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The Only Time That Change Doesn’t Make You Better

The Only Time That Change Doesn’t Make You Better

Tom’s always liked cooking, and his friends have always backed him up on how good he is — especially some of his homemade pizzas. So he pulled together a few pieces and decided to open a pizza place.

    The first year of business was good. Lots of customers went to his restaurant to try his pizzas.

      But after a year, a taco place opened up nearby and was becoming popular. Their lines seemed longer and their business seemed more robust.

        As this was all happening, Tom was scrolling through Facebook one day. He saw that one of his old friends, who currently works in banking services, just bought himself a new car.

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          Doubt was creeping in.

          “Why do I have to be so persistent in this business?”

          “Why can’t this be easier?”

          We all do this to some extent: we struggle, we compare to others, and we think about whether we should give up.

          Chasing the Perfect Treasure Chest

          The perfect treasure chest is a concept many human beings chase. What it means is this: when we don’t have something, we imagine this concept of a perfect treasure chest others may have. The chest is beautiful, ornate, and has all the “right” things inside of it.

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            We think about our own treasure chest and it seems ugly, faded, and containing metals and stuff with no value.

              We are comparing but doing it wrong.

              The problem is this: a lot of things we want or see others having (rewards, nice cars, big houses, etc.) can be attained by us too at some point. But once they’re attained, the fantasy associated with them is gone. Once the fantasy is gone, it’s easier to see downsides. This is why many people don’t feel satisfied even when they accrue lots of possessions.

              Now let’s turn back to Tom. Tom could get that luxury car.

                But he would need to deal with a lot of uncomfortable clients to promote his financial plans to satisfy their clients needs, and do a lot of networking to connect with different business men. It would be a lot of tough work too behind that luxurious car.

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                  Eventually he’ll see the downsides of this car. Once that happens, what will he want? The next perfect treasure chest.

                    The cycle just keeps going. ON and on. You’ll never find that perfect treasure chest.

                    What can you do, though?

                    Embrace the Flawed Chest

                    Reward is important, but you need to understand the downsides of opportunities too. In reality, every chest contains something you don’t want. Maybe half of them are gold and jewels, and the other half of them are crappy metals.

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                      Look inside any theoretical treasure chest. Some may have more “gold,” others more “diamonds,” and most might have some degree of rusted, crappy metals. The gold is great and seems valuable (huge house, flashy car). But do you really need the “gold” in this perfect treasure chest? Potentially not.

                        The truly important aspect is looking at the crappy old metals and thinking, “How could these become gold in my eyes?” In other words, what is needed to turn them into new opportunities? How can the downsides become the next upsides?

                        There are two approaches: you can either ditch the old treasure chest in pursuit of the new perfect chest, but that will become a lifelong circular struggle with no potential resolution.

                        Or you can figure out what elements of the old chest can be turned into new opportunities, and you might get closer to personal fulfillment.

                          The Perfect Chest Never Exists, Stop the Endless Chase

                          Consistently chasing the next beautiful, grandiose thing will not bring you closer to fulfillment. Think more on what you really want, not the flashy elements of the next perfect treasure chest.

                          You have the ability to make the right choice here. Don’t quit easily. If you choose to pursue a treasure chest, remember that you can learn a lot more from the old, ugly metals than the flashy gold you smile at. The ugly metals are the opportunities you need to grow.

                          Read more in my other article how to stay motivated all the time: You Can Never Taste the True Value If You Give up Too Early

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                          Last Updated on July 16, 2019

                          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Overcome Life’s Challenges

                          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Overcome Life’s Challenges

                          Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

                          It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

                          It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Nancy’s story is a typical example of this.)

                          Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

                          Quotes for Self-Assurance

                          1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

                            2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

                              3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

                                4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

                                  5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

                                    6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

                                      Quotes about Positivity

                                      7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                                        8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                                          9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                                            10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                                              11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                                                12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                                                  13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                                                    Quotes for Work and Success

                                                    14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                                                      15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                                        16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                                          17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                                            18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                                              19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                                                20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                                                  21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                                                    22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                                                      23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                                        24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                                          25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                                            26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                                              27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                                                28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                                                  29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                                                    30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                                                      31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                                        32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                                          33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                                            34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                                              35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                                                36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                                                  37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                                                    38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                                                      39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                                        40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                                          41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                                            42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                                              43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                                                44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                                                  45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                                                    Quotes about Money

                                                                                                                    46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                                                      47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                                        48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                                          49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                                            50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                                              51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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