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10 Lessons from a Frustrated Blogger

10 Lessons from a Frustrated Blogger

Blogging is hard. Yes, I wanted to start this article with that fact, and I will keep reminding you of it. Why? Well, because blogging can actually change your life… if you do it well.

Most bloggers start their careers enthusiastically, full of ideas and plans. Ah, no wonder that a vast majority of them give up fast.

Luckily for you, you are reading this article! Keep reading to find out how to overcome the 10 most common blogging frustrations.

#1 Lesson: Keep Calm and Buy (Another) Domain Name

You brainstorm so much to make a list of domain names suitable for your blog, and when you finally decide to buy one… you realize that all of them have already been taken. To make it even worse, you will find that many of these “taken” domains are not even associated with a website. Do people just go out and buy domain names?! Is this some trend you should follow? Should you compete with your friends to see who can get more domain names? Certainly not.

People buy domains for many reasons, and this is something you really don’t need to worry about. Just pick another name for your blog. I am sure that there is another combination of words that isn’t in use. Alternatively, you can always change the spelling. Yes, many famous blogs are misspelled, and that’s just one more way their authors show their creativity.

    #2 Lesson: Start From (Design) Scratch

    If you use WordPress, you already know that it is very hard to choose a theme that is both original and suits your taste. Not to mention that once again, you will come across many websites using the same theme. Even though blog design is very important, there is certainly no need to get frustrated by it.

    Start with a theme that you like, but customize it as much as possible. Check out the Freebies sections on big blogs and websites- they often give out free original icons, photos, logos, and much more. Choose those that fit your style, change some colors and you are ready to go!

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    The second, even easier method is to choose a website builder with a wide selection of templates and features that will make your website design easy and fun (Ucraft is a personal recommendation)! Again, try to customize every template, and keep in mind: you won’t be 100% original, but try to do your best!

      Whenever you have an idea about how to change the look of your blog, write it down. Since it is very common to change the entire blog design from time to time, you will have more than enough opportunities to implement your ideas.

      #3 Lesson: Test!!!

      Testing is essential if you want to succeed. It doesn’t matter how amazing you think your idea is, it might be completely tedious for your readers. Luckily, there are so many ways to test how well things are working when you have a blog.

        The first thing you need to test is the abovementioned design. Use Optimizely to test the colors you’ve chosen, the call-to-action buttons, the images… literally everything. That way, you will really take your design to perfection and eliminate your frustrating feeling of wondering “is this good enough?”

        #4 Lesson: Create Content That You Would Like To Read

        Content is king. So, create content for kings, or rather, for yourself. After all, you are the king of your (blogging) empire. This might sound simple, but many bloggers create content that is purely commercial and end up with just a couple of views.

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          Even though you post to attract others, when creating your content, you should do it as if you were creating it for yourself. Why? Because you are satisfied only with the best, so your content will be supreme! Don’t be frustrated, because you will never get motivated that way. Don’t worry about whether your writing will cover a topic that hasn’t already been covered before. Don’t stress over whether your post will be interesting to a wider audience. Just write. As I’ve already mentioned: write something you would like to read.

          #5 Lesson: Go That Extra Mile

          Whether you are creating podcasts, photos or written content, do it better than your competitors! Sounds easy, right? Then, why do most bloggers get frustrated by it?

            The key to being better than others doesn’t exist, so don’t stress about it. One thing you can certainly do is try! Go that extra mile and create an in-depth podcast or a longer blog post. Do the work most people don’t want to do, and who knows, maybe you’ll end up being the best. That is certainly the right way to do it.

            #6 Lesson: Spread the Word About Your Blog

            How best to spread the word about your blog so you can really start building your relevant audience is a very common worry among bloggers. With so many social media platforms, influencers and blogger colleagues, you don’t have to worry (so much).

              Start off with guest posting. That way, you will reach other people’s audiences and build contacts as well. Get in touch with people in your niche, ask for advice, watch what they do, and join forces. It might sound difficult, but with a couple of polite emails, you will be drinking coffee with your (new) blogger friends in no time.

              Ah yes: don’t forget to add that “Write for us” section on your blog.

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              #7 Lesson: Make Social Media Work for You

              You won’t believe how many bloggers don’t use social media (enough) because they find it frustrating. It is really not a good idea to be one of them. By using social media in a smart way, you will make it work for you!

                Start by creating profiles on all the well-established social media platforms. If you have the budget, you won’t regret boosting your posts. Join all groups relevant to your niche, be active in them and share your content. When you get enough likes and shares, you will see a boost of traffic to your blog!

                Don’t forget to install social sharing buttons to make it easy for your audience to share your posts.

                #8 Lesson: Don’t Get Hacked

                Even if you have just launched your blog, if you want to avoid getting hacked (and frustrated), you must think twice about security.

                  When it comes to WordPress websites, don’t miss the following three steps:

                  1. Set a strong password and username. If it is too complicated to remember, write it down.
                  2. Get a security plugin. There are so many free ones that go well with WordPress, so it is up to you to choose one.
                  3. Don’t forget to update your installations so that you always have the latest version!

                  #9 Lesson: Write a Headline That Attracts Readers

                  Catchy headlines sell newspapers. The same goes for blog posts. Easy to say, but hard to achieve.

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                  A lot of great content gets overlooked due to the lack of a good headline, and you don’t want yours to end up like this.

                    Honestly, headlines that almost always “work” are quite generic:

                    • “How-tos” and “tips”
                    • “X ways to…”
                    • “The definite/complete/simple guide to…”
                    • “The top 10…”

                    #10 Lesson: Be Yourself

                    In general, if you want to be successful, you need to work hard. Hard work is accompanied by stress and frustrations.

                    The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. Choose a domain name to your taste. Create content that you like. Buy a theme that matches your style. Be yourself!

                      Hopefully these 10 lessons will encourage you to keep moving forward with your blog and become the next big influencer. Believe in yourself, stay persistent and always try to improve yourself and your blog. If you have just started blogging, or you are planning to, this is already a huge step towards success. Keep that in mind, and whatever happens – don’t be frustrated.

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                      Last Updated on January 17, 2019

                      8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                      8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

                      In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

                      Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

                      Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

                      Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

                      Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

                      The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

                      There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

                      How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

                      According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

                      Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

                      Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

                      The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

                      Listen carefully:

                      We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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                      The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

                      Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

                      8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

                      There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

                      Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

                      1. Pray Daily

                      You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

                      When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

                      Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

                      Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

                      2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

                      A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

                      By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

                      Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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                      If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

                      This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

                      How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

                      3. Smile Often

                      Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

                      Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

                      Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

                      The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

                      4. Organize Your Working Desk

                      A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

                      When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

                      Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

                      Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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                      5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

                      I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

                      Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

                      What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

                      6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

                      God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

                      I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

                      I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

                      7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

                      You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

                      How do you do that? This is my formula:

                      First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

                      If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

                      If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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                      If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

                      Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

                      8. Go Exercise

                      Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

                      The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

                      You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

                      12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

                      The Bottom Line

                      It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

                      It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

                      Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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