The Ugly Side Of Social Media You Didn’t Know

The Ugly Side Of Social Media You Didn’t Know

As of the third quarter of 2017, Facebook had 2.07 billion monthly active users. There is no way we can deny that social media is a part of our lives in this age. Whilst social media trends continues to sky-rocket, there are also downsides that individuals are starting to realise which results in some wanting to do away with it, or going on social media fasts to steer clear of addiction. What is the reason behind this craze that has taken the world by storm? And why should we care about how much or little social media consumption we are getting? Here is a selection of 5 books that reveals the uglier side of social media usage, exploring how social media has changed our thinking, and how we should perhaps stay away from it?

1. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr

    “Is Google making us stupid?”, Nicolas Carr rang the alarm we all have deep down in our minds, that the internet is changing our thinking. The way we are finding for information has become so different as the internet makes it so easy for us to find rapid bits of information from varied sources, that perhaps we aren’t using our brains to its full potential. This book explores not only how social communication methods and channels have changed, but how our brain is affected by this phenomena. Expect this to be your new informative read, and learn about the unrevealed connection of the internet and us.

    Reading Duration: 6hrs 16mins


    Get The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains on Amazon at $10.30

    2. The Facebook Diet: 50 Funny Signs of Facebook Addiction and Ways to Unplug with a Digital Detox by Gemini Adams 

        A fun, quick read for all the severely addicted to social media people out there. With 50 cartoons illustrating “You Know You’re a Facebook Addict When…?”, you can enjoy having a laugh at your embarrassing, cringe-worthy moments when you find yourself agreeing to those examples. This makes for a good reflection of your social media habits. Loaded with digital detox tips, get ready for a week or more of social media fasting!


        Reading Duration: 3hrs 1min

        Get The Facebook Diet: 50 Funny Signs of Facebook Addiction and Ways to Unplug with a Digital Detox on Amazon at $9.99

        3. Trust Me, I’m Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator by Ryan Holiday

          Social media can build, or destroy something in 1 day. One rumour can cost a company millions of dollars. The former Marketing Director of American Apparel and media manipulator, Ryan Holiday reveals the hidden agendas in the media industry, and how some big blogs can control and distort news. This book sheds light into how the media industry really works, giving you new insight into the content that you have been viewing. You wont look at your favorite blog or website the same way again after reading this insider’s insight!


          Reading Duration: 6hrs 36mins

          Get Trust Me, I’m Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator on Amazon at $11.65

          4. Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman

            Can you believe our need to connect with people is more fundamental than our need for food and shelter? In this book, Lieberman explains scientifically why are we engineered to be social animals, turned many traditional theories upside down, and prove that our psychological need weighs more than our biological need. Interestingly, Lieberman also addresses the way of management, minimising social distraction, and opposes the traditional method, giving insight to innovative solutions to improve our productivity at school and business environment backed up by science.


            Reading Duration: 7hrs 56mins

            Get Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect on Amazon at $13.29

            5. Amusing Ourselves to Death: Public Discourse in the Age of Show Business by Neil Postman

              Back then we had TV, now it has evolved to smartphones. Technology evolves, people don’t, the author addressed ways media has shaped our lives back in 1985, and alert us to be aware of the influence brought by media (specifically Television). The relevancy never disappears, and the same theory is applied by many authors, suggesting the same effect social media has brought to us. Visual media (including social media and TV) have transformed us, into visual animals, craving for more drama, flashing pictures, and music, lowering our attention span, turning us from the literate-oriented culture into a new age, leaving us to debate the good and the bad. Get your hands on this decade-old read, and reflect it in 2017.

              Reading Duration: 4hrs 17mins

              Get Amusing Ourselves to Death: Public Discourse in the Age of Show Business on Amazon at $10.87

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              10 Inspirational Books That Can Change Your Life

              10 Inspirational Books That Can Change Your Life

              If you want to change your life, you are going to have to do things differently. Sometimes you can look to inspirational books to create a positive change in your life. If you desire change, you are going to have to step out of your comfort zone. As Anthony Robbins points out in the quote below, you are going have to experience discomfort and pain in order to transform your life. Any change, whether it be an organisation or personal, can be a painful process. However, the rewards of going through the change process are priceless.

              “All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting an empowering new belief” – Anthony Robbins

              There are two specific events that threw my life into a tailspin, where for a while there it felt like I was losing control. These two events were, the sudden and tragic loss of my parents, and being made redundant three times in eighteen months.

              With the third redundancy, I was at my lowest point in my life. I felt utterly useless. My self-confidence was at zero, and I could see no future for me.

              My life was turned upside down. I knew that I had to turn it around. I just didn’t know how.

              Then one wet Sunday afternoon, I picked up a book from my bookshelf called ,“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown. I had this book for at least a year and had been meaning to read it, but hadn’t gone anywhere near a book for months.

              When I read this book, I decided that I needed to get my life back. I needed to learn how to heal and rebuild my confidence, as well as my self belief.

              So I started to read books. I read lots of books about inspirational stories on life, love, and happiness. Personal development and motivational books were full of information, tools, and strategies about how I could take control back and change my life. I would like to share with you the inspirational messages I got from reading these ten books that changed my life.

              Read these 10 books because I believe they will inspire you, motivate you, and show you how to take action and go change your life!

                Awaken The Giant Within

                by Anthony Robbins
                The inspirational message from this book is how you have the power right now to control how you think, how you feel, and what you do. Anything you want or desire in your life, you already have the power to achieve it.

                “You and I have that same power at our disposal every moment of the day. At the moment, the questions that we ask ourselves can shape our perception of who we are, what we’re capable of, and what we’re willing to do to achieve our dreams” – Anthony Robbins

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                  Screw It Lets Do It: Lessons in Life

                  by Richard Branson
                  Reading other people’s stories about their journeys in life can give you better perspective of what the journey of change can be about. Richard Branson is into reinvention and as a result, he embraces change.

                  This book will fuel your enthusiasm to give things a go. It will show you how to sort out the self-limiting beliefs that stop you from stepping up and taking on the challenge of change.


                  “As soon as something stops being fun, I think it’s time to move on. Life is too short to be unhappy. Waking up stressed and miserable is not a good way to live” – Richard Branson

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                    The Art of Happiness

                    by Dalai Lama

                    There is not a person I know who is not in the pursuit of happiness.

                    “The Art of Happiness” is a book that will encourage you to practice the discipline of self-reflection.The more you reflect on your life, the deeper you look into your inner self (your soul). This is where you discover what happiness truly means to you.

                    Knowing what happiness means to you, gives you purpose. With purpose, you’ll have clarity, focus, and a vision. These are the foundations that will empower you to embark on the journey to change your life.

                    “Both these people illustrate the essential point that happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events.” – Dalai Lama

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                      The Four Agreements

                      by Don Miguel Ruiz

                      “The Four Agreements” are Don Miguel’s code for life.

                      “The Four Agreements” provide an inspirational code for life, for the way you handle your relationships, how you behave, and how you communicate with others. If you want to change your life, read “The Four Agreements”. This book will show you how to attain a happy fulfilled life.

                      “If you live in a past dream, you don’t enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self pity, suffering and tears.” – Don Miguel Ruiz

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                        The Magic of Thinking Big

                        by David J Schwartz

                        According to Dr Schwartz, to create change in your life and to attain all that you desire, you need to change your thinking and your attitude.

                        The importance of preparing your mind and your thinking for the journey of personal change is the key message of this book.

                        “Those who believe they can move mountains, do. Those who believe they can’t, cannot. Belief triggers the power to do.” – David J. Schwartz.

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                          Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul: How To Create A New You

                          by Deepak Chopra

                          Deepak Chopra believes that personal transformation not only involves the mind, but also your body and soul. According to Chopra, you cannot transform your mind without transforming your body and soul.

                          Reading this book will encourage you to think about the potential energy force and power you hold within you. This energy grows when you are connected and aligned to your mind, body, and soul.

                          “The key to transformation is that you create the change you want to see in yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

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                            The Greatest Salesman In The World

                            by Og Mandino

                            This little classic has been around since 1968. Have you ever wondered what truly successful people have in common?


                            This book doesn’t really tell you how to be a great salesperson. It will; however, give you some fantastic tips on how to be an entrepreneur, how to self-motivate, and how to think like a successful person.

                            The underlying message is the power of positive thinking – that you become what you think, say, and do. This book has great tactics for those of us in the process of change.

                            “My dreams are worthless, my plans are dust, my goals are impossible. All are of no value unless they are followed by action.” – Og Mandino

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                              Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

                              by Richard Carlson

                              This book helps you to manage the small stuff in your life that is usually creating the most pain in your life. This very supportive book is full of great practical suggestions on how you can live a more joyful and peaceful life.

                              “True happiness comes not when we get rid of all of our problems, but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice, and to learn.” – Richard Carlson

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                                Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard

                                by Chip & Dan Heath

                                Have you ever tried to lose weight or get fit and never reached your goal? You know that you have to make changes in your life, but you don’t know how?

                                If you are nodding in agreement, then you need to read “Switch“. If I had to recommend one book that shows you how to create and maintain lasting change in your life – then it would be “Switch“.

                                In this book, Chip and Dan share the Secret as to how you can create and sustain change in your life.

                                Hint: It has something to do with knowing how to “Direct The Rider”, “Motivate The Elephant”, and “Shape the Path.”


                                This book, without a doubt, will show you how to change your life.

                                “When you’re at the beginning, don’t obsess about the middle, because the middle is going to look different once you get there. Just look for a strong beginning and a strong ending and get moving.” – Chip & Dan Heath

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                                  The Gifts of Imperfection

                                  by Brene Brown

                                  Do you ever feel that you are just not worthy enough, intelligent enough, or courageous enough to live a fulfilled happy life?

                                  Do you have secret dreams that you hold deep inside of you that you don’t share in case someone thinks they are silly? Or are you too scared to follow your dreams because you fear that you may fail?

                                  Brene Brown’s book, “The Gifts of Imperfection”, will show you how to find your courage, as well as rediscover your self-belief and self-worth.

                                  This is the book that will get you prepared to embark on your journey of change. “The Gifts of Imperfection” is about you learning how to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.

                                  “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy — the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” – Brene Brown

                                  These 10 books were key to helping me change my life. I rediscovered hope for my future. I found my courage, strength, and my self-belief. I hope that by reading these books, you will find the same inspiration and motivation to take up the challenge and change your life.

                                  “If one reads enough books one has a fighting chance. Or better, one’s chances of survival increase with each book one reads.” – Sherman Alexie

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