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How to Be More Self Assured and Get More Done During the Week

How to Be More Self Assured and Get More Done During the Week

Time is a great leveller isn’t it? We all have the same 24 hours in a day.

But why is it that some people can be so much more productive and achieve so much more in a typical day, whilst others struggle to achieve anything apart from a feeling of being time crunched and overwhelmed?

Everyone I know and work with wants to make the best use of their time. They want to learn how to be more self assured, happier, and work less–all while growing in their career.

How effectively we use our time–and how we actually work in our business–can make a huge difference to the amount of success we achieve in our workday. It can also make us more focused and more confident.

Do you want to have more thinking and creative time? Do you want to spend more time working on your business rather than working at or in your business? In this article, we’ll show you how.

Get More Done by Gaining Confidence

What if you had a strategy for making the best use of your time that brings you more joy and allows you to focus on the biggest activities and opportunities in your business? You may find the following outline below to be helpful:

1. Create an Exciting Vision

If you don’t know where you’re going, how do you know when you get there?

You want to be more productive. You want to spend more time getting the right stuff done. Then you need to create a compelling and exciting vision of your future.

What does this future look like? How will you feel when you get there? If in this future, you aren’t a lot better off than you are in your current situation, then why bother to change anything?

Creating a new vision, especially one that is a lot bigger than where you are right now, has a way of igniting your passion. It may be something that feels hard to achieve, but every step you take towards that bigger vision will certainly build your confidence.

Commitment to this vision, and accomplishing continual daily progress depends on your ability to look at any situation you’re faced with or currently in, and see something bigger ahead.

Also, when you know where you’re headed, you will instinctively start to see all the new opportunities and connections that will get you there.

Make a vision map to get you started on the path to better productivity. This doesn’t have to be fully actualized, but you should know at least what direction you are heading.

2. Build a Strategic Plan

Once you have your future vision mapped out, the next step is to build a strategic plan to get you there.

Your future vision may be for 3 years or 5 years, or you may choose a longer time frame. Any timeframe over 3 years may feel like a long way away.

You may wonder how you are ever going to feel confident and motivated on this bigger future years from now when you feel as though you have so much to accomplish today.

The first step is to decide on some specific goals for the next 12 months. Don’t list too many or you may begin to feel overwhelmed.

The magic number for me and my clients is to create and stick to five annual goals.

These are big goals that will create massive change in your business and life and bridge your current situation to your bigger future; accomplishing these goals one by one, little by little, will help to increase your confidence on a daily basis.

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3. Get on Goal Planning

Get yourself a piece of blank paper and a pen and divide the paper into 4 columns: Column A, Column B, and Column C and Column D.

Ask yourself the question: What is great in my business and life right now? Write these things down in Column A. This might be a couple of things, five things, ten things, whatever feels right to you.

Then ask yourself: What things are happening right now that I don’t want in my future? Write these things down in Column B.

This is your opportunity to take a step back and look at the things that are simply not working. You may list people that are bringing you down or projects that you don’t want to work on any more. Maybe you’ll include a service offering that’s going nowhere. It could be the people you’re working with, or it could be your pricing.

Now let’s look at your personal strengths. Write down everything that you’re great at in Column C.

These could be things that you’re doing right now and having success with. It could also be things you know you’re awesome at but you’re not spending enough time on.

Finally let’s move to Column D.

This column is for your biggest opportunities. Could your marketing be better? Is there a new service/product you could offer your ideal customers? Is there a new innovation you could bring to market? Just take some time out and really think and list these things in Column D.

Once you’ve analyzed everything you’ve written down, take some time to really think about what goals you want to set for your business and life in the next 12 months.

4. Set Outcomes to Build Confidence

You now have your goals and you’ll feel confident and raring to go. They are written down and you’re committed to achieving them. You feel confident and motivated.

But how do you ensure that you stay on the correct course to achieve these goals?

Managing and juggling day to day projects can get in the way. Dealing with problems can get in the way. Staying on top of orders, managing cash flow and handling day to day stuff can move your ship off course.

You want to be productive and achieve your goals, but you also need to ensure the day to day runs smoothly.

One way to ensure this happens is to set 90 Day Outcome Goals; within those Outcome Goals some specific process goals that need to be undertaken.

Let’s say you want to get 10 more speaking jobs in the next 90 days and you know that you typically ‘convert’ 50% of opportunities.

Therefore, your process goal needs to be to have 20 conversations in the next 90 Days to deliver the 10 new pieces of work. You will then work out who you can have those conversations with.

It’s smart to overshoot so you will more easily hit your target. This is a clear productive plan to work through because with every ‘win’ your confidence will grow.

5. Completely Commit to Your Success

If you are not truly committed to achieving your goals, then chances are that you won’t reach them.

Motivation can only take you so far. It is the intentional commitment and emotional investment in your future success that will move you forward.

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Think back to any time that you really committed to achieving something. There must have been a reason you actually achieved what you set out to achieve. What motivated you?

Were you fully invested? Why did it matter? Did you have to be really courageous to achieve it?

How did it feel when you achieved it? What difference did it make?

If your motivation begins to drop when you’re working towards less important goals or those get in the way.

Think back to a time when you were really committed. When you are committed to something, then you are–in a way–forced into action. Your mind-set is focused and your body follows; you want to get it done.

And, when you do get it done, your confidence goes through the roof. You feel a level of certainty in achieving the goal you set out to accomplish.

6. Focus on Your Strengths

To build up the confidence needed to achieve our biggest goals we need to focus on our strengths.

What are you best at? What are your unique skills? You want to spend as much time as you can working in the areas that you’re great at.

Multiply your strengths. These areas are where you add the biggest value.They often bring you the biggest amount of joy and you feel more and more confident when you are using your unique skills.

If you think there is a specific capability to need to learn or be better at spend more focused time in that area. To get to this point can often take a lot of courage.

Having coached many entrepreneurs, I find there is often a period of fear, worry and uncertainty when they take a step back and identity and focus on the things they do best.

Many of us want to do it all. We want to be good at everything. We want to offer a lot of services.

But, in reality, there are some very specific things we are great at; nobody is good at everything!

Spending more time adding value in the areas where you excel can create breakthrough results and boost confidence.

7. Embrace The Present

Sometimes we spend so much time thinking about the future or worrying about the past that we forget the present moment.

Are you spending most of your day reacting to things, or have you taken the time to think about what your perfect day looks like?

We all have the opportunity to create rather than react–to decide what we do with our day. All of our future success can be created in the present moment if we just take a step back and take action.

Sometimes, doing it now is more important than doing it perfectly. Who do you want to have a conversation with? What new project do you want to work on?

There are hidden opportunities in every moment. We need to make sure we don’t miss them.

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Take that step towards your ideal future today. Start making a difference in people’s lives today. Embrace the present and start where you are and let the idea of perfection fly out the window.

8. Calm The Whirlwind

The day to day life in business and life can be hard.

Your mind may be full to bursting with all of the things you feel you have to do. The phrase “I don’t have time” has almost become an instant reaction by so many people when new opportunities are presented.

There is a whirlwind happening inside our minds.

Appointments, notifications, tasks, phone calls, errands, cash flow, staffing issues, networking, marketing all can clutter up our timeline.The sheer volume of things we feel we should do creates procrastination, stopping us from pursuing the projects and people that matter.

Many of us feel we have to do everything within our business.

Rather than simplifying things and doing less, we do more. We work longer, which creates a lack of energy and focus. Because of this we lose clarity on our biggest opportunities. If you feel this way, take some well-deserved time out.

Look at where you’re spending your time. How much of your time is being spent moving your ideas forward?

In the next 90 Days if you could delegate or outsource more day to day tasks and spend more time focusing on where you add the biggest value, what difference would it make?

Calm the whirlwind by slowing down and doing less.

Focus on areas that you add the biggest amount of value. By doing this, your energy levels will increase, your confidence will grow and you will have more success.

9. Take More Time Off

This may seem counterintuitive but taking more time off to recharge and refocus can pay huge dividends.

If you are constantly fighting fires and caught up in the myriad of different activities that you have to do each day, then how can you move your business forward?

You may be being pulled in difference directions without any focused time on your biggest projects. If that’s the case then it’s almost impossible to gain any real momentum in moving your business forward and hitting your goals.

You may feel exhausted, unmotivated and overwhelmed with everything on your plate. If you feel this way you know it’s difficult to find any real thinking or creative time if you are just doing.

The best way to get off that treadmill is to take more creative time out of the business.

Could you realistically take one day off per month to work on your business? If you could, what would you do with this time?

Just Imagine no distractions, only focused time on the strategic development and growth of your business.

Every day off per month could have a different focus: New product innovation; Thinking about your biggest clients; Improving operations.

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Add to this a quarterly review to check in with your goals progress and this could have a dramatic effect on where you spend your valuable time.

I find that when people take time off every month, they can often achieve far more in that single day than they may in a week of actively doing. They also come back more creative and more focused.

10. Celebrate Wins

Sometimes you just want to get through the day, right?

You have so much to do. There are so many things on your task list that you just complete what you can and then start another day. But what would happen if at the end of each day you took some time out to look at what you’ve accomplished?

Celebrating success keeps you motivated and builds your confidence. It is not just another day. It is a day that included things that should be celebrated.

If you’re struggling to feel motivated, try celebrating a couple of wins each day.

Then do the same thing for seven days. As you continue celebrating those small wins, it will become a habit. You may then want to push yourself further and focus on achieving bigger wins.

Celebrating success combined with the gratitude you have for achieving those wins will boost your confidence and inspire you for the next day.

11. Give Yourself More Space

When was the last time you gave yourself time to think?

Within the hustle and bustle of everyday it can be difficult to give yourself a little bit of space and time to just think.

Imagine giving yourself just an hour a day to just let your mind wander or think about a specific thing.

If you think about it, we can all free up an hour a day for something without really losing any efficiency or really impacting on our business.

In fact, that hour could be transformational for your business and life.

A new idea for a product could form or an idea for adding value to your existing clients could materialize. Perhaps you could do a check in to your ideal future and your goals. You could decide that you want to take your business in a new direction.

Try this: Just sit alone for an hour with a notebook and have it be your creative thinking time. See what happens.

Confidence is Key to Productivity

Ultimately, confidence is built up when you are clear of your direction.

This, coupled with having clear goals and working in your unique skill-set, gives you the biggest opportunity to be more productive and get more of the right things done.

The old mantra that “less is more” is right on the money. By giving yourself more time to work on your goals, you will inevitably increase your confidence; at this point, your ideal future can be anything you want it to be.

Featured photo credit: Cathryn Lavery via unsplash.com

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Mark Pettit is a Business Coach for ambitious entrepreneurs and business owners who want to achieve more by working less.

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Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again

The statistics are dismal. A recent study has found that 69% of people feel trapped in the same old routine, and only 3 out of 10 people are happy with their lives.[1] People are feeling stuck.

Some are feeling stuck in their careers, feeling like they’re too far along one path to make a change. Some are feeling stuck in their personal lives. The toll of the daily grind sucks most of their time and energy. So their relationships, self-care, and personal goals get lost in the shuffle of the treadmill existence.

When people come across these challenges of feeling stuck, the feeling sometimes doesn’t go away. It often intensifies as time goes on. As the stuck feeling intensifies, some people choose to settle. Subconsciously, without even realizing it, they end up pushing their dreams and goals further and further down.

Others, if the feeling of being stuck intensifies to an unbearable point, choose to make changes. They may choose to pivot in their careers, even after years at a successful job. They may end up making big changes in their relationships, or start putting their fitness at a higher priority. They may make drastic changes to finally feel free. These changes can be incredibly difficult to make, especially if a person has lived many years in a certain lifestyle.

Feeling stuck is NOT fun. I’ve been there. I get it.

Why Am I Feeling Stuck?

People feel stuck once in a while. There are many causes of feeling stuck. Many people work toward goals that don’t actually align with who they are at the core or what they truly desire. I call these “False Objectives”.

Living a life of False Objectives can cause people to feel very stuck and frustrated. People can build lives that are very “successful” according to society; but if you’ve built your life based on False Objectives, you’re not going to feel fulfilled. You’ll end up feeling stuck.

Another cause of feeling stuck is not knowing who you are. If you don’t understand how you’re innately wired – your strengths, your gifts, your talents, your passions – it’s tough to make decisions that enable you to maximize those. It’s tough to reach your full potential if you don’t know who you are.

You can feel stuck if you’re doing work that doesn’t allow you to maximize your innate strengths. If you’re doing work that doesn’t bring out the best in who you are at the core, you’ll likely feel some dissatisfaction and you won’t reach your full potential.

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Other people feel stuck because they haven’t surrounded themselves with mentors or peers who have achieved what they want to achieve. They stay in certain routines while craving to do life differently. As Jim Rohn says,

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

If your goal is to run a marathon and you’re spending most evenings and weekends drinking beer with your coworkers, you’re probably not going to run that marathon. If your goal is to live a location-independent lifestyle and work anytime from anywhere, but everyone in your social circle is at traditional jobs; it’ll be tough to break free from the 9-5 mentality.

How Feeling Stuck Screws You up Secretly

Feeling stuck screws up people’s lives. The consequences of feeling stuck can range from mild to severe. People may feel a mild discontentment with life and end up succumbing to the idea that life is “okay,” and settle. (Nancy’s story will resonate with you.) They may never reach their full potential, their highest levels of happiness and satisfaction. And they may not make the impact on the world that they could make, and have a looming sense that there could be “more” to life.

Often, though, the feeling of being stuck comes with much larger consequences. Feeling stuck can hinder career growth and contribute to disrupted marriages. It can lead to huge midlife crises.

The feeling can (and frequently does) increase as the years go on, leading to significant regrets about unfulfilled dreams. In fact, the number one regret of the dying, according to Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse, is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” She writes:[2]

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Many people had not honored even a half of their dreams, and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

    Approaching Life Differently

    Thankfully, some highly effective strategies can prevent you from feeling stuck. Using these strategies can help you avoid significant problems in your life. It’s different than conventional living, and it works.

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    Commonly, people live with many set routines. While certain routines are helpful, becoming stuck in the daily grind routine can get frustrating. Many people eat roughly the same foods each week, go to the same place each day, talk to the same people, keep the same commitments, and end up living life on autopilot.

    It’s tough to feel like you’re progressing forward when each day is spent doing the same uninspiring routine. In order to avoid feeling stuck, it’s important to live intentionally. It’s crucial to live in the driver’s seat of your life and get out of autopilot mode.

    First, ditch the False Objectives. Just because everyone in your family are doctors doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. Just because all your friends are married with a big house, a white picket fence, and 2 kids doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. Just because everyone you know works 9-5 doesn’t mean that’s the best path for you. It’s not easy to design your life intentionally, but it’s critical in order to avoid feeling stuck.

    Remember, the majority of people feel stuck. So, if you’re doing things like the majority of people, you’ll likely feel stuck, too. You’ll need to think differently and create your life differently.

    2 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Day

    In order to intentionally design your life, avoid falling prey to False Objectives, and prevent feeling stuck, there are questions to ask yourself every day. These questions can help you stay focused on what matters most to you, help you avoid feeling stuck and frustrated, and create the best life possible.

    1. Why Am I Going to Do What I’m Going to Do Today?

    If you’re showing up to work each day and giving your years to your job, it’s important that your “why” is deeper than “to pay the bills.” Knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing can help you make choices that inspire and motivate you.

    By asking yourself why you’re going to do what you’re going to do today, you will be living intentionally. In today’s incredibly busy, easily distracted world, living intentionally and focusing every day on what matters most is unique.

    When you choose to ask yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing every day, it will help you stay focused on what’s truly important to you. This can prevent you from getting stuck.

    2. What Would Future Want Me to Do Today?

    Imagine yourself, in the future, as the best version of you. What would that version of you want you to do today? Making decisions from the viewpoint of the future you can help you move forward and prevent the stuck and frustrated feeling.

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    When you make decisions from the viewpoint of future you, you will develop perseverance and reap the benefits of delayed gratification. Today’s society is very focused on instant gratification, but a lot of great things in life take time and effort. Learning to take small steps forward by making decisions from the future you’s standpoint can help you progress toward your biggest goals and dreams.

    How to Get Unstuck

    After asking yourself the two questions, work on the plan to get unstuck. I’ve personally tried these strategies and they work for me.

    1. Choose Goals You Truly Desire to Accomplish

    This might sound obvious but we all get sucked into False Objectives at times. When you’re setting goals in your career and your personal life, make sure they are goals that matter to you.

    Working hard toward big achievements that don’t align with your values, priorities, and who you are at the core is a fast-track toward feeling stuck.

    Learn about your strengths, your gifts, and your passions. Choose goals that align with who you are at the core, and work toward goals that align with your inner strengths and gifts. This will help you maximize your potential and minimize the stuck and frustrated feelings.

    2. Watch Your Mindset

    Often, we think we’re stuck, but the problem is our mindset. Being mindful of our mindset and self-talk is important to living a life of freedom and fulfillment. Work on rephrasing your self-talk in order to improve your mindset.

    For example, if you tell yourself, “I could never start a business,” rephrase it to, “I don’t know how to start a business YET, but I can learn.” If you find yourself saying, “I don’t have enough money to travel,” tell yourself, “I don’t have the money right now, but I can make a plan to save money to travel. Rephrasing your self-talk can help you see opportunities and possibilities instead of feeling stuck.

    Occasionally, even the most driven people have days where they feel unmotivated. Check out this article for tips to get motivated when you feel like doing nothing: What Motivates You And How to Always Stay Motivated

    Those tips can help you break free from the rut.

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    3. Get out of Your Comfort Zone and Add Some Excitement to Your Day

    Shaking up your daily routine and adding some excitement to your days can help you get unstuck.

    While breaking out of your daily routine can be uncomfortable, it can be a great way to invigorate your life. You can start by getting out of your comfort zone in small ways. Here are 10 ways to step out of your comfort zone and overcome your fear. As Brian Tracy says,

    “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

    Getting out of your comfort zone and experiencing growth can help you to continue to move forward and prevent you from getting stuck.

    4. Surround Yourself with People Who Have Done What You Aspire to Do

    It’s easy to get stuck if you’re trying to accomplish something and you’re struggling to believe it’s possible to accomplish it.

    Instead of letting yourself be isolated and stuck, commit to learning from people who have done what you aspire to do. This can help you believe it’s possible to achieve the same goals. It can also help you to be inspired to progress forward instead of staying in stuck-land.

    You can seek out a mentor, or even read inspiring books or listen to motivating podcasts by the people who have achieved your biggest goals and dreams.

    Final Thoughts

    It’s frustrating to feel stuck. But you don’t need to stay stuck if you know the right ways to break free from the rut.

    Practice living intentionally by asking yourself the 2 critical questions:

    • Why am I going to do what I’m going to do today?
    • What would future want me to do today?

    When you constantly reflect about what you truly want and whether you’re doing the things that lead you to what you desire, you’ll feel less stuck gradually.

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