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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

Feeling Frustrated in Life? 8 Ways to Get Back on Track

Feeling Frustrated in Life? 8 Ways to Get Back on Track

Feeling frustrated with life?

The problem with frustration is that it can cripple in on anyone, but it can be hard to pinpoint exactly where it comes from.

What is frustration really? If we ask the dictionary, it tells us it’s the feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something. This doesn’t really give us much of an in-depth explanation of our frustration, so how can we solve this problem?

The reason behind your frustration can be complicated, but we’ve gone over different — yet common — reasons of frustration, because once the source is found, you’ll be able to get right back on track.

1. Make your failure a lesson

A failure has as a way of shifting our mentality to a sense of lack. It’s normal to get frustrated by a failure. We’re often hit by one failure after another, which understandably leads to frustration.

Instead of seeing it as a failure, you should take a note from Thomas Edison’s as he said:

” …didn’t fail, [but] …discovered 10,000 ways that didn’t work.”

We’re tested every day with small as well as big things, but even if we don’t succeed, we’ll be able to learn from it.

By changing your perspective on failure, you’ll be able to turn an obstacle into an opportunity. A failure can go from a frustration into a stronger willpower, but it all starts by seeing it as the beginning instead of the end.

2. Focus on today

These days, anxiety is one of most common mental health disturbances experienced by youth. [1] While anxiety can’t be explained or simplified by one thing, it’s been known that the pressure on creating the right future and the perfect life have put a new and bigger pressure on the next generation.

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While it’s important to create and plan a future, you shouldn’t let the frustration of not knowing what’s ahead of you destroy your mood. It can overwhelm anyone to stress about tomorrow, next year and ten years from now.

Rather than constant focusing on what’s coming, you should focus on today. Today is the one day you have. You can’t go back and you can’t take control over any other day. Today is the day; you can do anything and nothing.

Take a moment to breathe and grab the opportunities you have today. If you’ve been putting off something, then do it today. If you haven’t had fun for a while, because you’ve been too frustrated and focused on tomorrows problems, then take the day off and have some fun. Today is the only day that you have actual control of.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others

We live in a competitive world, which isn’t exactly breaking news, but after the rise of social media, we’ve added fuel to the fire.[2]

Twenty years ago, we would look at our neighbour’s new car or look at their picket fence and compare it to our own. Today, we compare ourselves to celebrities, old classmates and strangers on social media.

Once we go online, we get instant access to other people’s lives. While it can be like a free entertainment magazine, it’s important to remember — like the magazines — it’s a blurred reality. At this point, most of us know we’re looking at a filtered reality, but we still get competitive and frustrated by small things like the lack of likes. [3]

Go offline for a week or two. Obviously, we live in a world where we can’t just remove our phone from our lives. We still need to be able to get in contact with our family, friends and work, but you can delete all your social media apps on your phone.

A break from the online chatter might be exactly what you need to get back on track and feel good again. It might be hard in the beginning as we’re programmed by habits, but once you get through some days without constantly reaching for your phone to look at the likes and shiny red notifications, you’ll feel better and be able to let go of unnecessary frustration.

4. You’re stuck in a rut – break free of it

The problem with being stuck in a rut is that almost everyone goes through it, but it’s hard to pinpoint where our frustration comes from with this one.

It doesn’t really matter what kind of life you’re living. In the end, we all get bored by doing the same thing over and over again.

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It can be tricky because you can be perfectly happy with your life, but still feel like you’re stuck in a rut.

Daily routines are what keeps us going, but it’s also what eventually slows us down and dries us up.

This doesn’t mean that you should quit your job, leave your family and buy a one way ticket to somewhere far, far away immediately. The frustration can be let go of by adding something new to your life or letting go of something no longer meaningful to you.

Try doing something that you always wanted to do but feel like you couldn’t, because the reality of it is — you can.

5. Appreciate what you have

Most humans are programmed to always look for improvement — how can we improve our relationship, work and ourselves? Sometimes, we get so focused on what we’re missing that we lose sight of what we have.

It’s okay to strive for more and allow the emotion of frustration to hit you, but let it be a quick reaction rather than a state of mind.

It’s easy to lament on what you want, but take a look at what you have for a second instead.

Let’s say you’re struggling with either work, family or friends. Let’s assume one of them isn’t working out at all at the moment. Then look at the other things you have going for you. Ask yourself: Do you have a good life overall? Do you appreciate what you have around you?

You’re most likely to find at least one thing in your life that you appreciate. Focus on the good and let the feeling of appreciation in.

6. Regain power if you’re feeling powerless

We enjoy being in control, but there is always something you can’t control. It could be the weather, someone at work, a friend of ours; which leads us to feel powerless.

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It would be great (and easy) if you could just remove yourself from the situation that makes you feel powerless; unfortunately that’s not always an option.

The cold hard truth is we can’t control everything. The good news is we do have the power to control some stuff. Try to regain power in another aspect of your life, which you’re actually able to have a say in.

Things like other people’s emotions towards us and sickness are two things out of many that are out of our control. Don’t fight a lost battle. Find something you can control.

It can be simple things like setting a fitness goal or learning a new language, or it might be bigger things like quitting your job or getting out of a toxic relationship.

You’ll realize you aren’t powerless by taking back power somewhere you actually can.

7. Acknowledge old pain or trauma

Life isn’t fair. We’re not born into the same types of life and we’re not dealt the same cards. Some  may have experienced trauma in their childhood, which we’ve never dealt with. Others may have some old pain left in them from a bad experience.

The frustration from unsolved problems will lead you to feel bad without knowing why. The only way to move past it is by dealing with your past.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should spend hours with a therapist (though there’re times that you may need a therapist or life coach for help), but by simply acknowledging your pain, it can set you free.

By getting a better understanding of yourself, your emotions and your reactions to certain situations, you’ll be able to let go of the frustration.

Try these steps to help you let go of the painful past.

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8. Face your fear

Frustration can be a reaction to fear. Fear can be a big scary thing but it can also be a small thing that’s been building up.

It may have started with a small task, but by pushing it back for a long time, it becomes bigger and bigger and it ends up creating fear and frustration inside you. These common fears can hold you back.

The only thing you can do to fight your fear is to start taking baby steps today and do the thing you’re scared of. It’s almost never as bad as we think and afterwards you’ll end up feeling free and lifted.

This article about fight fear will help you too:

How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding)

Final thoughts

Frustration can be caused by many things, but the one thing it has in common is that it can cripple us and set our daily life out of track.

It’s okay to feel frustrated, but the sooner you understand where the frustration comes from, the sooner you’ll know how to get rid of it.

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Featured photo credit: Jeffrey Wegrzyn via unsplash.com

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Everything Is Going To Be Fine In The End. If It Isn’t Fine, It Isn’t The End.

Everything Is Going To Be Fine In The End. If It Isn’t Fine, It Isn’t The End.

Sometimes a situation may seem terrible, but eventually it will end. Everyone will go through difficult times in their life; maybe your relationship has ended, maybe you have lost a loved one or maybe you are unhappy in your career and unsure about what to do next.

Many people believe that negative experiences are emotionally damaging, but this isn’t true. In reality negative experiences will make you wiser, stronger and more compassionate. If you are currently going through a difficult time, don’t worry – everything is going to be fine in the end. If it isn’t fine, it isn’t the end.

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Here are four things you can do to improve your current situation.

1. Acknowledge That You Don’t Feel Fine

When we experience pain, such as losing a loved one, it can be tempting to ignore your negative emotions to focus on something else. You don’t like the idea of crying or feeling terrible, but in reality putting it off will make the problem worse. The negative emotions won’t pass until you feel them, and if you ignore them they may turn into anger and resentment. Let yourself feel the sadness, even if you are worried that it will overwhelm you. You don’t have to rationalize your feelings; just accept that they are part of life’s journey.

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2. Talk It Out

Lots of people who are sad struggle to express their sadness to their loved ones. Their partner will ask how they are feeling, and instead of being honest they will claim to be fine. This can make the problem seem bigger as you are dealing with it alone, without any help from the people around you. If you can relate to this, try to talk it out with someone you love and trust. Another perspective is normally very helpful, and simply talking about the problem will make it seem smaller and more manageable.

3. Focus On Your Mindset

Life isn’t perfect for anyone, and everyone experiences difficult times. The only thing that really matters is how you choose to deal with problems. Some people bury their heads in the sand and ignore their problems; if their relationship is failing, they will avoid their partner rather than trying to fix the problem. This attitude may make you feel better in the moment, but it will soon make all of your problems worse.

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Try to have a positive attitude towards your problems so that you can actually solve them. It may seem like a big challenge, but in reality it is a simple choice – either you can deal with your problems or you can avoid them.

4. Deal With Today (And Don’t Worry About Tomorrow Or Yesterday)

When you are going through a difficult time it can be hard to focus on the present. Lots of people focus on past decisions that they regret, and they constantly worry about how their current problem will affect the future. This negative attitude doesn’t benefit anyone, and it will make you feel more anxious and stressed.

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Forget about the past and future so that you can focus on the present moment, and you will find that it is much easier to be positive and optimistic. Spend time with your loved ones and enjoy their company, and smile when something amuses you. You may still feel sad, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy happiness when you find it.

We all go through difficult times in life, and you should embrace the negative things that have happened to you. This will help you to accept the situation so that you can deal with the problem and find happiness. You may not feel fine now, but everything is going to be fine.

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