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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How I Found My Passion to Make Everyday of My Life Exciting

How I Found My Passion to Make Everyday of My Life Exciting

Did you know that a recent survey[1] reported that more than half of all Americans are unhappy in their workplace? Do you often ask yourself, ‘what am I passionate about?’ Most people do. The dreams we have as children, even as young adults, often get derailed.

The good news is that changing the course of our lives, choosing a different path, is always an option. Change is terrifying and seemingly impossible to most people, but the reality is that we don’t have to make grand gestures or a complete 180 degree turnaround to start something new; to take that first step towards re-discovering what we are passionate about, what feeds our soul, what makes us the best possible version of ourselves and what allows us to live a life to its utmost potential, contribution and fulfillment.

Take the Following 5 Actions to Find out What You’re Passionate about

There are a number of suggestions [2] about how to find what you are passionate about, especially for when you are feeling lost and don’t actually know what gives you joy and inner peace. These are excellent ways to explore your interests and abilities, maintain your well being in all aspects and find the confidence to try new things, take risks and even learn from failure.

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Identify Your Talent. You Always Have One.

Can you do something well? It doesn’t necessarily have to be something you have done before or practiced as a child like playing an instrument or a particular sport. It may be something more aligned to your personality, experience and interests as an adult. Perhaps you are very funny or are good at making people laugh and smile, you may be an excellent speaker and feel confident speaking in large groups or in front of a crowd.

Through life and work experience, you may have discovered new skills or perfected potential that you wouldn’t have considered when you were younger. You might be good at motivating others, or have suddenly discovered that you are excellent at taking a fantastic photograph. Think about things that have stood out, that you know you do well, that other people tell you you do well and that you know you have a natural ability to improve on and perfect.

Find The Cause Of Your Genuine Happiness.

Keep it simple. What are the things that truly make you happy? They could be aspects of your life that are already present, like caring for your children or pets, tinkering with your car, going fishing, decorating your home, buying and styling new clothes, brewing beer, tasting wine, cooking a meal or tending to a garden.

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Seemingly mundane and every day activities that give us pleasure could open a window into our passions. If you pay close attention to the things you get excited about, you could make a self discovery that you hadn’t considered previously.

Think Outside The Box: How Can You Positively Influence Others?

It is easy to think that everything has been done before, that nothing you desire is new or innovative and worth getting excited about. So, why not redirect desire outwards? Instead of only considering what makes you happy, why not think about what can make the people around you happy?

How can you contribute to your family and friends, your community or humanity in general? You may love to play guitar and be really good at it, but have you considered how a beautiful song can make someone feel? How music can change a person’s day or perhaps see them through a difficult time in their lives? Considering not only what we can take, but also what we can give can not only be a source of fulfillment, but also a source of empowerment.

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Shared Passion Is Always Possible.

Discovering your own passions through the things that other people are passionate about is a source of connection that is unsurpassed. Have you ever been to a concert with thousands of people all experiencing the same euphoria and celebration and felt the power of universal passion?

Maybe you’ve been involved in a collaborative project or pursuit and shared common interests and expertise with others that allowed the exchange of mutual benefits and support. Sometimes simply doing what others are doing and enjoying is an easy way to learn about yourself.

Look What Your Close Relatives Excel in (And You May Be Equally Good at It!)

Look for the common threads in your lineage, your cultural background and your familial and kinship past. There may be hidden talents, passions and abilities that have been lost or curtailed over time that you can take responsibility for re establishing.

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There’s an old mythical saying that some things are simply ‘in your blood’. Why not test that theory? Was your grandmother a keen artist, or your grandfather a master craftsman? What are the people of your ancestry known for and could you do it too? You may tap into a pool of passion that you hadn’t yet considered, but that has been at the tip of your fingertips all along.

Make It A Life’s Passion.

Ask yourself if what you are passionate about is something you can realistically commit to or will it have a use by date, which is not always a bad thing. It doesn’t have to be the first activity or pursuit that you try out either. Don’t be afraid to fail or change your mind. That is part of the process and half the fun.

If you see the answer to ‘what am I passionate about?’ as a journey as opposed to a destination, the potential to tap into your passion is endless. You see, a passion isn’t merely an activity, it’s a desire and as they say…many roads lead to Rome.

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Last Updated on November 27, 2020

How to Make Changes in Life To Be the Best Version of You

How to Make Changes in Life To Be the Best Version of You

Let’s start with the problem:

You get back from work. You’re tired. It was a long day. You know there’re things you could do, to get out of the rut you’re in.

But, let’s be honest. You really would rather relax, sit down and chill for a bit. Grab a snack. Watch your favourite show.

By the time you’ve done that, the day’s over. There’s just not enough time. To make this worse – you don’t have the energy or willpower to make changes in your life today.

So where do you go from there?

What you need are some easy to apply actions that are proven to work.

This article is going to give you 4 steps on how to make changes in life so you can follow today and get closer to success – even when you are feeling tired and lazy.

These steps have proven to work for me, and many of the coaching clients I work with privately.

1. Squash Inconsistency by Giving up Motivation

Now most people, when they want to make changes to their lives, focus on making lengthy to-do lists and plans. They think over and over again about what is going wrong, what is going well and what they want, etc.

All in a bid to push themselves to getting more motivated.

Guess what? This isn’t going to work.

Willpower and motivation are feelings. Feelings are vague and unreliable.

Instead, what you should do is focus on putting your flawed unpredictable self in the best possible environments.

If you do one thing first from this list, it’s THIS:

Find and go to the best possible environment for the area of your life you want to change.

For example:

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  • If you want to get fit, make your first goal to show up at the gym three times a week.
  • If you want to find a new relationship, show up to a meet up in your city for single people.
  • If you want to be productive and make your business idea work, don’t work at home, go to a co working space nearby.

The reason people fail to become the best version of themselves is because they underestimate the power of environments to influence behavior.

Accept that you are flawed, prone to distractions and your motivation and willpower will fail you.

The best hack at your disposal? Show up to “change inducing” environments and get out of your comfort zone (physically)!

OK. Next step.

2. Recruit an Elite Team to Help You (For Free)

Send this message to one person you already know and trust that they can help you make changes to your life:

“Hey [first name]. Can I be really frank and honest with you? I’m having one of those – ‘OMG I NEED TO MAKE CHANGES TO MY LIFE!’ moments.

And I was browsing the internet, looking for tips and this article I came across suggested accountability. So here I am, messaging you to be part of my accountability system.

My ask is simple.

Can we sit together once a week at [x place] but do absolutely no socializing? I’ll buy the [coffee/food] and it will be a space to force me to do [x thing]. You literally have to do nothing other than eat the free coffee/food I pay for lol. But it will keep my accountability high, which is what I need.

What you reckon? Can you help? Thanks!”

Now obviously, change the language to suit you but you get the idea.

Not only are you going to environments that will help you make changes, but by bringing a friend (or two), you make it even likelier that you will succeed. It doesn’t even have to be in person, it could be a video call.

People fail to make changes to their lives because they try to do it all themselves.

It doesn’t really work in long term, and it doesn’t have to be this way.

You can recruit and “enlist” people to help you. By doing this, you’re taking care of the up and down motivation you have.

Not only are people happy to help, when they see this type of behavior, they’re also inspired and motivated to change their lives. Pretty soon, you end up creating change in not just your life, but other people’s too.

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So when the next dip in willpower comes?

You have a friend sitting right next to you, watching your every move, making sure you get things done anyway.

3. Build Good Habits That Last

Changing your life means changing your day to day habits.

Habits are automated behaviors you do everyday, like how a clock works, without thinking or motivating yourself to do them.

Some habits help you to change, others can stop you. One of the best ways to replace your ‘bad’ habits with good ones is to treat them like old clothes. What happens when your t-shirt gets old, faded and out of fashion? You replace it with something new and improved.

Do the same thing with your habits – upgrade and replace them with something better. Start small, then slowly graduate to higher levels of difficulty.

Let me give you a clear example of what I mean:

A few years ago (before it became mainstream), I was trying to start my own habit of meditating every single day to help boost my productivity and mindfulness. I’d done a mind blowing course called Vipassana. It involved 10 days of deeply powerful meditation combined with noble silence in a remote part of the UK.

Now it was easy to do when I was there (#1 – environment!) with all those other meditators (#2 – people helping me). All I could do was meditate. There were ZERO distractions. I had NO CHOICE.

When I got home however, after a few days of sticking with it, I quickly caved.

Those extra 30 minutes of sleep were just so much easier than waking up everyday at 4am for a long one hour meditation.

So what did I do to build this really important habit?

Like with most things, I wanted to make changes to my life. I wanted to become my best self.

I knew how important it was. I just couldn’t follow through consistently and kept failing over and over.

Then, it hit me.

I needed to start small. I made a tiny change, that made all the difference.

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I made a tiny change, that I could stick to – without fail – that has me meditating daily every single day now.

What was it?

Instead of trying to do something BIG inconsistently (1 hour of 4am morning meditation) and failing again and again. I decided to do something small consistently.

Building any good habit really just comes down to repetition. The way the brain is built works in favour of this.

My new habit became:

When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will sit cross legged for 30 seconds with my eyes closed.

Eventually, once I did this consistently for a few months. I increased difficulty.

When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will meditate for 10 minutes.

Why does this work?

What’s important here is that the behavior you want (meditating) is tied to another consistent habit (folding your bedding).

I attached my new habit to one that already is consistent.

Making it more likely to happen.

Secondly, I aimed for consistency, not perfection. This is where a lot of people fail. They have an idea of the change they want, but things become all or nothing.

When you do this, you fail to realize the power of consistency. The brain you have loves patterns. In this case, I trained my brain to repeat a set pattern every morning when I fold my bed.

There was no motivation or willpower required.

This training has gone so far now that if I miss a day of meditating, I really feel uncomfortable. I’m just as conditioned to meditate as most people are to checking their phones in the morning.

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If you want to learn more about quitting bad habits, Lifehack’s CEO also has a guide on it: How to Break Bad Habits: I Broke 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

4. Create More Time by Limiting Your Social Media Usage

You know the best thing I’ve ever done for my productivity and it took me 30 seconds to do?

I deleted all social media apps from my phone and blocked them on my laptop.

Then, to reinforce it, I told all my friends and followers on Facebook (my most used platform) I wasn’t using it for a while.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with my social media. Social media is a tool. Tools are neutral. It’s how we use them that is “productive” or “distracting”.

We each have to judge how healthy our usage is, especially when weighed against unlocking our best self. That said, for most people reading this, including me, I think limiting our usage is a very favorable advantage.

One of the best ways to make changes in our lives is not to add new tools or tricks. But simply remove things that distract us.

Social media is something I use heavily for my businesses. Technically I’m a “social media influencer” and “YouTuber”. I need to be posting constantly, right?

Our situations are unique, so I came up with a unique solution for this. After deleting and blocking these apps from my devices, I installed a social media management software that still allows me to post my updates.

The big difference, however, is I cannot spend any time scrolling and being distracted.

If you need a bit of extra help for this, take a look at this article: How to Quit Social Media for a Happier and More Focused Life

Final Thoughts

Change is not always about more. Sometimes it’s about doing less and getting rid of what distracts or blocks you.

Trying to do things by yourself is a good way to fail. Share your goals and pitfalls with people, no one helps until you ask.

Start with small changes consistently instead of big changes failed at consistently. The momentum will give you results over time.

So what to do next to make changes in your life?

  1. Write down where you are going to GO to create the changes you want.
  2. Message 3 to 4 people on social media and ask them to help you using the message template I gave you.
  3. Choose one small habit to get started with immediately and upgrade it over time.
  4. Delete all, or at least most social media apps on your devices, and notify people you are leaving to make it stick.

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