are things you were worried about having in the past.

Don’t let an insatiable desire for more blind you from seeing and appreciating everything you have right now. You have more than you know. Be grateful.

To practice gratitude, try to start a gratitude journal: How a Gratitude Journal and Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

8. People want you to succeed.

Remember there are people in your life who want you succeed. Your life touches so many others and there are people out there rooting for you.

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life, but dwelling on that feeling is dangerous. So, whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself of the above 8 statements.

You’ve got this!

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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