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10 Lessons from a Frustrated Blogger

10 Lessons from a Frustrated Blogger

Blogging is hard. Yes, I wanted to start this article with that fact, and I will keep reminding you of it. Why? Well, because blogging can actually change your life… if you do it well.

Most bloggers start their careers enthusiastically, full of ideas and plans. Ah, no wonder that a vast majority of them give up fast.

Luckily for you, you are reading this article! Keep reading to find out how to overcome the 10 most common blogging frustrations.

#1 Lesson: Keep Calm and Buy (Another) Domain Name

You brainstorm so much to make a list of domain names suitable for your blog, and when you finally decide to buy one… you realize that all of them have already been taken. To make it even worse, you will find that many of these “taken” domains are not even associated with a website. Do people just go out and buy domain names?! Is this some trend you should follow? Should you compete with your friends to see who can get more domain names? Certainly not.

People buy domains for many reasons, and this is something you really don’t need to worry about. Just pick another name for your blog. I am sure that there is another combination of words that isn’t in use. Alternatively, you can always change the spelling. Yes, many famous blogs are misspelled, and that’s just one more way their authors show their creativity.

    #2 Lesson: Start From (Design) Scratch

    If you use WordPress, you already know that it is very hard to choose a theme that is both original and suits your taste. Not to mention that once again, you will come across many websites using the same theme. Even though blog design is very important, there is certainly no need to get frustrated by it.

    Start with a theme that you like, but customize it as much as possible. Check out the Freebies sections on big blogs and websites- they often give out free original icons, photos, logos, and much more. Choose those that fit your style, change some colors and you are ready to go!

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    The second, even easier method is to choose a website builder with a wide selection of templates and features that will make your website design easy and fun (Ucraft is a personal recommendation)! Again, try to customize every template, and keep in mind: you won’t be 100% original, but try to do your best!

      Whenever you have an idea about how to change the look of your blog, write it down. Since it is very common to change the entire blog design from time to time, you will have more than enough opportunities to implement your ideas.

      #3 Lesson: Test!!!

      Testing is essential if you want to succeed. It doesn’t matter how amazing you think your idea is, it might be completely tedious for your readers. Luckily, there are so many ways to test how well things are working when you have a blog.

        The first thing you need to test is the abovementioned design. Use Optimizely to test the colors you’ve chosen, the call-to-action buttons, the images… literally everything. That way, you will really take your design to perfection and eliminate your frustrating feeling of wondering “is this good enough?”

        #4 Lesson: Create Content That You Would Like To Read

        Content is king. So, create content for kings, or rather, for yourself. After all, you are the king of your (blogging) empire. This might sound simple, but many bloggers create content that is purely commercial and end up with just a couple of views.

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          Even though you post to attract others, when creating your content, you should do it as if you were creating it for yourself. Why? Because you are satisfied only with the best, so your content will be supreme! Don’t be frustrated, because you will never get motivated that way. Don’t worry about whether your writing will cover a topic that hasn’t already been covered before. Don’t stress over whether your post will be interesting to a wider audience. Just write. As I’ve already mentioned: write something you would like to read.

          #5 Lesson: Go That Extra Mile

          Whether you are creating podcasts, photos or written content, do it better than your competitors! Sounds easy, right? Then, why do most bloggers get frustrated by it?

            The key to being better than others doesn’t exist, so don’t stress about it. One thing you can certainly do is try! Go that extra mile and create an in-depth podcast or a longer blog post. Do the work most people don’t want to do, and who knows, maybe you’ll end up being the best. That is certainly the right way to do it.

            #6 Lesson: Spread the Word About Your Blog

            How best to spread the word about your blog so you can really start building your relevant audience is a very common worry among bloggers. With so many social media platforms, influencers and blogger colleagues, you don’t have to worry (so much).

              Start off with guest posting. That way, you will reach other people’s audiences and build contacts as well. Get in touch with people in your niche, ask for advice, watch what they do, and join forces. It might sound difficult, but with a couple of polite emails, you will be drinking coffee with your (new) blogger friends in no time.

              Ah yes: don’t forget to add that “Write for us” section on your blog.

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              #7 Lesson: Make Social Media Work for You

              You won’t believe how many bloggers don’t use social media (enough) because they find it frustrating. It is really not a good idea to be one of them. By using social media in a smart way, you will make it work for you!

                Start by creating profiles on all the well-established social media platforms. If you have the budget, you won’t regret boosting your posts. Join all groups relevant to your niche, be active in them and share your content. When you get enough likes and shares, you will see a boost of traffic to your blog!

                Don’t forget to install social sharing buttons to make it easy for your audience to share your posts.

                #8 Lesson: Don’t Get Hacked

                Even if you have just launched your blog, if you want to avoid getting hacked (and frustrated), you must think twice about security.

                  When it comes to WordPress websites, don’t miss the following three steps:

                  1. Set a strong password and username. If it is too complicated to remember, write it down.
                  2. Get a security plugin. There are so many free ones that go well with WordPress, so it is up to you to choose one.
                  3. Don’t forget to update your installations so that you always have the latest version!

                  #9 Lesson: Write a Headline That Attracts Readers

                  Catchy headlines sell newspapers. The same goes for blog posts. Easy to say, but hard to achieve.

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                  A lot of great content gets overlooked due to the lack of a good headline, and you don’t want yours to end up like this.

                    Honestly, headlines that almost always “work” are quite generic:

                    • “How-tos” and “tips”
                    • “X ways to…”
                    • “The definite/complete/simple guide to…”
                    • “The top 10…”

                    #10 Lesson: Be Yourself

                    In general, if you want to be successful, you need to work hard. Hard work is accompanied by stress and frustrations.

                    The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. Choose a domain name to your taste. Create content that you like. Buy a theme that matches your style. Be yourself!

                      Hopefully these 10 lessons will encourage you to keep moving forward with your blog and become the next big influencer. Believe in yourself, stay persistent and always try to improve yourself and your blog. If you have just started blogging, or you are planning to, this is already a huge step towards success. Keep that in mind, and whatever happens – don’t be frustrated.

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                      Last Updated on July 10, 2020

                      How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                      How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                      We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

                      We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

                      So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

                      Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

                      What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

                      Boundaries are limits

                      —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

                      Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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                      Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

                      Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

                      Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

                      How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

                      Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

                      1. Self-Awareness Comes First

                      Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

                      You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

                      To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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                      You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

                      • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
                      • When do you feel disrespected?
                      • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
                      • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
                      • When do you want to be alone?
                      • How much space do you need?

                      You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

                      2. Clear Communication Is Essential

                      Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

                      Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

                      3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

                      Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

                      That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

                      Sample language:

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                      • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
                      • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
                      • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
                      • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
                      • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
                      • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
                      • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

                      Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

                      4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

                      Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

                      Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

                      Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

                      We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

                      It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

                      It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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                      Final Thoughts

                      Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

                      Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

                      Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

                      The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

                      Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

                      Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

                      They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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